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08-03-2008, 19:19
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Having not been 'in love' for as long as I can remember, I wonder if I or some people subconscientiously avoid this for fear of being vulnerable - has anyone on here ever faced this situation and what is the best way to deal with it?
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08-03-2008, 19:21
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love kills slowly
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08-03-2008, 19:33
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Ah Cress, I love you, even if you don't love me back!
In answer yes. Being in love is all about making yourself vulnerable. In order to gain the rewards you have to let your balls swing in the wind and trust. You need faith in the other person, trust that they won't break you and you need to believe its going to be alright. That means you not only feel vulnerable, you make yourself vulnerable.
In order to get the highs you have to risk the lows, thats the game, like it or not
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08-03-2008, 19:35
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balls swinging in the wind are we talking love or the back scuttle?
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08-03-2008, 19:35
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you falling in love cressy?
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08-03-2008, 19:36
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Originally Posted by pk014b7161
balls swinging in the wind are we talking love or the back scuttle?
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careful pk i was a bit......norty to cressy before and she took offence 
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08-03-2008, 19:37
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Being in love feels like you're the most vulnerable you've ever been and at the same time that you are the most powerful creature to have ever lived. The adrenaline rush of letting yourself become open to it all is pretty fabulous all round (rather like stepping out of a plane and hoping that your parachute will catch you).
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08-03-2008, 19:38
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careful pk i was a bit......norty to cressy before and she took offence |
i was refering to discodown,s thread
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08-03-2008, 19:39
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balls swinging in the wind are we talking love or the back scuttle?
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I obviously mean metaphorically!
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08-03-2008, 19:39
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careful pk i was a bit......norty to cressy before and she took offence |
don't reply to this carelessly but I want you both back, one man isn't enpough for me - safety in numbers 
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08-03-2008, 19:40
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Originally Posted by medusa
Being in love feels like you're the most vulnerable you've ever been and at the same time that you are the most powerful creature to have ever lived. The adrenaline rush of letting yourself become open to it all is pretty fabulous all round (rather like stepping out of a plane and hoping that your parachute will catch you).
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that's a very profound simile Medusa I like that
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08-03-2008, 19:47
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If one is to love one must be prepared to be vulnerable. Who is really sure what love is? If it is what most of us believe it to be then vulnerability is part of it. It is my opinion that if one does not feel vulnerable, that is not love.
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08-03-2008, 19:49
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Originally Posted by cressida
Having not been 'in love' for as long as I can remember, I wonder if I or some people subconscientiously avoid this for fear of being vulnerable - has anyone on here ever faced this situation and what is the best way to deal with it?
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I certainly avoid it - my wife would be furious!
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08-03-2008, 20:18
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I think part of it is fear of getting so close to someone, that if it all goes wrong, you get hurt.
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08-03-2008, 20:20
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Originally Posted by discodown
Ah Cress, I love you, even if you don't love me back!
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Now you know I'm very vulnerable to sweet talk
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09-03-2008, 05:31
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Quote:
Originally Posted by medusa
Being in love feels like you're the most vulnerable you've ever been and at the same time that you are the most powerful creature to have ever lived. The adrenaline rush of letting yourself become open to it all is pretty fabulous all round (rather like stepping out of a plane and hoping that your parachute will catch you).
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Couldn't have said it better myself! 
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09-03-2008, 06:56
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It continues; loving someone also leaves you vulnerable. You know that from then on, for ever and the world, how you feel, how you act and what you do will be inextricably modified by the thoughts you have for the ones you love.
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09-03-2008, 06:58
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love the word 'modified' you included, - get back in there!!! lol
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09-03-2008, 07:02
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love the word 'modified' you included, - get back in there!!! lol
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Nah...for a number of reasons, including health, this old cricketer has left the crease and will continue shouting from the boundary.
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09-03-2008, 07:36
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Quote:
Originally Posted by medusa
Being in love feels like you're the most vulnerable you've ever been and at the same time that you are the most powerful creature to have ever lived. The adrenaline rush of letting yourself become open to it all is pretty fabulous all round (rather like stepping out of a plane and hoping that your parachute will catch you).
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I remember that feeling-and it's the best feeling, ever. And the worst. Wouldn't swap it for a million pounds-and would prefer to bail-out if isn't that exciting.
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