Good looks, or good personality?

FlowerdUp89 · 17-10-2007, 11:30

Hi,

Well, what do you look for in a woman/man when you intrested in dating them?

I personally go for the looks first. Bit shallow I know, but then I wait and see what their personality turns out to be. If it stinks, there gone. But I want ti know how many people out there choose their dates based on personality ONLY. Does anybody do that?

haddockman · 17-10-2007, 11:32

Personality is the most important thing, but you do have to like how they look too! I think everyone is a bit shallow when you think about it!

SarahD · 17-10-2007, 11:32

I always find that someone becomes more attractive to you depending on their persona anyway. Someone can be fairly unnattractive but so charming that you find them incredibly sexy. So I suppose it's personality for me, but I need some kind of attraction to go with that.

Agent Orange · 17-10-2007, 11:41

Got to be a combination of both, no point going out with someone just for their personality if you aren't physically attracted to them or go out with someone for their looks when they have the personality and charisma of a dead person. I'd say looks do have an important roll in choosing a partner, but I'm not that shallow to go with those alone, personality wise we would have to clicked

Jess22 · 17-10-2007, 12:40

Personality 1st

but I have to be attracted to him as well. If it was just a "physical" relationship, then looks would be first, but anything more and a crap personality is awful

LitleMermaid · 17-10-2007, 12:45

Preferably both!

I think you've got to be attracted to someone if you're going to have a physical relationship with them, and admitting that's not shallow at all...but then again I wouldn't date someone I couldn't laugh and mess around with! I won't settle for second best, and why should anyone?!

Minesadouble · 17-10-2007, 13:02

ONLINE - personality .......then check out the boat race ......

Take it from there really

FACE TO FACE - check out the boat race .......then see if they make you laugh within the 1st five mins ... If not buzz a taxi

blades74 · 17-10-2007, 13:04

Looks aren't everything, I have in the past had stunning girlfriends but the relationships didn't pan out, one was only interested in the size of my wallet and promptly found a 'richer fool', another had good looks at the expense of brains, it didn't last.
My current partner is pretty and has amazing eyes, chest an legs but has intelligence and personality in bucket loads.
I agree that lust is a major factor, but if their brain isn't in gear then I get bored very quickly, unlike some people I do like to chat after the event!!!

slimsid2000 · 17-10-2007, 13:05

I would say both but looks are important to me. That said we all have our own idea of what good looking is so who is to say who is good looking and who is not.

Personally I have the looks of Worzel gummage and the personality of Chemical Ali.

(anyone care to date me. Pleeeeese.)

HappyHoosier · 17-10-2007, 13:11

I guess there has to be some physical attraction, although I find that a great personality has the power to transform a man into Prince Charming. Somehow, when there's a mental/emotional connection, the physical attraction happens. ... for me at least.

whitewitch · 17-10-2007, 13:22

well, i do believe that someone has to have something nice to look at on the outside, but whats inside is more important than anything. I also like to find out the mans drinking habits before starting a relationship too, since ive had a few alright guys that i thought i knew, until we went out drinking, then it was jekll and hide. My OH is a sweet guy, gets giddy like myself when he drinks, wouldnt dream of lifting a finger to me, dont get me wrong, they never got away with hitting me, but i shouldnt have to live having to protect myself from cowardly men

fox20thc · 17-10-2007, 13:24

I think its all about if you have a connection. You just know, not always right away and when you realise its great. I think emotional maturity brings about a change in some people where they stop judging the packaging regardless of whether its a perfect 10 or not.

Hecate · 17-10-2007, 13:26

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Originally Posted by HappyHoosier

I guess there has to be some physical attraction, although I find that a great personality has the power to transform a man into Prince Charming. Somehow, when there's a mental/emotional connection, the physical attraction happens. ... for me at least.

Yes, that's it exactly.

A personality I find attractive, intelligence and an emotional connection - a commonality of wavelength and perspective - are paramount. An objectively physically attractive man will leave me cold if he's arrogant, stupid and has a generally duff personality.

However, there has to be some degree of physical attraction, or the relationship will remain platonic; very good friend material, probably. The point is that love, while not exactly blind, can often be a little fuzzy.

Though some men are in the fortunate position of being very pretty and all of the rest of that good stuff

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StarSparkle · 17-10-2007, 13:34

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Originally Posted by fox20thc

I think its all about if you have a connection. You just know, not always right away and when you realise its great. I think emotional maturity brings about a change in some people where they stop judging the packaging regardless of whether its a perfect 10 or not.

That's it exactly - you have a connection with someone - or you don't. I think it's as simple as that

StarSparkle

Agent Orange · 17-10-2007, 13:34

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Originally Posted by slimsid2000

I would say both but looks are important to me. That said we all have our own idea of what good looking is so who is to say who is good looking and who is not.

Personally I have the looks of Worzel gummage and the personality of Chemical Ali.

(anyone care to date me. Pleeeeese.)

Wow, you sell yourself well

briggy1967 · 17-10-2007, 13:42

Personality everytime,looks dont mean nothin if u dont click

Snook · 17-10-2007, 13:48

Both... and a connection.

SpeedwayDan · 17-10-2007, 15:51

definetly both, obviously if you don't already know the person, then the first thing that attracts you is the physical attraction, but i can't have a relationship with somebody if i don't like their personality

nick2 · 17-10-2007, 15:53

Both, no matter how great their personality I can't get turned on by ugly people.

Minesadouble · 17-10-2007, 17:10

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Originally Posted by nick2

Both, no matter how great their personality I can't get turned on by ugly people.

This is Probably the best true to form post