[kittenta]

My son has just had a fit because I asked him to fill the dishwasher for me . He reckons that i should do everything because that is my job . I told him that he helps dirty the dishes so therefore he has to help clean them. He says that if he has to do 'work' in the house he should get paid . Flippin cheeky kids.

So, should kids get given a monetry incentive to help around the house? Should they be made to help daily?

[baileys_mum]

I'd happily give my kids rewards for helping me, not necissarily money tho, like doing thier washing for them

[missmode]

I believe kids should do things around the house as part of normal life. I'm not talking slave labour but whats wrong with doing bits of washing up and vaccing - that sort of thing. I think any parent that doesnt have there child so anything isnt setting them up for the realities of life.

[bunnykins]

Originally Posted by missmode

I believe kids should do things around the house as part of normal life. I'm not talking slave labour but whats wrong with doing bits of washing up and vaccing - that sort of thing. I think any parent that doesnt have there child so anything isnt setting them up for the realities of life.

i agree also i only give my kids treats,wouldnt give them money.

[mojo1]

I'd tell him fair enough, but he buys his own clothes, CD's, DVD's, computor games, games consoles, food and so on. Also if he's working for cash tell him he has to pay board. Watch the look on his face then tell him to get on with it and stop being cheeky.

[donuticus]

I got half my pocket money (£2.50) regardless, but I could top it up by doing things round the house. Things like wasshing up mowing the lawn etc. meant I could get more money and it also taught me the value of money.

[Agent Orange]

As I child I was often called upon to help out with the household chores. I never received spending money for doing these chores either. I think children should do more around the house as it prevents them becoming lazy etc.

[Figsta]

Do you get spending money for doing all his chores?!

[whitewitch]

I had to do chores around the house, but my parents were too skint to give spending money, we used to get the occasional ice cream for the van. I had a paper round for my spending money, and when i went to college, i had a cleaning job in the evenings, as the grant my parents received for me was a pitance. I learned the value of money and realised you dont get nothing for free.

[Templeman]

tell him that if he does the chores you will then consider giving him something if he does them properly. but it is not definite, then he might have an incentive to do them properly so you dont have to go over them all again as is often the case

[carnew]

yes i think they should help out. my son (13) has certain jobs like emtying/filling dishwasher etc, but he doesnt get paid for it.if they cant help out of the goodness of their hearts and have to be paid for it then i dont think thats giving them the right impression. im not saying my son doesnt moan at times when i ask him to do something but he does do it and does not expect payment in return.i dont want my son to think he will do things only if there is something in it for him.i hope i am helping him to be able to stand on his own two feet and not be too selfish in his future life.

my hubby never had to lift a finger at home and now he is useless at looking after the house,he cannot cook,doesnt know what to do with an iron and he is so untidy it drives me up the wall!...lol

[KATIEB_23]

Originally Posted by kittenta

He reckons that i should do everything because that is my job .

How old is he kittenta?
I think it would be a good idea to crack down on this attitude of his before it gets worse!

I think if you present him with a fully itemised bill for all the chores you do for him, not to mention his food & board, then have him working off his 'debt' is a better way around!

[Dozy]

Originally Posted by KATIEB_23

How old is he kittenta?
I think it would be a good idea to crack down on this attitude of his before it gets worse!

I think if you present him with a fully itemised bill for all the chores you do for him, not to mention his food & board, then have him working off his 'debt' is a better way around!

Brilliant idea! If the OP doesn't crack down on this, she is not only making a rod for her own back, but for the back of the poor sod her son ends up with.

Children are naturally selfish - like the rest of us - they need to be taught to have consideration for others, including their poor mums.

I was brought up back in the days when girls helped with housework, but boys didn't, "because they're boys". I think this is probably what turned me into such a rampant feminist.

My elder brother, who'd never lifted a finger either at home or when married, had to discover the hard way about minor details like housework and cooking! Before he actually had to do the work himself, I'm sure he thought it more or less did itself and women just had to give the odd flick of a duster.

Dozy

[yummyyumyum]

[QUOTE=KATIEB_23;2413083] How old is he kittenta?
I think it would be a good idea to crack down on this attitude of his before it gets worse!

i have to say he only believes this because he has been allowed to.

personally i think that children should recieve some sort of reward for doing certain chores.

i have a 5 year old and she has "chores" she has to make her bed (ok i have to make the bed properly after dropping her at school) keep her room tidy and put away all toys she has finished with.

when all said and done they do 6 hrs at school and tidying up after themselves gives them personal responsibility.

if a child takes on extra chores such as washing pots and vaccing then i think they should recieve a reward. my 5 year old gets stars on her star chart, when she has 10 then i will get her a bit of a reward and she will choose something arty, books or similar, last week she wanted a new skipping rope, the week before she wanted some fancy bobbles for her hair, she has all the hair accessories a girl needs but because it was a fancy bobble that cost extra then she knew it was classed as a treat so had it as her reward.

in a couple of years time i will start to give her a bit of spending money then she will be able to choose to buy something like a colouring book etc or save for something a bit more substantial. i think this is just as important as getting them to take personal responsibility of their living space as all of it helps give a perspective of independancy.

[ernestan]

in fact i agree with freyas_mum

[KATIEB_23]

yes I think you seem to have a nice balance there freyas>mum!

[yummyyumyum]

why thankyou, i do try

independancy is something i think is very important

and 6hrs at school is a long time for "unpaid work"