Did do a forum search but couldn't find anything about this!
How to cut a long story short, hmm, here goes:
I split up with my husband last year. When I moved in with him 7 years ago, he had sole custody of his son, whose birth mum walked out when he was 3. Over the years he came to be my son and thought of me as his mum.
After leaving last year due to my ex's erratic and aggressive behaviour he initially didn't allow me any contact, but eventually I managed to persuade him into weekly visits at my home. However my ex has now hooked up a with a new woman half his age (literally) and has taken my son to live with them in Wales.
My son is very unhappy there as he is arguing with his dad more and more and his dad is stopping me from seeing him next weekend as arranged, and I have no doubt will pull a similar stunt in August when he is due to come to me for some of the summer hols. (The excuse this time was that my son hadn't done his homework
) My son wants to live with me and has been saying that since the day I walked out, but as as step-parent I assumed I had no rights or chance to get custody.
I have now seen a solicitor who feels I have a good chance of getting a residence order, but my problem is that I work full time and am paying off substantial debts (most of which my ex rang up, but there we go) so leaving work or going part time isn't an option.
I would be happy with him getting himself to school and back every day, and I can work 8am-4pm so that I could minimise the time he's alone, but the big issue would be school holidays.
At the age of nearly 12, childcare options seem to be very limited. Does anyone know of any reasonably-priced (because not sure if I'd get childcare vouchers) holiday schemes that accept teenagers?
I moved to this area (from Kent) when I met my ex so I don't have any family in the area that I could call on for help.
Well here's hoping that someone has some info or help for me. At the moment I feel my son would be better even in care than with his dad, due to the way his dad is treating him