[TattyBear]

Hi,

For your wedding are you asking your guests to buy you gifts? do you have a wedding list? or are you asking for money?

[chickywiggle]

we've got an argos gift list. lots of things ranging from a couple of pounds to about £40ish. also you can select gift cards. plus they will deliver it all to your home address after the wedding if more convienitent.

[Tanya T 1]

We are asking for money so we can pay for our honeymoon, we are wanting to drive the West Coast of America.

[rach2005]

Were asking for money for a homeymoon too - How are you actually phrasing the asking? Im worried about offending people

[fluffystuff]

We want to ask for money too, either pounds or euros. How exactly do you ask?

[TattyBear]

I am asking for money as gifts aswel. If you search google it comes up with loads of little poems to put in your invitations, things like.............

As we have set up our home together
and got all our bits and bobs,
we are asking for those that wish to gives gifts
for money for our future as Mr & Mrs...............!

Ok so it may not rhyme but you know the sort of thing I mean.

Can anyone else think of a poem?

[Tanya T 1]

The majority will ask you anyway what you want as a gift. I am putting a poem in my invites!

[TattyBear]

What poem are you having?

[Monks]

we haven't written a poem, we've just put in small letters on opposite side of card

Your presence is enough on this day, but should you wish to honour us with a gift, we would like money to put towards a deposit on our first house, or STA travel vouchers for a honeymoon xxx

[medusa]

I had great problems phrasing the bits about gifts at all- I would rather that there were no gifts, but the first few people who got their invites all said 'but there's no comment on presents! We're going to get you something anyway, you may as well tell us what you'd like, or you'll get 3 toasters', so we had to amend things for the later invitations.

I find accepting gifts very embarrassing at the best of times (and being the centre of attention- so I'd rather the ground had opened up and swallowed me than been a bride) and as for telling people what to get me, well that felt altogether too much like asking them for money.

[HarrietStar]

i'd really like to ask for money (towards our first house which we can't afford to buy yet!) but I'd feel uncomfortable doing so.

I wanted to sign up to the Oxfam unwrapped gift list but my fiance wouldn't let me - he said we should take advantage of people wanting to get us stuff!

So we've signed up with John Lewis but just for vouchers as we wouldn't have anywhere to put loads of gifts.

[Strix]

We went through the whole wrangle and concluded that dragging the entire wedding party up to Scotland, having some people fly in and others travelling by train, then us travellling back by car, if we didn't give a big fat hint about a wedding list service that would deliver to us after the event, we'd find ourselves in a mess!

we only put dull boring things like towels and some nice new pans on the wedding list, but we kept an eye on it as people made purchases, and had to add to it later

some people who see us often enough made their own decision about a gift, but realtives were relieved to have the legwork done for them

[swfcgal]

We aren't asking for gifts as we have lived together for 6 years so we don't need anything! What we are asking our guests to do if they wish is to donate money for my OH's autistic brother's school. That way we know that some use is going to come out of it rather than us spending the money on rubbish!!

[Tanya T 1]

Originally Posted by rach2005

Were asking for money for a homeymoon too - How are you actually phrasing the asking? Im worried about offending people

Most people ask you what you want anyway, but i am going to put a poem in my invites, i have one at home that i got from someone else's wedding will put on here tomorrow for you.

[Ginger_Kitty]

We had a list, mainly of small fairly inexpensive things.

As we were already set up with home stuff, we concentrated on the stuff that was knackered and needed replacing etc.

We got about 50% list stuff and 50% off list stuff, which we were perfectly happy with.

I always get stuck with what to buy people at weddings, you never know what they've got already, especially as most people are already living together and have the stuff they need. Lists do help people decide a bit.

We were also asked from the moment we got engaged where the list was and what was on it (it didn't go live til 6 weeks pre-wedding - so we had to keep telling them to wait!!) so thats the other reason we did a list...

[Tanya T 1]

Originally Posted by TattyBear

What poem are you having?

Here goes:

"We Do Not Have A Wedding List
Nor Requests For Certain Things
All We Want Is Your Company
And The Memories The Day Brings

A Financial Gift Would Be Lovely
An Appreciated Help To Us
But Please Do Not Feel Pressured
As This Is Not A Must

Our Wedding Is A Special Day
And We'd Love You To Be There
To Join The Celebrations
So Miss It If You Dare"

[fluffystuff]

This is my poem:

On this our special wedding day,
We would just like to say,
We have a house and contents too,
So presents would not really do.

But if a gift you’d like to bring,
Pennies would be the ideal thing.
We hope that this won’t cause offence,
But in our case this makes more sense

[Tanya T 1]

Originally Posted by fluffystuff

This is my poem:

On this our special wedding day,
We would just like to say,
We have a house and contents too,
So presents would not really do.

But if a gift you’d like to bring,
Pennies would be the ideal thing.
We hope that this won’t cause offence,
But in our case this makes more sense

Like it he he! i will make a note of it!

[Clairy]

my mother in law is getting married on saturday and she has asked guests to bring booze so we can have a good old knees up and it will cost less to water everyone. We asked for donations towards our honeymoon (as we were taking baby with us...shock horror!). A friend of ours asked for Thomas Cook vouchers.

[HornDog]

Me and my Fiance have been living together for the last 8 years and have a fully equiped home.
We felt a bit cheeky asking for cash but could not think of anything for a wedding list- Our solution was to ask for Kuoni holiday vouchers.

After putting this on the invites a number of guests aproached me and asked if we would be offended by being given cash rather than vouchers!!