Am i being fair?

My hubby has always had the same routine since we met, Finish work got to the pub, come home, eat and sleep

I used to go with him but now it doesnt interest me and hasnt for a few years.

I want "us" to work i think but im not happy with him drinking and not coming home first.

He doesnt stop me from doing anything i want to do.

Am i being unfair by asking him to change? Should i just call it quits if im not happy?

Can I ask roughly how long you have been married?

I ask because his seems to be a rather old fashioned attitude.

Getting a divorce over visiting the pub after work does seem pretty extreme but then I wouldn't want my other half to go out without me 5 days a week (and I certainly wouldn't do that to him!)

Have you talked to him about it and how it makes you feel, if so what did he say?

Ive been married 6yrs but together 16yrs, hes 57 im 42, he is quite old in his attitude.

Can I ask roughly how long you have been married?

 

I ask because his seems to be a rather old fashioned attitude.

I think the thread is an extension of the OP's others..

We do sit down and talk about it, last friday we had the conversation and he said we were drifting apart and each time we talked we got further apart

he wants me to go to the Working mens clubs with him but it doesnt appeal to me

were living together but seperately

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ive been going round and round in circles for years

What happened to the man in this thread?

http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1366979

Im not professing to be an angel

Please reply to this thread not others

It's all very confusing....

So let me get this straight - you've been seeing someone else, you don't like doing the same things, and he doesn't even want to see you after work (my other half can't wait to see me, and I can't wait to see him, as soon as possible after 9 hours apart and that's how it should be most of the time, imo).

Sounds like a bit of a waste of time and you may as well call it quits, move on and you can both find lives that make you happy.

Im asking the question on his drinking and if its fair i ask him to change,

After so many years of being put through this yes i did turn to someone else.

I wont enter into an arguement on here about my faults.

Im simply asking the question, please dont use this thread as a way of being on higher moral ground as no one is perfect and anyone who claims to be is a lier

Ok then I think I speak for everyone who is sound of mind when I say that NO you are NOT being fair.

When you've cheated on him for a year or more, I'm afraid you lose any right you had to tell him not to go to the bloody pub!