The Girl Who Never Ate - SKY

Because the comments she's made about her 'trying to hide it' are only going to open the usual jar of worms

I couldn't help but attribute some blame to the mother as well. I wouldn't suggest anything about benefits, that seems uncalled for.

But in 7 years she never thought to make the child hungry to induce her to eat.

Of course she doesn't eat, she knows she doesn't have too.

I think that if she'd have been at the clinic without her mother, she'd have left there eating like every other child does.

Because the comments she's made about her 'trying to hide it' are only going to open the usual jar of worms

Ok, thanks for pointing out why, I thought I was missing something.

Cheers Gaz

Cyclone - the problem with allowing yourself to be the lifesource for another being, is that the relationship becomes mutually dependent and therefore destructive.

This woman has problems of her own. If her daughter suddenly no longer 'needs' her, her whole world will fall apart.

Perhaps the medical team need to address these two people as the one entity they have become?

And perhaps it hasn't occurred to you that her clothes once fitted, and it's an illness that's caused her weight loss?

well yeah obviously or an eating disorder of somesort. its just she wears the biggest coat, scraf etc. wrapped up to the eyeballs when its not even that cold. she looks like she has an eating disorder to me. anyway no need to go off on one mate i was only concerned.

If you have no muscle tissue, you don't generate heat, and people talking about you when you're walking past really makes you feel fantastic about yourself too

Perhaps if you chose less derisory terms I wouldn't feel the need to defend her against your comments?

For your information, eating disorders are NOT the only illnesses that cause weight loss, and the whole experience is VERY distresing for the individual concerned

my god calm down will you this is not a personal insult against you so stop acting like it is. i was concered for her not gossiping about her!!!

and for your information i know eating disorders and NOT the only illness that cause weight loss, im not stupid. please dont talk as if i am a child its very patronising.

in future i will not be concered about people who appear ill and alone.

So long as you don't talk about them, as you did at Uni and on here

what are you on about, im not even at uni!

OK ladies, do you want to either drop this or take it to PM or chat....

this one's for Cyclone. Being a mother of a tube fed infant myself, the advice you get given here TOTALLY contradicts the advice you're given in Austria. I have been advised not to take his tube out to induce hunger. They said because he developed a food aversion, he would rather starve than eat. In this country you are pretty much left to get on with things. you have your therapy where they will give advice about food play etc etc, but that's it. some people are successful at getting their kids off feeding tubes, but some aren't. I'm one of those. 7 years is a long time for someone to be tube fed, but there can be deep issues there. Eating is the one thing we all have control over. If a child has had a traumatic start to life (as most kids who are tube fed have done...), then the only way they can take back some control and 'protect' themselves is by closing their mouth and refusing food. Don't underestimate children. it can be a situation of 2 steps forward, 5 steps back. my son went through a period of 'eating' bits. but then gagged and has rejected since. He's so out of practise that it takes nothing for him to lose his confidence all over again. It's easy to say she could have induced hunger more... but when it's your child it's easier said than done. It's also a bit hard going against everything you're told by the specialists. I've been arguing that point for as long as i can remember. They didn't even want me to drop ONE tube feed until my son was eating a small yogurt. That's why i'm going to austria, they aren't so obsessed with weight and calories there, they know what they're doing. I'm also not strong enough to 'starve' my child to the point where they will eat. I need to know he's being medically supervised and i need that added support. I really feel for tia's mother, and until you've experienced the same or know someone who has i wouldn't comment. Tia will progress and i'm sure she will eat now that she's shown interest, perhaps not as quickly as others have done though.

nixpixnix im trying to get my son there my self could you tell me how you got in touch and you child to get a place there thanks x