How do you know/can you tell, when you know that after all you have done and tried and its all gone pear shaped (everything) home/work, that its time to move on.... forget the past and try to start again, not only for yourself but for all the people you know and care about...... when is the right time to say enough is enough....and move on??

or does there ever come a time when it just makes you want to try even harder.... is giving in the easy way out??

Advice please...

My husband and I visited Canada several times and applied to emigrate but unsuccessful as not enough "points".

How do you know/can you tell, when you know that after all you have done and tried and its all gone pear shaped (everything) home/work, that its time to move on.... forget the past and try to start again, not only for yourself but for all the people you know and care about...... when is the right time to say enough is enough....and move on??

or does there ever come a time when it just makes you want to try even harder.... is giving in the easy way out??

Advice please...
madowl-i dont think anyone can advise you on when,if ever is a good time to jack it all in-sadly its something only you can decide?
A few years ago when i felt i was in a similar position,a good friend gave me a bit of advice that may be relevant to you as well?
she told me to set a date,in the future. If nothing has changed when that date comes round,then take whatever action you need too-whether that be leaving someone, packing in the job etc.
in my case i set myself a date one year away(to the day) i wrote it down and reffered to it many times during that year. just giving myself this 'time' made life a lot easier.
It worked for me-just make sure that you are realistic and allow yourself enough time?
i really hope things start getting better for you?
gnomi x x

I think gnomi's advise says it all. I'm pretty much feeling the same, not really heading anywhere and not sure what to do about it.

I have done the same and set a date and if nothing has changed by then I know what I need to do.

Hang in there madowl - you'll sort things out one way or the other soon enough.

My immediate thought is that without more specifics it is really only possible to give generic advice. I also entirely agree that it is a personal decision and as a general rule I rarely walk away for a variety of reasons.

A thought that always inspires me in moments of dire straits is that whatever it is I want to ditch wont go away just because I want to walk away and depending upon the situation could also have an adverse effect upon me.

Invariably I find that however hard the situation there is an invaluable lesson to help me in my personal development and growth which I could not have learned had I turned my back and walked away.

Anyhow without wishing to be dismissive I've had loads of platitudes slung at me over the years and I could churn them out all night if you wished but i dont think that would be of any practical help to you. Please feel free to PM me if you wish and I really do hope that whatever it is which is making you feel like this sorts out PDQ.

Best wishes wendygs

Thanks for the advice folks....:) your never alone when your on the forum...:) the advice about time and setting a date..... Ive done it b4... its took me two and a half years to get where i am now... or where i was... i cant go back.... back then was in a word....pathetic.... (years of ill heath, drink, fags, over weight, happy pills..) belive me im a better man now than i was back then.... i cant even go to the places where i had so much help in the past as its there where the problem now is.... i need a clean slate and a fresh plan....

Im hitting a low point in my life of which im scared to death of falling down the long path of depression again.......

First thing on my list is new job.... does anyone know of any good web sites??? or good job clubs support etc etc....

come on forum give us a kick up the back side and kick start my search.....


"Onwards and upwards......" Shsheff....?

I moved on when I finally realised that the one I lived with would never be there when I needed support, I'm talking of back to back in trenches type of help which I gave him. He would always be missing.

hazel

How do you know/can you tell, when you know that after all you have done and tried and its all gone pear shaped (everything) home/work, that its time to move on.... forget the past and try to start again, not only for yourself but for all the people you know and care about...... when is the right time to say enough is enough....and move on??


If you're asking yourself this question then it may be that time.