Do you think apperances, the way people look and what they wear matter?

Well, if we didn't know what people looked like, how would we recognise them?

I believe that it is important to be recognised, except at fancy dress parties and after you have committed hideous crimes.

Unless you commited a hideous crime adorned in fancy dress attire, in that case it wouldn't matter.

Never judge a book by it's cover, Miss P:D

What they look like doesn't really matter, as long as they're good people on the inside that's the main thing that counts.

I hope not!

Otherwise im not gonna have much chances in life :lol:

Of course not - beauty is only skin deep - and looks dont matter in the long run...

...of course that doesnt stop us all judging people by their appearances!

Originally posted by MissEllie
Never judge a book by it's cover, Miss P:D

But that is exactly how we do judge books before deciding to buy them - by the blurb on the covers.

It's human nature to look only at the surface - whether it be a book or a human being - before making that initial all-important judgement.

if appearances matter, im screwed

if personality matters, im doubly screwed

Originally posted by thenewborn
if appearances matter, im screwed

if personality matters, im doubly screwed

God help us if size of wallet and other things matter :P

good on yer mr miguel

i have dealt with customers for 18 years, i have what they want, and most pay for it, but not eveyone.

this has made me judge the book by it's cover, and i tell you something, it's nice when a ****ty book is a good read.

prove yourself before you get the job.

There are some aspects of life where they can matter but in the big scheme of things they shouldn't matter.

Im the sort of person who wont go out unless im preened so yes i think they matter but i feel awful for thinking so thus i feel ok for having a conscience about it

first impressions count. And since first impressions are generally visual, yes appearance does matter.

First impressions do matter.
and this is what people look like before we manage to know them better. After that doesnt matter what they look llike....

So are you saying that sometimes apperances matter?

What happens if you meet someone, but you do not like how they look? would you really want to get to know them, ever if they are nice and you have a good time with them, but you do not like the way they look?

i was saying that appearances do count.

if you didn't like the way they looked you would never get to the stage of having a good time with them and finding out that they were quite nice really.

you also tailor you look depending on the circumstances, who would turn up for a job interview (office job) in jeans and a t-shirt?

Hmm tough one...

Like Kittykat, I don't go out unless I'm preened... However I have been spotted un-preened occasionally but hey, those people should know what makes me 'me' and deal with it!

I'm not shallow enough to choose my friends by how they look etc... I choose them on attitude/outlook and personality, and sometimes I don't choose them at all, they choose me! If my best friend turned up wearing a shocking outfit, I'd notice, but not make a big deal of it, or be scared to be seen with her... Its not like that...

With the people I'm closest to, I'm not bothered how they look, however I would say that I notice the appearence of strangers more... If I'm walking down the street and there's someone commiting a serious fashion offence, I'm the first to report it!

Originally posted by caprice
However I have been spotted un-preened occasionally

?!?!?!

yea i think appearances are important that's why we need to look smart for certain jobs for example to create an initally good impression. Also, the people i hang about with and know socially are into similar things and goto the same bars and clubs as me and i guess are generally, relatively identifiable.

First impressions do matter... you tend to have made up your mind about someone after about 5 minutes or so of meeting them, but what they look like shouldnt necessarily matter. They might look good on the surface but as soon as they open their mouth... well who knows
We shouldnt judge on appearances but we all do, and anyone who says they dont is lying, the probably just dont realise they are doing it. The clothes someone wears or the style of their hair have connotations in our mind, good or bad, and we base our opinions around them... and often these opinions are proved to be baseless...
not all goths are pretentious/scary
not all punks are disgusting and obsessed with snot :D
not all hooligans wear football shirts / burburry
...so I try wherever possible to be open-minded :D

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Yes its true! I've been spotted unpreened... I doubt that person noticed but I wasn't expecting see anyone on that day lol!

Originally posted by caprice
Yes its true! I've been spotted unpreened... I doubt that person noticed but I wasn't expecting see anyone on that day lol!

blimey going out unpreened :o :nono:

only kiddin i'm sure you looked fine ! :thumbsup: but you really shouldn't be THAT bothered should you?! or i guess it's a grrrrrl thing

but you really shouldn't be THAT bothered should you?! or i guess it's a grrrrrl thing

Yeah I was bothered at that time... I even said so to the person in question... But oh well, that doesn't matter!

So basically if a fat women/man walked into a bar, you would not give them a chance. So if a ugly women/man walked in a bar you would not give them a chance. so if a person with baces or dodgy teeth or something walked into a bar you would not give them a chance. Why should it be like that?

Originally posted by miss_piggy
So basically if a fat women/man walked into a bar, you would not give them a chance. So if a ugly women/man walked in a bar you would not give them a chance. so if a person with baces or dodgy teeth or something walked into a bar you would not give them a chance. Why should it be like that?

It shouldn't, fat or thin everybody's basically the same... so what if they don't have a gorgeous figure or a beautiful face, what should matter most is that they have a gorgeous personality.

Although I do feel that people shouldn't go 50/50 on that, ie have all the face, figure etc but have the personality of a brick.... Quite a few of the well known TV stars fit that particular description.

It should matter to you only, if you give up on your appearance then it shows to others.

I always talk to someone first, before I make my mind up.

as long as you have pride in yourself nothing matters trust me

if a person walked into a bar, i'd suggest they get some glasses.

oh i'm on fire tonight!

First impressions are just that. it doesn't matter whether we should judge by them in a perfect world. this is the world we live in, and that's the situation you find. An overweight person can make an effort with their appearance and an average person could make no effort. The first impression is not that one is fat and the other thin, it's that one took the time to make and effort and one didn't. Who said that appearance was about weight/attractiveness?

Personally, sometimes i don't make much of an effort. I'm not generally too concerned by the opinions of strangers anyway, and i know that to my mates it won't matter.

In the world we live in today, we all seem to judge on first impressions ect ect ect.

Is anyone actually surpised by that?

probably not, but hey

Originally posted by Cyclone

if you didn't like the way they looked you would never get to the stage of having a good time with them and finding out that they were quite nice really.



I would.

I've never been out with someone that wasn't a friend first, and once you've been mates with someone, what they look like ceases to be important.

Originally posted by Blissy
I would.

I've never been out with someone that wasn't a friend first, and once you've been mates with someone, what they look like ceases to be important.

and you make a habit of approaching strange looking people, people who don't fit into your social group because of they way they look and becoming friends with them?

I wasn't talking about 'going out' with someone, i was talking about any basic social interaction, if they are friends then you're way past that stage and i agree that appearance becomes less important then.

I look at people and make a decision about what they are like. Its human nature. I dont believe anybody who says they dont form some sort of opinion within minutes of looking at someone.

That does not mean that I wont talk to somebody because of it. After talking to them you can make a more reasoned decision. Then again if you dont have to talk to them it doesnot matter what you thought. They may not have liked me. :P Surely that could never be;) You cannot fight human nature but you can try:thumbsup:

If we were all the same we would not be looking in the first place:loopy:

Mod: Reopening the thread after major pruning. Please try to keep on topic. Cheers!

Appearances probably shouldn't matter, but they do. It's a proven fact that we make decisions about weather or not we like someone within the first 15 seconds of meeting them. That 'gut feeling' we often get is actually a quick snapshot taken by our subcontious. As it's not possible to say or do much in 15 seconds then most of the info is gathered visually.

It is only with the dawn of the internet that it has become possible to meet a large cross section of people without actually seeing them. But even then, do we have an ability to get an idea of what someone looks like from what they say?

Interesting question isn't it?

Always used to be someone who would say that "appearences don't matter" and tried to live that way but the simple fact is that they actually do matter to me.. However, that's not to say that the stereotype "pretty" is my bag.. just that some things are more important than others in a persons appearance, if I've considering that person for a long term relationship... when it comes to friends

At the same time it's important to balance that out with the knowledge that I've made some right mess-ups regarding first impressions and pre-judged someone badly...

... I know what I like in people, I know how I would ideally like someone to be but at the end of the day you can't beat someone who smiles and the world seems that bit brighter when they do...

well appearences dont matter at all to me, i talk to anyone, just cos somebody looks funny or wot ever i wouldnt hide round the back of the bus stop just to avoid talking to them ( there are exceptions tho.... the ones smelling of wee n the pshycotic chainsaw wielding nutters) heehee
Litha

Nothing wrong with making the best of yourselves.
I'm all for enhancing what nature gave me and believe me in my case, it needs all the enhancing it can get.

:D

Lets be honest though, most of us are so so in the looks stakes. Very few are stunningly beautiful and very few are downright ugly.

I know it's a cliche but it's whats inside that matters.

It is whats inside that counts as looks will ultimately fade.

I am as guilty as anyone of suffering from my first impression of someone new lasting but its not always about how someone looks. Someone who has a prescence about them, an inner confidence can be seriously lacking in the looks department yet still make a favourable lasting impression.

Social interaction must be based on more than whether we consider people to be attractive or not or we'd have all stopped talking to each other a long time ago!

appearance is not just about how attractive you are.

People will form different first impressions based strongly on what you are wearing, whether it looks like you've taken the time to clean up, whether you are over/under weight, how attractive you are (only relavent if they're checking you out), how old you look, etc, etc...

If I was introduced to a friend of a friend, male not female, then physical attractiveness would be the furthest thing from my mind. If they were wearing a suit, had perfect hair and teeth, etc.. then my first impression would be that they had money and took the time to look nice (if the suit was inappropriate to the venue then i might think they were a bit out of touch). If they were wearing scruffy jeans, carrying a skateboard and had a big mass of hair on their head, I would probably make different assumptions about them.

Not making those assumptions would be a severe social disability.

Originally posted by miss_piggy
Do you think apperances, the way people look and what they wear matter?

Yes, it does matter, appearances are very important and influence other people in the way they treat us, a scruff will invite derogatory comments as will face fungus, untidy beards, sideburns and hair.
Old clothes, Jeans with holes in the knees, stupid fashions that make people look ridiculous, clothes that are too big or too small (don't they look in a mirror before going out?)

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prove yourself before you get the job. [/B][/QUOTE]


couldn't agree more had so many men come to our firm for a job with" ten years experience" done one day, gone home never to be seen again.

Originally posted by stella fan


prove yourself before you get the job.


couldn't agree more had so many men come to our firm for a job with" ten years experience" done one day, gone home never to be seen again. [/B]

huh? Is that related to appearances?