my mum and dad have my nephew living with them now, after my stupid cow of a sister (thats putting it politely) kicked him out.
now his dad lives out of sheffield and works away from home, so he can't at this minute look after him, but he's been paying my sister money through the csa for my two nephews.
now at the minute, all the money he's been paying has been going to my sister as normal, even though one of his children doesn't live there anymore.

he's been ringing the csa for weeks trying to get it sorted, finally they told him my mum had to ring a certain number and ask for some forms to fill in, which she did, she waits for two weeks and no forms yet.
so she rings again, now they have no record of any of this taking place:loopy: and the guy on the phone this time says it's his dad that has to fill the forms in anyway:huh:

they really don't know what they're doing

Haven't you heard Dan.... the CSA are being disbanded cos they are so c**p..... don't expect their problems to get sorted lightly.... a private arrangement between them might have been more productive.

my mum and dad have my nephew living with them now, after my stupid cow of a sister (thats putting it politely) kicked him out.


That's an awful thing for her to do, thank heaven for your mum and dad, hope your nephews ok.

C.S.A. I must add acted quickly on my behalf and I've never had any problems with them or is it cos I'm the female?

yes i've heard about everything thats happening with the csa, but i didn't expect them to be this poor, so like you say, we don't expect it to be getting sorted out any time soon.

As for them sorting it out privately, my sisters actions lately beggars belief, so there won't be any help from her part

Are you saying that your Sister is getting your Nephews benefit and not passing it along?

she was, but we think she's now signed him off, but she won't even answer her phone or talk to her ex husband

she was, but we think she's now signed him off, but she won't even answer her phone or talk to her ex husband

There's obviously something not right.... She may be depressed or anything.... not coping.... couldn't one of you check on Her?

There is probably a reason for Her actions.

this has been going on for years, if i was to type evrything she has done wrong over the years i'd be here all day.
we do think there's something wrong mentally, but our whole family has washed our hands of her now, she wont admit anythings he fault, or that anything's wrong with her, so what can you do.

my main worry has been about how it's affected my mum and dads health, especially my mum

for four years this coming november i have been ringing, writing letters and e mailing the c s a , they post back, ..you case has been passed on to a case worker, after four years i lost my rag and e mailed their complaints department a month ago

i got a telephone call reply last week, ..hello, yes ,im your case worker,rest assured we are doing something now, waiting four years was a terrible mistake on our part,we are very sorry and aim to get a finalised decision within 28 working days ...

today i got a letter from them ...

dear sir,
as from october this year things are changing, we are offering you the option of obtaining maintainance from your ex yourself..should you wish us to continue to pursue the case please telephone this number xxxxxxxxxxx

after four years ? i get the , ..we cant manage,any chance you can sort it yourself...letter.

it was a farce since day one, now its a comedy run by a bunch of comics,led by the carry on team we sadly call a government..

as i was told by them that i would be able to keep twenty pounds of what ever payment i received i reckon that four years, twenty pounds a week,they owe me four thousand pounds, due to not doing the job right in the first place..:loopy:

YOu are best making an arrangement between yourselfs, the CSA make hostilitys between the 2 partys worse.

It took the CSA five months to stop my attachment to earnings order after my children came to live with me. I paid £2,000 that I shouldn't have done. And I never got it back, it went on the 'arrears' that I still contest that I don't owe.

My ex hasn't worked in eight years and has contributed nothing to the upkeep of her children in that time. The State still pays her council tax, rent for a 3 bed house and benefits despite no children living with her and only the youngest wanting to spend any time with her.