Apparently the chemical reactions that go off in the brain when you fall in love are very similar to the ones that take place during insanity.

This is supposed to explain why people do stupid, out-of-character things when they are in love.
And why somebody may not be able to explain why they love someone despite being totally unsuited to one-another.
And why somebody may stay with a partner who beats them.



Anyone got any thoughts?
Anyone got anything to back this up?

Is it something to do with HORMONES?

My dad says that hormones are noises that come from a busy brothel:rolleyes:

Its probablly easier to cure insanity as well !
I wonder what it is though that makes us think we are in love with someone especially if they are totally unsuitable for us ?

Originally posted by sequin
I wonder what it is though that makes us think we are in love with someone especially if they are totally unsuitable for us ?

Desperation ............. !?

Originally posted by Jamie
Desperation ............. !?

Dont think so Jamie. Personal experience (well, a close friend's personal experience) has proven otherwise.

Well ... I guess it would depend on the situation and then it is only one of several factors.

What makes us think that we are in love !? ... one possibility could be that we actually are in love !?

When I say desperation ... I mean that some people could be addicted to the feeling of being in love and kinda fool themselves in to thinking that they are ... even when they arn't.

Who knows :-)

When your young you fall for a person because of the way they look and as you get older it has more to do with how well you get on and definatelly for me its if a person makes me laugh .
Anyone out there contemplating getting married to someone who doesnt make em laugh forget it!!! thats my advice .

Originally posted by Jamie


When I say desperation ... I mean that some people could be addicted to the feeling of being in love and kinda fool themselves in to thinking that they are ... even when they arn't.

Who knows :-)

Indeed, in love with the idea of being in love!

In past relationships I have genuinely thought I was in love. Now in hindsight, I don't think it was love, just in love with the idea of it. If it had have been proper real love, I wouldn't have broken up with them and I would have tried harder when things weren't going well.

I believe I am in love now. And this time it feels different, which is why I don't think I was before. I also find things that annoyed me about past bfs, don't with this one, because I accept him for who he is.

I have also had experience with being with someone who treated me badly. I stayed with him for a while and put up with it. I now think this was because he mentally made me think noone else would want me and played with my head. Luckily I was strong enough to leave him. When I look back on it, I didn't love him, I was obessed and again in love with the idea of being in love.

Often I think the best thing to do is value yourself and just walk away from situations / people like that ...

Hip Hip Hurray !! ... for people in real love everywhere :-)

Do other people agree its when you cant have someone you tend to want them all the more ??

One things for sure it sells a lot of books and is a good theme for movies ! Its a good money spinner lol

Originally posted by sequin
Do other people agree its when you cant have someone you tend to want them all the more ??
In the past I probably wouldve said yes, and then when you do get them, youre kinda not interested... as they say its all about the chase...
Im with someone now and I want him just as much as I did in the beginning... nearly 2 months now so some say we're still in the "Honeymoon Period" but so far so good... dont wanna say anymore in case I jinx it :D

Originally posted by sequin
Do other people agree its when you cant have someone you tend to want them all the more ??

Very often YES ... but then it depends on the person ... not being able to have something will bother some people a lot more than others.

A person whose attention is focused on what they don't have / want ... will be bothered about it much more than ... a person whose attention is focused on what they already have.



Serene, I fold my hands and wait,
Nor care for wind, nor tide, nor sea;
I rave no more 'gainst time or fate,
Fo lo! my own shall come to me.

Poem is 'waiting' by John Burroughs.

Full version here: http://www.johnburroughs.org/works/waiting.htm

Originally posted by jackthedog
Apparently the chemical reactions that go off in the brain when you fall in love are very similar to the ones that take place during insanity.

This is supposed to explain why people do stupid, out-of-character things when they are in love.
And why somebody may not be able to explain why they love someone despite being totally unsuited to one-another.
And why somebody may stay with a partner who beats them.



Anyone got any thoughts?
Anyone got anything to back this up?


No such thing as love! It's all lust!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Foxxx
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I have also had experience with being with someone who treated me badly. I stayed with him for a while and put up with it. I now think this was because he mentally made me think noone else would want me and played with my head.]


I had very much the same experience. It took me four years to get out of that one! Its a very easy trap to get into cos people can be extremely manipulative.

Surely we have to believe in love or its all a bit depressing isn't it? Or am i just being idealistic?

Originally posted by halevan
No such thing as love! It's all lust!

Awww poor Helevan! You've never been lucky eh?

Originally posted by caz2
I had very much the same experience. It took me four years to get out of that one! Its a very easy trap to get into cos people can be extremely manipulative.

Surely we have to believe in love or its all a bit depressing isn't it? Or am i just being idealistic?
If idealism is dead then hand me that water pistol... cos my head needs washing out..

Love, like everything else is about living.. sometimes the experience is good, sometimes it's bad... everything is a journey...

... and what a complete load of zen mysticism that lot was :D


It's easy to call the other party a b**ch or b****d but ultimately it's often just a case of bad communication.. I think the best relationship has to be one in which you both like yourself first and happen to like how the other person enhances that too...

it doesn hurt if they're gorgeous and make your heart race... but hey for me it's the eyes and a wicked smile.... *oooh wibble* ;)

i couldn't agree more!

A nice pair of hands always does it for me though! (don't ask my why??)
:thumbsup:

love is just an illness.

love ............. it's who you are.