The first few views are from kids

"It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys
need somebody to clean up after them!" (Lynette, 9)

"It gives me a headache to think about that stuff. I'm just a
kid. I don't need that kind of trouble." (Kenny, 7)

my views

I could never live on my own although I could live without the nagging
If marriage is only a piece of paper how come you can't rip it up & throw it away
I have been married this time 13 years funny I don't remember breaking 2 mirrors:hihi:

Single for me please :)

It's nice to have someone there sometimes but I like my own space too much and it's not practical to be in a relationship when I feel like being alone and grumpy for a few days.....which does happen on occasion. I'd end up being dumped every few months for being a moody bugger. :hihi:

I'm a bit of a selfish individual at this current stage in my life and I admit it so am happy to do what I want, when I want and how I want. :thumbsup:

To be honest, singledom is OK for now, as I can't afford a woman at the moment... As for marriage, heh, it'd be nice, I can think of a few potential brides I'd willingly walk up the aisle with ;)

Oh yes, that Holly Valance, she WILL be mine some day, on this I swear :love: (much to the chagrin of the Mods no doubt).

Single for me please :)

It's nice to have someone there sometimes but I like my own space too much and it's not practical to be in a relationship when I feel like being alone and grumpy for a few days.....which does happen on occasion. I'd end up being dumped every few months for being a moody bugger. :hihi:

I'm a bit of a selfish individual at this current stage in my life and I admit it so am happy to do what I want, when I want and how I want. :thumbsup:

isn't it a pity they don't have a rentawife somewhere or a place where you could get 1 on approval :hihi:

Been single and happy

Married and happy..
then married and unhappy

Now single and usually happy ;)

Men on the whole I have found.. (ducks) once they have spent time living with a woman get used to sharing a home and find it difficult to be alone again.

I love being single most of the time. Slobbing in front of the telly being king of the hill, nice glass of wine and a box of choccies. Nobody there getting in the way.

Sometimes though it can get a bit lonely. :(

To be honest, singledom is OK for now, as I can't afford a woman at the moment... As for marriage, heh, it'd be nice, I can think of a few potential brides I'd willingly walk up the aisle with ;)

Oh yes, that Holly Valance, she WILL be mine some day, on this I swear :love: (much to the chagrin of the Mods no doubt).

a man after my own heart Holly Valance whooo whoooo
hang on a minute ... she's younger than my daughter oh well nice thought:hihi:

Sometimes though it can get a bit lonely. :(

This is true but I guess you can't have one without the other. My dilemma would be finding someone who has similar mood swings to myself and then synchronise them so we'd be together when we wanted company and apart when we wanted space. If only eh? :D

isn't it a pity they don't have a rentawife somewhere or a place where you could get 1 on approval :hihi:

In some Countries your wife is actually picked out for you before you even go on the first date with her.

Not that I approve of arranged marriages, IMO a bloke should be free to choose whoever he wants as his life partner, or vice versa,

Trouble is, most of the girls or women I'd happily shack up with, are either already married, seeing someone, or out of my league socially due to being famous :(

This is true but I guess you can't have one without the other. My dilemma would be finding someone who has similar mood swings to myself and then synchronise them so we'd be together when we wanted company and apart when we wanted space. If only eh? :D

Mood swings hmm? I have them too :hihi:

Only in a perfect world that would happen!

Mood swings hmm? I have them too :hihi:

Only in a perfect world that would happen!

everybody has mood swings but women have MOOD SWINGS:hihi:

Trouble is, most of the girls or women I'd happily shack up with, are either already married, seeing someone, or out of my league socially due to being famous :(

Maybe you should localise your targets a little more perhaps? :)

You pose the question as to whether it is better to be married or single Appolo? I would suggest, regardless of status, that it's better to be happy. Happiness is a rare commodity. We all say......' If only I had this, that or the other, I would be happy'. Just BE happy. Never put your emotional wellbeing in the hands of another, whether that 'other' is animal, vegetable or mineral, so to speak. You will never discover Utopia or drink from the Well of Eternal Youth and Wisdom, so, just be as good as you can be but always be true to yourself.

I'm happy being single right now... :D I can go out and do what I want, go on holidays with my friends and please myself... I get waaaay too pre-occupied by men and its just no good for me! I've a hell of a lot going for me in terms of my education, my job, my friends and lifestyle, so why I spend hours dreaming of numerous blokes is utterly beyond me :loopy:

I'd love to get married once I'm in my middle-late twenties... Its not so much for the religious side of it as I'm not religious, its just the level of commitment, the change of name, the connection between me and my prince charming that would appeal to me so much. Some people reckon you can do that without signing that piece of paper, but I would just love to feel so much for someone that I wanted to change my name to theirs, and so on... *sigh*

I dont think there's an ideal answer. If you are with the right person it is better to be happy, if you are with the wrong person it is better to be single.

Even when you are married you can be happy and minatian indepedance. It's baout being compatible which is flamin difficult :D

You pose the question as to whether it is better to be married or single Appolo? I would suggest, regardless of status, that it's better to be happy. Happiness is a rare commodity. We all say......' If only I had this, that or the other, I would be happy'. Just BE happy. Never put your emotional wellbeing in the hands of another, whether that 'other' is animal, vegetable or mineral, so to speak. You will never discover Utopia or drink from the Well of Eternal Youth and Wisdom, so, just be as good as you can be but always be true to yourself.

I agree with you 100% I am married & I am happy most of the time
I just like joking about marriage & women:hihi:

I agree with you 100% I am married & I am happy most of the time
I just like joking about marriage & women:hihi:

You had me going for a while there, Appolo....:D :D :thumbsup:

You had me going for a while there, Appolo....:D :D :thumbsup:

me? nah i am not happy unless i am joking or extracting the urine:thumbsup:

I am not married and not single.

Suits me sir.

Single but co-habiting ........ does that make sense?

No it doesnt, but it does to me. I was married for a long long time. We divorced, were apart for a while. Got back together on my terms and now we manage our own finances, take responsibility for different bills, have our own cars and make our own decisions. It works very well for us. Much better than when we were married. I feel in charge and more independent.

Single but co-habiting ........ does that make sense?

No it doesnt, but it does to me. I was married for a long long time. We divorced, were apart for a while. Got back together on my terms and now we manage our own finances, take responsibility for different bills, have our own cars and make our own decisions. It works very well for us. Much better than when we were married. I feel in charge and more independent.

yeah makes sense to me been there done it got the t shirt & the book comes out soon:hihi:

I don't think there is any manual to this.... if you are happy alone then fine and if you happen to meet someone and the chemistry is right, then as long as you can both compromise, then give it a go. There is no wrong or right. :)

the old saying goes,............you always want what you haven't got, which i think can be true.
although being married is about compromising sometimes, i definetly need to be around people, and need somebody to love, but i can also happily live on my own

Sorry but I'm very boring. Been together since 1966 and wed 37 yrs. had our ups and downs but btu wouldn't swap him for anything.:)

Don't know about him swapping me though. Probably like most men...too lazy to change lol:hihi: :hihi:

Why buy a book when you can join a library?:)

SINGLE! becuase you can have more fun and dont get no hassle off the fella asking who you spoke to why you speaking to guys saying you cant have male friends etc.. and after last night i was glad i was single :D All those lovely lads

SINGLE! becuase you can have more fun and dont get no hassle off the fella asking who you spoke to why you speaking to guys saying you cant have male friends etc.. and after last night i was glad i was single :D All those lovely lads

I agree with you!!

I was happy when I was single and I'm now married and happy. Giving each other some space every now and then is healthy. When we've had enough of each other, he goes away for weekend with mates or I go on one of my mini European trips. It works fine!
Failing that, I just spend some time reading upstairs or singing my heart out (poor neighbours...) while he's downstairs playing on PS2 or cooking.
Also, arguing from time to time is good rather than bottle it up. :D

You pose the question as to whether it is better to be married or single Appolo? I would suggest, regardless of status, that it's better to be happy. Happiness is a rare commodity. We all say......' If only I had this, that or the other, I would be happy'. Just BE happy. Never put your emotional wellbeing in the hands of another, whether that 'other' is animal, vegetable or mineral, so to speak. You will never discover Utopia or drink from the Well of Eternal Youth and Wisdom, so, just be as good as you can be but always be true to yourself.


cloudy... yet again you have taken the words straight of of my mouth...

happiness is the key i agree :)

Sorry but I'm very boring. Been together since 1966 and wed 37 yrs. had our ups and downs but btu wouldn't swap him for anything.:)

Don't know about him swapping me though. Probably like most men...too lazy to change lol:hihi: :hihi:


married 37 yrs...you must have had plenty of ups & downs;) :hihi:

SINGLE! becuase you can have more fun and dont get no hassle off the fella asking who you spoke to why you speaking to guys saying you cant have male friends etc.. and after last night i was glad i was single :D All those lovely lads

You are going out with the wrong boys chick! Try getting a boyfriend who trusts you and likes to see you having fun!

married 37 yrs...you must have had plenty of ups & downs;) :hihi:

:o are you being rude ;)

She she is a respectable grandmother she never did anything like that for years ;) :hihi:

I am not married and not single.

Suits me sir.

Hit the nail on the head for me.

You don't have to be married to be 'not single'. Why does the ultimate end of being single have to equate 'married'?

Wilf

:o are you being rude ;)

She she is a respectable grandmother she never did anything like that for years ;) :hihi:

me rude...never I am a respectable grandad married & we have lots of ups & downs as does everybody thats married;) :hihi:

I have done both married and single I will let you into a small secret if I get married in scotland this year, this will be my 6th marriage and before anybody says anything yes I do like wedding cake and I am a glutten for punishment. I am hoping I have found the right one this time mind you I know I have got the right one as she is the only one who as stood by me through what I have gone through. I look at this way and so should all you young chaps on here you have to get married because you cant stop happy all your life?.....

I have done both married and single I will let you into a small secret if I get married in scotland this year, this will be my 6th marriage and before anybody says anything yes I do like wedding cake and I am a glutten for punishment. I am hoping I have found the right one this time mind you I know I have got the right one as she is the only one who as stood by me through what I have gone through. I look at this way and so should all you young chaps on here you have to get married because you cant stop happy all your life?.....


bloody hell! I thought I was a glutton for punishment I have been married 3 times & had all the usual jokes etc
best of luck to you mate:thumbsup:

depends on whether you're good at ironing:D









Only joking dear:gag:

depends on whether you're good at ironing:D









Only joking dear:gag:

yes i am big boy:love: :hihi:

:hihi: :hihi: Id personally go for being single, that said im on me second marriage got four kids and a grandaughter, erm? something not right there but thats me??:help: :help:

medically speaking being married is more healthy than not, married men on average live longer than unmarried ones.

I am 57 now. Upto being 53 I was single and living on my own, I used to say I was happy and did'nt need a woman in my house/life.

I met a woman some four years ago and we married on the 21st September 04, it was the best thing I have ever done. Marriage turned my life around.

I am 57 now. Upto being 53 I was single and living on my own, I used to say I was happy and did'nt need a woman in my house/life.

I met a woman some four years ago and we married on the 21st September 04, it was the best thing I have ever done. Marriage turned my life around.

good for you it's better late than never:thumbsup:

medically speaking being married is more healthy than not, married men on average live longer than unmarried ones.

Could that be because they are nagged into eating healthier, exercising more etc? :hihi: Can't be such a bad thing if it works. :thumbsup:

I really think it depends on the individual.
Me personally could not even think about being single.
I have never really been alone all my adult life as I am and have been married for 26 years, and I can see us being together in another 26 years.
I love my wifes company and never ever tire of her presence.
On the rare times I am at home alone I get very agitated very quickly, bored really and always glad when she gets back.
I have not always felt this way, getting time to myself was nice but as we both get older its nice to share our time and hobbies together.

I think I got married a couple of days ago... I'll let you know when I've worked it out...

medically speaking being married is more healthy than not, married men on average live longer than unmarried ones.

I have wondered about this stat before though - could it not be that men who are healthy are more likely to find someone to marry them? IE if you take care of yourself, exercise, cook, and don't have a terminal disease you are more likely to pull?

ive been with the missus over 18 years

but were not married

weve lived together about 10 years

i dont believe in marriage cos you only get married in the eyes of the law and god
i dont believe in god and the laws an ass

also once you get married your thought processes change, you start believing YOU OWN EACH OTHER, thats when the trouble starts.

i do enjoy having somebody there to share things with but i do also enjoy being on my own occasionly

I think I got married a couple of days ago... I'll let you know when I've worked it out...

crikey! it must have been some party for you not to remember:hihi:

I really think it depends on the individual.
Me personally could not even think about being single.
I have never really been alone all my adult life as I am and have been married for 26 years, and I can see us being together in another 26 years.
I love my wifes company and never ever tire of her presence.
On the rare times I am at home alone I get very agitated very quickly, bored really and always glad when she gets back.
I have not always felt this way, getting time to myself was nice but as we both get older its nice to share our time and hobbies together.
Couldn't have put it better myself Cycleracer. I work fulltime because my other half has been ill for some time and is now retired. Just had a week hol off work and really enjoyed it once I got out of the routine.
I love our sunshine holiday because it's just us and a thousand strangers so we don't have to bother about anyone else.:love:

married!!!
I love being married (10 years now) because...

its nice to always have a companion they are always there for you.
To have someone to come home to after a long day at work.
To share your weekends with
To go on holiday with
To go on nights out with
To have cosy nights in with
To talk about anything thats on your mind
To snuggle up to in bed on those cold winter nights
To have a family with
To never worry about being left on the shelf!!
To laugh with
To fall out with
then make up with.

For me definatley married....:)

I have wondered about this stat before though - could it not be that men who are healthy are more likely to find someone to marry them? IE if you take care of yourself, exercise, cook, and don't have a terminal disease you are more likely to pull?

it is difficult to determine cause and effect sometimes.

married!!!
I love being married (10 years now) because...

its nice to always have a companion they are always there for you.
To have someone to come home to after a long day at work.
To share your weekends with
To go on holiday with
To go on nights out with
To have cosy nights in with
To talk about anything thats on your mind
To snuggle up to in bed on those cold winter nights
To have a family with
To never worry about being left on the shelf!!
To laugh with
To fall out with
then make up with.

For me definatley married....:)

got to agree with you 100%:thumbsup:

Single when your young, married when you get a bit older.

married!!!
I love being married (10 years now) because...

its nice to always have a companion they are always there for you.
To have someone to come home to after a long day at work.
To share your weekends with
To go on holiday with
To go on nights out with
To have cosy nights in with
To talk about anything thats on your mind
To snuggle up to in bed on those cold winter nights
To have a family with
To never worry about being left on the shelf!!
To laugh with
To fall out with
then make up with.

For me definatley married....:)

It seems people either fall into two camps here. The happily married lot or the person recently scorned and happy with what they've got thankyou very much.
I fall somewhere in the middle.

I've quoted you Racheylou as I'm normally ok with my single status but today I've had work to do, no company apart from two phonecalls and my ex boyfriend also feeling sorry for himself, it's been blooming freezing this week, and my mates were all busy doing what you said to go out tonight. I have things to do as well but it would be nice to have someone to snuggle on the sofa with afterwards. And dating is such hard work sometimes! I've just been arranging one and it can't take place for three weeks!
(Sigh as Bridget Jones nips out for her chinese meal for one.)

The romantic in me believes that marriage could be wonderful. But experience has shown me that compromise -- and, let's face it, marriage is nothing but one big compromise -- really means that neither partner gets what he or she wants.

Serial monogamy for me, I think.

crikey! it must have been some party for you not to remember:hihi:

Tee Hee... It was actually a Lisu ceremony, led by the head of my girlfriend's village, loosely translated as a wedding, but more of a party for her family and village to bless, and therefore accept the relationship. Standard procedure in any Lisu village, although nobody seemed to know what was going on! The ceremony itself lasted all of 1 minute 23 seconds, lending the rest of the day to slaughtering a pig, drinking moonshine, and cooking and eating the afore mentioned pig...

An interesting day, and I still haven't worked out if I'm married or not...