Were not talking normal wedding here, i'm on about the traditional Biblebashing type.
Been invited to my girlfriends 'best friends' wedding later this year.
Thought OK i can put up with that for a night being Non-religious an all.
Their even having a decent Themed Do after....... Country & Western.
But then the problem started....
Found out their not having any alcohol AT ALL at the afterparty. :o
i can respect that some people are tea total and don't drink but to deprive someone of some beautiful Amber Nector who wants it is beyond a crime.......or am i just being selfish.
I can just see it being there, with us all supping Tea and Cranberry juice.
For someone like me Not a very nice site at all.
They must at least have some Wine.......As they say, whats good enough for Jesus is Alcoholic enough for Me. :help:

Surely you are supposed to respect your host’s wishes, no? Would you be saying the same thing if it where a Muslim or Hindu wedding?

Try thinking about the fact the happy couple or their families are paying for you to go!

You're being selfish. It's their wedding; they make the rules. Consider yourself honoured to be asked to attend. If you can't do without alcohol for one afternoon/evening, make your excuses, leave early and head to the nearest pub.

The term "Christian" covers a wide rage of sects within the "Christian" Community.
Are these people having the wedding members of a teetotal sect.....say Methodists, who would not normally imbibe alcohol?

Sneak in some booze in a hip flask, get hammered and start shouting.
That should go down well. :hihi:

What has "Christian" wedding got to do with no alcohol. Most Christians like a drink or three. Do they take communion wine?

See? that's the thing about weddings - every person you invite is so wrapped up in their own little world of 'I want, I want'

Straighten your face, and behave in a civilised fashion for once. If you can't enjoy yourself without getting off your face you're a sad excuse for a human being.

PS - this could make or break your own relationship, so watch what you say on the run up to this event too ;)

.... And how do you know it's because they are Christian that there is no alcohol? How do you know that there isn't a recovering alcoholic that's part of the main wedding party, so they wouldn't be able to attend if the no alcohol rule didn't apply? Your 'requirements' are insignificant when you're only invited out of politeness to the bride's best mate :suspect:

I know several people's weddings that have been completely blighted by people drinking beyond their limits. I personally think that no or restricted alcohol is a very good idea. Too many guests see wedding receptions as an excuse to get bladdered on free booze, with no care as to how much they show themselves up and ruin a day that should be about others.

Off the subject (sort of!) but I just had to say how much I LOVED your dress Strix!! Saw the photo's on the link. So different to the usual meringues. :love:

Church...sermons...mouthing along with hymns...Country & Western...no drink...and they expect you to buy them something!

Don’t Go.

.......or am i just being selfish.
I can just see it being there, with us all supping Tea and Cranberry juice.
For someone like me Not a very nice site at all.
They must at least have some Wine.......As they say, whats good enough for Jesus is Alcoholic enough for Me. :help:

You're being selfish.

If you can't respect someone else's beliefs and skip booze for a day, then you're either very selfish or you have an unusual requirement for alcohol.

It's their day, not yours. Respect that and act maturely.

Joe

Church...sermons...mouthing along with hymns...Country & Western...no drink...and they expect you to buy them something!

Don’t Go.

Off topic - love the avatar!!

Off the subject (sort of!) but I just had to say how much I LOVED your dress Strix!! Saw the photo's on the link. So different to the usual meringues. :love:
See, if somebody hadn't archived that thread you could have said that there instead ;)

Our whole wedding was geared around what our large extended family's requirements would be, and we still got loads of moaning an whingeing - from the group who's requirements we'd paid most attention to :suspect: and they were complaining about the distance they had to travel - although they live nearer to the venue than anybody else there :roll: (and my dad refused to stay in the wedding hotel, so my mum couldn't either, but that's families for you :roll: )

The only thing I was 'me, me' about was the dress - it had to be leather, and I had to have boots. I let the bridesmaids choose their own outfits, the meal was served as a carvery/buffet to make guests feel more comfortable, we had a religious ceremony in the hotel (so guests wouldn't be intimidated by the whole 'church' thing, and one of the readings was a Pooh Bear poem :D

The only people who could have complained were the bridesmaids - I had to change their tops because the cream ones they chose made my leather look grey :( - but they wound up in the same thing in black, which they were happy about (and I let them keep both tops ;) )

The term "Christian" covers a wide rage of sects within the "Christian" Community.
Are these people having the wedding members of a teetotal sect.....say Methodists, who would not normally imbibe alcohol?

I was brought up as a methodist and it's only the minister who isn't supposed to drink alcohol, and they don't allow alcohol to be served on their premises, but they always said that was a tax reason, rather than a religious or moral reason.

I understand that decades ago (40+) , some methodists used to be very anti drink, and they used to drink water at meetings, according to a woman I know who used to attend meetings with her mother in the Oldham area. But my Dad, never heard that kind of strict behaviour in sheffield, he thinks it is someone making stories up.

Were not talking normal wedding here, i'm on about the traditional Biblebashing type.
Been invited to my girlfriends 'best friends' wedding later this year.
Thought OK i can put up with that for a night being Non-religious an all.
Their even having a decent Themed Do after....... Country & Western.
But then the problem started....
Found out their not having any alcohol AT ALL at the afterparty. :o

No well dressed man attends a wedding without a lighter (whether he smokes or not) and at least one 'hip' flask (preferably an inside breast pocket type, very tall and slim so as to not disrupt the lines of a suit) charged with brandy, and another with rum or whiskey or better still, laudanum.

Sneak in some booze in a hip flask, get hammered and start shouting.
That should go down well. :hihi:

Absolutely!

I don't think you're being selfish btw. Yeah you have to respect other people on their wedding day and is no drink's allowed, you'll have to go with that (unless you're sneaky ;) ). That doesn't mean you can't have a light hearted moan about it. I would do the same tbh (equally being a non-religious boozy type).

Mind you, I'm not much into weddings at the best of times. Far too overrated if you ask me.

Good luck - you have my greatest sympathies :),

Chicken Monkey x

Just noticed the Country and Western after party! :gag: :gag: Lol!

You poor stick!!!

CM x

You could always try and compromise by agreeing to go to the service but give the bun fight a miss, however, as the bride is your girlfriends' best friend, this might be difficult. Personally, as a hostess, I would want to cater for all my guests' needs, regardless as to my own religious or other convictions.

Personally, as a hostess, I would want to cater for all my guests' needs, regardless as to my own religious or other convictions.
Have yo uany idea just how impossible that is?
Clearly there are guests there who do not approve of the imbibing of alcohol, so that ain't going to work - especially as Hillbilly is not actually a guest himself, but riding on somebody else's ticket.

If he doesn't like it, he shouldn't go.... but I don't fancy his own relationship's chances if that's how he chooses to behave.



I had no idea we had so many selfish self-centred people on this forum :suspect:

Have yo uany idea just how impossible that is?
Clearly there are guests there who do not approve of the imbibing of alcohol, so that ain't going to work - especially as Hillbilly is not actually a guest himself, but riding on somebody else's ticket.

If he doesn't like it, he shouldn't go.... but I don't fancy his own relationship's chances if that's how he chooses to behave.



I had no idea we had so many selfish self-centred people on this forum :suspect:

I agree it is very difficult to cater for all, although I'm sure most of us try. The larger the party and the more diverse the guests, the harder it is. I also agree that if he isn't happy about the situation, he shouldn't go. However, I certainly wouldn't want to drag any partner of mine along to anything if he wasn't happy about it. That really would be selfish.

I certainly wouldn't want to drag any partner of mine along to anything if he wasn't happy about it. That really would be selfish.
What's the point in having a relationship if you're not going to support each other? Wouldn't you want your partner to keep you company at a social event of his own free will and without grumbling and face pulling?

It's interesting how many blokes suddenly decide they can compromise their own principles if there's totty to be chased though :suspect:

At least you can drive and not worry about having a drink.

However, I really think you should make your excuses about not attending the country and western do afterwards. I couldn't imagine sitting through a whole evening of that blind drunk let alone sober. You have my every sympathy.

What's the point in having a relationship if you're not going to support each other? Wouldn't you want your partner to keep you company at a social event of his own free will and without grumbling and face pulling?

It's interesting how many blokes suddenly decide they can compromise their own principles if there's totty to be chased though :suspect:

I would only want my partner to accompany me to a social event if he was happy to do so and not out of any obligation to me. As for compromising their own principles by chasing totty, men that choose to do that, obviously don't have any to compromise in the first place.

I would only want my partner to accompany me to a social event if he was happy to do so and not out of any obligation to me.
Well if the pleasure of your company isn't good enough for him, where does that leave your relationship?

No wonder the divorce rate is so high in this country :mad:

Well if the pleasure of your company isn't good enough for him, where does that leave your relationship?

No wonder the divorce rate is so high in this country :mad:

I doubt that one day apart would ever threaten any serious relationship. As for the divorce rate? That's a thread for a different time !

Hellbilly;
You could remind them that Jesus' first miracle was turning water in to wine...at a wedding, (and we're not talking a few bottles either)
Personally, I find the 'Country and Western' thing the most disturbing....

you could always give them a bottle as a gift!!! hahahha...sorry, insensitve...
...uhhh...yeah , don't go....you can always tele later from the pub!

Sounds like this is well and truly resolved in the standard SF style. :D

See, if somebody hadn't archived that thread you could have said that there instead ;)

Our whole wedding was geared around what our large extended family's requirements would be, and we still got loads of moaning an whingeing - from the group who's requirements we'd paid most attention to :suspect: and they were complaining about the distance they had to travel - although they live nearer to the venue than anybody else there :roll: (and my dad refused to stay in the wedding hotel, so my mum couldn't either, but that's families for you :roll: )

The only thing I was 'me, me' about was the dress - it had to be leather, and I had to have boots. I let the bridesmaids choose their own outfits, the meal was served as a carvery/buffet to make guests feel more comfortable, we had a religious ceremony in the hotel (so guests wouldn't be intimidated by the whole 'church' thing, and one of the readings was a Pooh Bear poem :D

The only people who could have complained were the bridesmaids - I had to change their tops because the cream ones they chose made my leather look grey :( - but they wound up in the same thing in black, which they were happy about (and I let them keep both tops ;) )


Wow, thats a great dress!!!