Its been a while that I have posted a sad sheffield story!

This is one I heard from a&e when I was a student there! A lovely scottish sister said that one day an elderly lady was brought in collapsed from town, sadly she subsequently died, and her dapper husband who was in his 80s, was brought in by a neighbour from home.
He was reserved and dignified, and asked the scottish sister if he could see his wife. She and a student nurse ( not me) led him into a cubicle where he sat silently for a long while, then he asked the sister if she would do a favour for him. Moved she said yes, andhe asked her if she and the student could wrap his wife's arms around him a last time! she , choking back tears agreed and with difficulty she and the student gentley sat the lady up and each wrapped one of her arms around him as he cuddled her one last time...

sad or what? but a lovely story never-the-less

Its been a while that I have posted a sad sheffield story!

This is one I heard from a&e when I was a student there! A lovely scottish sister said that one day an elderly lady was brought in collapsed from town, sadly she subsequently died, and her dapper husband who was in his 80s, was brought in by a neighbour from home.
He was reserved and dignified, and asked the scottish sister if he could see his wife. She and a student nurse ( not me) led him into a cubicle where he sat silently for a long while, then he asked the sister if she would do a favour for him. Moved she said yes, andhe asked her if she and the student could wrap his wife's arms around him a last time! she , choking back tears agreed and with difficulty she and the student gentley sat the lady up and each wrapped one of her arms around him as he cuddled her one last time...

sad or what? but a lovely story never-the-lessaaahhhhh thats a lovely story...bless em

Oh my God that's so sad! :cry: That really choked me.

got me, too.

i got really upset in safeway (now waitrose) several years ago when there was an elderly guy trying to pack bags (he worked there), and he was really struggling, while everyone was rushing around him and being as fast as possible. i got even more upset the other day on reading the story about the elderly couple who were separated - he was blind and she had mobility issues (or possibly the other way around) and one of them put in a home, but they wouldn't take the other, so they were only able to see each other twice a week for 7 months until the situation was resolved.

bugger, wish i hadn't read this thread now, i'm all teary.

arrrrrrrrr that is a very sad story.

That is so sweet and soooo sad :(

Am I the only one who actually finds it a little weird...... :confused:

Am I the only one who actually finds it a little weird...... :confused:

It helps to put this thread by crowefan in context, as crowefan did say
"It's been a while that [sic: should read 'since'] I have posted a sad sheffield story!"

Check out this previous thread by crowefan .....

http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?t=31378&highlight=hospital

I'm crying into my mug of tea now!!

Lost my grandpa on NYE and my gran is still (obviously) very shocked. My cousin sent her a beautiful black and white photo that her husband had taken of grandpa at their wedding last year, and she's now had it framed and put on the mantlepiece - she spends her days sitting looking at him as she's pretty much immobile and relies heavily on others to do things for her. When my mum told me about the picture I absolutely bawled my eyes out!!!

Elderley couples often bring a tear to my eyes as I find it beautiful how, after everything their generation lived through, they still have faith, trust and love in one person.

Not a Sheffield say story, as this happened in a Midlands county.

A social worker admitted an elderly frail lady to live in a home. She just could not cope living at home anymore, even with the support offered by her frail sister. Neither had married, and they had stayed together in the family home from childhood to old age. The elderly lady was so happy living in the home, but her sister now began to go downhill, and she was reaching the stage where she could no longer manage on her own.

It was agreed that the other elderly sister should also be admitted to the home, thus reuniting the sisters. Both were overjoyed. In time, a vacancy occurred, following the death of a resident, but there was someone on the waiting list who was in more urgent need. When the next vacancy occurred, the bed was suddenly occupied by an emergency weekend admission. When the next vacancy occurred, she was finally admitted to the home. But there was no joy - for the vacancy had occurred upon the death of her sister. And I was that social worker.

:cry::cry::cry::cry: stop it - my tea is turning to saltwater :cry::cry::cry::cry:

There were two elderly sisters who lived at the bottom of my road when I still lived with my mum (its a very remote place where my parents live, and although the house is 1/4 mile away, they were our closest neighbours). They'd lived in this house since they were born, and although one had married, the other sister still lived with them. The husband died many many years ago, but these sisters were still going (aged about 95/96ish) in fairly good health considering their age, but they did have help from a care worker every day to get them up and to help them to bed. One day the care worker turned up at the house to get them up and both sisters had died quietly and peacefully in their sleep. Very odd how these things happn :(

It helps to put this thread by crowefan in context, as crowefan did say
"It's been a while that [sic: should read 'since'] I have posted a sad sheffield story!"

Check out this previous thread by crowefan .....

http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?t=31378&highlight=hospital

Sorry I didn't mean I find Crowefan weird, I found what the man did a bit weird. I suppose everyone deals with grief in different ways but this isn't one I'd come across before!

Sorry I didn't mean I find Crowefan weird, I found what the man did a bit weird. I suppose everyone deals with grief in different ways but this isn't one I'd come across before!

Well......I Dont find it strange what the man did in any way???

I find it rather touching that a Gentleman who was in shocked due to the sudden loss of his wife, wanted to feel her love for one last time????

Matt

I have seen some very odd and touching reactions from relatives when their loved ones die

when I was in psychiatry I worked on an elderly ward, one patient was only 34 and stunningly good looking, he had been put into an insulin coma in the 1970's ( it was a treatment for mental illness !!! can you believe that?) and unfortunately he recieved brain damage. He was placed on the elderly ward soon after that. I rememeber a family (with priest) waiting for a patient to die in the ward dormatory (we had no side ward)....this younger patient had managed to seek into the dorm and had stripped himself naked and proceeded to "rub" himself face down ( if you get my drift) on the next bed....
that poor family, all rigidly keeping their eyes faced forward!
embarrassing or what

Sorry I didn't mean I find Crowefan weird, I found what the man did a bit weird. I suppose everyone deals with grief in different ways but this isn't one I'd come across before!

I understand what you're saying, but I suppose the difference is between seeing it through your eyes (as putting a dead persons arms round you) and his (putting his wifes arms round him) - know what I mean?

I understand what you're saying, but I suppose the difference is between seeing it through your eyes (as putting a dead persons arms round you) and his (putting his wifes arms round him) - know what I mean?

I suppose the way I see it is that having seen plenty of dead people, either of people I know or don't, that when someone dies it is very evident that they are not there any more, it's an empty shell. A body looks very different to the person they were when they are alive. In a way I find this comforting as it shows that we really do go somewhere when we die. I know many people actually touch bodies etc. which is normal, but actually picking a body up to put their arms around someone would be very difficult and awkward and I just can't imagine it being an altogether peaceful parting moment :confused: Sorry to shatter the illusion maybe I'm just not a softy!

I agree with you, it wouldn't be for me (I don't think so anyway, maybe I'd be different in the event of my lifelong partner dying?). I'd even say that I'd prefer not to see someone after they'd died, prefer to remember them as they were, who'd want their last memories being of someone laid out? But, like you said, people all react differently in times of grief.