Its exactly a year ago at this time that my family lost a dear husband and Father. I miss my Dad so much Im sat here crying my eyes out and just needed to post on the forum. We were too late to say goodbye to him, we arrived at the hospital at 11.55pm and he had passed away at 11.50. not sure what else to write so I will sign out now. Sorry all for being so morbid.

Flashbang your not being morbid, my thought,s are with you.xxx sending you a big hug.xxx

Sending you big hugs. It was the anniversary of losing my Dad last Wednesday and even though it was 18 years ago I still miss him. It does get easier with time and soon (even though you don't believe it) you will be able to remember the happy times as the sad ones fade.

Hang in there!

Been through the same experience, so understand where you're coming from.

Only thing I can say is that feeling of loss will ease with the passage of time. (and made me appreciate my mother more)

Z

Sending you big hugs. It was the anniversary of losing my Dad last Wednesday and even though it was 18 years ago I still miss him. It does get easier with time and soon (even though you don't believe it) you will be able to remember the happy times as the sad ones fade.

Hang in there!

So true! .....................

Its exactly a year ago at this time that my family lost a dear husband and Father. I miss my Dad so much Im sat here crying my eyes out and just needed to post on the forum. We were too late to say goodbye to him, we arrived at the hospital at 11.55pm and he had passed away at 11.50. not sure what else to write so I will sign out now. Sorry all for being so morbid.

Flashbang you go ahead & cry,you only have 1 dad it's not morbid I am a fully grown man & I too shed tears especially when my mum died it is human
to show you care

I lost my Dad in November of 95...

After 10yrs i still miss him loads... we were very close... a real Daddies girl it has to be said...

He was the one person who i could talk to about anything and everything... he was always there for me no matter what... as a parent should be of course...

The times that i get very upset are when things dont go right... as the one person who i'd always turn to for support is no longer there for me... that cuts deep...

But we should never feel we're alone...

I believe my Dad's out there somewhere watching over me... in time you will begin to feel alot stronger... i think the toughest bit to go through is always the First's...

The first Anniversary ~ Birthday ~ Christmas etc... thinking... he was still alive this time last year etc... in time it will get easier i promise you that... but... one thing for sure is you'll never Forget! and you'll always have your treasured memories of all your happy times shared with him... which no one can ever take away from you... :)

(((((((( HUGS ))))))))

Best wishes

A xx

Its exactly a year ago at this time that my family lost a dear husband and Father. I miss my Dad so much Im sat here crying my eyes out and just needed to post on the forum. We were too late to say goodbye to him, we arrived at the hospital at 11.55pm and he had passed away at 11.50. not sure what else to write so I will sign out now. Sorry all for being so morbid.

I miss my Dad too Darling. He ended up in a Hospice.Cancer ate half his face away. He could hardly speak to me, but as I held his hand he said' You are my blood' I watched every breath he took...................and then he died. Mum never realised..................I had to tell her...............It never gets any easier

My Dad is still alive and living at home in Sheffield with Mum. I will be almost 3 years since I saw them both and 5 years since dad had his stroke. A bad one but he is sort of okay now. Not nearly the man he was though. I wish, I wish I could be with him and spend more time with him and Mum. I chose to live here thousands of miles away in a foreign country and it is hard to get back and visit. We are saving up to come in November on holiday. Mum wants us to come sooner as he is not in the best of health and getting older. It's not that easy.

Here's a poem for all Dads.

What Makes A Dad

God took the strength of a mountain, The majesty of a tree,
The warmth of a summer sun, The calm of a quiet sea,
The generous soul of nature, The comforting arm of night,
The wisdom of the ages, The power of the eagle's flight,
The joy of a morning in spring, The faith of a mustard seed,
The patience of eternity, The depth of a family need,
Then God combined these qualities, When there was nothing more to add,
He knew His masterpiece was complete,
And so, He called it ... Dad

~Author Unknown~

I miss my dad

flashbang,you have a good cry,i do, it usually helps when im feeling sad about the people that i have lost in my life,big hug from me:)

It's part of the process of coming to terms with your loss which most people usually go through and it is perfectly fine to grieve. At times like this hugs and kind words never go astray.

Also thought you may find a bereavement counsellor of some help so did a quick search on google for bereavement counsellors and came up with Cruse (cut and paste from Lochaber website) which has a UK National Helpline - 0870 167 1677 open 9.30 - 5.30 Monday - Friday with answering machine at other times. They can offer you a Counsellor (outside Lochaber) on the telephone, a service is available seven days a week during afternoons and evenings. Tel: 08457 585 565 (local rate)

Hope this helps.

i know how you feel, my nan passed away only 2 weeks ago, im still coming to terms with it, i dont think it has sunk in yet, she was the greatest, kindest, loving person anyone could meet, i miss her so much!!

:(

This must be really difficult for you, stay strong hunny! x

I am at the beginning of this journey. My dad dies on 29th December and it is only really hitting now.

Thankfully I was with my dad at the hospice when he died and I think this has helped.

I know how you feel Flashbang, I miss My grandad too :cry:

My heart goes out to you.

Its my dad's birthday today and I lost him 11yrs ago this yr, when I was 17. It does get easier, but I still miss him like crazy and yes I'm weepy today. I lost my mum a year later and I miss them both very much.

These things are sent to try us and what doesn't beat you, makes you stronger.

Can't really write much more, or add anything different to what others have already said. Just keep your chin up and have a good cry if you want to - I will when I get home tonight!

xx

I'm not surprised that's really tough.

I lost my Nan and Grandad a couple of years ago. I still get upset when I think, I was really close to them both.
My grandad was so so fit and healthy then Cancer got him. He was gone within a couple of weeks after. My Nan then just gave up, you can say died of a broken heart.

It gets me really angry because he was so fit and healthy then something comes and takes him like that.

From now on I do everything I can at the first chance I get. Live life to the max!

It is 5 years ago today that we lost my ex-husband and my daughter's dearly loved Dad aged only 43.
Am thinking about you Flashbang. Be kind to yourself and allow the grief to come out. Much love

Hugs to you, Flashbang. I was devastated when my father died in 1981, when I was 18. Twenty-five years later, I still miss him and think of him several times every day. I can promise you that time will soften the pain, but it will never erase the memories. Let them comfort you.

Thankyou, for all your words of comfort. I didn't get much sleep last night I just lay there thinking back to last year. Its lovely to know that I can just come on the forum and get some support from you. your are a lovely bunch of people.
Thanks again.:thumbsup:
P.S yeraknow, I know you miss him too sweetheart but as you know we are there for each other. xxx Mum.

Flashbang, it was 6yrs this jan when I lost my son at 17 months old to meninigitis, but I still cry on the day we lost him and his birthday. It is hard to lose a family member, all we have left of them is the good memories.
My heart goes out to you.
No one thinks your morbid,remember thats what the forums for sharing your thoughts and having someone to talk to.

Hugs from me x

Flashbang, the way that you are feeling is perfectly naturaland nobody thinks that you are being morbid. I lost my mum 7years ago and find that although I now tend to think about her in a possitivly I sometimes still feel very sad.You will being to feel better hang in there.

I lost my dad in 1980 and my mum in 2003.
It was expected that one day they would die and I knew it would happen but not when.
Its a shock when it does but you are not alone in grief, everyone goes down that road eventually.
Some take it harder than others and my way of dealing with it is I would never get over loosing a child but loosing a parent gets easier in Father time.
Its an expected and unavoidable position of life and I hope you can see that your Dad will be still around if not in person.

Give it time Flashbang, it will become brighter and quicker than you think.

This made me so sad to read and my thoughts are certainly with you and your family. Losing a member of the family is the hardest thing in the world to go through without a doubt.

If you ever need someone to chat with, don't hesitate to send me a PM.

Really sorry you lost your Dad. Anniversaries & Birthdays are the absolute pits when you're grieving.

A bit lost for words now as there aren't any poignant enough for what you're going through.

xxxxx

I have tears in my eyes reading this. Luckily I still have my Dad, but I dread the thought of him NOT being there, even though we live in different towns and I don't see him as much as I'd like. I miss him now and I know he's still there, can't imagine what I'll be like when mine goes. Condolences all round.

I have tears in my eyes reading this.

Me too :( My dad is still with us but he's been slowing down for years and has completely lost his lust for life. He's been stuck in a dead-end job that he hates since moving here in 1980. He's 57 but is always going on about how old he is and it's really sad to hear it, especially considering I used to do Taekwondo with a guy his age a couple of years ago and it made me think what dad could've been like if he'd kept going.

He's just been put on some pills for high blood pressure so I think this could be the start of some tough times ahead as he doesn't exercise, doesn't eat healthily and he's a heavy smoker and has been for years. He's set in his ways now but mum is doing her best to keep him going. :) We'll get a few years out of the bugger yet.

It's real sad to read some of the stuff in this thread and whenever I imagine myself losing my dad it always brings a tear to my eye because I know it's going to happen one day. I'll be trying to make the most of the time left over though. :thumbsup:

I never saw my dad when he died why because my dads girlfriend told me 3 months before he died that he was already dead. how do you think I feel finding out 4 months later that he was still alive and I could have gone to see him. what would I like to do to his girlfriend if I ever see her well quite a few things but whats the point in me going to prison for murder. what goes around comes around but everyday I miss my dad I could have been there for him, the one thing that I wanted to do was say goodbye to him but I had that right took away from me by that bloody woman. I use to go looking for her just on the off chance that we would cross paths in sheffield but I have given up leave it to the place she will go too when her time comes. my dad died the day after his 65th birthday and my thoughts are always wishing that he was still here so he could see his 3 year old grandson. oh I do miss him and the dirty jokes what he use to tell me the other thing I miss him for is playing of the piano and all the blues what he played, and something else what hurts me as well is I have not got a photo of him his so called girlfriend burnt them all.

Often when I am reading through the threads on the Sheffield Forum, I will come across something that I think I know about, or it rings a bell somewhere in the back of my mind. I can puzzle over it and then I think, oh I shall have to ask my dad or mom, they'll know..then I think to myself ....no I can't.
Dad died in 1976...mom in 1979.
I KNOW it's 30 years ago but it's never gone away.:sad:
So yes, I do miss them both.

hug!!!!!!!

Just wondered how you're feeling today? *Big Hugs* xxxxxxxxxxx

sugarnspice, did you recieve my pm?

I'm 34 and my dad is my best mate.

I am dreading when the wime comes.

Hope you are ok today.

At least you have the love of all your fellow forummers. xx

I have never been to any of their meets yet but I feel as though I know them already. Many thanks to you all and lots of hugs to all of you that are also grieving for your loved ones.
Take care.

Its exactly a year ago at this time that my family lost a dear husband and Father. I miss my Dad so much Im sat here crying my eyes out and just needed to post on the forum. We were too late to say goodbye to him, we arrived at the hospital at 11.55pm and he had passed away at 11.50. not sure what else to write so I will sign out now. Sorry all for being so morbid.

It's a terrible thing death. I understand your frustration and upset, yours is a similar story to mine, my Dad died when I was 18, and my Mum when I was 24. I would love to see them again, even if it was for just one minute. I can honestly say it shaped my character a lot, and turned me into the person I am now. If there is a positive to your story, at least you are not bottling it all up on the inside.

sugarnspice, did you recieve my pm?

Not the first one? I received another one and replied though? :)