Hello its me. You may have read my poem posted in the wee small hours a few days ago.

Well I think I have been unceremoniously dumped using the tried and tested ignore method.

Help.. Im really really fed up now.:sad:

Get down the Plug tonight, have some cheap alochol... pull and ring in sick to work tomorrow.

Bish bosh, perfect recipe to get over it :thumbsup:

Hi there

I read your poem (really good btw). Is this the kind of thing this fella does? Didn't sound like he was makin you very happy.

Sorry you're havin a rough time. Take DaB's advice!

CM x

Cheer up.
Are u a bloke ? - Go down the boozer
Are u gal ? - Get your girlie mates round and have a good b!tchin session, or watch soppy vids. Or listen to James Blunt, then a good cry afterwards ...
A bloke ? Go down the boozer....

A new year, a new beginning really.

Are u sure it's totally ended ? Ignoring can just be 'cold war'. Well... there are plenty of fishes in the sea. I know the ones that are more memorable are the ones that surprises you. So.. chin up. Surprises can be round the corner.

It sounded like you were too good for him anyway.

plenty more fish in the sea as they say..you arnt old enough to be an old maid left on the shelf so pick yourself up,dust yourself down and start all over again :hihi: and i bet hes kicking himself next time he sees you

have a great life, dont let any one spoil it for you, you may regret some things later in older years but why worry about it now ? go get em......

Thanks guys. I just feel like such a prat :(

At the beginning I thought he was a keeper. Perhaps its me :rolleyes:

Never think it is you babe, because that will get you into trouble, dust yourself down, put your head in the air and smile, get yourself out, enjoy yourself and focus on the next (hopefully decent) guy you come across.

Live music on at the Notty House, Broomhill tonight, normally a good laugh and I think a few fellas there to take your mind off him.

Take care sweetheart x.

Nah, can't face the world today. (blotchy face syndrome from bawling)

I think I will just get a beer, lurk on here and make lots of new friends:)

Good move :)

All the best - from experience, things start to seem brighter after a while. You've got a lot to offer the world after all!

its never a nice feeling being dumped..............erm, why have i just stated the obvious:loopy: :blush:

Loving somone should make you feel happy not sad, if your sad then you know its not love...........respect yourself and walk away, hold your head high and take back control of your life and heart, then watch things change for you, your worth so much more than him :-)

I broke up with my fiancee over Xmas. We were together three years and I felt like my world had collapsed! It's been just over a month now and I can honestly say I'm having the best time in ages. No matter how many people tell you to move on etc, it's only something you can decide to do yourself. You need to grieve for a while. And then begin to build a future for yourself without that person. There is no guidebook that tells you how long you should feel unhappy / miserable before you can see things with a little more clarity; it's different for each one of us.

Keep doing the things that make you happy and stay positive...

All the best :thumbsup:

I read your poem and thought it was fab - I hope you feel better soon.

Never think it is you babe, because that will get you into trouble, dust yourself down, put your head in the air and smile, get yourself out, enjoy yourself and focus on the next (hopefully decent) guy you come across.


I beg to differ on this post.

Why would it not be this persons fault?
There are 2 sides to every story you know- please dont think I am being nasty about this but its true.

Why is it that when you lasses get dumped- its always the evil bloke that gets the stick?

Maybe if you lasses had taken a good look at yourselves in a mirror and thought about what went on in your relationships then maybe you could think 'Ayup, I'm not treating him right - maybe I should change a bit to sort myself out'

Its not always the blokes fault you know.

QUICK TIP FOR ANYONE THATS BEEN DUMPED
Dont go out on the lash and get yourself into a state about it- also dont go out trying to sleep about trying to make the other person jealous and hopefully gain 'revenge' on them.

It makes you look cheap and nasty- and people need to have more self respect for themselves.

I beg to differ on this post.

Why would it not be this persons fault?
There are 2 sides to every story you know- please dont think I am being nasty about this but its true.

Why is it that when you lasses get dumped- its always the evil bloke that gets the stick?

Maybe if you lasses had taken a good look at yourselves in a mirror and thought about what went on in your relationships then maybe you could think 'Ayup, I'm not treating him right - maybe I should change a bit to sort myself out'


Oi !

Slightly out of order.

How would I not be treating him right? He's not a puppy! he has a tongue in his head and if he was any kind of man he would have said something!

Oi !

Slightly out of order.

How would I not be treating him right? He's not a puppy! he has a tongue in his head and if he was any kind of man he would have said something!

Hi

Dont think I am attacking you or anything like that, but can you really say honestly that you are not totally blameless for you two splitting up?
Is there something that you could have done differently to sort out the problems between you two?

Thats what I was trying to get at :)

Speaking from a blokes point of view, we dont necessarily have to tell you lasses everything- if there is something wrong with us, ask us!!

As I said before- I am not having a go at you dont get me wrong, but I am just saying that the bloke may not be all to blame.

Hi
Speaking from a blokes point of view, we dont necessarily have to tell you lasses everything- if there is something wrong with us, ask us!!

The worst thing you can do is ask a bloke whats wrong, (back to the nagging thread)

The answer is 9 out of 10 times "nowt" and then you sulk.

Women on the other hand are quite happy to tell a guy if asked whats bothering them, but then we're clingy or emotional.

The worst thing you can do is ask a bloke whats wrong, (back to the nagging thread)

The answer is 9 out of 10 times "nowt" and then you sulk.

Women on the other hand are quite happy to tell a guy if asked whats bothering them, but then we're clingy or emotional.

I disagree- if the bloke says 'Nowt' and refuses to talk about it, take it from me- summat is up.

I'm like it sometimes- and I'm sure the blokes on this forum would agree with me somewhat, that we- as blokies- can all be like it from time to time.

I dont think it is wrong for women to tell a bloke whats up - the blokes should be listening to be honest, and if they dont, the blokes cant expect for the lady in their lives to be happy quite frankly- I certainly wouldnt class a woman as clingy or emotional because of it.

I disagree- if the bloke says 'Nowt' and refuses to talk about it, take it from me- summat is up.

I'm like it sometimes- and I'm sure the blokes on this forum would agree with me somewhat, that we- as blokies- can all be like it from time to time.

I agree, it doesn't alter the fact that men in general sit on their moods and emotions rather than be honest about how they are feeling. A girl would rather hear the truth (even the awful truth) than nothing.

I agree, it doesn't alter the fact that men in general sit on their moods and emotions rather than be honest about how they are feeling. A girl would rather hear the truth (even the awful truth) than nothing.

Agreed!

I am quite different from other blokes, as I can express my feelings very well to my partner, so I am very happy and I think blokes should realise that by talking to your partners and communicating a lot more- you will in the end up v.happy like moi :)

Truth is the best way forward as well.

Reading through the poem it doesn't sound like a bad thing?

Concentrate on the **** and the bad things and then call a few mates, get ******, get laid and use the opposite sex (or same sex) like you were used before:thumbsup:

(maybe you weren't used before, just adding some drama)

Concentrate on the **** and the bad things and then call a few mates, get ******, get laid and use the opposite sex (or same sex) like you were used before:thumbsup:



Is this your quick guide to looking like a slut then?
Sound like it to me.

This is what I keep finding nowadays that the best way to get over someone is to get ****** and then go out shagging away as if your life depended on it.
I totally DISAGREE.

There is nothing worse, than someone who has just been dumped going out on the lash in the desperate attempt to bed someone- anyone- just because they have been dumped.

My advice- dont go on the lash and start shagging anyone, leave it a bit and see if the situation improves- THEN go out looking for a new partner, dont act desperate and needy.

Is this your quick guide to looking like a slut then?
Sound like it to me.

This is what I keep finding nowadays that the best way to get over someone is to get ****** and then go out shagging away as if your life depended on it.
I totally DISAGREE.

There is nothing worse, than someone who has just been dumped going out on the lash in the desperate attempt to bed someone- anyone- just because they have been dumped.

My advice- dont go on the lash and start shagging anyone, leave it a bit and see if the situation improves- THEN go out looking for a new partner, dont act desperate and needy.

Get over yourself, its a joke muppet:loopy:

If the girl did go out and get laid it doesn't make her a slut. Having random sex after a relationship can be good for SOME people, not all, as they need a sense of needing.

Dont know too much about this girl but i'm sure whatever she does it will be the best. Worst thing she can do is to stay at home being miserable spending all her time on here. No insult intended to anyone, each to their own.

Incidently when i came out of a 5 year relationship last year i didn't go "putting it about" and it was 5 months before i got laid...not always sure if that was a good thing or not:help: :hihi:

Get over yourself, its a joke muppet:loopy:

Maybe its me then, because I didnt really see the funny side of you making fun of someone 'like being used before'.. maybe its my funny side going in my old age?? :loopy:

If the girl did go out and get laid it doesn't make her a slut. Having random sex after a relationship can be good for SOME people, not all, as they need a sense of needing.

Erm.. going out and getting laid just because you have been dumped by someone does not justify sleeping about at all - it makes you look a bit sad in my eyes, and it looks like you are cheap and desperate.

Dont know too much about this girl but i'm sure whatever she does it will be the best. Worst thing she can do is to stay at home being miserable spending all her time on here. No insult intended to anyone, each to their own.

Agreed!

Incidently when i came out of a 5 year relationship last year i didn't go "putting it about" and it was 5 months before i got laid...not always sure if that was a good thing or not:help: :hihi:

I think that was a good thing- did you think about why your relationship had gone the way of the pear though, and did you think about how you could improve it in your next relationship?

Thats the best way to go for me.

group hug for okayitsme?

cheer up, everything cloud always has a silver lining... if not, they will always clear and the sun will always be shining above them...

:)

Okayitsme, having read your poem, I think you're well out of it. Sounds to me like hes a bit of a user. Give your love and affection to someone worthy of it. It has happened to me before. The way I dealt with it, was to tell him EXACTLY what I thought of him - with no holds barred - and DELETE his number from my mobile - that way you're not tempted to text/call him when you're feeling down. Give yourself time to grieve (yes, it can be a form of grief!) Then, pick yourself up, dust yourself down AND START ALL OVER AGAIN!!! Thats the fun part! Wish I could give you a big hug - sending you one via the computer! :)

Hello its me. You may have read my poem posted in the wee small hours a few days ago.

Well I think I have been unceremoniously dumped using the tried and tested ignore method.

Help.. Im really really fed up now.:sad:


Hey okayitsme..... Don't look at it as you've 'been dumped'... it's more of a....
Hey I'm free to find someone new to make friends with!
;) Go get 'em! ;)

being dumped is often a blessing! think of all those things you can do that you couldn't when you were attached!

I get to go travelling round the world in 4 months.... my ex wouldn't have been having any of it!

...so the dumping hat came out!

[QUOTE=RobT]Reading through the poem it doesn't sound like a bad thing?

thats what i was thinking, you're better off without someone like that, but it wont feel like it at the moment. I don't know why women (me included) let men mess us about

I beg to differ on this post.

Why would it not be this persons fault?
There are 2 sides to every story you know- please dont think I am being nasty about this but its true.

Why is it that when you lasses get dumped- its always the evil bloke that gets the stick?

Maybe if you lasses had taken a good look at yourselves in a mirror and thought about what went on in your relationships then maybe you could think 'Ayup, I'm not treating him right - maybe I should change a bit to sort myself out'

Its not always the blokes fault you know.

QUICK TIP FOR ANYONE THATS BEEN DUMPED
Dont go out on the lash and get yourself into a state about it- also dont go out trying to sleep about trying to make the other person jealous and hopefully gain 'revenge' on them.

It makes you look cheap and nasty- and people need to have more self respect for themselves.
Too true!! I split up with my ex just over a year ago because she kept moaning to me telling me how I'd changed and that I never went out or did anything, blah blah.....yet what she didn't realise was that it was actually because of her that I changed because the moment we moved in together, she turned into her mother and took total control over everything. She was obsessed with cleaning and saving money yet wouldn't allow me any gadgets or treats even though I earned all the money. She also tried stopping me playing football and going out with my mates 'because they're all d*ckheads' apparantly. She really did turn into a nasty piece of work and it was like having a weight off my shoulders when we split up. I was happy again (still am!!) and could finally go and do everything I wanted to do. I did loads of travelling last year going on holidays and also watching the England football team with my brother and I also go out pretty much every week and enjoy myself. Life's great and I feel like 'me' again!!

What made me laugh was that she was constantly bringing me down and slagging me off to her mates (who even agreed with me and thought she was wrong!!) and when we split up she said it was my fault but what she didn't realise is that I had had enough well before we split up but she had just lost her job and started a new one and was really depressed about it so I didn't want to split up with her because I thought that once she got over her depression things would be good again. In the end though, enough was enough and I'm well rid of her!!

It was funny because we stayed friends for a little bit after and she actually said that I seemed really happy since we split up. I didn't have the heart to tell her it was because I was free to be me again!

I just wish I'd have stood up for myself a bit more really and not allowed her to take as much control as she did. Still, you live and learn, don't you?! It'll not happen again!!

It sounded like you wanted different things from life. She probably turned 'momsy' and thought longer term already way before you wanted it.

It's ironic reading other ppl's stories sometimes, as I'm the opposite.

At the end of the day, I echo what others have said. Communication is key. You blokes that want to keep the relationship going too must be honest with your gals, even if you know what you say will hurt her.

I too almost broke up last night. Yes, being honest has its bad points too. You find out things which you are not sure you wanted to know to begin with. What you thought was rosy, isn't so rosy afterall. :(