What's the shortest/longest time it's taken you to get over someone who you were in a relationship with? Are you still on speaking terms/best mates/worst enemies? Have you given it another go or gone separate ways forever?

Sorry, this post should have gone in the general chat section!

I think the shortest time it took for me to get over somebody, was my ex who I was engaged to - he turned into this nasty nasty person so it was easier to see I'm better off without him.

The longest was probably the one who moved to Jersey, cos we didnt really fall out or anything but he moved so it was difficult to carry on a relationship so far away, although we're completely different people now so even if he came back to sheffield we would never get back together.

Im friends with a few exes, and given it another go with a couple but I now think that all exes should stay exes as theres always a reason why you split up.

:hihi: I was in a relationship with someone for 5 years, we're still in contact, and are good friends. No bitterness there so its all good

i dont think you get over and ex i think you just learn from it, or in my case u dont lol xxx

The longest it took for me to get over a girl was about two years (about half of which was also self enforced celibacy) as she managed to really make me lose any faith in women, break my heart and wallet and generally avoid any kind of relationship for a while. Now I refer to her as: Spawn of Satan, Uber troll or the embodiement of spite.

The shortest was about 6 hours - got dumped - went on the pull - copped off - woke up to breakfast.

Paradoxically shallow and sensitive. Never too much middle ground. I'd rather have a poo in my hand and slap myself round the face than speak to the evil one ever again but am still on speaking terms with ladies who I have shared an "evenings company" with. Maybe for me, the deeper the emotional investment, the deeper the resentment and bitterness that can be generated. But for those who I've had a bit of a fling with, there's still the initial (but now extinguished) spark which made us seem interesting to each other.

Well I got ditched tonight so I'll let you know! :(

Not feeling too bad at the moment, just need to think of some activities to pep myself up, think I'll join the gym again tomorrow and try and be positive.

Sigh, uniB feels sorry for himself...more wine....

Sorry to hear that UniB - Have another glass of wine, I find it's invariably the answer to most of the curve balls life throws at you.

Chin up, Shoulders back, Brace yourself .......... Right, you're ready to face the world. In fact, sod it, have another glass of wine!

unib...this is the best thing ever...

say hello to...

freedom
cheaper living
severe cut in stress
more freedom
no other person to worry about

ahhh the single life.

unib...this is the best thing ever...

say hello to...

freedom
cheaper living
severe cut in stress
more freedom
no other person to worry about

ahhh the single life.

Well that all you know because you never had a partner :P

Thats not fair we aren't all naturally good looking, slim and attractive like you.

Thats not fair we aren't all naturally good looking, slim and attractive like you.

I thought you were still going out with Ms Palm?

sorry spyro i upset your princess and dearly beloved. count those seconds down. whoops there they are all gone...night

Everyone is differnt, One relationship i was with for 4ys that who i had my kid with took me less then a week to get over and that is becuase i knew it fazed out ages ago so i was not suprised when it did end and i still see him as we got a child.

My second long relationship of 5ys and ended 4ys ago and to be honest took me a long time , nearly a year and half till i dated again. as that was a shock not only to me but to his and my family that it did end, even tho it has been over 4ys i have moved on but i still think about him now and then but i no longer cry or get upset, i do not see him no more as i hear he moved out of sheffield has it upset him living hear, but i always dred to think one day i will see him and how i will be as he was my only true love and i never belive falling in love can happen till i met him.

I'm still getting oversomeone but as i've had a rubbish weeks with one of my friends in hospital and the ex not even speaking to me, I decided to go on a date tonight. I'm not expecting much but if I start getting back into all the dating stuff maybe it will help. it makes sense to me anyway

I got over my split in about, oh, an hour, although, I hadn't loved her for a long time, so, seperating was the best thing for everyone concerned.
We are both very happy in our new lives now.
This was only 4 months ago.

i think im still trying to get over someone, but the more things i do the more things i forget i guess. I pretty much hate ger now. But the feelings mutual she says, not sure why, we have it quite another go's, but dint work out, but i think its taken me bout 6 months to get over and im aaalll good now :)