HI all,

I have previously written a thread on here regarding my 'phobia' of dentists, but I could do with your advice once again as I am inbetween a rock and a hard (and painful) place at the moment.


As well as being pobic of the dentist, I am hyper-sensitive due to my Fibromyalgia, which means that where you might feel a bit uncomfortable, I am in imense pain.

I believe this has alot to do with my phobia of the dentist, obviously lol.

Now, I have broken my lower wisdom tooth, I have been in a lot of pain for about a month now whilst trying to come to terms with seeing a dentist, crying myself to sleep alot of the time, the frustration is unbearable, knowing that eventually you are going to get to the day where the pain is going to win, come what may.

I did get the nerve up to see a dentist at Charles Clifford back in October, when I first broke the tooth, as I was aware that she was just going to talk to me about getting me onto a waiting list for a Community Dental clinic which provides a sedation clinic for nervous patients etc.

I am still waiting.

Today I went back to Charles Clifford, they agree the tooth needs removing as soon as possible as it is causing so much pain and discomfort, migraines, almost passing out, fever, i've got a viral infection and my sight in my left eye is deteriorating.

But, they won't extract the tooth, as they don't have the facilities to sedate me (apparently) and from the state I am in just talking to them they know they cannot work on me just under local anaesthetic, so they tell me to contact the Community clinic and explain how bad things are.


So I came home, rang the clinic and I am still on the waiting list to be seen by the nurse (who decides wether your 'right' for their clinic)

If I pass that test, I dont know how long in the future, but i'll then get to meet a dentist, who will decide if I am suitable for sedation....

If I pass that, I will then be given an appointment in the future for a medical, to see if I am fit enough for sedation....

etc....

Which as you can imagine, I cannot really continue much longer, not to mention months.

So What do I do from here?

I have just rang NHS Direct, they're going to ring me back, my only other alternative as I can see it is finding a private practise that deals with people with my issues, which is going to be expensive.

I suppose i'm just sick of feeling in pain all the time, not sleeping, unable to concentrate at the best of times.

:(

any advice?

Please, no offence but don't just tell me to 'buckle down' or anything, I've had a lifetime of ignorance from doctors and dentists telling me to 'stop being stupid' and thats probably part of the reason why I am like I am today.

Thanks in advance :)

have you tried hypnosis ? might be worth a try

I've considered it, but for the money i'd have to pay I can put it towards having the tooth removed.

Can't help you with the tooth problem beansforyou, but my wife has the same problem..Fibromyalgia...and it is very debilitating.....hope you get sorted with the dental problem...this household,for one, is thinking and hoping all gets sorted for you:)

this happened to me a few years back,my regular dentist took a look,made an appointment for me the next day and had a doctor come in to sedate me, i know people slag off dentists nowadays but he was great, i even overcame my fear of dentists after time through him, have you made enquiries at the hospital ? maybe they could help you, good luck...

hi , cant your doctor prescribe you something to make you feel calmer before you have the dental treatment ? .

trust me on this one, there is no bigger wuss in the world then me at the dentists.
lets just say when i leave, i have a bottle of wine and a box of chockys at the ready, with a big thank you and sorry card all ready wrote out.
i have ripped a shirt off a dentists back before for hurting me, and when i walk in, i tell the dentist what tool he can use and what he cant.
i pass out, which is for the best well for the dentist anyway.
im sick for a week before out of nerves, and i cry while im having treatment done whilst im not out cold.
iv spent £130 on hypnosis, which did calm me to some extent and iv took to wearing head phones so i cant hear what they are doing.
so the next time you walk in the dentist and hear van morrisons brightside of the road quite loud, do say hello!
im looking at one in leeds at the min, while i dont need any work done, so its just in case, and they sedate.

Can't remember whether I gave you this advice on your other thread, but have a look at the dental phobia website at beyondfear.org as they have a list of dentists on there who specialise in treating phobic patients. Unfortunately I think the nearest is in Chesterfield though.

What great replies,
:) thats cheered me up already.

Shoeshine, thankyou for your kind words, I am sure your wife understands when I say how frustrating it can be trying to explain something to other people that they cannot see, let alone experience themselves.

Depoix: I rang the NHS Direct, and they've said that i'm on the best medication I can be for it (penicillin and ibuprofen) and that i'd be best going back to CC, or finding a private one who seadtes.

Tinker: He probably could (a knee bandage most likely, I have hundreds of them :lol: ) but it's not my nerves or panic that are the major problem, it's the actual physical pain.

BeautynBeast..have we met??? LOL

You sound so similiar to me, I hadn't thought about the headphones trick, it may well help, thanks for that :thumbsup:

I have explained to them over and over, i'm not the type to hide in a cupboard scared to face the world, i've given birth, had some impressive tattoo work done, I had my tonsils removed last Sept, and I love nothing more than going out on the motorbike....I think they see this strapping lass walk through the door and think I should be able to handle anything, but sadly this is my achillies heel :(

Tomorrow I shall be ringing round a list my mum (god bless her) has put together of all the dentists she's been able to find in Sheffield that deal with sedation etc, if that doesn't lead to anything there is a good one (apparently) in Leeds called Advance Dentist, and i'll be giving them a ring.


Anyhow thankyou all :)

Originally posted by beautynbeast
trust me on this one, there is no bigger wuss in the world then me at the dentists.
lets just say when i leave, i have a bottle of wine and a box of chockys at the ready, with a big thank you and sorry card all ready wrote out.
i have ripped a shirt off a dentists back before for hurting me, and when i walk in, i tell the dentist what tool he can use and what he cant.
i pass out, which is for the best well for the dentist anyway.
im sick for a week before out of nerves, and i cry while im having treatment done whilst im not out cold.
iv spent £130 on hypnosis, which did calm me to some extent and iv took to wearing head phones so i cant hear what they are doing.
so the next time you walk in the dentist and hear van morrisons brightside of the road quite loud, do say hello!
im looking at one in leeds at the min, while i dont need any work done, so its just in case, and they sedate.

I should have been a dentist, you wouldn't want sedating with me tending to you :heyhey:

Originally posted by Don_Kiddick
I should have been a dentist, you wouldn't want sedating with me tending to you :heyhey:
why would your breath knock me out? :hihi:

Originally posted by beansforyou
What great replies,
:) thats cheered me up already.

Shoeshine, thankyou for your kind words, I am sure your wife understands when I say how frustrating it can be trying to explain something to other people that they cannot see, let alone experience themselves.

Depoix: I rang the NHS Direct, and they've said that i'm on the best medication I can be for it (penicillin and ibuprofen) and that i'd be best going back to CC, or finding a private one who seadtes.

Tinker: He probably could (a knee bandage most likely, I have hundreds of them :lol: ) but it's not my nerves or panic that are the major problem, it's the actual physical pain.

BeautynBeast..have we met??? LOL

You sound so similiar to me, I hadn't thought about the headphones trick, it may well help, thanks for that :thumbsup:

I have explained to them over and over, i'm not the type to hide in a cupboard scared to face the world, i've given birth, had some impressive tattoo work done, I had my tonsils removed last Sept, and I love nothing more than going out on the motorbike....I think they see this strapping lass walk through the door and think I should be able to handle anything, but sadly this is my achillies heel :(

Tomorrow I shall be ringing round a list my mum (god bless her) has put together of all the dentists she's been able to find in Sheffield that deal with sedation etc, if that doesn't lead to anything there is a good one (apparently) in Leeds called Advance Dentist, and i'll be giving them a ring.


Anyhow thankyou all :) best of luck with it mate,it will all be over and done with soon,hey,every body is a little scared of something or other,its human nature, i once knew the biggest baddest ex hells angel who was terrified of house spiders :thumbsup:

Originally posted by beautynbeast
why would your breath knock me out? :hihi:

Wouldn't you like to know my anaesthetic skills :heyhey: ;)

Originally posted by Don_Kiddick
Wouldn't you like to know my anaesthetic skills :heyhey: ;) hes tellin the truth,his mate viking once told me he could talk a glass eye to sleep :clap: :clap: (only kiddin don ):thumbsup:

[QUOTE]Originally posted by beansforyou
[B]What great replies,
:) thats cheered me up already.

'm not the type to hide in a cupboard scared to face the world, had some impressive tattoo work done

:hihi: me too, and done some pretty dare devil things in my time, and that sometimes why i could kick my self for been a jessie, by showing someone im scared.
but its everything about the dentist that sets me off, the smell, the sounds, and when they shout my name i have to stop my self from running as fast as forrest gump stright through the door.
what a show up when you have a five year old at the side of you with a "iv been good" sticker on, then theres me actin like a nutter :hihi:

You are a nutter!

Nutter :D