Hi People,
Yesterday I spent the day with a girl, I think shes a great laugh, quiet and beautiful.

But then there are two problems.

1) she is 14 and I am 19. I know that some people have mixed feelings about this. Some say "If youboth like each other it doesnt matter". And others say "Its just wrong".

2) Her mum is going with my stepdad. My stepdad split with my mum years ago but I still see him at weekends etc. I know we arent blood related but should this matter?

I dont think she knows yet that I like her because Im too scared to say anything incase my stepdad doesnt think its right.

Your opinions please

only one point to make, and that is, she's under age.

stay well clear

Apart from the obvious that its illegal what can a 19 year old man have in common with a 14 yr old girl. I have a 14 yr old sister and I'm thinking if they was some 19 yr old guy hanging around her I'd be very worried

if she were 16 and you were 21 there wouldnt be need for a discussion.... but she is underage... so steer clear.

So even if we didnt do "anything" till shes 16 its still wrong?

love the user name :thumbsup:


my boyf is 5 years older than me, so if we'd have met years ago, id have been 14, him 19. HOWEVER! i think that she is too young to have a boyfriend as old as you! you wont be able to have a 'full' relationship, both sexually and you wont be able to go clubbin, restaurants etc.

she still has a long way to go, to grow up, so surely if you liked her that much you would wait?

and the stepdad issue is of no issue, i think thats irrelevant, age is more the issue!

let us know what you decide!

:)

think how it would look to her family and friends. plus do you really think you'd go that long without doing "anything"?

Originally posted by weenireeni
the stepdad issue is of no issue, i think thats irrelevant, age is more the issue!
it will be an issue if he finds out

Originally posted by MTheo
it will be an issue if he finds out

lol yeah i can imagine how my dad would be if my sis got into that situation. I think they would be blood

Originally posted by Banned
So even if we didnt do "anything" till shes 16 its still wrong? No it isn't....it's just that some people have one-track (dirt track) minds, and think that if you're seeing someone that there would only be one reason for that, i.e. sex.

If you feel a lot for this girl, and you respect her and her age, you will be willing to wait until she's 16, or even longer.

Do what you feel is right, not what you think other people consider the right thing to do.

Originally posted by mandy25
think how it would look to her family and friends. plus do you really think you'd go that long without doing "anything"?

Well surly if you like someone so much you can wait as long as it takes

stay well clear m8 you will end up in big trouble :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Banned
Well surly if you like someone so much you can wait as long as it takes

maybe its just my view of peope but i doubt any man could go without for 2 yrs

Originally posted by Ann_x
No it isn't....it's just that some people have one-track (dirt track) minds, and think that if you're seeing someone that there would only be one reason for that, i.e. sex.

If you feel a lot for this girl, and you respect her and her age, you will be willing to wait until she's 16, or even longer.

Do what you feel is right, not what you think other people consider the right thing to do.
more like people are realistic... could you see yourself going out with someone for 2 years and never doing 'anything'

Originally posted by mandy25
maybe its just my view of peope but i doubt any man could go without for 2 yrs
And a fair few women id say!

good point i admit but i think men find it more difficult

Originally posted by mandy25
good point i admit but i think men find it more difficult

Why ? Only curious :D

only one point to make, and that is, she's under age.
thats my advice too,i know of a similar situation,

This person registers in Jan '06 and makes three posts so far, all in this thread. The topic he chooses for his first thread is him wanting a relationship with an underage girl.

Can't you people see when you're being wound up?

Originally posted by D2J
Why ? Only curious :D

you tell me, I know I can only speak form my own experience but I've never met a man who could wait a few months let alone a few years

Steer well clear - not only for your sake but for hers as well. She's coming up to a critical time in her life where her exam results will have an effect on the rest of her life. The last thing she needs is to throw it all away for a romance that might only last a couple of years.

If you do think a lot about her, then you should be able to wait until she's old enough without letting her know how you feel.

Originally posted by mandy25
maybe its just my view of peope but i doubt any man could go without for 2 yrs

I dont see why not. Ive had to go without it for as long as I can remember.

Originally posted by spyro2000
I dont see why not. Ive had to go without it for as long as I can remember.

Why am I not surprissed

All I can say on this subject is my own personal opinion.

When my daughter gets to 14, if I found out that she was seeing a 19 year old (whether anything sexual was happening or not) I would not take too kindly to it.

In fact I would probably end up behind bars.

There are names for people like this:rant:

Its immoral and above all its illegal.


In fact, looking at when the user joined etc, and all his posts are on this subject, I suggest that the mods get him to live up to his username.

This thread will only provoke people and it will get shut down anyway.

Originally posted by Dj_Shadowman
All I can say on this subject is my own personal opinion.

When my daughter gets to 14, if I found out that she was seeing a 19 year old (whether anything sexual was happening or not) I would not take too kindly to it.

In fact I would probably end up behind bars.

There are names for people like this:rant:

Its immoral and above all its illegal.


In fact, looking at when the user joined etc, and all his posts are on this subject, I suggest that the mods get him to live up to his username.

This thread will only provoke people and it will get shut down anyway.
Do you honesty believe that the original post is genuine? A new user,only three posts and all of them in this thread?

You've been trolled.

Originally posted by InvalidUser
Do you honesty believe that the post is genuine? A new user,only three posts and all of them in this thread?

You've been trolled.
I know, but there are some sick gits out there.
Thats why I suggested the mods ban him - his IP as well

Originally posted by Dj_Shadowman
There are names for people like this:rant:

Its immoral and above all its illegal.

I wouldn't go as far to say a 19 yr old is a paedophile just because he likes a 14 yr old. There is only 5 years difference and at the age they are it won't seem that much to them. If there's no physical relationship going on then that doesn't make it illegal.

Obviously the first thing people think is sex, sex, sex but that's the way of the world and human nature to think that. As long the guy doesn't 'go there' why should it be a problem?

Edit: By the way....the post IS genuine. Has it possibly occurred to you that it may be a regular forum user who has created a new profile for this very purpose so that he doesn't get recognised by his family who also use the forum?

Originally posted by Dj_Shadowman
I know, but there are some sick gits out there.
Thats why I suggested the mods ban him - his IP as well
But his username is Banned. If you ban him he has won. He came here to wind people up and get banned.

Don't feed the trolls.

By the way, IP banning only works on the clueless.

14?Wrong.

Move on, if its meant to happen then it will....10 years later.

Originally posted by Dj_Shadowman
and above all its illegal.

Its not Illegal, he hasn't done anything yet :P

He digs his own grave if he does..

If I find out she feel the same, I would be happy to wait 2years.

Then In the two years it will show how much she means. Also then when she turns 16 we can be sure it will feel special as we have waited for her to be old enough and for her to be ready.

This is Genuine

Originally posted by D2J
Its not Illegal, he hasn't done anything yet :P

He digs his own grave if he does..

Its just wrong though aint it.

Thats it, my daughters are never leaving the house again, some strange folks out there :loopy:

I know this is likely to be a troll post but if the situation is genuine here is my advice.

If you really love and respect this girl and want to have a long term relationship (and non-sexual one for at least the first two years maybe longer depending on the girl), you should ask to speak to her mother and declare your honest and long term intentions.

If you can convince the mother, you mean well by the daughter you have your answer.

However if the mother runs you off, forget it.

Originally posted by InvalidUser
But his username is Banned. If you ban him he has won. He came here to wind people up and get banned.

Don't feed the trolls.

By the way, IP banning only works on the clueless.

even if it is sum1 making it up.. why not discuss it? people obviously have views on it so who cares if its genuine or not.

Originally posted by Banned
Hi People,
Yesterday I spent the day with a girl, I think shes a great laugh, quiet and beautiful.

But then there are two problems.

1) she is 14 and I am 19. I know that some people have mixed feelings about this. Some say "If youboth like each other it doesnt matter". And others say "Its just wrong".

2) Her mum is going with my stepdad. My stepdad split with my mum years ago but I still see him at weekends etc. I know we arent blood related but should this matter?

I dont think she knows yet that I like her because Im too scared to say anything incase my stepdad doesnt think its right.

Your opinions please

my opinion is this,if you went anywhere near my 14 year old daughter i'd chop your ****in ******** off......

Originally posted by MTheo
even if it is sum1 making it up.. why not discuss it? people obviously have views on it so who cares if its genuine or not.

You are Vanessa Felts and I claim my £5.

The News of the World readers can take it from here....

Originally posted by kirky
my opinion is this,if you went anywhere near my 14 year old daughter i'd chop your ****in ******** off......

My sentiments exactly.

The over-protective dads are in full force here. :lol: God help the boyfriends of any of your daughters. :(

Originally posted by Dj_Shadowman
Its just wrong though aint it.

I never said it was right either mate :thumbsup:

But again, age gaps in relationships are coming into this..

Originally posted by InvalidUser
You are Vanessa Felts and I claim my £5.

The News of the World readers can take it from here....
:confused: errr.. k

Originally posted by Pauly
The over-protective dads are in full force here. :lol: God help the boyfriends of any of your daughters. :(
Many of the worst over-protective fathers are the ones that spent their youth rutting like stags without a care in the world, I know I did. Now they have daughters of their own the tables are turned and they react violently to any suggestion that their precious offspring would be defiled by some young scrote!

Hypocrisy.

Originally posted by Pauly
The over-protective dads are in full force here. :lol: God help the boyfriends of any of your daughters. :(

I think in this situation, the Dads aren't being over-protective at all! I think they're quite within their rights! :D

StarSparkle

Originally posted by InvalidUser
You are Vanessa Feltz and I claim my £5.

EEEWWWWWWWW!!!! :gag: Did you have to mention that disgusting woman's name in this thread? :nono:

Originally posted by InvalidUser
Many of the worst over-protective fathers are the ones that spent their youth rutting like stags without a care in the world, I know I did. Now they have daughters of their own the tables are turned and they react violently to any suggestion that their precious offspring would be defiled by some young scrote!

Hypocrisy.

I've often thought this. ;) Probably because they think that every guy out there is like they were and there's no such thing as a young lad with honourable intentions. ;) No direct reference to you Kirky or Shadow. I'm sure you're both perfectly honourable in both past and present. :hihi:

Right, Thankyou for all your replies. After chatting to a few people I believe I know what Im going to do

Originally posted by Banned
Right, Thankyou for all your replies. After chatting to a few people I believe I know what Im going to do
Start a thread about the BNP?

No because there is enough been posted by Royjames (goodman)

Originally posted by Banned
No because there is enough been posted by Royjames (goodman)
:hihi:

Well i wouldnt like my daughter going out with someone at 19 when she gets to 14!!! :nono: :shakes:

Originally posted by Banned
Right, Thankyou for all your replies. After chatting to a few people I believe I know what Im going to do

hopefully you're going to go ahead and do whatever your mind/heart/trouser snake is telling you..

without wanting to sound condescending, you're still both teenagers - don't listen to all these witch hunt fanatics who shout "paedo!!!11" at the first chance they get.. i fancied loads of 14yr olds when i was 19..

Pedophilia (Am. English), or paedophilia (Commonwealth English), is the paraphilia of being sexually attracted primarily or exclusively to prepubescent children. A person diagnosed with pedophilia is called a pedophile.

she is not a child.. she is an adolescent, as are you.. if people really want to put a tag on this, it approximates ephebophilia (which is something all men exhibit, whether they admit to it or not).. it is up to you to gauge her mental age, and whether she is mature enough to enter into a relationship with a slightly older person.. sex is one of these considerations.. i have good friends who lost their v-plates when they were 13, and similarly i have friends who held out until they were 18 or so.. you cannot simply say:

14.0 yrs = NO
15.0 yrs = NO
15.9 yrs = NO
16.0 yrs = YES, TAP THAT ASS!!!11 lolz

Originally posted by weenireeni
my boyf is 5 years older than me, so if we'd have met years ago, id have been 14, him 19.

lol if i had met my current girlfriend when i was 19, she would have been 11 bless her..


and i'm aware the OP is more than likely a troll, but as someone pointed out before that doesn't stop us discussing the question sincerely.. indeed, if we turn this troll's thread into a genuine discussion, one might say that we kicked the troll's ass by ruining his game :hihi:

Im all for it, you will save loads of cash taking her on public transport, to the cinema, bowling and to footie games.

Seriously though, wait till she is 16 and warn her if she ever goes with someone before or on the date of legal consent you will put her face in your freezer :)

wear boxing gloves for the next 2 years :thumbsup: it will also give you time to find out about what you think about the lass,do you respect her or are you going to find someone else when you get bored of holding hands and going out to macdonalds ?:thumbsup:

Girls (women) are the thing that can bring any decent man down. Forget her and move on with everything else you want to do.

She will still be there in a few years time and hopefully you wont be bothered. It also sounds like you've got too much time on your hands. Join the Navy or something.

If I met my girlfriend when I was 19 she would have been 6 !!

would you be asking the question here if you thought it was right?... i thought not.

i get the impression that you are trying to seek reassurance for doing something that you just aren't comfortable with.


if it is meant to be, wait two years first...

No thats not right.

I have sent her a text asking if she wouldlike to go to the cinema on saturday to watch a film have a bite to eat.

Hope shes not busy. I dont give a monkey what people say, Ilike her and thats that.

I believe that if she feels the same I can wait the 2years, and after that 2years it will feelspecial as we have waited so long

Good on you mate. You have the right idea
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[QUOTE=kipper]Girls (women) are the thing that can bring any decent man down. Forget her and move on with everything else you want to do.

She will still be there in a few years time and hopefully you wont be bothered. It also sounds like you've got too much time on your hands. Join the Navy or something.

If I met my girlfriend when I was 19 she would have been 6 !![/QUOTE

well i wish we never have met, coz men also bring women down.visa versa
:rant: :hihi:

I think Kirky said it best :thumbsup:

Many cynics here.
Well, if teenagers were in such situations, I don't doubt that they would lie through their teeth to their parents (anyway). At least someone had the decency to ask the public under an anonymous name.

Why am I not surprised at such situations ? I know of similar scenarios in the past. Not myself, but the age difference were a tad older, and the age gap was not as big. i.e. 16 and 19

I don't have a problem as such with the age gap, but more on the step-dad side. I do find that somewhat messy. What if one day your stepdad DO marry the girl's mom ? Your potential gf will then be your step-sister. I don't feel that is quite right...

There's nothing wrong with just being 'good friends' with no strings attached.

Hand yourself to the police?

Right, Thankyou for all your replies. After chatting to a few people I believe I know what Im going to do

If there is an attraction there, then it will be sexual aswell.

If you're human you won't be able to resist it forever.

And if you break before she is 16, and you are caught, then you WILL end up on the sex offenders list FOREVER, and this will screw up your life, regardless of how innocent you think you are being.

come on dude, find some one your own age....

You'll be down the pub and she'll be playing princess's with her my little pony....

she is 14 so it's not legal,wouldn't you rather find someone your own age that you have more in common. suppose if you waited until she was 16 then it would be ok, but, (not saying that you wont) but, how many people actually do wait. saying that my partner is 10 years older than me, but its legal. do the right thing but try to be happy. hope it all goes ok for you.

I went out with a guy 5 years older than me when I was younger than this lass.

Totally depends on the people.

That relationship lasted 5 years and we're still best mates.

Chicken Monkey x

I don't think I ever went out with anybody my own age or younger (until now).

When I was 13 I was with an 18 year old and at 18 I was with a man of 34- my parents hated it, and I know that they were struggling with the idea of whether banning me from seeing my boyfriend would make the situation better or worse. In the end they came to the conclusion that banning me from seeing him would put me in a difficult position and pressurise me to walk away from them, and thereby harm our relationship.

I thank them to this day that they had the belief in me that I knew what I was doing, and didn't put me in that difficult position. Boys my own age were not at all what I was interested in, and I was perfectly aware of what I was doing.

Quite apart from the fact that this lass is underage and therefore it's illegal for him to be with her, we know nothing about her emotional age and maturity.

Even if this were a geuine thread, anyone who is willing to start a relationship with a 14 year old when they are 19 years old would be mad, and what does that say about the 19 year old's intellectual (or lack of) level??

Ne-na-ne-na (Soz, that's the Police coming to Ban you from 14 year old girl's)

Hi People,
Yesterday I spent the day with a girl, I think shes a great laugh, quiet and beautiful.

But then there are two problems.

1) she is 14 and I am 19. I know that some people have mixed feelings about this. Some say "If youboth like each other it doesnt matter". And others say "Its just wrong".

2) Her mum is going with my stepdad. My stepdad split with my mum years ago but I still see him at weekends etc. I know we arent blood related but should this matter?

I dont think she knows yet that I like her because Im too scared to say anything incase my stepdad doesnt think its right.

Your opinions please

The law is the law. You cannot get involved with a girl of 14 irrespective of your own age or how much you like her.

BTW, are you Gary Glitter by any chance?

Even if this were a geuine thread, anyone who is willing to start a relationship with a 14 year old when they are 19 years old would be mad, and what does that say about the 19 year old's intellectual (or lack of) level??

Ne-na-ne-na (Soz, that's the Police coming to Ban you from 14 year old girl's)

That is very presumtuous. T

The guy I went out with who was 19 when I was 14 did not lack for anything intellectually. But then, neither did I.

I agree entirely with Medusa666, it depends on the person. I see lots of girls going out with older guys who are very vulnerable and are being exploited. But that is not always the case and plenty of girls and women with guys of the same age are also open to exploitation.

CM x

It is still blindingly illegal, and I stick by my original post. intellectually they must be miles apart (and that is no minimisation of either of their respective talents/intelligence).

16 is the legal age for a reason!!

It is still blindingly illegal, !

Only if you're having sex... ;)

And your comments about intellectual abilities can only be based on your own experiences. Mine were obviously different to yours.

Everyone matures at different rates. People don't suddenly become 'mature' on their 16th birthday. Some are capable before that time, some not until much later.

I agree with the age of consent because it protects young people.

However, I also believe that in some cases the people involved in a relationship may chose to make their own decisions about whether to break that rule. Age gaps do not necessarily equate to exploitation.

CM x

That is very presumtuous. T

The guy I went out with who was 19 when I was 14 did not lack for anything intellectually. But then, neither did I.

I agree entirely with Medusa666, it depends on the person. I see lots of girls going out with older guys who are very vulnerable and are being exploited. But that is not always the case and plenty of girls and women with guys of the same age are also open to exploitation.

CM x

come on its the responsibility of the older person to know better in this situation, she should be enjoying her childhood not getting into a relationship with a much older man!!

Only if you're having sex... ;)

I agree with the age of consent because it protects young people.

However, I also believe that in some cases the people involved in a relationship may chose to make their own decisions about whether to break that rule. Age gaps do not necessarily equate to exploitation.

CM x

yeah fair enough if he was like 15-16 but the guys 19!!

theres a huge difference, he should know better.

I agree with chickmonk and Mesusa666. Being 19 and she 14 is a problem and dont kid yourself otherwise Banned.
However, i am not going to criticise you but i do think it is important that her parents know and approve. If they do, then fine, if they dont then it is an issue.