What would you all say is the best way to get over being hurt?

Any ideas?

I'd say the best thing you can do is keep busy. If you can do this then you'll find that given time the pain will go away. Eventually something new will enter your life and allow you to move on completely.

yeah maybe..i do keep tryin to keep busy but its hard..

getting hurt about what?

i take it u mean relationships?

nothing matty my head just messed up lol

Originally posted by Mz_BaBe
What would you all say is the best way to get over being hurt?

Any ideas?

Go get medical treatment?

true spyro, but what sort of medical treatment?

Originally posted by mattyuk1
true spyro, but what sort of medical treatment?


Depends what the injury is

I think shes suffering from a fall out with u spyro.

Originally posted by mattyuk1
I think shes suffering from a fall out with u spyro.

'think' being the keyword there ;)

Originally posted by Mz_BaBe
What would you all say is the best way to get over being hurt?

Any ideas?

get a hobby or go out, spend time with good supportive freinds time will heal most things.
good luck :thumbsup:

Assuming it's a relationship type hurt, the best advice is to get on with the rest of your life, leave the cause of the pain behind and even if you want to get your own back on them remind yourself that :

"The best revenge is a happy life".

Seriously, just try new things, but don't go leaping in to new relationships yet. You need a 'time out' to be good to yourself.

Joe

PS - And try and contribute usefully, guys!

Assuming its relationship-hurt, I can totally relate to that Mz_babe... Like others have said, keeping very busy is the key!
Throw yourself into what your mates are doing... They're going sales shopping for the third day on the trot? You go too! They want to have a girly night in? make sure you're there... Keeping your mind occupied on other things will keep you from lapsing back to thinking about whatever has hurt you.

I tend to throw myself into my studies... I can write a cracking essay when I'm mad... :hihi: There'll be something that totally takes your mind off it, its just a case of finding what it is :)

Start putting yourself first, doing what you want to do when you want to do it, and soon enough the penny will drop that you're a free young woman and you're enjoying being so!

What would you all say is the best way to get over being hurt?
you dont,you just move on

Change direction in your life make new friends ,go to new places, take up new hobbies or places to go on nights out. A start would be through possibly those off the forum.

Go on a killing spree!!:D

Sex is a good healer

rule one: No one in this life has the right to make you feel crap.
There is lots of things in life i hate, fear and hurt been two of them!
The only thing i can do when i come across these is face them head on.
as they say, "get back on the saddle", and in time you learn from errors and dont allow your self to tread the same path, as you do start to learn from life.
Throw enough mud at the wall and at some point it has to stick!
good luck and hold your head up high.

bb x

Sex is a good healer


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And how would that help her u twit?

Originally posted by desy
Change direction in your life make new friends ,go to new places, take up new hobbies or places to go on nights out. A start would be through possibly those off the forum.

Worked for me when I got divorced. Made new friends as the ones you knew in a relationship feel they are torn between the two of you.

take one length of wire,small battery, timer,electrical tape and a ........no seriously though,it does hurt but you have to throw your feelings out the window and get back into living your life

it takes time and its worse when you have time on your hands so keep busy,mentaly and physically, it will pass, but you have to give it a hand ...best of luck and a better new year...depoix:thumbsup:

Don't go out and find another boyfriend cos thats what I always do and then get even more hurt by them!

It depends how serious you are about them, sometimes u 'think' your in love and when you split up but you think about all the horrible things he has said or done to you and it helps to get over him more.
My very first 'love' when I was about 15 and he hurt me so bad by sleeping with his next door neighbour who I suspected he'd liked for ages. I cried and cried and my friends egged his car etc.
But then I saw him for what he really was, a ginger, horrible, ugly (inside and out). And I got over him and moved on!

Another trick is to go shopping! get an image change that you know he'll regret hurting you when he see's that you look great.

Others say dont get involved again. Personally I would find another man not to get serious with, but to have a good time. Make it clear at the beginning that you dont want to get serious, but just want some fun times and then sit back and enjoy!

Originally posted by alysonpeach
just want some fun times and then sit back and enjoy!

Surely you mean 'lie back' and enjoy. :lol: :heyhey:

shame on you pauly:rant:

Perhaps I do pauly ... the choice is theirs!

Originally posted by julie23
shame on you pauly:rant:

Oh ya big prude. :P I was only saying what the girl (and half the forum) was thinking. ;)

Originally posted by alysonpeach
Others say dont get involved again. Personally I would find another man not to get serious with, but to have a good time. Make it clear at the beginning that you dont want to get serious, but just want some fun times and then sit back and enjoy!

I agree with you, find someone else but nothing serious.......but its each to their own.

isnt Mz_babe only 19? shes a teenager with lots of time and confustion about fellas, she'll be oreight.

Find another man? Egg his car? Have sex?

Those are what you call quick fixes, but in reality they won't fix anything.

The first step is to realise that you can't just switch off emotional pain. It won't disappear over night, and you've got to accept that and battle through it as best you can. Trying to take it away by drinking, having one-night-stands, ect. will just make it worse.

But accepting you are going to feel pain doesn't mean you have to make it worse. Try not to criticise yourself or dwell on what went wrong, but instead practice positive thinking. Every time you feel yourself starting to be negative, tell yourself that 'he wasn't right for me anyway, otherwise we'd still be together'. At first there will just be empty words, but if you say them enough you'll start to believe them more. And they are actually true - if two people are so right for each other, then they'll end up together. So in a way you had a lucky escape!

You've also got to make sure you treat yourself well during the next few weeks. It's very easy to punish yourself by binge eating, staying in and wallowing. Try to think of yourself as your own best friend, and be as kind to yourself as possible. Try to fill your time with things you enjoy doing, and when you are alone spend time pampering yourself and looking after yourself.

Give yourself plenty of distractions and keep yourself busy. Understand that there's a difference between staying busy and running yourself ragged though. Accept all social invitations that you can, but if you'd really rather be curled up in bed with a good book then don't force yourself to go out. Just make sure that you do read the book, instead of just sitting there wallowing and eating chocolete! And also make sure that you at least accept half of the invitations that come your way. Also take advantage of your new-found freedom by trying things you've always wanted to do. Enrole on a course, try a new hobby or spend more time with your friends and family.

Keep reminiding yourself that you WILL get over it eventually. You've done it before, and chances are you'll have to do it again, until you find The One. But in a way, it's all part of the fun. Life's downers make the good times even better. Chin up girl! xxxxx

Oh ya big prude. I was only saying what the girl (and half the forum) was thinking.

:clap: yeh i no:clap:

Drink heavily.

And to the others: :nono: putting out doesn't get you love.

Originally posted by mattyuk1
isnt Mz_babe only 19? shes a teenager with lots of time and confustion about fellas, she'll be oreight.

Don't be heartless Matty. If you cast your mind back, I'm sure you'll remember that those first heartaches were often the hardest ones to get through.

After you've done it a few times it still hurts like buggery (break-ups that is, cheeky! ;)), but with the hindsight of experience you know that if you just hang in there you'll get through it eventually.

There's a different answer to this for everyone. All the "forget about men and work through it" stuff is OK for some, but wouldnt suit me. Going out and enjoying myself would involve finding a man to share it with. Why not?

well said jbee:thumbsup:

Originally posted by JBee
Don't be heartless Matty. If you cast your mind back, I'm sure you'll remember that those first heartaches were often the hardest ones to get through.

After you've done it a few times it still hurts like buggery (break-ups that is, cheeky! ;)), but with the hindsight of experience you know that if you just hang in there you'll get through it eventually.

Agree completely. :thumbsup: My first proper breakup (10 years ago) wiped me out emotionally for about 6 months but as I've got older I've found breakups alot easier to deal with. It's still not a nice experience when it happens but as JBee says it gets easier to handle and you learn what works best for you when you're in it. Hang in there little miss! :)

Originally posted by alysonpeach
There's a different answer to this for everyone. All the "forget about men and work through it" stuff is OK for some, but wouldnt suit me. Going out and enjoying myself would involve finding a man to share it with. Why not?

There's nothing wrong with that either... :P It's certainly helped me... Plus where theres a man, theres always something to moan about.... Gives you something to yap about with your mates...

My mates at work darent ask how I am about things... I know they darent, cos I've told them not to... They know they can ask about what happened to "that guy" and "that lad" and guage how I am through how I'm dealing with my newly single status... If I turned round and said "I've stopped in all week. I've not seen anyone, I've not had a date or anything..." Then they'd be worried about me! They know I deal with things through being around people and not sitting and thinking about whats gone off...

It probably doesnt work for most people, but its helped me over these past few weeks and thats all that matters! :)

very true jbee, but looking at Mz_babes other post, shes confused with mr a and b, spyro ect.

Originally posted by mattyuk1
very true jbee, but looking at Mz_babes other post, shes confused with mr a and b, spyro ect.

Well yes, one at a time is much less confusing. ;)

Originally posted by Mz_BaBe
What would you all say is the best way to get over being hurt?

Any ideas?

Not just a message for Mz_BaBe... but for anyone who is this kinda situation... as dealing with hurt... can be tough!

When my partner of 7.5yrs walked out on me leaving me alone with a house to sell and money problems to deal with i was devastated to say the least...

My head buzzing with so many thoughts! how the hell was i going to carry on / would i ever find love again... everything just seemed so up in the air... confusing and lonely! It was horrible...

Moving on:
I was looking through some sites on the pc when i came across a dating site... thought i would join for a laugh... add a bit of excitement into my life... as you can imagine there was no way i was looking for love at this stage... as i was so very cut up and just felt as tho my heart had been wrenched from my body... not a nice feeling...

I guess i did it as i felt so alone and wanted to chat to people in the same kinda situation as myself... and were able to understand my sadness and pain...

Anyway cutting along story short... during my subscripstion... i made many friends along with feeling as tho i was part of a family unit... strange to explain without sounding daft! :)

With the friends i made i was also sent many messages from other men... very complimentary i have to say... (not in a smutty way) this really did lift my spirits and as time went on i found my self confidence was building day by day... i felt great about myself once more... just reading the lovely messages that had been left in my inbox and chatting to people really helped me...

I guess this goes to show... that dating sites dont just have to be about dating... it can also be a real confidence booster as it was for me... and the best thing about it is... Only you yourself is in control and of what happens?

ps... After a time... Love did find me through the site... when i least expected it... :)

So... here's to Happy endings...

Never give up...



Happy New Year... :partyhat:
2006... bring it on!

Lovely post, Angel05 :)

Mz_Babe, if you're hurting, you need to cut all connections from the person whos hurting/caused you hurt and leave well alone. They're not the kind of person you should be involved with if they're not treating you right.

If you want to chat, you're more than welcome to PM me :) My head's a bit screwed up about the male species at the moment... One day I wake up and want to be by myself, seeing men as a mere distraction... other times I wake up and wonder when prince charming will come a-knocking... :rolleyes:

There's one thing I do want for sure, and thats fun. But I know I'll have a good time if I focus on having fun, so thats what I'm going to stick with right now :) (Fun with friends and fun with fellas... lets not lose sight eh.... lol) :hihi: