i know someone who keeps going 2 meet pple off the net and i don't know how she does it because all those ads have really made me feel a bit dodgy bout it! Has ne1 eva found ne1 dodgy cos i no my friend has found a few!! :shock: :shock: i think its awful!

I have a male friend who had met 30 different people in this way.

I had an oppotunty to meet one of his female friend he met from the web and I asked her how many had she met off the net and she said around 20 and she had not had a single problem when I enquired.

I think that there is about very small amount of people on the net who spoil what is an effective way to meet people.

I have never met anyone off the net myself as I do not have time to chat 1-to-1 on some chat program these days.

EDIT:
Met quite a few people now since this was posted

I have met around 10 people off the net.....one of them being my husband.

It is a simple case of taking precautions. I told my friends and family, when and where I would be meeting him, had my mobile with me. We met in a public place and there ya go.
The same has applied with the others too. I have met some people from this forum too now.

I know of meetings gone bad, but none ending too tragicly. It is a wonderful way of meeting people, and if I hadn't taken that risk in meeting my husband in person I wouldn't have been married for the last 3 years nor have a gorgeous daughter either.

Moon Maiden

What are the best websites, etc to visit to meet genuine people on the net?

I think it's really bizarre. I also post at 'chrismoyles.net' and I know some of the people there really well, but I don't think I could ever bring myself to meet them in real life. Having said that, I'm not a very sociable person at the best of times, and I always feel uncomfortable around people I've never met. I think most people on the net are genuine people and as someone else said I think there's just a small minority that give the internet bad publicity.

What are the best websites, etc to visit to meet genuine people on the net?

That is a waaaaaaay difficult question. Simply because everyone is so different. Also you get prats in every bunch and not everyone is so genuine. I think you get a feel for the idiots after being online for a bit.

I met my hubby in Bravenet chat rooms whilst looking for other witches in my area. The other people I have met are all witches with the exception of one person I met inadvertantly through here.

Moon Maiden

I personally wouldn't meet up with anybody via the net which is a shame really as I bet that most folk are OK. I dare say that many successful relationships are made this way.

i know what you mean, most probably are ok! but i guess its just wetha u wana take the risk on it or not! i can see why people do do it, if they don't have the confidence in talking face to face with someone then its easier to talk on the net first, i would guess!!

RPG - Just took out that extra colour tag

Cannot see what is wrong meeting anyone from the net, there are no more weird ones on here than anywhere else. Some people are peculiar full stop, whether you meet them on the net or face to face.

I will say one thing though, it is more dangerous meeting strangers today than ever it was in my lifetime. At one time you felt safe with most people and knew instinctively they didnt want to do you any harm.

It is a lot different today, as there are so many evil ones around, that are willing to kill you for no reason at all. The blame has got to rest with the law, as there is no deterrent and evildoers know that they will not forfeit there own lives if they commit murder.

I've met a few people off the net, and have also been introduced to my friends friends that she met off the net and they are now my friends too! I've not had any bad experiences at all. I have lots of friends who have met their bf or gf on the net and husbands and wifes off the net etc.

The way I see it is that if you chat to someone for long enough you can usually work out if they are having a laugh or are dodgy. They start to slip up if you are clever to test them!! I think in a way this is much safer than randonly pulling someone while drunk in a nightclub and going off in a taxi with them, after all they could be an axe murderer! And many people do this! At least with the net, you can establish many things about them first before trying to meet.

:D

Foxxx wrote:
I think in a way this is much safer than randonly pulling someone while drunk in a nightclub and going off in a taxi with them, after all they could be an axe murderer! And many people do this! At least with the net, you can establish many things about them first before trying to meet.
Very true Foxxx, I've never met anyone myself or even tried (The missus wouldn't be too pleased !), but providing people use their common sense I don't see a problem.

I've made a few good friends, both local and around the world, as well as meeting the love of my life (who I would have been unlikely ever to meet in 'real' life), on the net (friendsreunited personals is a good site).
I've had no problems either - you can usually get a feel for what someone is like from exchanging emails, plus with email there's handy things like block sender if someone makes you feel uncomfortable.

I still find the whole idea a bit strange... meeting people who you have never seen before... who could be anyone. I think that meeting partners from the internet will still be seen as 'geeky', but that will get less and less as the years go by.

I've met a number of people from the net and have never had any worrying experiences. As has already been said, you just need to use your common sense, my tips are to always meet in a very public place - preferably somewhere where you can get a good look at the person before they realise you're there so that you can scarper if they're not who they said they were! I have also always refused to meet anyone at night, i just feel safer during the day and you always have the excuse then of having to be somewhere else later on if you want to get away!

I agree that is in no way more dangerous to meet someone off the net than it is in a club or pub - in fact I often think it is better because generally you are sober, so your judgement is not impaired, and personally I always get to know the person relatively well before agreeing to meet. I also refuse to believe that the world is full of nutters!

I find it is very difficult to meet anyone any other way as well. I don't really know that many people in Sheffield since moving back, so can't meet through friends; I'm not into the clubbing/pubbing scene (and think it is a really unreliable way of meeting people!); there is a distinct lack of men at work - and even if there were any I liked the look of I'd think twice about it because it is work at the end of the day. I just think that the internet is a new way of meeting people and soon enough it will be accepted as pretty much the norm.

I've met people of the net many a times.And still see most of them.but i dont meet them after just a few days of talking to them.I noramly talk to the people in diffrent names and try to catch them out to see if lieing.And they been a few i have talk too that lied about them selfs so i never met.Its not just the internet that you find weird people can find them in pubs ect on a night out.If you feal safe to meet that person then go for it i say.

In my single years I was a member of datingdirect.com and had a right laugh. Same rules apply as have already been mentionned but I met some nice people and had a nice time.

I have had 2 freaky encounters.

Met a scottish lad who I'd been chatting to for about 3 years daily on a purely mates basis and it was the wierdest feeling. For a start he was a bit of an oddball, for second was nothing at all physically the way I'd built him up in my head, and thirdly it was like meeting a stranger who'd been reading my diary. Horrible experience which resulted in a restraining order!

Second wierd encounter was with a lad off datingdirect that asked me to dress up as a "serving wench" for sex! I'd only had 2 bottles of stella! I scarpered.

I've met a few people off the net, including my wife. :thumbsup:

I met my wife on the net. It was worth it. I have since met a few other people from Sheffield Forum.

Interesting. But there are those who abuse this meeting thing - and I would advise caution.

Dragon

met tons...

who cares!... yeah its nerve wracking...but id prefer to meet someone ive chatted to and had PROOF that they are who they say they are (anyone that wont go to the effort to send you some pics....with an item of your choice in the picture lol...are not worth it, you have to be sure)

met some nice, some nasty, some freindly, some liers, some strange, some scary, some sweet, etc etc....

its more safe then walking into a pub and tapping a random person on the shoulder and talking to them!

There are plenty of genuine people out there on the net......including myself.

But just be careful cos there some weirdos too!!

Try to get to know them before meeting....on the phone etc.....its usually a good indicator!

And like someone else mentioned....its got to be safer than 'pulling' in a club when you're hammered!!!!!

yeah, i've met a few people of faceparty (http://www.faceparty.com) and the like..

as others have said, as long as you're sensible it's all good :D

I don't think theres a best website to meet people on - you just have to make sure you chat to the people (and remember they ARE PEOPLE just because they are behind a computer it doesn't mean they have no feelings!) and get to know them. Meeting people over the internet is, in essence, no different to meeting them in a bar - you will meet some nice people you will meet some assholes - it's all parts of lifes rich e-pagent!

Yes you can meet stalkers and things online but I also met my brothers wife and introduced them and they are now hapilly married and have just had their first child :)

Originally posted by evildrneil
and remember they ARE PEOPLE just because they are behind a computer it doesn't mean they have no feelings!

I sent a message to a girl on faceparty.....basically saying i thought she was very attractive (nothing smutty or owt)........her reply just said YUCK

Still very attractive.........but pondlife!!!

The general concensus would seem to be that it is OK to meet people 'off the net'. I would agree with that as long as you are sensible. I have done it once and it turned out OK.

Anyone posting on this forum is familiar with the net and therefore probably wouldn't think meeting people off the net is all that weird, the people who might think it is weird are those polled on the streets and those who don't use the net on a regular basis.

I think meeting new people is always good where-ever you meet them.

I met someone off the net...and i got my fingers well and truly BURNT!!!!..... definately a proper weirdo..i should have read the signs. :(

I know someone who used to meet random women off the net for sex. He was 18 and they were any age. they just turned up at his house and some of them he'd never seen a picture of. He tended to enjoy himself.

Another forum I post on has several couples who have met off the net.

I don't think I could ever bring myself to do a dating site but meeting people off a forum shouldn't really be a problem.

Did anybody catch the documentary on channel 4 last night, about the 14 year old boy who used internet chatrooms, and a range of characters he created, to get a 16year old to stab him?

It was quite an interesting story (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2004/05/29/nstab129.xml&sSheet=/news/2004/05/29/ixnewstop.html)

It just goes to show the lengths some people will lie to online, and how gullible others are!

I saw it - role playing gone horribly, horribly wrong :|

met loads of people off the net - some have been slightly wierder than others....one or two have been quite normal:thumbsup:

I've met loads of people through a fan website I use and have made some really great friends from all over the country that I would never have met in 'ordinary' life. There are lots of weird people in all aspects of life, the internet for me has the same proportion of 'em, no more or less. Potential partners sounds scary but I don't suppose it is any different to just friends. I think a bit of common sense is needed and maturity too...though I'm sure anyone could be duped, best to arrange a safe meeting place etc.
I watched that about the 2 lads last night but missed what the outcome was. Did the 'wierdo' lad that set it up, get away with it? What happened to them both?
:)

I met my missus from using ICQ for the first time ever!
It was really weird really.. I'll try and keep the story short-

I was at one of my friends one night and he advised me to have a go on the ICQ messenger site, never using it before I signed up all my details in the hope of having a bit of a laugh really.

I didnt have any replies from anyone for about a week until I got the internet installed at my home, then I received random chat response from a lady- also from sheffield, living about 10 mins down the road from me.. my soon missus to be!

We got chatting and everything just clicked from their really, it was like we had known each other for years- and we finally met on New Years Day 2000 in the empty meadowhall car-park.

3 days later, we are officially an item, and we are still going strong and now engaged, moved into our first house last year and very very happy..

All because I signed upto ICQ... it could be you too!!

wait till you're married - she'll pickle you in jars :)

Originally posted by Internetowl
wait till you're married - she'll pickle you in jars :)
lol !!! i laughed till i wee'd :D

I met my girlfriend on the net, of course you do indeed have to get to know them before you meet them in as much as you can.
Great thing the internet.:heyhey:

I've met a few people from the internet now and most of my experiences have been very positive. I've met some lovely people from here especially (oh you know who you are).

;)

The only bad experience I had was with a woman about my age who sounded quite interesting & intelligent in her emails but that just was not the case. Think Dumb & Dumber. She bored me silly all afternoon and from then on wouldn't leave me alone and started copying everything I did. I used to grimace every time my phone rang. I couldn't shake her off for ages & finally had to tell her that I loathed her to make her go away. Wasn't very pretty.

But that's one person out of many which I don't think is too bad at all. You meet more than one oddball just walking around the bottom of The Moor in the afternoon.

Originally posted by royjames
I met my girlfriend on the net, of course you do indeed have to get to know them before you meet them in as much as you can.
Great thing the internet.:heyhey:

Polishbrides.com ;) :heyhey:

lol robbie I do like that one.
No I actually met her on a nationalist web site which shall remain nameless.:heyhey:

Originally posted by royjames
I met my girlfriend on the net, of course you do indeed have to get to know them before you meet them in as much as you can.
Great thing the internet.:heyhey:
I didn't know BLINDINSANENAZIWIVES.COM was still up and running. Or did you meet her on that nationalist weather site Stormfront?

I expect something like that from you mini:loopy:

Roy,

He's just jealous, cos you have flesh and he has virtual :)

lol internet owl brilliant.:D :hihi:

Originally posted by Internetowl
Roy,

He's just jealous, cos you have flesh and he has virtual :) According to her post mortem that is all he has:gag:

he dug her up hanging around a guinea pig farm...:rolleyes: she said she was your gran?

I had never met anyone off the internet until i joined this site! Iv met loads now and dont regret meeting any of them

best place to go is www.faceparty.co.uk, i met a couple a people on there

Originally posted by ryan123
best place to go is www.faceparty.co.uk, i met a couple a people on there

I'd say this site is good if your into one night stands web cam etc... i'd stay well away if your not up for it...

I chatted with a couple of people that i thought were really nice and geniune until they reached my msn... then changed! which concluded in being deleted... :gag:

Originally posted by Angel05
I'd say this site is good if your into one night stands web cam etc... i'd stay well away if your not up for it...

I chatted with a couple of people that i thought were really nice and geniune until they reached my msn... then changed! which concluded in being deleted... :gag:

i agree, to an extent its ok and a bit a fun, but when they start asking for your mob no and start being creepy then im scared.. :help: .... as for other websites if any1 can recommend 1...

Originally posted by ryan123
i agree, to an extent its ok and a bit a fun, but when they start asking for your mob no and start being creepy then im scared.. :help: .... as for other websites if any1 can recommend 1...

I met my current parnter from Friends Reunited Dating just over a year ago and live together...

I found this to be the best site...

Good luck!

ps can take time but hang in there...

Originally posted by Angel05
[B][color=darkblue]I met my current parnter from Friends Reunited Dating just over a year ago and live together...


Now thats where i met the weirdest women in the history of manknind. :loopy:

We chatted on the phone etc for about 3 weeks then decided to meet. We got on really well and everything was brilliant for the first 4 or 5 weeks then boy did it go downhill, then back uphill and then back down again.

She surpassed herself when she asked me to marry her, even though we had been split up for two months.......and then 4 days later moved a previous b/friend in with her.....:loopy: :loopy:

So take heed its not just the blokes who are freaky. :suspect:

Originally posted by the_rudeboy
Now thats where i met the weirdest women in the history of manknind. :loopy:

We chatted on the phone etc for about 3 weeks then decided to meet. We got on really well and everything was brilliant for the first 4 or 5 weeks then boy did it go downhill, then back uphill and then back down again.

She surpassed herself when she asked me to marry her, even though we had been split up for two months.......and then 4 days later moved a previous b/friend in with her.....:loopy: :loopy:

So take heed its not just the blokes who are freaky. :suspect:

I have met all sorts too...

Friends Reunited Dating has a dating diary... Some of the stories are so unbelievable i never knew such women were out there... scheming cheating etc...

example: Miss D got really close to Mr K via emails text phone calls msn etc... they decided to met up after a few weeks... they got on really well with one another basically hit it off straight away...

Mr K really liked Miss D and vice versa... so invited her back to his... being a gentleman he let her sleep in his bed... sadly whilst he was sleeping she robbed him... by the time he woke she was no where to be seen...

I however am one of the most geniune people that you can get online... hence why i'm still with my partner today :D

Just have to be careful

Midsummerseve is a good site. That's where I met my wife. :thumbsup:

Originally posted by the_rudeboy
Now thats where i met the weirdest women in the history of manknind. :loopy:

We chatted on the phone etc for about 3 weeks then decided to meet. We got on really well and everything was brilliant for the first 4 or 5 weeks then boy did it go downhill, then back uphill and then back down again.

She surpassed herself when she asked me to marry her, even though we had been split up for two months.......and then 4 days later moved a previous b/friend in with her.....:loopy: :loopy:

So take heed its not just the blokes who are freaky. :suspect:

And, of course, there is the recent case of the bloke who was seeing two women he'd met on the net, threatened to kill one of them, then killed himself on the M1... there is no doubt about it, the internet has a lot more than it's fair share of weirdos who are trying to 'meet someone nice'.

I find this whole dating on the web thing very scary, it seems you have to get though loads of nights out with people you don’t really like very much - after weeks of online chatting - and then, after months/years of this hideous going on you might meet someone you are actually 'compatible' with. I'm not big on the rejection thing so, even though someone new in my life would be great (I think) I'm not sure I'd want to put myself through all that.

My mate tells me I should give it all a go but I need more convincing.

the only people off the net I've met are from here and it is weird (and so are many of the poeple but so am I)mbut never dangerous or harmful. Although I am a big lad .