If a girl has a bloke for years that lives quite far away and she sees another bloke round here, do you think she really loves the first bloke?

sounds like she's having her cake and eating it too.

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Its a hard one to call, cos if he lives away, it's hard to hold any sort of commitment if you rarely see eachother!
But I tend to think honesty is the best answer here! First you have to be honest with yourself, and establish who you want to be with! The be honest with either one of the blokes???

dunno really.

I't hard to have a relationship long distance. Tis more like a pen pal.

you need expect more for yourself than be considered the other bloke (or something. just rambling really).

In summary:

Don't be a loser.

AND

Dunno really

Why you asking us, we don't know! :banana:

(a very puzzled and not very helpful) Chicken Monkey x

Yeah that cake and eating it thing has been said before. I don't think things could be perfect with the long distance one or she wouldn't do it would she?

How can u have a strong relationship with somebody who you rarely see?

Originally posted by matt1889
How can u have a strong relationship with somebody who you rarely see?

Yes you can - I do and it hurts like hell but the time we get together is all the more precious.

It's not me it's my mate but it's doing his head in abit now. It's been going on for a fair while and he's got really fond of her. She see the other one every 2 weeks so it's not quite pen pally and been with him for 5 years. I tell him to let go cos she would be with him by now if she was going to but he doesn't want to stop. Just thought I'd see what other's think.

Well in that case then, I think ur m8 needs to have a reality check, and stop being so selfish!

At the end of the day, it's wrong if she's leading both of these blokes on, and eventually, it will all go pear-shaped and she'll be left with no-one!

I thought it is bound to all go wrong too but she must be a good lier or something.

I think you can love more than one person at a time. I think it's impossible to believe that only one person can bring out everything in our personality. Yet to be in love with someone and make love to someone...well, I've done it. I was seeing someone miles and miles away and had a bloke here too.

It's easy to dissociate sometimes. But I felt guilty, proper guilty.

Originally posted by neddy
I thought it is bound to all go wrong too but she must be a good lier or something.
Which is all the more reason for your mate to back away. A good liar and seeing someone else behind her bloke's back. Now there's a winning combination.

obviously a slapper..;)

She's actually very timmid and not normally like it. That's why I think it's strange.

Originally posted by neddy
She's actually very timmid and not normally like it. That's why I think it's strange. Wolf in sheeps clothing pal. Never underestimate a woman (or trust) Kirky's right she's a goer;)

Long distance relationships never work unless its true love. If shes playing away, it isnt true love and should ditch him.

Your m8 sounds like one of them geezers who buys flowers and gets walked all over.

Give him a wake up call and tell him to be a man, geesh.

i dont know about anybody else here, but i couldn't have more than one relationship at a time, i just couldn't bring myself to do it, it would be one or the other

Originally posted by matt1889
How can u have a strong relationship with somebody who you rarely see?

I agree with limpetboy, I have an amazing long distance relationship, and i love him with all my heart. They can work and you can love them. Needless to say my phone bill has increased since we have been going out!!

But i dont agree with having more than one relationship at a time because you cant really love any of them if your dating someone else to get what you want

And agree with Limpetboy and Bambeano.

I had a long distance relationship in which my boyfriend and I lived in different cities and different countries for 4 yrs. I did think am I wasting my time with this relationship on occasions but I just wanted him. We now live together and have a kiddie so it can work.

Originally posted by Bambeano
Needless to say my phone bill has increased since we have been going out!!


Tell me about it - I spend loads on phone calls and texts - I'm a demon text writer now though and I don't resort to nasty nasty txt speak either!

Originally posted by samc
We now live together and have a kiddie so it can work.

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Originally posted by neddy
If a girl has a bloke for years that lives quite far away and she sees another bloke round here, do you think she really loves the first bloke?

I would say she doesn't love either of them. If she loved person A then she wouldn't be screwing around with person B, if she loved person B then she would split up with person A to be with him.

If this girl is cheating on her long term bloke then she will cheat on your friend - it's called patterns of behaviour. If she really wanted your friend she would pack up her long term bloke and finish that one before she got too involved with someone else.

Sounds like she wants to finish with her long term bloke, is using your friend and will probably dump them both when someone else comes along. Your friend will get hurt if he gets too involved.

Originally posted by evildrneil
I would say she doesn't love either of them. If she loved person A then she wouldn't be screwing around with person B, if she loved person B then she would split up with person A to be with him. Well said, seems she's in it for herself, sounds like she likes a good time

Originally posted by sharpsinger
sounds like she's having her cake and eating it too.

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Dont blame her if she can! Youre a long time dead!

Originally posted by neddy
If a girl has a bloke for years that lives quite far away and she sees another bloke round here, do you think she really loves the first bloke?

Nope. I'm seeing a bloke who lives about 500 miles away and I don't even look at other guys.

If I did, then I'd do the decent thing and call it off. Why string two people along?

If you, or somebody you know is by and chance bloke number 2 Neddy, then I'd finish with this girl now before you get hurt. Find somebody more deserving eh?

Best wishes x

Originally posted by neddy
She's actually very timmid and not normally like it. That's why I think it's strange.

obviously not taht timid..sound more like a sausage jockey to me:rolleyes:

Originally posted by alysonpeach
Dont blame her if she can! Youre a long time dead!

That rather depends on how she is going about it - nothing wrong with slaking a little mutual lust so long as no-one gets hurt. Stringing people along and claiming your undying love for each of them to get what you want is hardly laudable behaviour.

Quite right Evildrneil - it's what you do while you're alive that matters and being insensitive - which is the behaviour she is demonstrating - is a bad quality in someone.

Originally posted by JBee
Nope. I'm seeing a bloke who lives about 500 miles away and I don't even look at other guys.

If I did, then I'd do the decent thing and call it off. Why string two people along?

If you, or somebody you know is by and chance bloke number 2 Neddy, then I'd finish with this girl now before you get hurt. Find somebody more deserving eh?

Best wishes x Good lass, that's proper reasoning;)

Originally posted by neddy
If a girl has a bloke for years that lives quite far away and she sees another bloke round here, do you think she really loves the first bloke?


If she's fairly hot and has room for one more, I'm game.

R

Nice one for all that, it's nice to see things from someone elses point of view. I will make him see this and see what he thinks........thank you and I hope you all are having a super christmas :)