my son plays for an under 10s football team and i cant believe the way some parents behave at matches,ok we cant all agree on wots happenin on the pitch,but for gods sake it is only kids that are playing,my son was in tears today because of someones parent shouting at him when he retaliated to what had already just happened to him,yeah he shouldn't have had a go back but at 10 yrs old they dont always see reason,parent should think before they spout off.

Was in kids football for 12 years here are a few, to think about.


Friendly Match( or not)
Lad played for his school team against a well known junior football team in Sheffield. The school team was under 11's the sheffield team were under 9's (but good). Parents of under 9's accuse school team of lad in defence being over age. Head teacher confirmed that the lad was the correct age. Another player in school team goes down injured. Referee (fully qualified) went over to him with concern as it was his lad. THe 9's parents find out that it was his son and he was the father.

End of game defender chased by 9's team parents trying to get him to admit he was over age. Refereee and son trying to get his son to the childrens. Had 9's parents trying to drag the referee out of his car.



Under 16's
Match played at Westfield school league match Visiting team had to have a escort of all the parents to cars in order that local thugs couldn't get to the lads to hit them with baseball bats.



Under 13's
Parent looking like learch out of the Adams family goes into the changing room at half time of his sons team hurles abuse at all the lads for playing rubbish drags his own lad out him under i arm his clothes in the other and dragged the kid home.

It's only fun for the kids ain't it.

yes desy,thats what i thought anyway,its enough to put the poor kids off for life.

I pulled my son out of his team last season because of idioy parents.And thats just the parents of his team mates!

We were playing an away match at Maltby,and one of the dads from his own team was shouting and swearing at the kids on the pitch.When someone told him to shut his mouth,he started ranting and raving like a madman.

That was just about it for me,as I said to the wife,after this game ,he has finished.There is no need for the.Like has been said,it is only a kids game.

But things got worse.When a goal was scored against our team,the manager took off one of the strikers,and put my son on.The kids dad who was took off went mad.He stormed off to the manager and started ranting.He was wanting to know how he could take his son off because he was the star player.So what does the manager do? Takes someone else off and put the next David Beckham back on!!

Needless to say,I didn't wit to the end of the game.My son was off straight away and we were in the car and on our way home.
Since then,He has asked to start playing again,but I refuse to have any part in it.I know that sounds selfish on my part,but I am not prepared to plat politics for a kids game.

I helped my sister take her kids to football before she learned to drive.

I got talking to a few of the parents of the players and was astonished by what they told me.

They would regularly slag off the manager and some of the kids.

One woman accused one of the players of bribing the manager so he could play because the lad had given him a christmas cards from his mum and dad.

The lad in question was 8 and I'd guess he wouldn't know what a bribe was.

In the end I convinced my sister to withdraw her lads from the team because there was so much back stabbing and bitterness.

I found them a Church team to play for. They're not only taught how to be better players but how to conduct themselves and show respect.

You don't have to be religious or go to church to play for them, just make sure their subs are paid.

We played against their old (scummy) team the other week and our players were more well mannered and polite than the majority of the so called adults watching.

What a sorry state of affairs.

I think if most people realised that about 0.01% 0f the kids in junior football make it to professional level let alone play for United or Wednesday. The kids game would be far better, it rarely happens at school football because most of the parents don't attend.

my son is hoping to play for the school next year,if they are left to it then with not many parents around hopefully he will enjoy it better.

I'm sooo glad my sons don't like football. :D

This has always been the same. When my little brother played some of the parents were awful. I actually ended up smacking one of the parents one match cos she hit one of our players who was 13 by the way and he wasn't even her son.

I have seen the manager throw keys on the pitch and scream and shout! Its a joke to be honest!

Not everyone sees it as a game :loopy:

Parents should be banned from attending football games full stop. Having seen some of them in action I think it's disgusting, you wouldn't talk to a dog the way some of these imbecilic scumbags speak to their kids when they're playing football. God knows what their home life must be like.

I am involved in another sport, Just as passionate as football.

We have charters for parents, coaches and competitors. They are signed and respected.

These are put in place with Sport England guidelines and have an effect on the behaviour of everyone.

All competitors carry the charter in their training bags.

Simon 710

Most of the teams are going for the F.A. charter which I think includes this. But most are playing lip service to get the pick of the players and because they are forced by the Sheff & hallamshire.

Every manager at every junior club would say however it would be great to play without parents being there. But what about the following on match day.

1) Help putting the nets uo.
2)Going round with the raffle.
3)GETTING THE PLAYERS TO AWAY MATCHES (most important).

The kids have to play by the rules on the pitch. For the team to get FA Charter the parents have to obey the rules off the pitch.

We’ve heard how many people stay away because of these self obsessed….
I bet there’d be plenty of people willing to help with nets/raffles etc. if they weren’t there.

Guess it’s a case that most people back down from those with the biggest gob and more aggressive attitude.

Saw another guys tagline on another part of the forum-

If all the people who ever said "Why should I try, i'm only one person, I can't affect the outcome" had taken a stance, the world would be a better place.

Unfortunatly lots of parents dont realise the damage they are inflicting on the developing child.

The way some parents act towards their children at sports matches, (any sport) is sometimes paramount to bullying and child abuse!!!

If another parent shouted exactly the same to that child im sure the offending parent would take serious offence.

I am a coach in another sport, and although i coach the children to the best of my ability i also find myself coaching parents on how to support and encourage their children in order to bring out the best in them.

Agree limpetboy - perhaps thats the way - keep parents out of it. That way the kids get to play pressure free, and the parents with the biggest mouths don't get their kids in front of anyone else's, just to keep them happy.

If you're running an FA club aren't you supposed to have attended the FA course on child abuse?

The incidents that have been mentioned here would seem to fall into the categories of unacceptable behaviour that were mentioned in the course when I attended.

To those running the clubs - not responding to early incidents leaves you open to being sued when something more serious happens.

The thing is,junior football is not for kids.

It's for the parents(mainly dads) who were never good enough to play themselves.

It's embarassing to be a part of.Every Sunday at about 10.30,hundreds of overweight middle aged men are better coaches than Mourihno!


GET A GRIP, AND LET THE KIDS ENJOY IT

no pressure no game

Get your kids to play rugby, either code, both have standards of proper standards of childcare and place an obligation on the parents to keep their traps shut.

On the rare occasions when I have heard a father try to offer touch line advice he is told by the other parents to shut up.

Originally posted by deelightful3
my son plays for an under 10s football team and i cant believe the way some parents behave at matches,ok we cant all agree on wots happenin on the pitch,but for gods sake it is only kids that are playing,my son was in tears today because of someones parent shouting at him when he retaliated to what had already just happened to him,yeah he shouldn't have had a go back but at 10 yrs old they dont always see reason,parent should think before they spout off.

my son also plays in under 10's football,some of the parents make make laugh how they go on one over a kids game off football.......i wouldn't dream of getting into a argument or a brawl in front of mi laddo...the other week an argument broke out between some parents from either side and the ref....after plenty of finger wagging and nit picking ( :rolleyes: ) the game finally got back under way,the poor lads on the pitch were scared to get the ball incase they did owt wrong and set the parents off again.

there really is no need,its supposed to be about the kid enjoying it not parents scoring points of each other.