I'm curious. From reading these threads for a while now, i get the impression that there are a lot of singletons here. I may be completly wrong. Just for fun lets have a poll and see what the stats say? Not to be taken too seriously. I appologise if this seems like a bit of a heat magazine poll, but what the hell!

I went for the vague answer, cos i'm although i'm single, i'm not really that bothered. If I meet someone cool, something could happen. If not, i'm not bothered. I'm not the sort of person to go looking for it.

I just look at all my mates who get dragged out of the pub for a telling off by their girlfriend for 'not paying them enough attention' or 'talking to other girls'. And I thank god that I dont have to bother with that cr*p.
Then I look at em all leaving together at the end of the night as I get into a cab on my own, and then it seems really crap being single.

So sometimes it sucks, sometimes it's cool. Depends what mood i'm in. Usually i'm pretty content.

Last time I was with someone it caused so much agro it put me off the whole thing for a while!

yup i can relate to all of that jack

Well I'm not single and very happy, but I was single for quite a long time between. At that time I would have said single and happy, but in hindsight maybe I wasn't. I used to say that I was happy being single and independant, being able to do what I wanted etc, but now that I am in a relationship, I realise that I was kidding myself and although I was happy with my friends, work, social life etc, I wasn't really happy in myself as I missed having someone to love and love me.

As for girls who drag their blokes out of pubs and complain when there blokes talk to other girls..I just don't get it. I'm all for 'letting' my man go out (I hate the word letting, good god, he has his own mind and doesn't need my permission). I think it's important to give each other freedom to continue to have a life with other friends which means going to the pub without each other on occasions and I don't mind my bloke talking to girls, I talk to other men! It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex. We have trust, so why should I worry if a girl talks to him. Dragging a bloke out of a pub will only lead to problems later on down the line, its not worth it. These girls need to chill out. Let your man have a say in what he wants and vice versa and then you'll both be happy and content. Tell them they can't do something, and guess what, they'll do it anyway or do it behind your back!

Originally posted by Foxxx
Well I'm not single and very happy, but I was single for quite a long time between. At that time I would have said single and happy, but in hindsight maybe I wasn't. I used to say that I was happy being single and independant, being able to do what I wanted etc, but now that I am in a relationship, I realise that I was kidding myself and although I was happy with my friends, work, social life etc, I wasn't really happy in myself as I missed having someone to love and love me.

Oi, stop trying to burst this lovely, happy, bubble i live in.

Originally posted by Foxxx
Dragging a bloke out of a pub will only lead to problems later on down the line, its not worth it. These girls need to chill out. Let your man have a say in what he wants and vice versa and then you'll both be happy and content. Tell them they can't do something, and guess what, they'll do it anyway or do it behind your back!

Spoken like a true genius.

Originally posted by jackthedog
I went for the vague answer, cos i'm although i'm single, i'm not really that bothered. If I meet someone cool, something could happen. If not, i'm not bothered. I'm not the sort of person to go looking for it.

that sums up my thoughts on this perfectly

Well, I'm still sharing a house with the same person I shared with when I was at Uni. 12 years ago.

And we have a son now!

I'm in a relationship and very happy, not exactly a typical relationship but it works for me ;)

In relationship and Very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very very happy lol!!!!! :D :D

Single and Unhappy here :( and voted accordingly

I'll second that.

in a relationship and very happy :D

I cannot remember being single, it must be so, so long ago. I sometimes think that I must have been born married.

Because of the infinite amount of time we have been supposedly married, neither my wife nor I can remember when our anniversary is, or even if we actually have one.

I'm not at the right time for any kind of relationship at the moment cos I'm far too bitter about past experiences and quite low on self confidence in that area.

If I got together with anyone it would only be for a fling but I've a feeling that'd make me feel crap also so I'm probably better off single and unattached for a good few months til I'm sorted 'upstairs'

If I got together with someone now I'd probably just end up confusing and/or emotionally scarring them. Not good for anyone. :roll:

Single and don't think much of it. I have friends to love me, I'll cope without a girlfriend thanks.
(well, most of the time anyway)

Originally posted by jackthedog
I went for the vague answer, cos i'm although i'm single, i'm not really that bothered. If I meet someone cool, something could happen. If not, i'm not bothered. I'm not the sort of person to go looking for it.

So sometimes it sucks, sometimes it's cool. Depends what mood i'm in. Usually i'm pretty content.

Oh yeah! that's me aswell.

Originally posted by Pauly
I'm not at the right time for any kind of relationship at the moment cos I'm far too bitter about past experiences and quite low on self confidence in that area.

If I got together with anyone it would only be for a fling but I've a feeling that'd make me feel crap also so I'm probably better off single and unattached for a good few months til I'm sorted 'upstairs'

If I got together with someone now I'd probably just end up confusing and/or emotionally scarring them. Not good for anyone. :roll:

Exactly the same for me, couldn't have put it better myself!

I'm single and unhappy, but not looking for any kind of relationship.. why isn't that an option? :P

As much as i was loving being single :D i am now falling back into a relationship with someone and to be honest im ok with that even after i said i wanted to stay single for as long as i could and it only lasted all of 4 days!! (1 day longer than last time!)

happy!!happy!!happy!!

In a :loopy: kind of "relationship" (despise that word) with a bloke on my uni course. :loopy: is more than apt, he's a lunatic Im not much saner so we're having much fun being ridiculous together! :D
xxx

Probably with Pauly on this one but looking at it as positively as I can.. as an opportunity to figure out what I want for myself and get that sorted in my head before leaping headlong into another relationship.

That said, I do miss the closeness and that "best friend" feeling..

Anyway... tallyho.. new friends, new experiences (salsa anyone) and the chance to let the old hormones drive you batty while you try to remain true to your cause...

Damn ain't life complicated enough... :loopy:

I voted for 'single and happy'. I'm on my own and i'm not too miserable so i guess it was my only option. :)

Chris.

Ok, so far from our limited sample group, we can see that the majority are happy in a relationship. Though it must be said that those of us singletons that thought we were losers; look we can't even win a poll! oh well! I'm curious to see nearly 19% ofthe people chose the 'non of the above' option. maybe I didnt't think of enough options to vote for. Although there are a lot of unhappy single people here, i feel for the unhappy people in a realtionship most for some reason. I suppose, being uphappy, when single, is to be expected, but if someones unhappy in a realtionship. That could be for a whole world of different and complex reasons.
I would consider myself, single and happy. I spent a long time being unhappy because I thought i was on my own, untill one day realised that I had loads of amazing mates around me, and was actually having quite a good time. I just neglected the fact. So when I think about it, no, being single is not the ideal situation for me, but yes, I'm generally a happy person. The majority of the things in my life are pretty good.

It must also be said that 58% of us are happy with our situation, while only 23% state they are unhappy. Surely thats good news!

I'm single, it makes me miserable, but I'm happy being miserable.

But are you also miserable when you're happy?

well done sid, you've kinda covered two options on one there.

Originally posted by Pauly
But are you also miserable when you're happy?
Yep, I guess so. Being miserable is strangely addictive though.

Originally posted by Pauly
But are you also miserable when you're happy? :confused: :confused: :confused:
All these concepts, my heads going to pop.

Originally posted by Andy78
:confused: :confused: :confused:
All these concepts, my heads going to pop.

.....goes the weasel. I never heard a weasel go 'pop' in my life. :loopy:

I find that when I'm miserable the best thing is for me to stay out of everyone's way cos there is next to nothing that will bring me out of it and it just has to run it's course for a few hours. Being single is sometimes the cause of this. Bummer!

I never seem to be happy with whay I have got.

Seem to be quite good at spoiling things for myself also when I do have something good.

With relationships, material gains and more...

Addictive, greedy and spoilt.

A victim of my own world.

Bless.

My ex was very good at not realising what she had and she'd apparently spoiled things with previous boyfriends who were judged to be nice lads by those of her family who'd met them.

Unfortunately by the time she realised that she'd made a mistake by dumping me and tried to guilt me into coming back I'd decided that I was better off without her cos she could easily do it again.

I guess that's one good thing about me, I'm not needy when it comes to relationships. When it's over, it's OVER.

It still sucks being single sometimes, but it's better than being an emotional toy to be picked up or put down when the other person feels like it.

Can you tell I'm still a little raw? ;)

You'll be just fine Pauly ... and I think you should always put yourself first and your self respect comes before any woman.

I'm single too at the mo ... and I'm one of the lucky one's who is quite happy being that way.

I'd be quite happy with someone too ... but I just get the feeling that women are too much like hard work ... so I'll not be trying to find anyone.

Just enjoying who I am and living my life ...

Originally posted by Jamie
You'll be just fine Pauly ... and I think you should always put yourself first and your self respect comes before any woman.

I'm single too at the mo ... and I'm one of the lucky one's who is quite happy being that way.

I'd be quite happy with someone too ... but I just get the feeling that women are too much like hard work ... so I'll not be trying to find anyone.

Just enjoying who I am and living my life ...

Thanks matey. I agree about the hard work bit, but I'm sure we're hard work to them too. Men and women will always complain about each other and it'll never change. Bah!

right, i was about to tell you my story, but have just realsied, that it will take too much effort to explain, so i wont.
peace!

Originally posted by Jamie
You'll be just fine Pauly ... and I think you should always put yourself first and your self respect comes before any woman.

I'm single too at the mo ... and I'm one of the lucky one's who is quite happy being that way.

I'd be quite happy with someone too ... but I just get the feeling that women are too much like hard work ... so I'll not be trying to find anyone.

Just enjoying who I am and living my life ...


How true ! Women are very hard work and i can be very evil and bitchy to my lucky man. It takes a man with a lot of unconditional love to put up with a woman like me unless youre lucky enough to find one who doesnt have every typical female characteristic lgoing, ie,bitchy, bad tempered, annoying, crap at parallel parking, places a lot of importance on looks (own and others.)

[Its funny winding him up though HAHAHAHAHAAAAAAA]

on to another question: Ever wish you were gay??

Thankfully ... not all women are as hard work as you KK !!

I just wouldn't ever waste my time on a women like that ...

*smiles* :loopy:

being a school going teenager i find it alot easier to be single. unfortunatly

but there is always the parties though ;) ;) :P :D :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Andy78
right, i was about to tell you my story, but have just realsied, that it will take too much effort to explain, so i wont.

Oh, you tease - you've got us interested now - go on...

Originally posted by SilentStatic
Oh, you tease - you've got us interested now - go on...

Ok under the influence again. here goes. Have been in many a relationshiip, But my main one was for 3 years. To cut a long story short, she ended up having an affair with my best mate. Which i found out myself one day and it all got very messy.
Spent a year being bitter and twisted and not talking to either of them. One day realised that they just fell in love. Which happens. bit of a bugger when its your best mate and girlfriend, but it happens. And realised that by holding a grudge, the only person that got upset was me. You have to let go of these things sometimes, not for the sake of being nice, but for the sake of saving yourself.
These days I get on with them both very well. Consider them very good friends again. Have moved on from those days, and am a happy camper again.
Moral of the story is never hold a grudge. the only person that will be hurt by it is youself. Never hurt yourself more than is needed.

peace!

Well spoken sir. I think I could learn a fair bit from you. :)

Originally posted by Andy78
Ok under the influence again. here goes. Have been in many a relationshiip, But my main one was for 3 years. To cut a long story short, she ended up having an affair with my best mate. Which i found out myself one day and it all got very messy.
Spent a year being bitter and twisted and not talking to either of them. One day realised that they just fell in love. Which happens. bit of a bugger when its your best mate and girlfriend, but it happens. And realised that by holding a grudge, the only person that got upset was me. You have to let go of these things sometimes, not for the sake of being nice, but for the sake of saving yourself.
These days I get on with them both very well. Consider them very good friends again. Have moved on from those days, and am a happy camper again.
Moral of the story is never hold a grudge. the only person that will be hurt by it is youself. Never hurt yourself more than is needed.

peace!
That's all well and good andy but they should have had enough respect to tell you to your face about their feelings before going behind your back.

If they had enough guts and respect then they would have kept their hands off each other until having spoken to you.

If you're happy in your situation then all power to you... however me.... I'd never be able to just get on with them like that ever again.

Originally posted by Andy78
Moral of the story is never hold a grudge. the only person that will be hurt by it is youself. Never hurt yourself more than is needed.

Totally true .. whatever feelings (negative or positive) you give out to other people .. they always affect you more.

So you should always try and avoid holding on to 'negative' feelings for other people .. but that doesn't mean you have to be bussom buddies with people who have betrayed you or let you down.

To be honest, im not exactly best mates with them, as I don't see them all that often now, because they live quite far away. My other friends stil refuse to talk to them though. I do agree, that they didn't deal with the situation at all well. However, it was about 5 years ago now, so it really is in the past and should stay that way.

Originally posted by DaBouncer
I'd never be able to just get on with them like that ever again.
Do you still hold a grudge?

I totally agree, what is the point holding grudges against people?

Easier said than done sometimes Sid. :(

Example: Someone has contributed to the breakup of your marriage by convincing your wife to leave you. Would you be able to forgive either of them completely?

Most certainly, it's in my nature.

It's not always a good thing.

I do hold grudges sometimes, if i've been upset enough. I'm just glad I can let go of them eventually. If this wasn't the case, I think i'd be a very bitter person.

hmm i did previously write in here that i was happy being single and not bothered about being in a relationship - anyhow one weekend later and my view has changed! i met someone i really like who now appears to be unobtainable
in retrospect i guess i've just got used to being single (nearly 3 years) and having lots of 'randoms' - don't kid yourself that it's cool being single cuz it catches up with you eventually! well it has for me anyhow

I thought I didn't hold grudges but have realised that I do.

As some of you know I caught my boyfriend cheating on just before Christmas. I have tried since then to make it work but this morning I faced up to it and we have called it a day. I can't trust him anymore or forgive him. I'm gutted to be honest and am now on that dark and lonely road of breakup time. I hope it doesn't hurt forever. We were together 7 years, it's a long time.

I don't think thats holding a grudge really steelblade. Losing trust in someone, really can kill a relationship. Trust is the most important thing, and takes a long time to build. After what happened with me, I started doubting everyone for a while. When you lose trust in someone you trust more than yourself, it's really hard to find faith in anyone again. After time you do though. As hard as it may be for you now, it wont hurt forever.