All this talk of valentines has made me come to the conclusion that I need to meet a new lady and at the risk of sounding desperate at this most romantic time of year WHERE ARE ALL THE CUTE GIRLS ???

I went out in chesterfield and Sheffield over the weekend and I can only assume that chesterfield had some kind of transvestite night on and Sheffield was well……err lacking

so where are you nice ladys ???

They dont go anywhere, they just cover up when it's winter.

In the summer they blossom, in all their tight-topped, short-skirted glory.

I cant wait for summer.

And also, all the nice girls get snapped up early by complete tw*ts, it seems.

ahh the good life roll on summer :-)

humm a slutty girl would do i suppose........as long as she's nice looking

Originally posted by jackthedog
And also, all the nice girls get snapped up early by complete tw*ts, it seems.
Totally agree there.

There's plenty of cute girls about, it's just that none of them seem to look twice at me.

Originally posted by Sidla
Totally agree there.

There's plenty of cute girls about, it's just that none of them seem to look twice at me.
Is that violins I here playing :P

I take issue with the idea that cute girls only like tw*ts. WOMEN want a man who is decent to them but who is not too pathetic. Most of us just need someone with a little bit of confidence who doesn't also think he's god's gift. (big no no).

Daveyboy needs to stop looking so hard cos in my experince its when your not on the prowl that prey just seems to land at your feet, if you know what i mean! ;-)

Originally posted by caz2
Daveyboy needs to stop looking so hard cos in my experince its when your not on the prowl that prey just seems to land at your feet, if you know what i mean! ;-)
I'll second that!

Originally posted by caz2
I take issue with the idea that cute girls only like tw*ts. WOMEN want a man who is decent to them but who is not too pathetic. Most of us just need someone with a little bit of confidence who doesn't also think he's god's gift. (big no no).


Explain to me - why do I know so many good girls that are with complete nobs who treat them like crap?

Originally posted by jackthedog
And also, all the nice girls get snapped up early by complete tw*ts, it seems.

That's because complete tw*ts are the only ones with enough nerve to go for the cute ones ...

Fits the old sayings.

The bigger the tw*t the better the girl,
and nice guys finish last!

but it's a cheap day for all the single people out there on valentines:rolleyes:

The key word is 'girls'. Until girls figure out what they want and what they will stand for they allow t***s to charm them and use them. Once you've been bitten a few times you get more aware of the ********. Or maybe i'm taking ******** and i'm just kidding myself that i'm not dating a t*** myself? Woman are an enigma to me and i am one!

In my experience - and girls, correct me if i'm wrong - girls seem to be very easily won-over by shallow men who do or say anything to impress them.
I sit there in the boozer and watch my mates turn into little lapdogs as they put on an act in order to get into bed with a girl at the end of the night.
It's like a car salesman reeling off his 'sales pitch', in order to sell himself to the girl. It's pathetic.

I reckon, if a girl likes the fakeness, when you finally introduce your real self, she'll probably lose interest.

If a girl doesnt like me for who I am, I'm not bothered about them either.
This opinion seems only to be shared between very few men.

Originally posted by caz2
The key word is 'girls'. Until girls figure out what they want and what they will stand for they allow t***s to charm them and use them. Once you've been bitten a few times you get more aware of the ********. Or maybe i'm taking ******** and i'm just kidding myself that i'm not dating a t*** myself? Woman are an enigma to me and i am one!

My god. What chance have us boys got eh?

Originally posted by caz2
Daveyboy needs to stop looking so hard cos in my experince its when your not on the prowl that prey just seems to land at your feet, if you know what i mean! ;-)

Totally right !!

The harder you try (and it's the same with most things ... not just girls) ... the worse you'll be ... and you'll just get stressed out.

Just relax ... be still and stop trying ...

That might sound crazy ... but you should give it a go DaveyBoy !!

Originally posted by caz2
The key word is 'girls'. Until girls figure out what they want and what they will stand for they allow tw*ts to charm them and use them. Once you've been bitten a few times you get more aware of the ********. Or maybe i'm taking ******** and i'm just kidding myself that i'm not dating a tw*t myself? Woman are an enigma to me and i am one!

So you're saying all men are tw*ts !?

You could always stop looking for cute girls and start looking for charming women

Perhaps they want to be treated like adults and that is where you are going wrong?

(Unless you are still only 17 of course, in which case ignore me)

Of course the other thing you need to know is that there are lots of women out there wondering where all the decent blokes are

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places? Clubs arent great places for meeting, many women go in clubs in a crowd and intend to leave in a crowd. Consider looking round at work, or college or school or wherever you go every day as well

Originally posted by Jamie
So you're saying all men are tw*ts !?

Of course she's not!

You have the right idea. I'd like to bet your fake mates will get a few shags but will struggle to have anything longer term. Mainly because the girls that they are charming are as fake as they are. Personally i'd take sex with one person a lot of the time over sex with a one offs. if you do the maths you'll see who is getting more, and probally in a whole host of more interesting places and positions!!

And no not all men are tw*ts.

Originally posted by Jamie
Just relax ... be still and stop trying ...
I've never really started trying. Maybe that's the problem.

Originally posted by caz2
Personally i'd take sex with one person a lot of the time over sex with a one offs.

Here here.

I think it is right that girls will put up with tw@ts because they aren't yet really sure of what they want and what is acceptable behviour.

I'm sure when they get their hearts broken a few times they will soon wise up.

I hope I do!

Originally posted by Sidla
I've never really started trying. Maybe that's the problem.

Hmmm ... it's a difficult one sid and not easy to explain with words cos it's about how you feel (inside / about yourself).

I mean it's just better to be your natural self and let things occur naturally without trying too hard ... just be your smiley happy self and don't over do the effort ... let it come natural.

Being natural and not using excess effort ... is not the same as giving up.

Originally posted by steelblade
I think it is right that girls will put up with tw@ts because they aren't yet really sure of what they want and what is acceptable behviour.

I'm sure when they get their hearts broken a few times they will soon wise up.

I hope I do!

This is one of the differences between the sexes that I cant understand.

I've never had trouble deciding what I want. Not just in women terms, but in anything. Nobody knows you better than yourself! How can you not know what you want?

And unacceptable behaviour is SO EASY to recognise. Is someone being a tw*t? If so, that is unacceptable behaviour, so GET RID OF EM!!!



Aggghhh!

Originally posted by jackthedog
I've never had trouble deciding what I want. Not just in women terms, but in anything. Nobody knows you better than yourself! How can you not know what you want?
Are you telling me you've never been clothes shopping with a woman???

Originally posted by Sidla
Are you telling me you've never been clothes shopping with a woman???

Ha ha! All too often mate! :)

Originally posted by jackthedog
Of course she's not!

No ... I didn't really think she was ... I just wanted to clarify ... no offence Caz :-)

I have just come across women before who like to make me feel like I am a tw@t just because of my gender (maybe they're bitter and have been badly treated by guys ... so have it in for the rest of us).

Of course all men are not the same ... and all women are not the same ... we are all individuals.

One of the problems of men saying "we're not all the same, some of us are different" is that 9 times out of ten that turns out to be a load of b0ll0cks! :D

Originally posted by jackthedog
Ha ha! All too often mate! :)
Then you should know that they can never make up their mind. ;)

Originally posted by jackthedog
This is one of the differences between the sexes that I cant understand.

I've never had trouble deciding what I want. Not just in women terms, but in anything. Nobody knows you better than yourself! How can you not know what you want?

And unacceptable behaviour is SO EASY to recognise. Is someone being a tw*t? If so, that is unacceptable behaviour, so GET RID OF EM!!!



Aggghhh!

Well basically, for some women, and presumably for some men too, they would rather have a partner who treated them badly then no partner at all

I know it doesnt make sense. I suppose it is a product of our society that people are judged to a degree on whether they have a partner or not

Witness "Havent you got yourself a girl/boyfriend yet then?"

So for some people being alone is not just lonely but it makes them feel like a pariah.

How much easier then to put up with a b****** (I wonder if that will be starred out?)

Also of course it is also human nature (and maybe more so with women or maybe not) to hope that you will be the one that tames and changes the baddy and makes them into a loving and devoted partner

Dream on, yes I know, but most of us have been there, at least once, somewhere in our dim and distant past havent we?

And then of course young people dont yet know that people rarely change and that they are wasting their time

And also "bad boys" are fantastically glamorous to young women, I dont know if it works in reverse...

Think of "Leader of the Pack" and "Happy Days" etc

The bad boy is definatly more "glamorous" to young women.

God knows why. I see it amongst my friends all the time, their boyfriends treat them like crap and they just put up with it. It hurts them, they cry and get upset but still they stick with them.

I suppose I'm also guilty of this, I don't know why.

I suppose if you love someone it's really hard to be strong and say enough is enough.

Perhaps more mature women don't have this problem.

I can't wait to be a mature woman. I always thought at the age of nearly 24 (in March BTW :) ) that I wouldn't be so silly anymore but alas I still am.:rolleyes:

well just been in the cuttlers from my lunch and met a cute girl (she used to work at the dev cat) but didnt ask for her number...............doh


ok so where are all the charming women than????

Originally posted by steelblade


I suppose if you love someone it's really hard to be strong and say enough is enough.



But how could you fall in love with a tw*t in the first place?

They don't always start off being a ****. They reel you in, get you right where they want you then turn into the biggest ******* on earth. I sound bitter :D

I'm a cute girl! *giggles* But I'm well and truly taken! :P

in my exp women can be just as bad !!!!

Originally posted by steelblade
They don't always start off being a ****. They reel you in, get you right where they want you then turn into the biggest ******* on earth. I sound bitter :D

I'm sure I could see through someone if they were just putting on an act. I think it's really easy to see the real person behind the front that they put on. Especially if you spend a lot of time with them, like you would with a girl/boyfriend

Probably why all the pretty girls in the pub get on my nerves!

have you got any cute girl friends ;-P

Originally posted by Daveyboy
have you got any cute girl friends ;-P

I'll presume your asking Caprice, not me...

It isn't that easy Jack believe me.

anyone realy ;-)

Originally posted by jackthedog
Probably why all the pretty girls in the pub get on my nerves!

I know just what u mean !! .. Thank goodness all pretty girls arn't so shallow.

Originally posted by Daveyboy
anyone realy ;-)

You need to conquer your desperation first mate.

Any of you ever thought about registering with these (http://www.northernenglandpersonals.com/) people?

They advertise on here you know!!!

DB

have you got any cute girl friends ;-P

Uh huh ofcourse, but most are taken :P

isnt that always the way......

Thats right daveyboy

Once you find a girlfriend you'll be spoilt for choice... trust me it always happens!

so you mean i can have more than one girl ???? could be fun but imagine the costs !!!!

;-P

so you mean i can have more than one girl ???? could be fun but imagine the costs !!!!

*tut-tut* I didn't mean it like that! hehe

Originally posted by Jamie
No ... I didn't really think she was ... I just wanted to clarify ... no offence Caz :-)

I have just come across women before who like to make me feel like I am a tw@t just because of my gender (maybe they're bitter and have been badly treated by guys ... so have it in for the rest of us).

Of course all men are not the same ... and all women are not the same ... we are all individuals.

No offense taken. I know what you mean. Some women seem to be on a mission to prove that all men are tw*ts. They can't quite deal with a real relationship or something. Anyway keep up the good fight for the decent guy and one day you might just win the war! (that is really naff i know!)

Originally posted by caz2
Anyway keep up the good fight for the decent guy and one day you might just win the war! (that is really naff i know!)


Naff yeah, but a nice point.

Originally posted by caz2
Anyway keep up the good fight for the decent guy and one day you might just win the war! (that is really naff i know!)

I am a guy caz ... and I am certainly not looking for one !!

Good luck yourself :-)

Originally posted by caprice
Thats right daveyboy
Once you find a girlfriend you'll be spoilt for choice... trust me it always happens!
Same with blokes! Theyre like buses! You wait ages and nothing! Then 5 turn up at once! :P
xxx

Why are guys always desperate to have a girlfriend?
Us women when we're single we party hard and make like the Sex in the City girls...men they just lose themselves without us women. :D

Not all men.. At the moment I'm concentrating on fitness, endurance and weight training along with focusing on Thai Boxing. I've stopped drinking and decided I'm taking a break from relationships for a while. Since I haven't had a girl for nearly 2 weeks I've actually been in a good mood.. Probably due to the fact I actually have money and spare time now :D

Originally posted by starchild
Why are guys always desperate to have a girlfriend?
Us women when we're single we party hard and make like the Sex in the City girls...men they just lose themselves without us women. :D


I'm gonna have to disagree with that one.

I know so many girls who can't be without a boyfriend, and fall to pieces without. They will never go more than a fortnight without being with someone. They'll put up with all sorts of sh*te just to feel loved.

Lads deal with single life much better in my experience.

But when they do want a girlfriend, they find it's very hard to get one. It's much easier for girls to find someone than it is for blokes. MUCH easier. Don't know if many women realise that.

Originally posted by jackthedog

Lads deal with single life much better in my experience.

But when they do want a girlfriend, they find it's very hard to get one. It's much easier for girls to find someone than it is for blokes. MUCH easier. Don't know if many women realise that.

Agreed with the latter statement. :D

But it's been proven that married men live longer than those who don't marry...yet marriage has little or no effect in this way on women. Hmmmm? ;)

That's probably because men can, and do drink alot more than women and when they sign their life away *ahem* I mean get married, they kiss the "weekend pi$$-up's with the lads" goodbye.

That brings me to say I reckon guys are way less productive than women whilst living up the single life. :P

Surely everyone ultimately wants to be with someone. Even if your enjoying single life, no one really fancies the idea of being alone forever do they? Maybe i'm wrong but i think everyone secrectly hopes that they might meet someone who seems to understand them completely and who they really feel like they can't live without.

So i conclude that non of us can live without someone, at least not in the long term. Although sad and needy dependancy is a massive turn off. :nono:

girls are just like public toilets

most of them are engaged and the rest are just full of *****

hmmm no wonder i'm single again,

It's much easier for girls to find someone than it is for blokes. MUCH easier. Don't know if many women realise that. [/B][/QUOTE]

why is that the case then? there's just about an equal number of young female/males
maybe it's due to the number of single parent women
just a thought

But when they do want a girlfriend, they find it's very hard to get one. It's much easier for girls to find someone than it is for blokes. MUCH easier. Don't know if many women realise that. [/B][/QUOTE]

oh god i've buggered that up :0(

Originally posted by starchild
Why are guys always desperate to have a girlfriend?
Thats not always true. I know girls who hate being single so much they rush to find someone else.

Chris.

Originally posted by Chris_Sleeps
Thats not always true. I know girls who hate being single so much they rush to find someone else.

Chris.

Totally. see it all the time.

Hmm, i'm curious. From reading this board, i get the impression that the majority of people here are single. is that just me? Should we post a poll up to get some stats on the subject?

Go for it mate.

Originally posted by Andy78
i get the impression that the majority of people here are single.
I imagine anyone with a partner has better things to do than chat on here. :)

Chris.

I imagine anyone with a partner has better things to do than chat on here.

Not neccessarily! lol!

Originally posted by Bedhead It's much easier for girls to find someone than it is for blokes. MUCH easier. Don't know if many women realise that.

Not sure I agree with that ...

If she's stunning, then yeah, it'll be easy for her to find someone (but not always the someone she'll be happy with).

All a girl needs to do is just look cute.

If you're a guy though, you have to make all the moves and risk rejection and humiliation etc ...

So the odds do seem stacked in favour of women.

I'm just saving up for a nice mail order bride ... probably be a *LOT* less painful than your typical English girlie (not to mention more poilte, curteous, sweet, sexy, cuter and less expensive in the long run).

Unless I can find a cutie at salsa of course ... mmm.

i agree - i don't think it's any easier for women to find a guy - the quote i used came from someone else it's just that i ballsed it up (twice)!!

I was joking about the mail order bride by the way ... mmm.

*whispers*
yeah we gathered...

Mail order bride - thought she was already on order. Or have you put a delay on until after next weeks salsa.

Originally posted by caprice
Not neccessarily! lol!
I know what i'd rather be doing. :P:)

Chris.

I too would love to meet a nice girl. I'm sure there must be plenty around but so many of them seem to have boyfriends already. If anyone can give me any hints I would be greatful.

all cute girls are either bitchy, bad tempered, weird or thick. Thats the way of the world. Find yourself a nice fat ugly girl instead. Beauty is on the inside and all that bogcrap.

Originally posted by kittykat
all cute girls are either bitchy, bad tempered, weird or thick. Thats the way of the world. Find yourself a nice fat ugly girl instead. Beauty is on the inside and all that bogcrap.

I think a lot of cute girls tend to be that way ... but those kind are very easy to spot and avoid ... usually the younger and immature ones.

However not all beautiful women are bitchy and bad tempered ... all people are individuals and different.

Kittykat's right, at least with the younger lasses. If you pull a looker then that's all well and good, but be prepared for her to be demanding, unpleasant and unfaithful. I think that relationships are one area in life where you can't afford to have any romantic delusions.

Originally posted by Funky Dave
I think that relationships are one area in life where you can't afford to have any romantic delusions.

so cynical but unfortunately so true

well im still look'in found some cute girls but they just turned out to be not quite right for me ;-).....are there any more out there or have i seen them all now?? :-(

There are loads of cute girls out here that are single.

Where?

I'd love to meet one.

quite a few at the uni jitsu club.