Heres a general question for everyone...?

Is it just me or is everyones life crap?

I mean.. maybe it is just because i have had yet another incredibly bad day or what.. but life is always so crap!!! its like someone is against me or something! someone who has the power to control everything what happens in life!!!!

but i will shut up now...

if n e 1 wants to tell me how incredibly great life is.. feel free!

Dunno about crap.....
Mediocre maybe followed by intense bouts of boredom, then more mediocraty and occaisionally periods of intense happiness and excitement and then back to mediocraty.

Good eh?

You have to go through the bad days in order to really appreciate the good ones!
xxx

I've always found that you have to struggle to get what you want in life... If you work hard it makes things seem so much more worthwhile when you look back and see how far you have had to come to get where you are today. I think this applies to all things really, relationships/friendships/school work/jobs etc...

When you are up on a high, something will always come and knock you back down, it's just the way life is! However occasionally, when you are on a low, something'll come along which'll make things somewhat worse!! What you need to do is keep talking to people, tell them how you feel and try and do other things to take your mind off whatever's been getting you down.

I'm sure you'll soon feel better... If not, send me a PM and I'll do my best to cheer you up :-) x

No I'm loving life, no particular reason I just don't let stuff get me down - I have done in the past and I've learnt that basically there's some good in everything, it's up to you to find it :D

Mine is a bit crap at the mo too SatanInHeels.

But then ... it is a hell of a lot better than some people's ... and I do have some good things in my life ...

:-)

I will keep my pecker up and keep smiling and count my blessings (good health, friends and family etc).

I think good and bad times in life do come and go ... the real challenge is to stay positive when things are not going your way ... don't give up ... just focus on what you can do to make your lot in life better ...

basically there's some good in everything, it's up to you to find it

Nice view on life :D Not necessarily ALL things contain anything good... But it's nice to think some people out there can think that.

Originally posted by fnkysknky
No I'm loving life, no particular reason I just don't let stuff get me down - I have done in the past and I've learnt that basically there's some good in everything, it's up to you to find it :D

Indeed.
I say life is here to be enjoyed as well as lived, I went down a spiral of thinking about everything bad in life and it sent me into a bad depression, but now I look at things differently and don't let things get me down as much now and I feel better for it.

Originally posted by fnkysknky
No I'm loving life, no particular reason I just don't let stuff get me down - I have done in the past and I've learnt that basically there's some good in everything, it's up to you to find it :D

impressive theory.. still sturggling to find anything positive rite now!!! maybe if i decide to stick around a few more years.. things wil get better!!! may try finding good things in bad situations more often!! hope every1 else is ok!!

I don't think it's so much what happens in life ... as how you react to it ... how you respond to adversity ... can you be calm relaxed and positive when times are not good ... !?

Not easy I know ... but hard times can develop character (that people who always have it good ... will never develop).

Good luch SIH ... keep smiling ... and if u wanna chat .....

:-)

thanx jamie, caprice n mosh!!!!! i'll get over it im sure! as long as some idiots stop doing what they are doing!!!! X x X

I know what you mean SIH : when you get it into your head, life is indeed 'crap'.

I am just coming through one of the all-time lows of my life, and believe me it has been 'crap'. But it won't be for long!!

Smile I say!

My life is only slightly bad at the mo as I have immense wisdom teeth related pain going on! having said that I am managing to eat a whole bar of chocolate, but it is causing me some difficulties!

Pleasure and Pain... together at the same time

OooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaaaRRRRRRgggggggghhhhhhhh!

Originally posted by SatanInHeels
Heres a general question for everyone...?

Is it just me or is everyones life crap?

I mean.. maybe it is just because i have had yet another incredibly bad day or what.. but life is always so crap!!! its like someone is against me or something! someone who has the power to control everything what happens in life!!!!

but i will shut up now...

if n e 1 wants to tell me how incredibly great life is.. feel free!

Its all a question of attitude, if you are positive and cheerfull then you will enjoy your life, but if you are a depressive then your life will be crap. get someone who you can care for instead of thinking of yourself all the time.

My life isn't crap at the moment, it's actually quite good. I have nothing to complain about, well not much.

Wish i could say the same for everyone, it must be my reverse karma working again

Wilf

Originally posted by BrainThrust
Wish i could say the same for everyone, it must be my reverse karma working again

Wilf

Ack, his karma is inversly proportional to mine, and my social life is directly proportional to wilf's bank balance :P

This is true, which is why he has no life at the moment. Does anyone want to place a donation to the 'RPG should get out more' fund? all cheques payable to me

Wilf

My signature applies for this thread I think..

Originally posted by SatanInHeels
Heres a general question for everyone...?

Is it just me or is everyones life crap?

I mean.. maybe it is just because i have had yet another incredibly bad day or what.. but life is always so crap!!! its like someone is against me or something! someone who has the power to control everything what happens in life!!!!

but i will shut up now...

if n e 1 wants to tell me how incredibly great life is.. feel free!

you could be dead. or terminally ill or have a debilitating disease.

don't be so selfish.

mines feckin ace...great bird, good sex every day, beer on friday, football on saturday...to quote Talk Talk "Life's what you make it"..you only get one chance so make the bloody most of it....this is cliche heaven...any others??

According to my GP, he heard this quote that goes like this

"LIfe is one long misery punctuated by glimpses of pleasure."

He is a cheerful chap sure enough....

You will remember that lovely quote from Life of Brian I hope
"Life's a piece of s**t when you look at it, life's a joke and death's the final laugh..."

But never forget the punchline satan

"Always look on the bright side"

B
x

This is true, which is why he has no life at the moment. Does anyone want to place a donation to the 'RPG should get out more' fund? all cheques payable to me

I offered but didn't get anywhere! :mad:

Fancy turning down a night out with pretty lil me! *tuts*

don't be so selfish.

For your information SIH isn't being selfish, to be honest she is coping with it very well. She's been put in an awkward position to which she feels she can only blame herself. I don't think she's being selfish at all, she's just saying that she's having a bad time right now and looking for support from her fellow forumers!

Originally posted by halevan
get someone who you can care for instead of thinking of yourself all the time.

A friend of mine said something very similar to me recently, like it's as simple as just picking someone. It's easy to say that when you're married I guess.
I've got my health and loads of friends but I always feel detached and lonely, even in a room full of people I know.
Here's to another Friday night on my own in my freezing flat.

Hope you're feeling better SIH.

Originally posted by Red 2
don't be so selfish.

get someone who you can care for instead of thinking of yourself all the time

for your information it wasnt me that i am thinkin about that upset me yesterday.. it was what happened to someone else.. and that is going to keep on happening to him.. n as far as i can see it is all my fault!! someone i care about very much by the way! thank for tht caprice.. n thnx to n e 1 else n all tht ant had a go wen they dont kno owt!! X

I think we all have highs and lows in life and it's best not to dwell on the lows- photographs for instance tend to be taken from memorable events in the past, yet we as human beings can often be accused of dwelling on the things that have been the least enjoyable. I'm fortunate enough to always have something to look forward to, perhaps it's my aspired optimism towards my future and the constant need for excitement and change. Personally I'm extremely happy with life but like most other individuals I have days where I feel quite the opposite and I think it's always best to look on the bright side of things...realise what you have got and how many people would love to be in your shoes. ;)

Yes: life is what you make of it.
BUT some people are A LOT better than others at deciding what theyre going to 'make'.
Whenever I decide to make something of my life/day I suddenly remember that 'life is what you make of it' and that therefore whatever I chose to make it that day was really just made up and therefore was not 'real'.
So, if you truly believe life is what you make of it, then it could mean whatever you feel like...or if youre being rational it could mean nothing at all.
I reckon its 49%genetic 49%hormonal and 2% personal choice

...I only hope the 2% counts. Thats when I feel positive...when I hope.

Originally posted by SatanInHeels
Heres a general question for everyone...?

Is it just me or is everyones life crap?

It's just you. Sorry.

At the minute my life is pretty pants.

I'm in a job that bores me to death, I'm doing a college course which isn't for me and generally my life is going in a direction that I don't want.

However I have decided enough is enough. Despite my family telling me I'm stupid to throw everything away that I've learnt over the past 7 years and people saying I should just change jobs and stick with my course because i might start to enjoy it, I'm not going to. I never wanted to work in IT I just fell into it and have been stumbling along ever since. Scared to leave because I don't know any different and afraid of how I'll cope without the financial stability and security I have now.

Just recently I looked by over my record of achievment from school and other various papers and realised that I actually wanted to work In social work and for the first time in ages I've had the guts to admit that yes that is what I want to do.

I want a job that means something to people and really whether someone's website has crashed or e-mail is broken is not life or death, it means nothing in the grand scheme of things.

So I've made myself an appointment at careers and I'm going to totally turn my life around. I've sent off for various voluntary work vacancies just incase I need to do that first and I'm going to get myself another job until I can start uni or college in September.

I feel scared but I feel more scared when I think I might still be doing this 10 years down the line!

Positive action, good for you.

All this angst...and then you find out that Peter Andre is making a comeback.

What a queue at the Suicide Booth.

If that's what you wanna do, then it's the right thing to do innit.
Best of luck with it all man :)

Originally posted by steelblade
At the minute my life is pretty pants.

I'm in a job that bores me to death, I'm doing a college course which isn't for me and generally my life is going in a direction that I don't want.

However I have decided enough is enough. Despite my family telling me I'm stupid to throw everything away that I've learnt over the past 7 years and people saying I should just change jobs and stick with my course because i might start to enjoy it, I'm not going to. I never wanted to work in IT I just fell into it and have been stumbling along ever since. Scared to leave because I don't know any different and afraid of how I'll cope without the financial stability and security I have now.

Just recently I looked by over my record of achievment from school and other various papers and realised that I actually wanted to work In social work and for the first time in ages I've had the guts to admit that yes that is what I want to do.

I want a job that means something to people and really whether someone's website has crashed or e-mail is broken is not life or death, it means nothing in the grand scheme of things.

So I've made myself an appointment at careers and I'm going to totally turn my life around. I've sent off for various voluntary work vacancies just incase I need to do that first and I'm going to get myself another job until I can start uni or college in September.

I feel scared but I feel more scared when I think I might still be doing this 10 years down the line!

Good for you, I was all set trundling along a career path in IT but realised that although I have always loved using computers, working with them is just not for me. I also realised how much working indoors annoys me. I got my act together, found myself a job I enjoyed working outside and for the last 2 years I've been as happy as a pig in sh*t. Do whatever you feel is best for you and choose something you're going to enjoy. There aren't many things worse than hating your job. As for your parents just point out that it's your life and you'll live it in the way that makes you happy. Life isn't all about good grades and money despite what schools force down your throat over the years. Just my 2p :)

Originally posted by fnkysknky
Good for you, I was all set trundling along a career path in IT but realised that although I have always loved using computers, working with them is just not for me. I also realised how much working indoors annoys me. I got my act together, found myself a job I enjoyed working outside and for the last 2 years I've been as happy as a pig in sh*t. Do whatever you feel is best for you and choose something you're going to enjoy. There aren't many things worse than hating your job. As for your parents just point out that it's your life and you'll live it in the way that makes you happy. Life isn't all about good grades and money despite what schools force down your throat over the years. Just my 2p :)

I think you're my mirror image. I did the out-doorsy thing (postman) for several years, I've been doing the ITy thing for several years and now I want another change v. soon. I agree with steelblade, there's more to life than making sure someone's website doesn't crash thereby losing the shareholders money.

Other than that life's great at the moment, it's just those odd hours I spend at work that lets it down.:thumbsup: :D

You get what you focus on in life - if your life feels crap right now, take some time to dream of what your life would look like if everything were perfect. Get really specific about this - do some serious research into that ideal house, ideal car, ideal lifestyle... what would you be and what would you do if anything were possible for you?

Now simply devote all your waking hours to making the small changes every day towards your ideal life... get yourself around people who are already living the life you want to lead and celebrate success wherever you find it!

Success leaves clues... and usually it's all about your attitude to life - it's good to read in this thread that many people have discovered ways to make their lives bearable / pleasurable but one thing I would add is do not ever settle for mediocre. You deserve the best in life - it's up to you to claim it for yourself and the ones you love...

Good Luck :thumbsup:

Originally posted by alert_bri
You get what you focus on in life - if your life feels crap right now, take some time to dream of what your life would look like if everything were perfect. Get really specific about this - do some serious research into that ideal house, ideal car, ideal lifestyle... what would you be and what would you do if anything were possible for you?

A lot of people just cant see those things...no matter how hard they focus. The things never end up seeming like what they want; just what they thought they wanted...but dont really. Or, if they do see them, the things keep changing and they end up tacking to-and-fro in conflicting directions.

Believing you want what you think you do is some gift.

Originally posted by rain
A lot of people just cant see those things...no matter how hard they focus. The things never end up seeming like what they want; just what they thought they wanted...but dont really. Or, if they do see them, the things keep changing and they end up tacking to-and-fro in conflicting directions.

Believing you want what you think you do is some gift.
I didn't say it would be easy - but persevere and it's worth it ;) There are many books, audios, training courses... you can find to help you - you only get one chance at living your life - may as well give it your best shot :thumbsup:

Originally posted by caprice
For your information SIH isn't being selfish, to be honest she is coping with it very well. She's been put in an awkward position to which she feels she can only blame herself. I don't think she's being selfish at all, she's just saying that she's having a bad time right now and looking for support from her fellow forumers!

Yes. And what I said is still true.

At least she isn't mentally handicapped. Always look on the bright side of life. things will get better. You make your life what it is. I accept there are times when it may seem hard. But it's up to you and you only to change things. If you believe in yourself you can do anything you want.

Originally posted by Red 2
Yes. And what I said is still true.

At least she isn't mentally handicapped. Always look on the bright side of life. things will get better. You make your life what it is. I accept there are times when it may seem hard. But it's up to you and you only to change things. If you believe in yourself you can do anything you want.

The guy talks sense...

Originally posted by alert_bri
... take some time to dream of what your life would look like if everything were perfect. Get really specific about this - do some serious research into that ideal house, ideal car, ideal lifestyle... what would you be and what would you do if anything were possible for you?
I've read this about 3 or 4 times now and i have to reply, i just have to. I'm not being offensive, but i think what you've said is absolute bollucks. Nobodys life is going to be great just because they have a bigger car or a house with a swimming pool. It might ease the boredom for a week or two but then its back down to normal again, thats the nature of life. I'm firmly in the belief that you cannot buy or attain happyness, its just there sometimes.

As for the "get yourself around people who are already living the life you want to lead and celebrate success ..." part - Good Lord. My friends are absolute losers in any technical sense (single, no job prospects) and they are the greatest people on this planet. I wouldn't leave them to hang about with people who are "succesful" if my whole life depended on it.

Chris.

Originally posted by Chris_Sleeps
I've read this about 3 or 4 times now and i have to reply, i just have to. I'm not being offensive, but i think what you've said is absolute bollucks. Nobodys life is going to be great just because they have a bigger car or a house with a swimming pool. It might ease the boredom for a week or two but then its back down to normal again, thats the nature of life. I'm firmly in the belief that you cannot buy or attain happyness, its just there sometimes.

As for the "get yourself around people who are already living the life you want to lead and celebrate success ..." part - Good Lord. My friends are absolute losers in any technical sense (single, no job prospects) and they are the greatest people on this planet. I wouldn't leave them to hang about with people who are "succesful" if my whole life depended on it.

Chris.
Hi Chris,

I can understand it may make no sense to you right now - but I'll try to explain myself more clearly...

First of all, realise that there is no absolute shared reality - we all see life through different eyes based on our personal life experience.

So my goals in life should mean absolutely nothing to you and vice-versa! What I meant from my post was that if you get really specific about what you want in life then you can make a plan to get it by consistent, focused effort over time.

You can achieve happiness in your life by taking total responsibility for your actions towards that end for yourself. You certainly can't buy happiness but I think you'll find you can earn it :thumbsup:

p.s. you're definition of success belongs to you Chris - no need to argue with some imagined shared definition... sounds like you're already spending time with people you consider successful ;)

Cheers mate :)

Sometimes it's best just to look at your lot in life and appreciate the things you have got, whilst also appreciating that your life will never be perfect. Often we tend to dwell on the bad things, and you can enjoy your life more by changing your perspective of it.

Make a list of the good things in your life. Include your hobbies, achievements, personal qualities, the names of your mates, your family, your qualifications, the interesting places you've visited, everything you've done. I think you'd be surprised at how interesting your life actually is!

Currently it is!
Mainly just feel like hitting things...and now the orange bint wont let me top up my credit!!!!!!
Gonna have a cig, nothing like the calming effects of tobacco :wink:
feeling better all ready :P

To those of you who feel life is crap at the mo... hit this link (http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=7157) and smile away!

Just remember everyone... life could be a lot worse!
You could live in Iraq!

Wishing every happiness in life to everone on this forum and
out there in sheffield and the surrounding areas!!

Originally posted by SatanInHeels
Heres a general question for everyone...?

Is it just me or is everyones life crap?

I mean.. maybe it is just because i have had yet another incredibly bad day or what.. but life is always so crap!!! its like someone is against me or something! someone who has the power to control everything what happens in life!!!!

but i will shut up now...

if n e 1 wants to tell me how incredibly great life is.. feel free!

just read this thread and wondered if things were any better for you at this point?

Originally posted by Mosherchik


You have to go through the bad days in order to really appreciate the good ones!
xxx

no, you have to go through the bad days to make the mediocre ones seem good

Mine was pretty sh**ty until 2pm this afternoon when i purchased a bargain - £250 worth of Hi-Fi for £99 - one of these managers bargain thing because it had been used but bought back and the box was a bit damaged, beats those £10 computer speakers. And that oold toot I had!

Originally posted by amhudson119
Mine was pretty sh**ty until 2pm this afternoon when i purchased a bargain - £250 worth of Hi-Fi for £99 - one of these managers bargain thing because it had been used but bought back and the box was a bit damaged, beats those £10 computer speakers. And that oold toot I had!

Simple things please simple minds :wink:

Joking!!!!

Originally posted by SatanInHeels
thanx jamie, caprice n mosh!!!!! i'll get over it im sure! as long as some idiots stop doing what they are doing!!!! X x X
You sound as though you feel powerless. If that is the case, take back your power, do whatever it takes to change your situation.
Don't allow situations and people to victimise you, take charge and little by little you will start to feel better. Sometimes drastic situations call for drastic actions.

mines alright thanks.....but i'd be feelin crap if i dint have mi biscuits....



pie any one?


.....Ooopppss i've already et em!

Originally posted by noseyrosie
Simple things please simple minds :wink:

Joking!!!!

Hehe, Rosie. ;)

Personally...and this may get depressing so please look away now...my life is pretty crap.
I feel - despite lots of friends - completely alone and facing more aloneness too. I have my life pretty much in my hands at the moment but it scares the living daylights outta me.

I look at things like you have to go thru the rough...but I just had far too much rough and I want a break. The sunny spells I got just don't seem to be enough at the moment to get me thru.

m

Originally posted by bonny
just read this thread and wondered if things were any better for you at this point?

errm.. i think the workd is different. I just walked away from all what was going on, at the time i believed what was going on to be my fault and since then i have realised that this wasn't entirely the case. more a certain ex-boyfriend of mine persuading me that it was. all in the past now though.

definatly having very contrasting ups and downs at the mo.. but trying just to get on with life.. no matter how crap it gets.

I love my life.

I don't have much money, or live in the nicest house or live in the nicest area.

But i have my health, a beautiful healthy son, and enough money to get by for which i am very grateful. Anything else is a bonus.

I believe that life is what you make it

Life is like a box of chocolates. Well someone had to say it.

Look at the poor souls in West Africa. 200,000 children a year are kidknapped and sold into slavery in Benin.

People don't realise what a privilage it is to live in the most stable country in the world since 1066.

Originally posted by dylan_61
Life is like a box of chocolates. .

Isn't that out of a fil that quote? Sounds like "Forrest Gump"?

Originally posted by amhudson119
Isn't that out of a fil that quote? Sounds like "Forrest Gump"?

Stupid is as stupid does