Hello peeps

I have recently started a new job and wondered what advice people could give me to help settle in.

There are quite a few strong characters to deal with and my job is very varied and there's loads to learn.

Also I get the impression that I'm not liked by one or two individuals for some reason, even though I've tried to be nice as pie with everyone!

Any advice would be welcomed.

Just do your job, do it well and make a point of saying hello and being nice to everyone.

People who want to be nasty and intimidating HATE IT when they can't. I greet my enemies with a cheery hello and a smile. It drives them up the wall :hihi:

One thing I learned several years ago was that no matter what kind of person you are, there will always be people who don't like you. You could be the friendliest, most sociable, altruistic person in the world and there'd still be people who'd take a dislike to you. Some people have quite complex and multi-faceted insecurities that lead to them deliberately seeking confrontation. The best tactic is just to disregard these people and concentrate on the people who are prepared to give you a chance. :)

The people who you think don't like you are probably just weighing you up.

Don't be too in your face with anyone but don't be too quiet either.
It's not only you who has to settle in the people around you have to feel comfortable with you too.

Try to find out if anyone shares a common interest with you, that will give you someone you could break the ice with and in turn they will bring into the group.

GoodLuck and don't try too hard. :thumbsup:

Just be you, concentrate on learning your new job, smile lots and don't rush into being everyones mate.

You'll suss out the office dynamics and make friends with the ones whom you actually like. Often not the ones you first thought were great.

Thanks for your comments people - most helpful. Anymore for anymore??

I definately sense resistance from one person and cannot work out for the life of me why.
I think no matter what I do this person will not like me and so I will take your advice above - it's obviously them with the issues.

Cheers people.

Originally posted by Reidstar
I definately sense resistance from one person and cannot work out for the life of me why.
I think no matter what I do this person will not like me and so I will take your advice above - it's obviously them with the issues.

Cheers people.

Oh do ignore them in the nicest possible way.

The problem is them not you. they obviously have issues about you getting the job. That is their problem not yours.

They haven't taken time out to get know you but they'll most likely get over themselves in the next 6 months.

Just don't let them get to you.

Yes that's what I thought. It's nice to get your views backed up though. Cheers!

Learn to rise above any iffy comments, and feel good about yourself when you don't bite at any digs.

The ability to remain calm and courteous in the face of adversity or criticism is a learned skill- I used to have to do it as a medical rep- and it will serve you well if you can teach yourself to do it.

Get a mantra that you can use to affirm your skills to yourself. Mine were 'this is why I'm paid so well- it's to take this level of cr*p' and 'this is not personal- learn to let it go'.

A few minutes in the loos saying your mantra quietly to yourself will mean that you can walk out with your head held high, knowing that you are doing your job to the best of your ability, and refusing to participate in the notorious office game of backstabbing.

Good luck, and remember to believe in yourself the very best you can.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by medusa666
[B]Learn to rise above any iffy comments, and feel good about yourself when you don't bite at any digs.

The ability to remain calm and courteous in the face of adversity or criticism is a learned skill- I used to have to do it as a medical rep- and it will serve you well if you can teach yourself to do it.



still have the same philosophy myself.
the only positive thing i ever did to change was that i treat every one the same all the time.
i might not like them or vice versa, we may have met several times or only once however i greet everyone the same & i conduct myself in the same manner all the time.

Sleep with the boss, you'll be promoted in no time.

Don't be late..ever.!!!

jt

You are all too nice.

I would be a firm git with the a.holes who didn't like you - don't let the ******** grind you down :thumbsup:

All these comments are valid and I will use them in future to stop me pulling my hair out.

By the way, I have begun to notice a slight change in the person who seemed to not like me before. I think they perhaps have realised that they cannot wear me down with their ignorance and dismissive attitude.

Cheers peeps!