Given the chance what would your dream wedding be?

Mine would be the traditional white wedding beautiful flower girls, horse and cart and a chance for all the family to meet up and get along.

My dream wedding would be one where I woke up the next morning and would be single again, ralising it was all a horrible dream. :clap:

Lol. I gave up on this one ages ago! :rolleyes:

But something small and romantic with few people there.

My dream wedding is someone elses £25,000 extravaganza, where I get to turn up, get caned and then humiliate the groom with my speech.

I've only been best man about 3 times, and I've loved it every time.

Otherwise the only wedding I'm attending as the groom will be literally in my nightmares, as I have no intention of getting married whatsoever.

Seriously after my brother's wedding yesterday. My dream wedding would be in Eastern Europe somewhere Maybe Romania or Hungary, with no relatives and no fuss. And turning up on a motorbike.

I am certain that everyone would be thoroughly relieved that they weren't invited, and that they didn't know about it.

I have been to several, maybe a dozen stag nights and they have all been 5#*t.

Dear me what is this world coming to? what happen to all the romance around here? married life cant be that bad but then again im not a woman of experience so i wouldn't really know.

Weddings seem to me about forcing your realtives and friends to mess up a decent weekend by going somewhere that they don't want to go and wasting time which they don't want to waste.

If you are confident in your marriage partner, my advice is to elope, do it away and save everybody from the bloogy awful waste of money which is the modern embarrasing vacuuous wedding ceremony. That would be totally cool and most people will be as jelous as hell. !

Asch. Married life is one thing, but you don't need to have a wedding at the start to enjoy it.

The wedding is the tiniest part of a marriage.

Just tell people you got married in Gretna on the sly and save yourself a packet.

I told my Mother-in-law that we did just that, as a joke. She was not impressed.

Yes I agree with muddycoffee actually. I would hate all the stress and fuss of a big wedding too.

My dream wedding would be ... two people totally in love, exchanging vows in a place to them - somewhere quiet and isolated, no guests or anything like that - then waking up and finding out it was just that, a dream :thumbsup:

My dream wedding would be one where I could say the vows and actually mean them and keep them.

It wouldn't matter if it was a big or small wedding, just knowing that this time I meant what I was saying and not just going through the motions like the first time I got married.

That and having my kids there - that would be it for me.

Just hoping the dream wedding wouldn't turn into a nightmare marriage. :(

no matter how small the wedding is, it's still going to be stressful. I had 2 fantastic wedding does because not everybody could come to Sheffield for the civil wedding or to France for the religious one. On both occasions, it was quite a small do with only people we like and trust me, it was still nerve-racking. I never want to go through so much stress again. :gag:
But it was worth it! And we had the wedding we wanted. :D

On a beach, at sunset, with just us, the priest and two random witnesses.

I would have a small party when I got back for close friends and family. :)

My dream wedding would have to be a no fuss occasion probably on sun soaked beach in Sri Lanka with no bickering relatives in tow making you feel guitly cos you didn't have the wedding they wanted you to have ;)

Originally posted by Dick Dastardly
My dream wedding would have to be a no fuss occasion probably on sun soaked beach in Sri Lanka with no bickering relatives in tow making you feel guitly cos you didn't have the wedding they wanted you to have ;)

AHA!
you scoundrel. That's how Mick Jagger got out of his marriage to Jerry Hall. A wedding in Sri Lanka doesn't count. Something to do with there not being any accountable officials which would mean the wedding is valid in the UK

Not intending to be too churlish (sorry, Bizzy Lizzy) but in my opinion there's far too much fuss made of the Big Day - how can the day-to-day reality of married life possibly match up to the expectations raised by a no-expense-spared extravaganza?

The average big wedding costs well into the thousands of pounds nowadays - and it's all gone in one day. Surely that money would be better spent going towards a house deposit or something else that would support the couple through the - perhaps financially tight - first years of their marriage?

I guess a lovely white wedding in a church is a dream of most little girls, and that's wonderful. But you can do that without bankrupting yourself/your parents in the process.

It seems to me a wedding should be a beautiful ceremony for the bride and groom themselves, their immediate family, and close friends - a celebration for those closely connected to the couple who will hopefully have an ongoing interest in the marriage.

It's debasing the idea of marriage to be it into some sort of contest as to which family can blow the most money on it/ have the biggest number of guests, etc.

Keep it simple!

StarSparkle :)

I think I had my dream wedding, just me my other half and our 3 kids in the glorious Florida sunshine with no squabbling relatives.

Considering the average wedding now costs £15,000 (including the reception), one look at the Wedding Industry tells you all you need to know about modern weddings.

Originally posted by StarSparkle
Not intending to be too churlish (sorry, Bizzy Lizzy) but in my opinion there's far too much fuss made of the Big Day - how can the day-to-day reality of married life possibly match up to the expectations raised by a no-expense-spared extravaganza?

The average big wedding costs well into the thousands of pounds nowadays - and it's all gone in one day. Surely that money would be better spent going towards a house deposit or something else that would support the couple through the - perhaps financially tight - first years of their marriage?

I guess a lovely white wedding in a church is a dream of most little girls, and that's wonderful. But you can do that without bankrupting yourself/your parents in the process.

It seems to me a wedding should be a beautiful ceremony for the bride and groom themselves, their immediate family, and close friends - a celebration for those closely connected to the couple who will hopefully have an ongoing interest in the marriage.

It's debasing the idea of marriage to be it into some sort of contest as to which family can blow the most money on it/ have the biggest number of guests, etc.

Keep it simple!

StarSparkle :)

Have to agree Star. It's unfortunate that marriage has become far too commercialised. Women buy into the 'Fantasy' of this one special day in their lives that usually amounts to no more than debt, squabbles, drunken antics and having the dubious pleasure of looking like a meringue .. with photo's to prove it. If people spent as much time and effort planning their marriage as they do their wedding, perhaps a lot more folk would live happily ever after............

We had already been together 14 yrs when we married. We spent les than £4000 on the whole holiday to Florida inc the wedding and it was wonderful.

Originally posted by cloudybay
Have to agree Star. It's unfortunate that marriage has become far too commercialised. Women buy into the 'Fantasy' of this one special day in their lives that usually amounts to no more than debt, squabbles, drunken antics and having the dubious pleasure of looking like a meringue .. with photo's to prove it. If people spent as much time and effort planning their marriage as they do their wedding, perhaps a lot more folk would live happily ever after............

Well said, Cloudybay.

I'm sometimes left with the impression that for some brides the whole business of getting married is ALL about the big day - it's like the wedding day itself is their goal, and married life is like some distant, rather misty, slightly unreal, vague thing somewhere in the far distance.

It's no wonder so many marriages fail when there's that sort of unreality in people's heads about what marriage is actually all about. ie day-to-day living with and supporting and being there for one other person, hopefully for the rest of your lives.

As you say, Cloudybay, "If people spent as much time and effort planning their marriage as they do their wedding, perhaps a lot more folk would live happily ever after"

Fairytales may end with the wedding, but that's just the start in real life.

StarSparkle

Very much agree Starsparkle. I've seen normal grown women turn into spoiled little monsters about silly things like flowers and matching place mats. Sooooooo weird! :confused:

As an atheist, the only thing I'm sure of is that I wouldn't want to have a church wedding. For me it would be an act of huge hypocrisy, and it's a principle that I wouldn't even consider violating. My only worry is that I end up with either someone who dreams of a big church wedding, or someone religious who feels they HAVE to get married in a church of their religion. That'd be an impasse that couldn't be negotiated.

I hate being the centre of attention, so personally I would hate to have the big traditional white wedding that we’re all meant to aspire to. All I would ask is a man I love deeply, and who loves me as much in return. I would then just like to combine the honeymoon and wedding as one by going away somewhere tropical and getting married while we were there. I’d be perfectly happy not having any friends or family there as I think a wedding should just be about the two of you. The only reason I would ever want a big wedding would be so I could wear a big dress! I can’t get away from wanting the big dress. However I would have to go for shocking pink rather than white! But if I ever have £15,000 to spare I wouldn’t dare waste it all on a wedding, not when divorce rates are running at nearly 50%!!

Originally posted by Daley
As an atheist, the only thing I'm sure of is that I wouldn't want to have a church wedding. For me it would be an act of huge hypocrisy, and it's a principle that I wouldn't even consider violating. My only worry is that I end up with either someone who dreams of a big church wedding, or someone religious who feels they HAVE to get married in a church of their religion. That'd be an impasse that couldn't be negotiated.

This is something I have thought about as well, because I could never get married in a church, but I can understand that to someone else the thought of NOT marrying in a church could be completely against their beliefs. It's a difficult one to negotiate on. But personally I can't see myself marrying anyone with strong religious beliefs as it is something that just seems too illogical to me, so I don't know if me and a religious person would be particularly compatible.

Mine would be a MASSIVE white church wedding, a gorgoues long floaty dress, loads of my family and friends there, on a snowy day, where everywhere is covered in snow, go to a huge posh hotel for a meal with everyone and then fly to barbados or the maldeves!!

*dreams*

Originally posted by squeakyclean
We had already been together 14 yrs when we married. We spent les than £4000 on the whole holiday to Florida inc the wedding and it was wonderful.

Same,
we spent around £4000 and our guests enjoyed the fact it wasn't fussy. :D

Not a dream wedding but just re minded me................

About 6 years ago at a friends daughters wedding, time came for speaches to be made from the bride & groom at the reception.....150 people there.....the bride went out into the parking lot to find the groom, found him alright in the back seat of the Limo with a bridesmade doing you know what......

she carmly walked back into to reception hall to the microphone
and said.....the marriage is now over, will the guest that brought giftsplease pick them up on your way out, rest of the gifts will be posted onto you...thank you for comming.

Originally posted by MissGobby
Mine would be a MASSIVE white church wedding, a gorgoues long floaty dress, loads of my family and friends there, on a snowy day, where everywhere is covered in snow, go to a huge posh hotel for a meal with everyone and then fly to barbados or the maldeves!!

*dreams*

Better still, why don't you just get married in Barbados or the Maldives and save loads of money and have a longer honeymoon ;)


Sorry, but these big weddings really get on my nips. I don't understand why someone would be willing to spend an obscene amount of money on one day. It's just absurd especially given that a large proportion of the world are living in poverty and can barely afford to feed themselves let alone blow what money they have on such luxuries. Why do people do it?! Why should you spend heeps of money so that uncle nob-head and co can stuff their faces and make comments on how the wedding isn't to their taste etc. After all, these are the very selfish people that wouldn't even visit you in any given week in the year. It's all a great pretence and what's better the church gets used a stage to perform this circus even if, 9 times of 10, the bride and groom haven't practiced or believe in their religion.

To me, weddings have gone down the over commercialised road that has killed our good old friend, christmas.

My dream wedding would be a nude wedding to Holly Valance, quick ceremony with all the family involved etc, and then quick pop upstairs to the big 4 poster bed to *ahem* consumate the marriage.. :love:

I'm sorry, I just have a "thing" for Holly Valance, I think she's bloody lovely :love:

Originally posted by Rich
My dream wedding would be a nude wedding to Holly Valance, quick ceremony with all the family involved etc, and then quick pop upstairs to the big 4 poster bed to *ahem* consumate the marriage.. :love:



Nice to know romance isn't dead.................. :D

I've been a bridesmaid five times.

That's right folks. I have FIVE butt-ugly dresses, with shoes to match, that couldn't be worn anywhere else. And they were expensive, too. A couple of people were reasonable about their weddings, but the rest made everyone connected with the whole affair miserable. Normal, sane young women turned into "Bridezilla".

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2002/08/20/earlyshow/leisure/books/main519238.shtml

My sister in law, aided and encouraged by her mother, was a particulary fine specimen of Bridezilla. Sweet Jesus. Did she put us all through the wringer. I felt especially bad for my father in law who was paying for the entire extravagant circus. She even decreed that my boyfriend at the time, (now my husband, her brother) wasn't allowed to attend her wedding unless he got a haircut! (It was the '70's)

When the husband and I did the deed, we drove over the state line to Nevada and got a license in Carson City. Then stopped at the first "wedding chapel" we came to. We spent our wedding night going from casino to casino, eating and gambling, and having a great time.

The next day, we drove home to California. I don't remember how much it cost now, but it wasn't expensive. Our parents never said so, but I know they were relieved. I'm one of three girls, and the last to marry, so my father had already paid for two big weddings. My only regret was not being married in a church.

Whoever said the wedding has nothing to do with actually being married was right. We've been married for 20 years, and have two kids. The quality of your day to day life with your spouse is much more important.

:) Sierra

Originally posted by Rich
a nude wedding

:wow: That's a new one on me! Not sure that I'd want my family there though.

Would the vicar be nude too? What about the best man?

Originally posted by Andy
:wow: That's a new one on me! Not sure that I'd want my family there though.

Would the vicar be nude too? What about the best man?

Well I'd leave it up to the guests, realistically speaking it'd probably end up being just Holly and I in the *ahem* birthday suits...

And if Flick could bring Steph along, things would be doubly right :D

I'm of course referring to Holly's Neighbours character and her on screen sister there.

Originally posted by muddycoffee
Weddings seem to me about forcing your realtives and friends to mess up a decent weekend by going somewhere that they don't want to go and wasting time which they don't want to waste.

If you are confident in your marriage partner, my advice is to elope, do it away and save everybody from the bloogy awful waste of money which is the modern embarrasing vacuuous wedding ceremony. That would be totally cool and most people will be as jelous as hell. !

If more thought was given to marriage itself and not just "The Day" more marriages would last longer than a few years. It seems to me that more thought and hard cash goes into the Ceremony than the vows taken. Ie: "Do I actually love this person enough to spend the rest of my life with him" rather than "what colour/design wedding dress shall I have".

Me? Cynical?? Whatever makes you think that??!!!! :hihi:

I had my dream wedding. In a castle in Scotland, with the hen/stag do and the honeymoon all rolled in together :)

The cynics amongst you are right about the show-off brides, and some of the massive weddings, and I think I suffered from some family members thinking that was what I was aiming for :mad:

we don't live anywhere near any family at all, and all of our family are spread over the globe. This meant the location was arbritary (sp?).

We had already had a 'which religion' debate, and having eliminated my catholic church and the CofE (that I'm sure he hasn't ever set foot in :suspect: ) we agreed on Church of Scotland - so that narrowed down the location :P

I come from an Irish Catholic family, who have a somewhat 'mafia' style relationship. Cousins are important. We don't get to see each other for maybe a year or more, but it's like we've never been apart when we meet. I couldn't leave all these people off our guest list just coz I haven't seen them for 2 years. Our family are always there for each other when the chips are down.

As everybody was going to be travelling, we needed a big hotel to host the wedding. Ok, so it looked like a castle :rolleyes: but that's what you're pretty stuck with up there ;)

The only people who had a face on were those who travelled the shortest distance, and obviously thought I (note: not we) should be married in Liverpool for their convenience. I eventually pointed out that I should have married in my parents' local church in Cambridge - the same distance from them, but with no convenient accommodation for them all :rant:

I think everybody enjoyed their break in Scotland, at least they seemed to ;)

And the only thing I was 'Bridezilla' about was when I couldn't get a leather to suit the (already chosen by themselves) bridesmaids outfits, so had to change their cream tops so my white didn't look grey :gag:

Flowers? the florist narked me off by refusing to be of any help through valentine's, mother's day and easter..... but we were getting married on easter sunday!!!! she lost the table decorations to a tray of Thorntons Continentals and chocolate easter bunnies :hihi:

The leather dress (http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=32954)
The venue (http://www.athollpalace.co.uk/)

My dream wedding would cost a fiver, and the bride would realise that it is insane to spend more than £50 on a dress you will only ever wear once in your life!

Once? I didn't spend that amount of money on a handmade leather corset and matching boots to only wear them once :suspect:

You can keep your budget wedding Snook - I know what Mr Strix prefers ;)

Originally posted by Strix
Once? I didn't spend that amount of money on a handmade leather corset and matching boots to only wear them once :suspect:

You can keep your budget wedding Snook - I know what Mr Strix prefers ;)

But I don't want to marry Mr Strix... certainly not if he's wearing a handmade leather corset! :)

I just happen to think the whole wedding institution is a great way of screwing people out of money... I am an old romantic, but not when people are trying to fleece me.

:confused: He hasn't got one - and he's not borrowing mine :rant:

Have you seen the photos? :hihi:

Something small with immediate family. In a really nice hotel garden in the snow wearing a long white dress with roses. My sister as a bridesmaid and my dad giving me away. Could then have the reception there as well and everyone could stay overnight and not have to worry about drinking and having to get home.

Marriage can throw up some odd situations.

I read recently that the Anglican Bishop of Hull and his bride to be will not be married in Beverley Minster,- but in a registry office. Both the Bishop and fiancée are divorced and he doesn't want to upset those of his fellow clerics who take a hard line on the marriage of divorcees in church :P

Originally posted by muddycoffee
My dream wedding would be one where I woke up the next morning and would be single again, ralising it was all a horrible dream. :clap:

Ditto muddycoffee!

I don't really like the idea of big weddings......too many people and not very intimate.

It would be a very small ceremony, outside with an ocen view. A little music. Very few people. Myself and the groom would write our own vows and it would be a happy and initmate day. :clap:

Never wanted a big wedding, didnt want a big fuss, so me and him went off to vegas and got married in one of the chapels on the strip, then in the evening we did the night helicopter flight over las vegas, it was just my perfect wedding.

Patong Beach Hotel
Phuket
Thailand

I attended my nephews wedding in this hotel last september. It was the first one they had organised and we had a sunset wedding around the smaller of their 2 pools.
The manager could not do enough for us and if you know about Thai people then you would know that the staff were as happy & excited as we were.

BRILLIANT

The one I've just had! We got married in Germany, civil ceremony in a beautiful room in the old part of the Rathaus Weil im Schoenbuch, 14 guests and quiet meal at a fantastic restaurant in Tuebingen. The following day we went to Bebenhausen for official photographs, church blessing was at the church next to the Rathaus followed by a reception for 60 at a restaurant called Weiler Huette in the forest.

The two days of partying cost approx £2000 (two suits for groom and two brides dresses = approx £2500):suspect:

We had a great time as we restricted the guest list to people who were important to us

Strix your PM box is full.

No family or friend just us, doing it as we want to. We'll tell them all later. Oh and fireworks.

Drive-through, baby! Viva Las Vegas! If it's good enough for Elvis and Priscilla, it's good enough for me.

Oooo my dream wedding?? To get divorced and marry the man of my dreams i think.

To lie and wear a white dress. Don't think the church wedding would be appropriate though probably in an old building with good friends and close family. Lots of flowers and fancy stuff then a HUGE party after with good food and good beer.

Moon

ANYTHING as long as the groom is Viggo Mortensen!

Originally posted by Babooshka
ANYTHING as long as the groom is Viggo Mortensen!

You can't have him he's mine

Soon to be Mrs Mortensen

This is not meant in nastiness of any sort.

I am getting divorced soon. I hope my ex marries the man she is after and that they live a long and happy life together. Sincerely.

Regardless of all bitterness that may still be floating around out there - I hope my ex finally gets the happiness she wants. This is from the heart. But please do not send me an invite to the wedding ;)

Dragon

My perfect wedding would include me and Jessica Simpson!

Originally posted by Ollie
My perfect wedding would include me and Jessica Simpson!

What Bart's sister???

How slow is that a half hearted attempt at being funny 10 weeks after!!!