Ok, I split up with my ex of 5 years 6/7 months ago. We are stuck because we bought a house. The house is on the market, but the market is dead at the moment.

I really want to move on and get my own place and my own space. I think he does too. Can anyone offer any advice on how we might be able to go our own seperate ways quicker? Anyone been in a similer situation? What did you do?

It is really getting me down that I can't move on from this situation. :(

Aw Katsz :( I really hope you get it sorted. My mum and I both work in a solicitors where they do conveyancing - ie. selling houses so I will ask her - I'm new and know nothing - and my colleagues to see if there's anything you can do.

Originally posted by Katsz1179
Ok, I split up with my ex of 5 years 6/7 months ago. We are stuck because we bought a house. The house is on the market, but the market is dead at the moment.

I really want to move on and get my own place and my own space. I think he does too. Can anyone offer any advice on how we might be able to go our own seperate ways quicker? Anyone been in a similer situation? What did you do?

It is really getting me down that I can't move on from this situation. :(

would you be prepared to drop the asking price for a quick sale as that may work.

If it really won't sell you could always rent it out and both rent separately until it does (altough that leaves you still legally tied), or one of you could buy out the other's share, like people do when divorcing.

I'm sorry that you're having these problems. I'm recently split from hubby too, but I'm lucky- the house was mine for 8 years before we married, he was never put on the mortgage because of this, and he's signed away his right to claim a portion of my house in return for me signing away my right to alimony. Either way round, getting out of this link for you is going to involve both of you taking legal advice, so I'd take advantage of the free first consultation offered by most solicitors these days.

I hope that you can get this sorted and begin the process of healing as quickly as possible.

Thanks for all of your advice, it's not easy is it? You just can't move away from the past.

I know that If I ever met somone else and had a serious relationship with them, I would be more careful and not rush into the commitment of a mortgage unsless I was 110% sure.

Anyone else thinking of moving in with a partner, let me give you some advice. Some people will tell you that renting is dead money and suggest you buy. Don't buy rent first because that way you can test the water without having the commitment of a mortgage.