Come on own up, do you have a sneaky look at your partners phone now and again and check the texts?

If you have, have you ever read anything that made you worry. Did you have to ask for an explanation, and how did you tackle the question of why you were reading the text in the first place?

The reason I ask is I know people who have messages that they unbelievable keep on their phones and if their partners ever got hold of them they would be well busted!!!!

It amazes me that people can get caught out by being silly enough not to press delete!!!!:loopy: :loopy:

I keep most of my texts on my phone - only clearing when necessary. If a partner of mine ever wanted to read them - I would be happy for ehr to do so as I have absolutely nothing to hide.

Unfortunately the same is not true of others.

If you are married then it should not matter who reds whos texts, just the same as it generally does not matter who opens whos posts.

Don't care about the typos.

Dragon

We often read each others txt's. Nothing to hide. As for the post........he ALLWAYS gives it to me to open. Good job as well or else no bills would ever get paid seeing as they all come in his name. lol. Bank accounts are all in joint names......and it is allways me that draws any money out etc. He hasn't got a clue what we have. Trust???? I should say.
I never take it for granted though.......I thank my lucky stars that in this day and age of trouble and strife at every turn, we can trust each other implicity and so have no worries on that score. Having said that it has been the same from day one.......and that was over 26 years ago.

Virtually every text message i receive is deleted the moment i've read it. I don't know why i do it. Maybe it's me being paranoid of losing my phone and some scroat having a good read through them :?

Got into trouble twice, when other people have read my texts, resulted in a break up in one instance. I don't mind my partner (s) reading my texts. But they face the consequences. I'm a very honest person. So I'd rather be asked than my partner go behind my back. I feel no need to look at my partner's phone as I trust them implictly.

thats the way i found out my ex was cheating on me. not nice!!!
i only read them coz i had caught her reading mine a few days before but i had nothing to hide...

Ever read your partners text messages & wished you not?

Errrr like no !

Yep. Found out something I shouldn't have, too! Serves me right for looking, serves him right for not covering his tracks well enough. :rolleyes:

Its these people who say that they trust their partners 100% that get hit the hardest when they find out that the other half has been cheating.

I think everyone should take a look at their wife/husbands phones, it is a real eye opener!!! trust me I have read and caught out my ex. he thought he could get away with anything, and even when challenged he still lied and said it was nothing! sorry but when you read " love you and miss you" to another woman how can it be anything other than cheating?

But the other woman IS married, but her husband believes butter wouldn't melt!! more fool him! hope he reads this maybe he will go and look at her phone now???? my reply to him would be TOLD YOU SO!


CAPRICE... DON'T beat yourself up for looking, why live with a liar? I'd rather die lonely and happy than be walked all over and miserable!

Does anyone else keep texts because they think 'What if something happens to this person and I never see them again?' either through them leaving or tragedy.

. . . . I know it sounds a tad paranoid but it does run through my mind sometimes . . . .

Originally posted by liamfh
thats the way i found out my ex was cheating on me. not nice!!!
i only read them coz i had caught her reading mine a few days before but i had nothing to hide...

Yes that how i found out my partner was cheating on me too,I do not normaly read them but it was sent wile we was asleep and we both had the same mobile and i picked it up thinking it was mine and i read it.At first i thought it was a joke or my partner was gay has it had a blokes name and not a womans.But after reading it the second time i relize he was not away for work busness on that night this person was on about,I think to she ment to send it has he told me then he told this woman never send texs or ring him at weekend when i was there ? but in a way she did me a favour by doin so.

this other woman was also under a male name!! but when its signed off with xxx then hes either gay or its a bad cover up!

I delete all my texts as soon as I have read them. then no-one can read them and it also makes your phone load quicker
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Which still all comes down to the point that if you have nothing to hide then it should not bother you if your partner reads your texts. The people who delete all the time or who cry off at their partners reading their texts are usually those who have something to hide.

Even if you are sending texts and receiving them from a virtual stranger, there are surely limitations on what is acceptable. Cyber texts is probably the next topic for discussion.

Anyhow - deal with it how you like. I'll stick by 'If you have nothing to hide then letting someone else read your texts is harmless'.

Dragon

Nothing on my husbands phone to read. He can hardly work out how to pick up a call, let alone text!

I found out what my girlfriend's father was getting for XMAS one year. I thought the prize was fantastic, not to mention hillarious. Untill boxing day when I realised it was for me, 'sky diving lessons' eeek.

Originally posted by Lestat
Does anyone else keep texts because they think 'What if something happens to this person and I never see them again?' either through them leaving or tragedy.

. . . . I know it sounds a tad paranoid but it does run through my mind sometimes . . . .

Slightly off topic but in response to Lestat - my Dad died over nearly two years ago from asbestos poisoning and I still haven't deleted his name off my mobile. My Mum now has his mobile so when she calls me it says Dad - just can't bring myself to delete him, it seems so final! Silly I know cos he is dead so that is pretty final!!! I just like to seee his name now and again.

Looked at my ex boyfriends messages ALL the time, because the first time I looked it was dodgy so I couldn't stop, but then couldn't tell him cuz he'd be mad I looked. Turned out he was a nasty little boy. Needless to say we are not together. But yes, wish I had not looked as it's caused a lot of self questioning and led to low self esteem.

Wouldn't mind at all if someone looked at mine, I have nothing to hide.

Originally posted by intooblivion
... Needless to say we are not together. But yes, wish I had not looked as it's caused a lot of self questioning and led to low self esteem.
And what would have happened if you didn't look?

I ended with my ex 3 days ago because i finally got to read some of these texts she was always getting. I'm devistated and cant believe what she was up to but i'm glad i know as i could have ended up spending many more years without knowing. Who would have thought Amy was a 34 year old man called Martin..