Having had MS - Multiple Sclerosis, now 4 20 years I've began 2 ponder my boyhood days from time 2 time. maybe it's bcuss things are getting bad bodily but I sometimes want 2 want 2 go back...

I think all of us at some point reminisce about the past when everything seemed to be working out just right, in your case i'm assuming that you hark back to the days before you had MS? correct me if I'm wrong, I don't mean any offence.
There are times I look back on old photographs of my childhood and my childrens' childhood and remember how great it was, I seem to gloss over the bullies I knew from my childhood in remembering these "halcyon" times, forgetting the hardships in raising my children as a single parent (finance, childcare)
What's the saying? you don't always know what you've got till it's gone? something like that, but I like to think that I've now learned not to pine for the things I haven't got or thought I'd lost or am never likely to achieve in my life but I try more to appreciate what I have got and enjoy and remember these times now and appreciate that.

well lellyBee, ya right about that old saying and it's so true. yeah I do think of the pre MS days..

Originally posted by Trekker
well lellyBee, ya right about that old saying and it's so true. yeah I do think of the pre MS days.. Your right lellybee you have to be thankfull for what youve got, no matter how little it is or how much.
my father and my brother have both gone now and within the space of a year but i reallised ive got more to loose now i think bout it and so i intend to do as much with my life as poss.

I tend to dredge up troubled parts of my past when I'm in a mood as I tend to go on a long rant about anyone who's ever done wrong by me.

That silly old bat Mrs Freeman at Gleadless Valley School features prominently in most rants... :rant: She was evil, evil I tell you!

Sorry to hear about the MS. I too have a long term health problem and often reminisce about the past. I hadnt made the connection, but perhaps Im harking back to times when I was younger, fitter and felt more alive. But there were some bad times too in the past, like others have alluded to, and we often dont think of these at the same time as our "golden memories". Sometimes part of me , perhaps somewhere in my brain, is still 17, and wants to do what I did when I was 17, but the rest of me cant cope with that.

My partner who is fit and well doesnt understand my interest in the past.

Its nice to have lovely memories though, and to share them with people, as we often do in this forum. :)

when I first knew I had MS it took a while 2 sink in But then came the uncartainty.. After that I became more positive and determined 2 carry on. it's only nowa days bcuss I'm in a wheelchair 24/7 and there's less 2b positive about that I think about my past, like's bin said already, we tend 2 remember the good bits only...

So if you had a time machine, which bit would you visit and why?

thinkin about it I'd say it's probley my mom of my boyhood that I'd like 2 hug and love me at this time...

Thats really sweet, Trekker! I didnt see that coming. You must miss your mom. I imagined you were going to say when you were in your teens and you used to go out with your mates. I would go back to my late teens I think ... Having discovered the delights of the opposite sex, rock music and booze! I would love to have that much energy, even if just for a day

How would you spend this weekend if you went back in time?

no chance of meeting my mom, Both she and dad died in 02/03 respectively, boy.. couldn't cope wi bein a teenager gen!.. dunno realy...

I would go back to my late teens I think ... Having discovered the delights of the opposite sex, rock music and booze! I would love to have that much energy, even if just for a day


Good philosophy, I agree totally....I have not run out of energy yet though and still partying away happily.......you can always continue to discover the opposite sex, rock music and booze.....its a life long learning experience!!

Originally posted by alysonpeach
So if you had a time machine, which bit would you visit and why?

For reasons I'd rather not go into on a public forum, I'd go back 2 years ago when my support workers had management, and were more organised than they are currently.

With all due respect to them, I wouldn't be without them it's just that they've messed me about considerably of late. :rant:

None of these answers are predictable like mine!

Sorry youre having trouble with support workers Rich. I guess that must affect your enjoyment of life somewhat, not getting the help you need.

:mad:

Just looked back at your earlier post, Rich. We all have people in our lives that we would somehow like to obliterate ... sometimes I wish I could be all calm, serene and accepting but some people just make life awful for others. I have one, or two, no three at least I wish didnt exist...

i wouldnt mind a trip back occasionly.meet up with friends long gone, relive the houses, gigs, clubs etc
doubt id want to change anything really, apart from maybe the deaths

Originally posted by Trekker
when I first knew I had MS it took a while 2 sink in But then came the uncartainty.. After that I became more positive and determined 2 carry on. it's only nowa days bcuss I'm in a wheelchair 24/7 and there's less 2b positive about that I think about my past, like's bin said already, we tend 2 remember the good bits only...

My son who is now 36 was diagnosed with M.S in 1997. Since he had to give up work three years ago I have noticed that he, like yourself has started to reflect on his childhood days back in Sheffield. Also like yourself, he tries to keep a positive attitude, though from time to time it is difficult. I am very proud of the way he deals with the disease and I thank god he has a loving and supportive wife. The only people who can truly understand what it's like for him is someone like yourself.

yeah Banksia, when U get something like MS and after the shock of being told so go's away, it's make ya mind up time.. Do I give up n die? or Fight on.. like U say it's important 2 have support.

Sorry to here about your condition trekker. I think i probably spend to much time in the past esp in my early teens when life seemed so simple and easy going.If i could travel back in time id go back to the early 70s and see my parents again , have a chance to say one or to things i didnt tell them when they were alive. Good luck in the future with your condition and treatment:thumbsup:

thanks brooksy, :thumbsup:

We all need our support, but different people seem to seek it in different ways. When I was first told of my condition I was given details of a support group, but I never went because I thought it would be all sick people sitting around moaning ... Im probably way off the mark here, and maybe it would have done me good, but I needed to be around people who had things other than health probs to talk about.

What do others think of "support groups"?

I suffer with quite a severe arthritic condition"not trying to compare it to ms", but the hospital suggested going to therapy groups once a week. They were basically exercises and physio. The problem was a lot of the folk there seemed to use this meeting as more of a social thing and were all pretty much on first name terms. It wasnt for me but suppose some folk may find this helpfull.:|

Originally posted by Trekker
yeah Banksia, when U get something like MS and after the shock of being told so go's away, it's make ya mind up time.. Do I give up n die? or Fight on.. like U say it's important 2 have support.

Yea Trekker,it is important to have support and I truly hope that you do. When my son had to give up his job it was a very difficult time for him. Eventually he started to take an interest in Bonsai growing and now has a nursery of about 200 plants. Sometimes he cannot tend them as well as he would like but he loves his"babies" and it certainly gives him something positive to focus his energy on when he is feeling well enough.
His new hobby helps him feel he can still do and create something worthwhile.

Good on him Banksia:thumbsup:

Originally posted by Banksia
Yea Trekker,it is important to have support and I truly hope that you do. When my son had to give up his job it was a very difficult time for him. Eventually he started to take an interest in Bonsai growing and now has a nursery of about 200 plants. Sometimes he cannot tend them as well as he would like but he loves his"babies" and it certainly gives him something positive to focus his energy on when he is feeling well enough.
His new hobby helps him feel he can still do and create something worthwhile.

I would agree on the importance of a new interest ... I keep trying different things but only keep them up for a short while.

The most worthwhile new interest though is this forum. Its surprising how fast the day goes when youre on here! Thanks everybody for that :clap:

hi banksia,i also live in qld, lived in sheffield 60s,all i can say is keep on being positive,your son is in the best hands,bonsia is a great hobby.the great climate is a help too.

brooksy u need to go out dancing ,bet u remember the top rank

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Originally posted by marinaparkes
hi banksia,i also live in qld, lived in sheffield 60s,all i can say is keep on being positive,your son is in the best hands,bonsia is a great hobby.the great climate is a help too.

My son is in Sydney but it's better for him down there. Extremes of heat and cold seems to badly affect people with neurological diseases.
I didn't live in Woodhouse but some of my husbands family did.
The Gray family at Goathland Place they were in the area throughout the sixties.