I am new to the dating scene and trying to find someone who I can spend time with, I am not really after a full on commitment and I am useless at chatting ladies up (before you even consider suggesting going to a pub/club) I have tried singles bar in the past but yet again you need to have some ability at speaking to females, I am totally useless at that, so, yet again, no good....

If I met someone through the internet, then that would be great, I have no problems putting what I need to say on the PC, but in person to person I freeze up.

So, anyone know of any really good dating sites for the UK, preferably ones that are free and include Sheffield within their search parameters would be great, I am already on match.com and dating direct, but not getting much joy so far, I need to get on as many as possible to be sure of some form of reply.

What I am looking for is company with as much affection as possible, lol..... everyone on here, well, mostly everyone knows of me, 35, male, pic is on hot or not...

Midsummerseve.com is a the best one I've found. I met my wife on there. :thumbsup:

P.S. Its a free site, and you can contact other members etc for free, unlike a lot of other sites!

You can register on lots of sites for free but it limits you, usually the best you can send is a 'wink' or a 'hello'. Also if someone sends you a message you can't reply.

Try Friends Reunited Dating and Yahoo Personals if you're intent on going down this route.

But don't hold your breath.

Try contacting user xafier; he set up a free Sheffield Singles site a while ago, but I can't find a link at the moment.

Good luck!

K x

Just done a bit of wading through old threads and it seems that his site is offline at the moment - sorry.

Originally posted by Kristian
Just done a bit of wading through old threads and it seems that his site is offline at the moment - sorry.

its down permantly most likely... wasn't getting enough interest and I dont have time to improve it... I'm content being single now, I've resided to the fact there is no woman out there for me... know any nice men Kristian? :hihi: (just kidding, dont swing that way really)

Thanks for the help so far guys, quick response, as usual, heh.

If any young ladies on this forum are still single and are looking for a guy who is classified as a "nice guy" then get in touch.

Any more website suggestions will be welcomed, I am sick and tired of sitting in the house on my own or skulking around town all by my merry little self, no one to chat to and strangers give ya funny looks if you try and chat to them, lol.

http://www.lookitsme.co.uk/

I personally am thinking of stopping the *looking on tinternet coz im too shy* route - it's not really working for me. I guess i'll just need to take up heavy drinking, to pluck up some *dutch courage* when im out !! :D

Well PaulineBHG, your welcome to PM me and chat to me that way, I am still trying to find someone to spend time with on dates and such like, if any females are interested, they can see my improved picture on www.wbowns.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/capture6.jpg

If interested, PM me

Well, no more suggestions, shucks, I was hoping someone might have a guaranteed idea, I am losing space to bookmark all these dating sites and forgetting which ones I need to check, so, one in particular would be a great help, alternatively, if any females from the forum are looking for a guy, PM me (I promise I won't pester anymore, lol)

Hi all, are there any single females on the forum looking for a "nice guy" yes they do exist, I am living proof, now, guys, I am not slagging off the male race, but, I get the impression that a lot of guys treat their partners wrong by cheating on them and expecting them to do everything for them, cooking, cleaning and the rest.

Well, I am totally the opposite, I believe the female race should be given the highest respect, they have enough problems to deal with in their life without us men making things worse for them.

So, what I am asking is, are there any single females out there who want to be swept off their feet and wined and dined and romanced, if so, PM me post haste.

I'm honestly not trying to be disrespectful (you know there will be trouble when someone says that, but I am in Ernest), but perhaps the women out there might like to know, if you are as perfect as you sound, why didn't your previous relationship work. Surely any woman would have been crazy to give up such a package?

You've posted quite a few similar things recently. Think you need to chill about it a little........it rather looks like you're getting....errrr.....desperate.

I'm sure the ladies will back me up in saying they're aren't attracted to 'desperate' men. They want a bit of confidence, but not cockiness, in a man.

Good luck anyway.

I'm sure the ladies will back me up in saying they're aren't attracted to 'desperate' men. They want a bit of confidence, but not cockiness, in a man. [/B]


TOTALLY TRUE!! Chill here....woman seriously HATE and can SMELL miles off a man who is desperate.....the Casbah is full of them every Saturday night and they never get dates.....
however, I disagree about cockiness, I think cockiness in a controlled and playful way combines wonderfully with self confidence and puts you utterly in control of any situation.

No one really needs dating sites or speed dating events....all you have to do is walk down the street and catch someones eye.....my personal favourite haunt is Division Street on a Saturday afternoon, possibly the most BEAUTIFUL selection of Sheffield ladies to be found.........and the friendliest as well.

There is so much paranoia around about how to meet the opposite sex.....just be cool and with a certain hint of aloofness, not begging for attention as it turns ALL women off........

Originally posted by goldenfleece
TOTALLY TRUE!! Chill here....woman seriously HATE and can SMELL miles off a man who is desperate.....the Casbah is full of them every Saturday night and they never get dates.....
however, I disagree about cockiness, I think cockiness in a controlled and playful way combines wonderfully with self confidence and puts you utterly in control of any situation.


I knew someone would back me up.:thumbsup:

Suppose it depends on your defintion of cockiness but I agree with the self-confidence thing. You must be confident about yourself as a person........be happy with yourself and like yourself.

Someone will turn up. Just don't go looking for it though cos it doesn't happen and you can end up getting even more disillusioned about your situation.

As Goldenfleece said.....catch someones eye....its all in the eyes. ;)

Im glad some of yous find it so easy to *catch a girls eye*!! Shame all you guys look for is a *nice ass* (see "what men like" thread ;) Thats why ive been single forever i guess......

I would be happy with anything going at the moment, life is too short to be picky, I am getting fed up and sick of sitting in the house alone, I really want to go out and do things, but, not on my own, that would be worse than being in alone, I know I sound desperate and that is off putting, but, at least you know that there is a guy here who isn't going to be too fussy and ya might get to spend time with someone nice and romantic and get treat properly, so, c'mon gals, PM me.

I have been tempted to wear a neon sign saying "Single guy here" to see if I get any responses, lol.

Frankly Kry10, I suspect that you're wasting your time looking for eligible females on here, you've already said far too much and desperation is not attractive to either sex.

From the general tone of your posts on this subject, I doubt that dating sites are the answer in your case either. What I would suggest is that you do something to widen your circle of friends... Join a hobby-club, a night-school class, a social group of some sort, any organisation that takes your interest and where people meet regularly.

Don't look for a girlfriend, look for friends instead... of both sexes. Meet as many different people as you possibly can, be sociable, friendly, talkative, show an interest in what they have to say. Put what you want so badly (and understandably, I don't criticise you for that), to the back of your mind.

By meeting and mixing with a large amount of people, you greatly increase your chances of meeting someone with whom you're compatible. Don't expect immediate results, even if it takes a while before you meet the right person, at least it'll get you out of the house and give you a lot less time to sit and feel sorry for yourself!

The above may sound harsh but it's meant to help... :)