i have a friend who has 2 children by previous marriage and shes expecting her 2nd child by her boyf after xmas, the thing is she cant cope with the 2 children from previous marriage because they dont listen to her what she tells them to do.

now im worried because shes getting stressed and its not good for the baby she gets sick easy she wants to set them some rules for them but scared if she does they wont come down anymore.

they are simple rules like:1: when they get up make their beds and tidy their room

2:never come in their parnts room especially if shes expecting and is very tired and wants rest.

3: bathtime at 8 and bedtime by 9

4:no arguing,fighting,shouting or running about in the house.

5 and 6 when they have finished with playing with their toys,colouring set or watching dvds pack things away before do anything else.

is that a bit too much????

the only thing she can do if they dont listen she cant have thm at weekends at all.please help!!!!!

Sounds fair, as long as it's followed through if they don't do it, and if they do do it they get lots of praise. How old are the children?

6 and 9 she is gonna reward them prize for everytime they get points for doing the house rules.:thumbsup: :)

Originally posted by ilaria
6 and 9 she is gonna reward them prize for everytime they get points for doing the house rules.:thumbsup: :) look at it from the kids point of view,they only get to see their mom at weekends and when they get there they are given a set of rules to obey

its an adventure for the kids,having two homes two different play areas so i should think they will be a little boisterous at first, introduce the rules gradually then they will except them more easily, if your friend explains to them that its hard for her to keep cleaning up after them and would appreciate their help i think this would get a better result than pinning up a set of rules that they must live by

ive tried bribery,threats,treats etc but it lapsed after a while, then i talked to them and explained im ill,tired and some times cant play or run around after them,it worked out ok

good luck with them :thumbsup:

they are great kids and she loves them so much but as well as they listen to their dad they also need to listen to her shes expecting their half brother/sister and doesnt need the hassle she just wants them to be good like other kids she knows. last week on sunday she told the son off because he hit his cousin with a metal pole on his back and the cousin has a mark when she told him off he pinched her so hard she cried and called her a b*****d.

My nephew has a couple of kids that often talk back to him and his wife (sassy)..iinstead of saying "Don't talk to your mum that way" he says "Don't talk to MY WIFE that way" she does the same, letting the kids know who came first long before them.

im pretty sure that their stepmom isnt controlling them shes letting them do whatever they want including swearing.:rant: :shakes:.