i know someone who is with their 2nd or 3rd cousin,i think its wrong ,what do others think:)

Morally, ethically and legally there is nothing wrong with it. Dunno what the problem is to be honest.

Dragon

I second that ......

When I was younger, and did not know any better, i was SO moralistic but now .....

I only have two ....(as long as it is consenting adults)

Personally no cheating and no drugs ..... all the rest live and let live

If they have babies can I buy the one with two heads? :o :confused:

Originally posted by pauline
i know someone who is with their 2nd or 3rd cousin,i think its wrong ,what do others think:)

I thought this was obligatory in West Virginia.

For second and third cousins, I would not have thought that the biological consequences for the offspring of such unions would necessarily be negative, but i could be wrong.

I cant see anything wrong with it gto be honest

if they are happy good on em brother sister type stuff is a hige no no but 2nd or 3rd cousins I reckon is ok.

The only moral I live by is treat someone like you would like to be treated cant say it works much though.

Legally you can marry your first cousin. You can now marry your father or mother in law too.

Just look at the family tree of the royal families of most of Europe if you want to see a bit of inbreeding. Prince Philip (he of 'Greek' descent) is the closest living relative of the long-dead Russian royal family yet he fathered the heir to the British throne, who apparently hasn't suffered any inbreeding abnormailities (?).

Since I have no cousins it would be hard for me to consider making that choice, but I'm sure I'd rather people were happy in their lives than making them unhappy if they fancy a (genetically) distant relative.

I don't see a problem.

Biologically it's too far away to cause significant issues (and even closer relations don't vastly increase the risk of genetic abnormalities for most people) and legally it's not an isuse.

It's up to the two people concerned. If our society was so perfect that we could worry about loving relationships between people who are distantly related, then so be it. But as it is, there's OODLES of other things I'd get wound up about before sticking my head in there!

With other people's relationships I tend to adopt the policy of 'fools rush in where angels fear to tread' and stay out of them! :)

Joe

Originally posted by JoeP
I don't see a problem.

Biologically it's too far away to cause significant issues (and even closer relations don't vastly increase the risk of genetic abnormalities for most people) and legally it's not an isuse.


Surely most people don't have a clue who their third cousins are anyway? :suspect: It's a pretty distant relationship.

StarSparkle

A friend of a friend is marrying her first cousin - but it's ickier cos they were raised more like brother and sister - v.close family... They've practically been disowned and she has had 3 miscarriages already...

They even look alike - bit wierd, but you can't help who u fall in love with I guess!

Morals are quite individual and vary among different cultures and generations.

I don't think these are really 'morals' but I do have a few self-imposed guidelines I try to live by:

1. Try not to hurt anyone or be nasty to anyone, even when they may not be being nice to me.

2. Live and let live - so long as no-one is being hurt.

3. Be a good friend and you will have good friends.

4. You only get out of life what you put into it.

5. Life is too short to hold grudges and be miserable.

6. Life is all about the journey - not the destination.

:D

1. Treat people with the same respect that you would expect from them

2. NEVER touch ANY alcohol when driving (a simple one I know, but there are more people than you think that actually do this)

3. Be honest, most of the time ;)

i would think its ok ,i mean if its good enough for the royals then its good enough for the rest of us

Originally posted by medusa666
Legally you can marry your first cousin. You can now marry your father or mother in law too.


How can you marry your Mother in Law? :confused:
If you have a Mother in law, then you are already married. :loopy:

Originally posted by pauline
i know someone who is with their 2nd or 3rd cousin,i think its wrong ,what do others think:)

Are they members of royalty? If so they are marrying a bit too far from the bloodline there. :)

Personally I don't see a problem. So far out is little or no blood relative.

I cannot understand the probllem.
If someone wants to live with their 2nd or 3rd ccousin so what.
What is immoral about this
The laws of who marries who, were only man made to stop breeding between close relatives so as to cut out genetic abnormalities.
So where does immorality come into it.
i think of morals as the code that you live by, probably individual to each of us, a line that some may cross and others not.
hazel

Being able to cross the line of morality held by others does not make it right to do so. There are certain issues which are taken as true because such follows the wishes of the majority as well as there being little reason for people to be subject to those morals.

Very dangerous quicksand to walk upon when talking about morals or ethics as these are much more subjective than issues of law.

In my original reponse to this thread I was stating my opinion that as I see nothing wrong then I do not have a problem with it. If Pauline does have a problem with it then that is her choice and she needs deal with it as she sees fit collowing her own set of morals.

Dragon

I think people's moral choices are a matter for them. It is necessary to obey the law but what people do beyone that is their choice and not for others to judge.

The trouble with morals is they encourage judgementalism but people who set themselves up to judge others actions.

i would never judge people and beleive we are all responable for our own actions,maybe it was the way i was brought up ,there was just lines that wasnt meant to be crossed,anyway many thanks for your opinions:)

Don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you.

This is different from the biblical version - anyone who has bought their wife a football season ticket for her birthday will know this.

Is it morally OK for brother and sister to marry if one or both are sterile?

morals? whats that then? :P

I think there are cases of brothers and sisters who have been adopted meeting up and being attracted to each other.
They feel comfortablewith each other, not knowing they share the same genes.
So I believe the laws of matrimony were made to prevent this happening to ensure a heathy mix of genes.
If the population was suddenly annialated with few female survivers I believe all these laws would go to pot.

This is why plants and trees make sure of scattering their seeds afar in order get different stock, if thats the right word,

hazel
Thats how I see it---- probabley wrong

I don't see anything morally wrong in marrying your cousin, but then again, I am my own grandpa.