I think its probably because we remain annonimous,and we get some impartial advice.Ive had many replies from Forum members,that has changed the way ive thought about things,especially when that member is having a hard time,or is ill. I can only say to the members, thank you for being who you are, and doing what you do !

It's the anonimity and the detachment, I think. People care about you, but at the same time you can take the advice given (or not) without having it rammed down your throat all the time!

There has been quite a lot of work done by psychologists on this question - online communities have been around for about 25 years in one form or another so it's a question that gets asked a lot.

And in my case, it's because I'm seriously short of relatives!! :)

Joe

Yes.... all my forum buddies were there for me when I felt a bit down - see here (http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59086). What a nice bunch of people. :clap:

Originally posted by JoeP
And in my case, it's because I'm seriously short of relatives!! :)

Me too. Aside from the obvious (mum, dad, brother and sis in law) I've only got one grandparent, an uncle and an aunt - and I barely ever see them!

Still, there will shortly be an addition to the ranks! My sister in law is due this week! A whole new mind to corr... mould and shape....

I think it *is* the anonymity factor, and the fact that the advice given can be more objective (based on what is told to us in the first place)....

I think it goes to show that most people are kind, caring and genuinely nice. If someone has got a problem then folks are prepared to help out if they can.

And long may it last. :)

Also remember its easier here to ignore people and you dont have to send them xmas cards :P

Originally posted by Grissom
Also remember its easier here to ignore people and you dont have to send them xmas cards :P Ive never sent christmas cards for the last four years. Just told everyone,I was giving the money to charity instead, (which I do). They still send theirs to me,which maybe because they dont realise that I havent sent them one ! I think its a waste of time and money.(Im a misery guts.I hate Christmas)

Sometimes we need advice on how to handle a family situation from somebody impartial, who can step back and look at the problem without getting bogged down in the nitty gritty of the inter-relationships of the 'characters'.

Do you honestly expect a sensible answer about how to handle your sister's back stabbing or your brother's drinking, or your father 's womanising (just examples!!) if you ask your Mum for advice? Nah, she'd have to believe you were the dishonest one for saying such things - the forum can be more objective, and often can provide 'got the t-shirt' advice :thumbsup:

If you have a relative suffering from something incurable, you can't always talk to family about your fears - when everybody else is being strong and don't have the emotional energy to bolster you too. The forum is a great resource for emotional support in these situations too :thumbsup: