Are there any other sheffield people out there who are single again with or without children and looking to meet their soul mate?? :lol:

Yes Jan am single. Found a soul mate but unfortunately he's already spoken for so we can never be more than friends. So the search begins again. Question is how and where as the last one literally fell into my lap.

sorry can't tell you how and when, I keep being told "that it will happen when you least expect it" aint happened so far! Think I'm gonna grow into an old spinster :cry:

Dont look too hard for "him" - as long as your happy, what is the rush?

shocker, I'm 40 next thats the rush lol

I got divorced at 49 - ended up broke. After 18 years married.
Re-started career - rediscovered enjoying myself. - Played the field - Did exactly as I pleased. Could write a hell of a good book.
40 would have been better!

I am me, I like being me...and I don't need anybody to make me somebody.
Wise words from I don't know whom!
What's the big deal with needing to find a partner??

I dont need anybody to make me somebody either. That is not what finding a partner is all about. Its about having someone to share your life with. To share the good times and support each other through the bad times. Some people are happy to spend their whole life alone, others prefer to share it with someone. Its an individual thing. No big deal. Just personal preference. A partner can offer things that your children or friends cannot. Another wise saying NO MAN IS AN ISLAND.

THIS ONE IS

i'm fat enough to be an island....

After twenty years of marriage I found myself alone, then a few unfortunate experiences later, alone again.

Then came the hard part, I did 30 years alone looking for a suitable partner and all I could find was rubbish, believe me it made me so ill I thought I wouldn't survive.

Five years ago I met my ideal partner and life is and has been wonderfull this is my last few years but the lord has at last answered my prayers and I am at peace.

The moral of this story-----------Keep Trying.

a word of warning, be careful out there, there are a lot of wierd people about these days!

shocker, I'm 40 next thats the rush lol


There's worse things things than being single. Are you happy?

Ive been single for nigh on 3 years now. Im not looking as I dont have time, plus Ive tried dating websites etc to no avail.

To be fair me and the kids aren't missing anything and we have a nice life without the added hassle of a bloke, don't get me wrong if it happens, it happens but for now singledoms not all that bad. :D :bigsmile:

I've been single for 5 years now. I've got to the point where I would need to change a lot to fit into a relationship! Judging on the experiences of people around me, I'm better off without a man anyway... I am quite content with the situation TBH, if someone special comes along then OK, but I'm not beating myself up or being miserable about it.
What really annoys me are the people who keep asking me why I haven't found a man yet, as if by being single I am somehow subnormal. Grrrr.

I myself am now single, but, compared to a year ago when I was going through the stage of being desperate and feeling that I "needed" someone in my life, now I just "want" someone, it might not seem like a big difference, but, this time around I am happy and confident in my own surroundings and happy with my life, and if someone comes along, great, if not, then so be it, not bothered either way, just happy with whatever happens.

Yes Jan am single. Found a soul mate but unfortunately he's already spoken for so we can never be more than friends. So the search begins again. Question is how and where as the last one literally fell into my lap.


I too met my sole mate 9 years ago, but he is gay and we are still very close freinds even after all these years and we both seem to know when one anouther need each other, it is like we mind read each others minds even when we not together and also we been through the same things, But i love him all the same and we both tell each other that all the time. I been single now 4ys this march after my last relationship that lasted 5 years and i have a child from another long term realtionship i was in. Ive not been out to look for no one even tho my freinds all have partners. Its just ive not found who im looking for or maybe im not as desperate to be with anyone like i was befor and from my last x im more wary of who i date now.

I've been single for 5 years now. I've got to the point where I would need to change a lot to fit into a relationship! Judging on the experiences of people around me, I'm better off without a man anyway... I am quite content with the situation TBH, if someone special comes along then OK, but I'm not beating myself up or being miserable about it.
What really annoys me are the people who keep asking me why I haven't found a man yet, as if by being single I am somehow subnormal. Grrrr.

i feel the same way as you do! I do miss little things, like cuddles and little chats but i have been out on couple dates with lovely guys who would be perfect and i just did not want to know as felt they were invading my space! i am quite happy to be single, do get the odd few days where i wish i was not but then realise i am happy just now!

Still here, still single, always looking, just strolling through life and waiting for the right woman to grab me and say 'OY YOU, YOU'RE THE ONE!'

:D

Single proper for four and a half years now. In that time I've had short relationships of a few months, few dates ones and some dates that I've actually rang my mate to get me out of (god i'm evil). In all of it I've realised that I'm not prepared to just settle for someone because they are nice nor do i want someone to settle for me because they think i'm nice too.

One of my ex boyfriends is a prime example of this. We are both still good mates, love each other to bits as in fondness and have sexual attraction but we both don't want to be having zimmer frame races with each other and I'm too old to play the 'you'll do until someone better comes along' game.

I want the lot.
I want someone to be my best mate, who makes me laugh and smile every day, who drives me mad, who intrigues me, who makes me question my own thoughts and beliefs, who has their own mind and is not a yes man, who wants to go out and experience life but is content with the simple things as well. They see life as one great big adventure that they want to have me with them on. I want them to sometimes take care of me but respect my independent streak as well. The sexual bit as well is important but I've put it last as, as i've said, if that's all you've got it doesn't work.
Oh and it would be nice if they looked like Kelly Jones as well but a girl can be flexible on that. :hihi:
I have met other people who i've felt this way about short term - unfortunately one already had someone (he admitted it was bad timing) one didn't feel the same about me but it took him a year and a half to work out :( and the third turned out to be already in a fifteen year relationship and was a lying sod although i do genuinely think he liked me.
So it's not hung upness on my long term ex (who i did have all this with for many years and I'm starting to accept will probably never happen for me again.)

My problem is... the guys who i tend to like are in their late twenties, the guys who like me are in their forties or early twenties (i.e. think life is over or hasn't started yet) and all the thirty somethings want twenty somethings!

I'm not ageist at all so if I've offended the forties or early twenties what i mean is most twenty somethings want to play the field... (wish i had now - go for it whilst you can) and forties want someone to stay home and watch telly with which would bore me senseless.

I can meet other women who I have loads in common with and have a good laugh with ... why not men!!

a word of warning, be careful out there, there are a lot of wierd people about these days!]

I know, I married one! I am in the process of becoming single again at 48. I doubt that I will be in too much of a hurry to find another partner, this time!

I'm on my own and i like it that way for now anyway until the right man turns up. I'm not looking for him though it will happen when it happens. Meanwhile i will enjoy good nights out with my friends:)