wondeed really.

since I was at junior school i never had one best friend but a grouopl of friends and never really got that close to them. obviously girlfriend wise not.

do people have a very close best friend or a soul mate?

I'd say my best mate is my partner...

I've had 2 really close friends in my life...

Miss J who i went to school down South with... She moved back to Leeds in 1987... got back in touch via Friends Reunited...

Miss Y who i became very good friends with through work... She was my team Leader... unfortunately she's down South... Miss her heaps :( still in touch tho via internet & phone...

I dont think i could find a Miss Y replacement in Sheffield... our friendship was special... she was a true 'Girl' Friend...

I feel as you get older its not so easy to make new friends as of school days & college etc...

Also i have moved around quite a bit... not being in the same place as my old school friends etc... so have had to make new ones each time i've moved... never gets any easier...

I did have really close friends but people move away, you drift apart & I think I am more as you describe now really. I know many people without feeling that close.

OMG Robbie, I feel quite depressed about this revelation. :(

I'm going to have to have another go at the slogan game to cheer myself up. :)

I must admit I don't have a soul mate but groups of friends...to be honest with housework, job, hubby and 3 kids I don't think I have time for a soulmate 'friend'...I just go out with friends....but then I wouldn't say my Hubby is my best friend either...we are close but somethings are meant for the female domain...;)

Mr Strix is my best friend :)

I never did quite get that 'girlie' thing :suspect:

Sometimes I wonder what it is all about, but then I find my toes curl when the conversation turns to eyelash plucking, or I collapse with boredom at the mention of anything that might make the pages of Heat magazine :roll:

This discussion has been done before quite recently. See the thread: Do we need best/close friends? (Sorry, but I don't know how to provide the link- can anyone help me out?).

Originally posted by redrobbo
This discussion has been done before quite recently. See the thread: Do we need best/close friends? (Sorry, but I don't know how to provide the link- can anyone help me out?).

Sure - it's here: http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=49974

Originally posted by redrobbo
This discussion has been done before quite recently. See the thread: Do we need best/close friends? (Sorry, but I don't know how to provide the link- can anyone help me out?).

Sure - it's here: http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=49974

Originally posted by t020
Sure - it's here: http://www.sheffieldforum.co.uk/showthread.php?s=&threadid=49974

Was the second one for good measure t020 :wink:

redrobbo:
Do a search for the thread you want to link to, right click on the URL and select 'Copy' from the menu. Go back to the thread you want to post the link in and select 'Add Reply'. Right click and select 'Paste'

That's it :)

If you want to leave a link with wording of your own choice:
As above but once you go to add reply type [url= then paste again and type ] Now type the words you want to appear! and then type [ /url]

So it looks like this:

[url= www.whatever the link address.com]The words you want to appear here[ /url]

I added spaces so you could see it.

Originally posted by vidster
Was the second one for good measure t020 :wink:


:hihi:

My connection went slow after submitting reply so I got impatient and pressed it again and eventually found it had replied twice. :(

I've never really had a best friend, I was a bit of a loner at school, apart from my girlfriend (who proceded to cheat on me several times while we were together, even when we got engaged, she then left me for someone else). I have a few friends from school I still speak to, but not very often. I was usually the one that got picked on because of the condition I had at the time (Alopecia), butt of all the jokes etc. People can be very nasty at that age. Having that from being age 5 to 16 wasnt the most plesant experiance. (if you fancy a laugh, click here (http://www.linuxmod.co.uk/misc/images/age10.jpg)) No prizes for guessing which is me.

I guess I sorta prefer not getting attatched to people sometimes, it's easier that way (or maybe I've just got used to it).

Joel

Have you been lonely all your life?

I would just have said "hell yes :( ", but it was too short....

Originally posted by Joelc
(if you fancy a laugh, click here (http://www.linuxmod.co.uk/misc/images/age10.jpg)) No prizes for guessing which is me.

Joel

And what are we supposed to be laughing at dude?

I had one or two close friends at school and a couple of close friends who lived very close to me. I'm still in touch with one of these friends and would love to get in touch with two of them from school (they're not on friends re-united). But often I felt lonely when I was younger.

I remember a school teacher telling us that as we get older, our number of good friends get fewer.

I must be the odd one out because I have quite a few 'very good friends'.

One - an ex-colleague from over 12 years ago - we still keep in touch and never stop talking when we meet or phone.

Another ex-colleague who I don't see as often as we used to, but going to her birthday party on Saturday night and can't wait to catch up.

In Sheffield though, I've met my closest 'adult' friends. There's a group of four of us that meet up quite frequently. We are a close group and each of us knows we can count on any of the others to be there for us - at any time, day or night.

I met another really close friend (she's the wife of one of hubby's work friends) and we hit it off straight away. In fact the second time we met someone asked how long we'd known each other, they thought we'd known each other for years! We're a bit like long lost twins.

My other close friend is someone I only met a few years ago. In many respects we are total opposites, but we are also like soul mates and I miss her terribly now she's moved away and we only see each other every week or so.

I have another good friend and we support each other but don't socialise quite so much.

I've got at least another 3-4 really good friends. So I guess, in fact I know, I am really, really lucky.

I have the idea that as we come into this world alone and we go out of it alone, the only true person you can rely on is yourself.
Once you have learnt these facts then you can have friends.
Keeping in mind the fact that these friiends may not be as strong as you and may fail you in times of need.
So basicly you are on your own in the journey through life.
hazel

I too don't have a Best Friend as such. I would never trust any one person enough to class them as a Best Friend.

I do have good friends though and one male friend in particular who although he lives abroad I think he would be there for me if I ever needed him I suppose he would be the one person nearest to a best friend I have got.

I agree with Hazel in the fact that you can ever only really rely on yourself.

I believe in each of us having a soul mate. Seems that you and your soul mate do not necessarily have to be together, and sometimes it works out that you aren't going to be with them.

As for friends - the other thread says it all really - some people have them and believe in them, but perhaps wiser people know that friends are just people who rely on you etc.

You do not know what loneliness really is until you have met your soulmate and then they have gone away.

Dragon

My best freind was fab we had such a connection, and we had the best times together, she was there for me when my ex hubby tried to pop me off the mortal coil, I was there for her through her many doomed relationships. we shared many cool moments together we used to go on day trips to tottie spot !
She did meet a chap in the end from down south I was really happy for her although when she moved down there to be with him I was a little sad to lose her but nonetheless It was her chance for happyness.
we did keep in regular contact letters phonecalls ect.. then she did the most hurtfull cruel thing to me in the world.
She phoned me to tell me they were both moving back up here. telling me how glad she was to be able to spend time with me again, and I was glad she was comming too.. then out of the blue she gets up here and completely ingnores me I called up to her house and she was sat in the window I saw her. she got her mom to tell me she was not at home. I left it at that sent her a final text to say dont worry wont be bothering you again.
It was the most hurtfull thing anyone has ever done to me, and I can quite honestly say that I have been lonley ever since rather than risk being hurt like that again, I just lost my trust in people.

I have had several best friends during the course of my life, but it's true what other posters have said, that you do "loose" people as you move through life - now my boyfriend is my best friend and I never want to loose him.

My husband is my true soulmate; he is wonderful.
I am also very lucky to have some lovely friends. I still have a very close relationship with my best friend from school, we are more like family really.

I have many super people in my life that I am lucky enough to call friends.

Life is good. x

There have been times in my life when I've been desperately lonely, but now I'd say I'm very lucky, I seem to have a lot of people around me who I trust. I have a partner who is my best-friend. As well as a really close buddy who's always been there for me. I also have four close drinking buddies.

High school was the most lonely time of all, as I never seemed to fit in, ended up hanging around with the Christian crowd just to make friends. And surprisingly the only person from school to stay in touch was one of my Christian friends, who at the time I didn't consider a friend.

I used to think there was no such thing as a best friend, either someone was your best friend or not a friend at all. But now I'm inclined to think there are friends for different situations.