How would you feel if you had spent four years with sum1 then all of a sudden they jilted you so they could be with another bloke and also told you that only after 4 days of being in bed with you and saying they love you they are in someone elses bed and telling you all about it.........This is what has happened to me in the last week...



HOW WOULD YOU REALLY FEEL???????

How would you feel if you went out with someone and one night went to her house and found out she already had a long term boyfriend and she told you she never loved you and said she was pregnant with your child only to find out it was all a lie.

Murderous :rolleyes:

Some people just don't deserve your affections. Some people you are better off without.

I know this won't help in the least bit today - not whilst you are hurting this badly, but eventually (hopefully) you'll regard this as a lucky escape (assuming the fact that you didn't mention children means that there aren't any involved)

I hope your life quickly shows you it had a better plan for you than you did ;)

thanks for replying its good to know im not the only one out there

you arnt the first mate, and you wont be the last,ive just lost 16 years worth, sod em

and i thought i had it bad you got to all admit it hurts first off

yes mate it does bloody hurt big time.....still does...just don't do owt daft its not worth it...trust me

yes it does but you do get over it, make the best use of your mates, work and family,keep busy,it always creeps back into your mind in idle moments so push it away,

been trying that but when i go home at night and there is just me there it is real hard not to thing of anything else still i got invited out on a meet 2moz night so im going to go and try and enjoy myself i need some new friends.

Plenty of single women might be going ;) go get em tiger

Not every woman is bad you know....I've had my fair share of crappy males....nice to know you not all bad..;)

You will get there guys, we're not all bad! It hurts like hell at first, but you will move on. Hope it starts to feel better sooner rather than later.

Thinking of you
Raine X

Oh no, I really feel for you. That's a terrible thing to happen. You must be really hurting right now. I feel ever so sad for you.

Go out to the meet tomorrow night & enjoy yourself & keep yourself busy.

:(

Originally posted by Shiesh
Not every woman is bad you know....I've had my fair share of crappy males....nice to know you not all bad..;)

I agree with shiesh..i had my fair share of bad bf.spesh the one that ended 2ys ago i was with for 5ys.
It does hurt,but as time goes on it gets better.ii see it as all people can hurt or fall for anouther person so that life.Get your self out with ur mates,and think of what you dont miss about ur x as much as what you do miss,this help me get over it a lot.
Dont let it put you off from dateing anouther person.but i would say wait a bit.dont re-bound as that can make you feal worst off imo.

Wasn't this thread about us guys feeling sorry for our selfs..u women have your PMT thread to go too ;)

rude_boy i know its hard but it does get easier as time goes on,, been through it all myself twice!

go out to the meet and have a great time :D :D

Originally posted by Jon
Wasn't this thread about us guys feeling sorry for our selfs..u women have your PMT thread to go too ;)

:o How very dare you...:P

Originally posted by Rude_Boy
HOW WOULD YOU REALLY FEEL???????
Like this! (http://dynopt.cheme.cmu.edu/wrooney/images/dung.jpg)
Of course women seem particularly handy at applying this (http://www.tatachemicals.com/0_products/food_additives/images/salt_shaker.jpg) to these (http://www.nsvl.org.uk/resources/media/wounds/graze.jpg)

You deserve some TLC (http://ww1.prweb.com/prfiles/2004/11/29/183857/TLC_box_logo.jpg) right now ;)

Thats a bit mean but never mind.
I know what ur goin through rude_boy...and others.
The best thing is to keep busy and have some me time now and again.
Or just have loads of me time but leave a space for others so u dont become secluded.
Us women arnt all bad xx
Oh and back to the subject - i would feelm, cheated, unloved and be wondering what was wrong with me - what did this person have that i didnt?

Two things, one has already been said more than once, keep yourself busy and active so you have less chance to sit and brood. Secondly don't be afraid to ask friends for help, let them know you're feeling horrible and you'd appreciate being contacted and asked after every so often.
It will get better in time but you do need distractions for the time being.

I ain't hear to post a sob story. I just wanted to say that I was randomnly clicking through the site and found this thread and goddamit it warmed my heart to see someone open up in a public forum and be accepted and consoled. Theirs hope for us all yet and rude boy **** happens but the pain can be a teacher, some people seem lucky in life and don't have to learn the hard lessons, those that do however live more fully.

I don't know anyone who has not been let down and hurt by someone they loved and thought loved them. Sadly, these things happen. It's horrible, it's painful and so very sad.

But, head up, smile, and don't let this get the better of you. There are so many people out there. Friendly, lovely people. But they are not going to come knocking on your door. You need to join us on a meet, socialise, expand your social circle and try to have fun.

hi rude i myself have felt this sting before i caught my firtst love with my little sister so i know sorrta how you feel. but time will stop it and you will beggin to rebuild your life. im glad your commin 2morrow and i hope we cheer u up just for a couple of hrs

i wish you all the luck in the world and i hope things improve for you in the near futre rude

could b worse , she could have blended your old fella ..

Even the ones that don't ever show it (i.e- Me) have had their heart broken.. Just keep your chin up, spend time with friends and family.. Go out alot, do anything as long as you're not sat at home feeling sorry for yourself because that won't do you any favours, it'll just make it harder to let go.

After four and a half years of marriage I came home from work to find my missus gone and the kids as well. Hurts. Hurts alot - even now after 6 months have passed.

Dunno what she is doing or where she is. Have no idea about the kids.

Work like hell and it doesn't stop you thinking about them. There comes a time when you are too tired to work, and then you think about them. That's when it creaps up on you and grabs you by the wicket stumps.

Gets easier most folk say - especially the females ... hmmmmm! Still waiting for it to get easier.

I empathise with you mate. But you will just have to wait to see where the road of your life leads you.

Dragon

Originally posted by Dragon
Dunno what she is doing or where she is. Have no idea about the kids.

Isnt that a matter for the police?? you have to see your kids!

The police cannot do anything. She is the childs mother and the law favours the mother, regardless of what people may think - but that has been covered before.

This thread is about the pain at the end of a relationship. Does it get easier? I think not. Does the pain go away? I think not. Does any of it matter - that's upto the individuals involved.

You just get on with life the best you can. Maybe you will get lucky one day and have a chance with someone else. Just carry on and see where life takes you.

Dragon

Originally posted by Rude_Boy
How would you feel if you had spent four years with sum1 then all of a sudden they jilted you so they could be with another bloke and also told you that only after 4 days of being in bed with you and saying they love you they are in someone elses bed and telling you all about it.........This is what has happened to me in the last week...



HOW WOULD YOU REALLY FEEL???????

how would i really feel?

well first of all, id be really annoyed, second of all i wouldnt be telling all the world about it

The end of a relationship is always a painful thing, especially when it doesn't so much end as it does explode.

My ex left me when I found out she was cheating on me with our best mate (who we shared a student house with), and has been with him since.

It hurt a lot - still does, but as hard as it is you have to have faith that fate has a plan for you and you will find someone special who loves you as much as you love them.. someone more deserving of your love.

Failing that - just accept all women are evil (runs and hides) ;)

I think there's an awful lot of us that have been through similar break-ups.
They tell you they love you then....bang.....bubble bursts.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on.


PS. This could get confusing with Rude_Boy and rudeboy!!

Originally posted by Rude_Boy
How would you feel if you had spent four years with sum1 then all of a sudden they jilted you so they could be with another bloke and also told you that only after 4 days of being in bed with you and saying they love you they are in someone elses bed and telling you all about it.........This is what has happened to me in the last week...



HOW WOULD YOU REALLY FEEL??????? women are like buses,yer miss one th 'll be another one along shortly ,(and when it dose come the 'll be three at once....

thank you all for your kind words i have been feeling better in the last couple of days since i been on here now i believe im strong enough to get through ok i have spoke tomy x and we are going to stay friends which is what i wanted the most as we had gone through so much in the four years we were together im happy now are ready to start my life again

wheres the party...


oh yeah and the single ladies lol.....

Keep ya chin up Rude_boy, I still work with my ex, which sucks and not in a good way!!(thought he was the one and we were going to get married - how wrong I was!!). It does get easier however, I cried lots and lots for a long time (its been 6 months now), but haven't cried in a while - definate plus..

Here is some advice that my aunt gave me...

Best way to get over someone is to get uner someone...

I'm having a ball being single now..

Originally posted by BruciesBabe
Keep ya chin up Rude_boy, I still work with my ex, which sucks and not in a good way!!(thought he was the one and we were going to get married - how wrong I was!!). It does get easier however, I cried lots and lots for a long time (its been 6 months now), but haven't cried in a while - definate plus..

Here is some advice that my aunt gave me...

Best way to get over someone is to get uner someone...

I'm having a ball being single now..

Thats one way of putting you want to make me feel better and jump on lol.........

I think Id feel gutted!!
Glad to hear youre getting over it - id take BruciesBabe's advice - and get under someone. Just get out on the town and take advantage of the single life lol :thumbsup: