Just lying here in my state of insomnia, and started to worry about giving birth. My worst fear is having to have a ceasarean.

Dont know why it scares me the most but when I was having Beth the Dr. came round and said "We'll give you half an hour and if you've still not delivered her We'll get you to surgery."

Well I proper freaked out at him and started bawling at him that there was no way anybody was cutting me open. I said I would get up and go home first, he looked really taken aback,:hihi: Think it was the first time he'd had such a reaction.

Dont know why it scares me so just seems horrendous to me.

When I was in labour I was petrified of having a caesarian....we got as far as my husband wearing the green gown and I had the sexy socks on! I was so scared but just thought that they must be doing it for a reason.

Anyway a great doctor came in and managed to deliver him before it got any further.

I was totally terrified about having a c-section, it was by far my worse case senario. Turned out dd2 was breach and was well and truly jammed bum first. I had health complications as well.

When I was told I'd need a cs I was totally gutted, really gutted. I have to say it took me a few days to get used to the idea and deal with it.

The jessop were fantastic with me, really helped me come to terms with it and I also must say it really wasn't bad. In fact it was a very positive experience.

I was booked in for a cs on the 17th March but went in to labour on the 14th. They were saying there was no rush and they'd take me down at the end of the day but I was contracting ever 1-2 mins so I ended up with an emergency cs instead of planned and routine.

I thought I'd be a complete mess for weeks and weeks but I really wasn't, I was at meadowhall with the baby when she was 5 days old (the day after we got out of the hospital)

My point is, it's never usually as bad as your mind makes you think it might be. Don't panic over what you can't control and enjoy your growing belly!

I was frightened of haemorhaging (SP?) I started to bleed quite profusely with #3, I had to push like hell to get him out before the placenta completely ruptured and I bled to death. Luckily I had a pair of the most amazing midwives there and to them I owe both mine and Sebs life

An epidural scares me most. I keep trying to have an open mind to it all as the best made birth plan could go completely out of the window but that does scare me. I would like to have a natural birth, gas and air maybe but got a real fear of needles (yes all the blood tests and stuff throughout pregnancy have been a complete nightmare for me) but if at the end of the day I and little'in need anything I'm going to need to go with it.

Bit concerned that a small paper cut on my finger the other day hurt so much I was making a right song and dance out of it - doesn't bode well does it!!

i was the same with all mine, however, when the time comes most of the thoughts you have now go out the window, its all over and done and youre holding that most awaited little baby!! good luck to all you ladies thats having babies!!

An epidural scares me most. I keep trying to have an open mind to it all as the best made birth plan could go completely out of the window but that does scare me. I would like to have a natural birth, gas and air maybe but got a real fear of needles (yes all the blood tests and stuff throughout pregnancy have been a complete nightmare for me) but if at the end of the day I and little'in need anything I'm going to need to go with it.

Bit concerned that a small paper cut on my finger the other day hurt so much I was making a right song and dance out of it - doesn't bode well does it!!

Ooh dont be frightened of epidurals honey, theyre loooovvvvly. I can honestly say I never felt a thing when they put it in. I'm frightened of not getting one.Lol.

I really respect any lady who wants a natural birth, very brave, I on the other hand am a wuss and intend to have one.

That said though I did deliver our first daughter only on gas and air but she was less than 2lb

I think its going to be a case of lets see what happens at the time - you never know whats going to happen! I've got myself through having all the blood tests without having a complete fit so if the time comes and I can't handle the pain I might be quite happy having one!!

I am 4ft 11ins and about 6 and half stone and had only gas and air, I was terrifed and screaming for an 'epidoodle' :confused: but didn't have one in the end and pushed my 7lb 2oz daughter into the world just using gas and air :D was very proud of myself because I am such a wimp, hate needles, lifts, dark etc but pushed a baby out on gas and air :confused: :thumbsup: to me :hihi:.

I am 4ft 11ins and about 6 and half stone and had only gas and air, I was terrifed and screaming for an 'epidoodle' :confused: but didn't have one in the end and pushed my 7lb 2oz daughter into the world just using gas and air :D was very proud of myself because I am such a wimp, hate needles, lifts, dark etc but pushed a baby out on gas and air :confused: :thumbsup: to me :hihi:.

Thats what I want to do but we'll see.

Well having a long way to go yet the whole lot scares me but I too am petrified of needing an epidural. I was fine with it until I realised I will be totally paralised from the waist down. That really freeked me out. That and being "cut" if needs be....:help:

dont be, dont forget childbirth is the most natural thing in the world, woman have been doing it thousands of years, if it were that bad we women wouldnt want more than 1 would we, and most of us go on to have more! take it as it comes dont worry over it, everything will fall into place in the end, and at the end of it a lovely baby!

Congrats on your outlook and, of course, your new little bundle..Happy New year..!

An epidural scares me most. I keep trying to have an open mind to it all as the best made birth plan could go completely out of the window but that does scare me. I would like to have a natural birth, gas and air maybe but got a real fear of needles (yes all the blood tests and stuff throughout pregnancy have been a complete nightmare for me) but if at the end of the day I and little'in need anything I'm going to need to go with it.

Bit concerned that a small paper cut on my finger the other day hurt so much I was making a right song and dance out of it - doesn't bode well does it!!

I felt exactly the same as you, although my biggest fear was being cut, but I really did not want an epidural. I hate needles and it took them 15 minutes to convince me to have blood tests at Jessops! I had the 12 week ones with both my children but I didn't have the repeat ones at 28 weeks with either. I had on my birth plan "no epidural" and I knew that I wouldn't be able to cope with the needle.

My first labour involved being induced so I had a drip a nighmare for me as I can't stand seeing needles. My pains came on so painfully and fast that I had an epidural. I never thought I'd have one but I can honestly say at the time and in pain I couldn't have cared less about the needle and I think you will find that to be the case if you did need an epidural.

When I gave birth to my daughter recently I had no pain relief at all. I think if I hadn't been induced with my son I probably wouldn't have had the epidural but who knows. Each birth is so different.

I think just keep an open mind and really try not to worry about your needle phobia because when you are actually in labour you'll probably forget about it like I did!

Ooh dont be frightened of epidurals honey, theyre loooovvvvly. I can honestly say I never felt a thing when they put it in. I'm frightened of not getting one.Lol.

I really respect any lady who wants a natural birth, very brave, I on the other hand am a wuss and intend to have one.

That said though I did deliver our first daughter only on gas and air but she was less than 2lb

After having an epidural with my son I was so scared of not having one with my 2nd baby. I didn't want one as I couldn't feel to push with my son and that led to complications, but at the same time as I didn't actually feel the giving birth bit, I was petrified not to have one. I just kept changing my mind.

As it turned out I had no pain relief at all with my daughter. It was too late by the time I got to hospital. I feel I had a lot less problems afterwards without the epidural.

So keep an open mind as you may find you don't need an epidural again.

Keep an open mind, and don't fear it. I've done cs and vaginal births. As anniec said, with the cs, I was out and about as soon as I was out of hospital. It really wasn't that bad. The team in the operating room were a right comedy revue (in a good way), and it took under an hour, start to finish, which is a bonus.

A warning against irrational fears:
With the vbac, I was induced, which meant the contractions came fast and painful, so for that and other reasons they suggested an epidural. Problem was, I hadn't particularly liked that bit with the cs, so I got a sudden strong and totally irrational case of white coat syndrome...and even after the needle was put in (didn't hurt), every time the aneasthetist came into the room my blood pressure would drop violently and I would faint :hihi:.
He refused to believe this was down solely to his presence (poor lad) despite the fact that the midwives and consultants swore up and down that I was fine as long as he was out of the room (I wonder if he got a complex from this?:hihi:) and he wouldn't top me up properly.
I ended up on the operating table because Wolfcub's heartbeat dropped violently, and I remember telling the poor man I'd kill him if they cut me open and I could feel it. So then he overdid it, and I was unable to move for hours and hours...but got my vaginal birth, tho lord only knows how I pushed. :D

I had a good giggle throughout both births, so it can't be that bad. :)

I had an epidural at 9cm dilated (long labour) and I ended up going in the bath before both legs were working properly - I could walk but had a bit of a rap star limp going on! :hihi:

Anyway when I got out of the bath (with best friend's help) she turned around to get my towel and the numbish leg buckled underneath me and my newly stitched doodle landed straight on my heel! :hihi:

I think women having babies in the 21st century are very lucky, with medical science being so good. I had mine in the sixties, only gas and air available, no birth plans, no nothing, in the end l had 2 forceps deliveries, and l ceasarian birth l did not care what happened to me, just wanted those babies out, don't understand what all the fuss is about nowadays.

agreed having to have a c-section is horrible to think

but my scariest part is the full blown 1 min apart comtractions lol, omg agony

before i had kids i dreaded the pushing but that easy compared to the contractions

I am due to have my first baby in April and am scared of every part of the birth (other than having our bundle of joy at the end). Doesn't help that I have been watching programmes on TV over Christmas about labour :rolleyes:

I am due to have my first baby in April and am scared of every part of the birth (other than having our bundle of joy at the end). Doesn't help that I have been watching programmes on TV over Christmas about labour :rolleyes:

Oh I keep watching births on Youtube and scaring myself and OH keeps telling me not to watch them but I kind of want to know whats likely to happen. I'm just going to go with the open mind approach and take everything in my stride. When I'm in labour I'm not going to be able to change it and need to work through it so will try and stay calm, listen to the midwives and see how we go.

You're right, we all need to focus on the fact that at the end of all the pain etc we will have a little bundle of joy and that surely has to get us through it.

Oh I keep watching births on Youtube and scaring myself and OH keeps telling me not to watch them but I kind of want to know whats likely to happen. I'm just going to go with the open mind approach and take everything in my stride. When I'm in labour I'm not going to be able to change it and need to work through it so will try and stay calm, listen to the midwives and see how we go.

You're right, we all need to focus on the fact that at the end of all the pain etc we will have a little bundle of joy and that surely has to get us through it.

All my hubbie kept saying every morning when he realised I was watching the programme again was "OMG, not another one!" I am like you, I want to know what happens, but then again part of me doesn't. I am such a wuss though with needles etc and hope just to have gas and air if required. Must admit now Christmas is out of the way time is flying (26 weeks tomorrow).

How far gone are you?

Sxx

All my hubbie kept saying every morning when he realised I was watching the programme again was "OMG, not another one!" I am like you, I want to know what happens, but then again part of me doesn't. I am such a wuss though with needles etc and hope just to have gas and air if required. Must admit now Christmas is out of the way time is flying (26 weeks tomorrow).

How far gone are you?

Sxx

27 on Thursday so a week ahead of you - due on 7 April.

I'm the same, hate needles and ideally would just like gas and air but we'll see -I might be screaming out for an epidural if its that bad!

Did you get to new years day and think gulp, its this year now!!

This time, I would like to be less out of it. I was fairly drugged up, but also so weak from a long labour, I hardly remember most of the time. I also had an epidural but it didn't work as I could still feel it down one side. I also made an idiot of myself as the anaesthetist had the bluest eyes that matched his gown, and that's all I could say to him. I blame the drugs lol. Mind you, I think the fact that every time I had a contraction I started singing 10 green bottles to get through them made them think I was already mad.

27 on Thursday so a week ahead of you - due on 7 April.

I'm the same, hate needles and ideally would just like gas and air but we'll see -I might be screaming out for an epidural if its that bad!

Did you get to new years day and think gulp, its this year now!!

Wow, not far behind you as I am due 13th April. On New Years day I thought OMG, I am having a baby this year!

First day back at work today and everyone remarked on how much my bump has grown. Good thing is all the girls in the office are now on diets so I get to eat all the chocolates!

I think women having babies in the 21st century are very lucky, with medical science being so good. I had mine in the sixties, only gas and air available, no birth plans, no nothing, in the end l had 2 forceps deliveries, and l ceasarian birth l did not care what happened to me, just wanted those babies out, don't understand what all the fuss is about nowadays.

What a very ignorant post. As someone who had a very difficult pregnancy and birth despite 'all mod cons', I'm insulted by your response.

Things have not changed so much, my dear. Birth is still a very physical process. It still involves a great deal of pain and luck and fear. The test tubes have not taken over yet. :hihi:

These women have every right to feel the emotions they are feeling.

My biggest fear is that baby will get stuck, its happened to me twice, although we managed to get them out with forceps eventually :)
With my third I was induced, which scared me, although it turned out to be nothing to worry about. It was my first labour where I managed without an epidural or spinal...and I realised that crowning is actually quite painful! :blush:
Actually.....thinking about it, maybe baby grazing the birth canal rather than an episiotomy or tearing :o
But on the whole, no, its nothing to be scared of!

What a very ignorant post. As someone who had a very difficult pregnancy and birth despite 'all mod cons', I'm insulted by your response.

Things have not changed so much, my dear. Birth is still a very physical process. It still involves a great deal of pain and luck and fear. The test tubes have not taken over yet. :hihi:

These women have every right to feel the emotions they are feeling.

I thought just the same when I read this post. Sorry to insult but its just pathetic to conclude that childbirth is any easier now than it was in the sixties.

We could argue that Aries22 had it far easier than people of war ravaged britain in the forties.

Many women give birth completely naturally without the aid of any painrelief do you think they wanted their babies out any less than you "just wanted yours out" as you put it.

Was it easier for them because they had the knowledge they could have painrelief?? No of course not

I had an emergency C-section after 42 hours in labour, (reckoned waters hadn't broke - which they had) had an epidural about 4 hours before going down to theatre but was walking about with it. Finally fell asleep (soooooo tired) during operation and didint see my son born. He was born at 10.46pm and I got shouted at by the midwife just after midnight for being up & dressed and walking to the loo.

I'm unsure what to do this time round whether to have natural or book for a c-section, last time I didn't have time to think about birthing plans etc as I found out when i was 36wks. (Yes I had only 4 weeks to realise I was having a baby).

This time we've known from 6 weeks, I've got time to prepare and think things through (due 17th April).

It's kinda scary though as yes it will be my second son but really I'm going through my first pregnancy. If I could predict it would be the same as before, up and about straight away with no pain or complications I would prefer a c-section but I guess we'll have to wait and see how baby 'Slug' wants to come out.

i had my little boy last year with nothing not by choice tho im having my second in 16 wk and am going to have the pethadin as i dnt like the idea of the epi if i get the chance lol. i found the crowning to be the most painfull part which thankfull doesnt last that long but however it goes it really is worth it when you get a tiny little person put on your chest.

what im woried about is the thing i have been warned of which is not actually getting to the hospital and giving birth in the car on the way ther

I think the car birth scenario is extremely rare, it tends to be ladies who are on baby no. 5 or 6 and only have 3 hour labours. lol. your fine there honey. x

i went from 3 cm to birth in 4 hrs 27 mins theyv basically said due to this my son only bein 10 months so things may not b 2 strong if you get my drift i am also missing a large chunk of my cervix which is a contributing factor. the midwifes word wer are you having a home birth and when i said no she basically said i might b better of that way as ther is a good chance this 1 is going to fly out and shes not the only 1 2 say it

By the time I was in my last month I did not care I was so fed up of being enormous, uncomfy and needing the loo all the time.
I had a horrible thing called a Ventouse which was awful.

Each time I was pregnant I had a huge fear of being cut!! It was written in big letters on my notes"don`t cut unless in distress" I had nightmares for several months during the pregnancies about midwives coming towards me with huge scissors and scalpels cutting all me bits and bobs to pieces, completely irrational thoughts about it, it was a real phobia.I wasn`t bothered about tearing, just them cutting it.
Thankfully I didn`t need it with my first son and the other 2 was by c/section

i went from 3 cm to birth in 4 hrs 27 mins theyv basically said due to this my son only bein 10 months so things may not b 2 strong if you get my drift i am also missing a large chunk of my cervix which is a contributing factor. the midwifes word wer are you having a home birth and when i said no she basically said i might b better of that way as ther is a good chance this 1 is going to fly out and shes not the only 1 2 say it

I see where your coming from hun, Dont let it worry you too much, sure you'll be fine. Anyway its nice that you deliver that quickly, you know when you go into labour its going to be over shortly.

On the plus side if it did happen at least you'd get in the paper. The press love those stories. Lol. Dont worry bout it though however it happens your gonna have a gorgeous little baby.

Probably will be slagged off for this, but I developed an irrational fear of vaginal birth when I was pregnant, called primary tokophpbia, as it was my first (and only) pregnancy. I remember midwives laughing at my fears and saying, "women have been giving birth for thousands of years!" yeah women may have, but I haven't! I was terrified of baby being stuck, cord wrapped around babys neck, being cut, having forceps or ventouse on babys head, tearing, pain, lack of control, labour time and exhaustion, defecating, no medical assistance like epidural, energancy section, crash section, not bonding due to being exhausted, prolapse, bladder problems, etc! I believed that I would freak out and lose control during labour and that I would try to keep the baby in or just kick off! I had to see a consultant and psycho sexual counsellor who both decided that a planned section would be my best option.

My section went really well and my baby was fine. I hardly had any pain and there were no complications. Beforehand I felt guilty about the cost if sections versus natural birth, but was told that planned sections are cheaper than energancy ones or natural births with complications, so stopped feeling bad about it.

I am usually a sane rational person, but pregnancy really affected me.

Probably will be slagged off for this, but I developed an irrational fear of vaginal birth when I was pregnant, called primary tokophpbia, as it was my first (and only) pregnancy. I remember midwives laughing at my fears and saying, "women have been giving birth for thousands of years!" yeah women may have, but I haven't! I was terrified of baby being stuck, cord wrapped around babys neck, being cut, having forceps or ventouse on babys head, tearing, pain, lack of control, labour time and exhaustion, defecating, no medical assistance like epidural, energancy section, crash section, not bonding due to being exhausted, prolapse, bladder problems, etc! I believed that I would freak out and lose control during labour and that I would try to keep the baby in or just kick off! I had to see a consultant and psycho sexual counsellor who both decided that a planned section would be my best option.

My section went really well and my baby was fine. I hardly had any pain and there were no complications. Beforehand I felt guilty about the cost if sections versus natural birth, but was told that planned sections are cheaper than energancy ones or natural births with complications, so stopped feeling bad about it.

I am usually a sane rational person, but pregnancy really affected me.

why would we slag you off honey?
we all have fears like that my biggest fear is that my first weighed 5lb5oz natural birth and he tore me and grazed me (the graze hurt like hell for weeks)
and now im due to have my second this baby weighs approx 9lb and I have 7 days to go till D day I am absoloutly bricking myself I keep having nightmares that i'll be torn really bad or worse having to be cut and that the baby will get stuck :confused:

why would we slag you off honey?
we all have fears like that my biggest fear is that my first weighed 5lb5oz natural birth and he tore me and grazed me (the graze hurt like hell for weeks)
and now im due to have my second this baby weighs approx 9lb and I have 7 days to go till D day I am absoloutly bricking myself I keep having nightmares that i'll be torn really bad or worse having to be cut and that the baby will get stuck :confused:

Try not to worry. I was cut with my son and also had bad labial tears which I had complciations with. I had my daughter 12 weeks ago and didn't need any stitches. I did have a few labial grazes and they were painful but nothing compared to last time when I could barely sit down. I'm not saying it will be the same for you, just that just because you have a bad experience first time it doesn't follow that second time will be the same. I had a CD this time and it was all about positive thinking etc and I think it really helped me to remain calm even when I thought we wouldn't make it to the hospital on time!!

Good luck and be prepared it's hard work with 2! How old is your son? Mine is 2 years 9 months.

My biggest fear was pooing on the midwife! I thought I could handle anything apart from the humiliation of doing that. I didn't do that, but I did pee all over her! You might be in pain, but try to remember to go for a wee.


xxx

I see where your coming from hun, Dont let it worry you too much, sure you'll be fine. Anyway its nice that you deliver that quickly, you know when you go into labour its going to be over shortly.

On the plus side if it did happen at least you'd get in the paper. The press love those stories. Lol. Dont worry bout it though however it happens your gonna have a gorgeous little baby.
not really that bothered bout it if it happens it happens and i no i can do it without pain relief i just no my oh wud never shut up about the mess i made in his car

Try not to worry. I was cut with my son and also had bad labial tears which I had complciations with. I had my daughter 12 weeks ago and didn't need any stitches. I did have a few labial grazes and they were painful but nothing compared to last time when I could barely sit down. I'm not saying it will be the same for you, just that just because you have a bad experience first time it doesn't follow that second time will be the same. I had a CD this time and it was all about positive thinking etc and I think it really helped me to remain calm even when I thought we wouldn't make it to the hospital on time!!

Good luck and be prepared it's hard work with 2! How old is your son? Mine is 2 years 9 months.

hi my son is 2 years and 8 months old I know im sorta prepared but not if you know what I mean the biggest hurdle is probably jealousy I've just got to let my son be involved I keep getting him involved with just talking to my belly and saying na night when hes off to bed he does it automatically now bless him he even sings to it lol so im hoping we will cope but I know its going to be hard.
Im just trying to get over the shock at how big this baby's going to be compared to my lil man lol

hi my son is 2 years and 8 months old I know im sorta prepared but not if you know what I mean the biggest hurdle is probably jealousy I've just got to let my son be involved I keep getting him involved with just talking to my belly and saying na night when hes off to bed he does it automatically now bless him he even sings to it lol so im hoping we will cope but I know its going to be hard.
Im just trying to get over the shock at how big this baby's going to be compared to my lil man lol

My son's behaviour got really bad towards the end of my pregnancy and worse still when my daughter was born so I have found it very hard work keeping him in control when I'm sat feeding. I also had to buy a double buggy as he can't be trusted to walk and stay with me!! He must feel jealous but he is great with my daughter, very gentle and loving.

I've read that it isn't necceassarily harder to give birth to a bigger baby. I think it's more about how the birth goes in general. If you weren't happy with your last birth, are there any things you could change to minimise the chances of this time being the same? My 2 birth experiences were totally different.

My biggest fear was pooing on the midwife! I thought I could handle anything apart from the humiliation of doing that. I didn't do that, but I did pee all over her! You might be in pain, but try to remember to go for a wee.


xxx

Your not the only one, this is one of my worst fears lol!

My son's behaviour got really bad towards the end of my pregnancy and worse still when my daughter was born so I have found it very hard work keeping him in control when I'm sat feeding. I also had to buy a double buggy as he can't be trusted to walk and stay with me!! He must feel jealous but he is great with my daughter, very gentle and loving.

I've read that it isn't necceassarily harder to give birth to a bigger baby. I think it's more about how the birth goes in general. If you weren't happy with your last birth, are there any things you could change to minimise the chances of this time being the same? My 2 birth experiences were totally different.

I had a really bad time of it when I was in jessops this time around I really wanted a home birth because the very thought of me going to jessops frightens the life out of me but they wont let me opt for that birthing plan because josh was so poorly when he was born due to severe jaundice something to do with incompatibility of my blood and baby's so its likely to happen again so when this ones born they have to take cord bloods to see how bad the jaundice is plus im epileptic aswell.
But my experience at Jessops was a really bad one as I developed an infection and they left me in the bed covered in blood and when I asked for help to clean myself up and to change the bed sheets they said they were too short staffed to help ! I was left feeling traumatised and my baby was in SCUBU too and I couldnt get down to see him and noone really told me what was happening. But this time I will kick up a fuss I dont care if me or my baby is being neglected in any way I will definately make myself known :rant:
apart from that with this baby being so big and I have SPD aswell its just a freaky thought of having to part with it but this time I think I might consider epidural just in case.

I had a really bad time of it when I was in jessops this time around I really wanted a home birth because the very thought of me going to jessops frightens the life out of me but they wont let me opt for that birthing plan because josh was so poorly when he was born due to severe jaundice something to do with incompatibility of my blood and baby's so its likely to happen again so when this ones born they have to take cord bloods to see how bad the jaundice is plus im epileptic aswell.
But my experience at Jessops was a really bad one as I developed an infection and they left me in the bed covered in blood and when I asked for help to clean myself up and to change the bed sheets they said they were too short staffed to help ! I was left feeling traumatised and my baby was in SCUBU too and I couldnt get down to see him and noone really told me what was happening. But this time I will kick up a fuss I dont care if me or my baby is being neglected in any way I will definately make myself known :rant:
apart from that with this baby being so big and I have SPD aswell its just a freaky thought of having to part with it but this time I think I might consider epidural just in case.
if u had a bad experience dont have the epi u wont b able to walk for 6 hrs go 4 the pethadin. and if the same thing happens kick up a s++it storm

I had an epidural with my 1st baby and he was 8lb 4oz, I was in labour for 3 days though so was exhausted hence having it, I have 3 children and had horrendous experiences with the 1st 2 so bad that i waited until my 3rd was literally on her way out before i went there to have her, but the 3rd time i had the most amazing midwife and a pleasent experience. But now on my 4th the anxiety of what happened with the first 2 is still there but so is the experience of having 3 children so I am sure i will not lay back and let them treat me and experiment on me how they did with my 1st 2 babies with this one, they seem to think im young so they can do what they want. Well sorry midwive of jessops but your in for a shock because its not happening to me again.

Im 26 weeks now and am starting to rmemeber how bad that pain is LOL oh well ill do it, i did it with the last 2 with nothing so im sure ill manage this time

I havent heard of anyone else treat bad at jesops but suppose its not easy to talk about it was nearly 5 years ago that it happened last with me and 7 yers with my 1st and then i know it was bad for my mum as well but no one does anything about it why not? or in fact who would you contact

I havent heard of anyone else treat bad at jesops but suppose its not easy to talk about it was nearly 5 years ago that it happened last with me and 7 yers with my 1st and then i know it was bad for my mum as well but no one does anything about it why not? or in fact who would you contact

I had a bad time (not at Jessops) and I did put in a complaint. I ended up going to a meeting with the head of the dept and the Midwife in charge and told them all (and it was a long list) of the things that went wrong and that I just wanted them to make the whole experience better for future patients. To be honest, I'm not sure who you contact, as my Mother made the initial contact for me. I think it's the PCT, or you could contact PALS which is a patient support group and they could tell you who to contact.

Every experience is different as some midwife's come and go, different procedures are in place etc. Please try to not worry as I think that makes things ten times worse. I'm also trying to practice this, as I'm pregnant with my second so I do know how you feel.

I had two very different birth experiences, although the labours were very similiar. The first time I didn't get the hang of the breathing or Tens until later and succumbed to some morphine which is when I started to lose control to the Medics. I was very clumsily and unsympathetically examined by a female doc who told me the baby was coming back to back and virtually forced me into lying down, having an epidural/loads of drugs etc. I ended up having a ventouse/epidural to get her out as I was too knackered to push her out. Afterwards it was horrble 'down there' for a long time - like a cardigan buttoned up wrong and very painful! By the second birth I was more clued up and was determined to do this my own way and with no cutting! I had a fantastic midwife and partner who helped me through a hardtime late second stage (she was also back to back). With lots of changes of position and screaming, I gave birth standing up. I had no stitches and the difference afterwards was unbelievable. I didn't feel like I'd just given birth and could walk, sit have a bath etc. I felt a huge sense of accomplishment that I had done it myself and with only tens and a little gas and air. Now I believe I was better off when I let my body do what came naturally! Although I respect the fact this is not right for everyone. Though believe me the endorphins are as good as any morphine! It's going to hurt whatever, but you do forget how much. For all the ladies about to give birth, lots of love and luck to you, it's truly worth it when you hold your beautiful newborn in your arms! :)xx

I had a really bad time of it when I was in jessops this time around I really wanted a home birth because the very thought of me going to jessops frightens the life out of me but they wont let me opt for that birthing plan because josh was so poorly when he was born due to severe jaundice something to do with incompatibility of my blood and baby's so its likely to happen again so when this ones born they have to take cord bloods to see how bad the jaundice is plus im epileptic aswell.
But my experience at Jessops was a really bad one as I developed an infection and they left me in the bed covered in blood and when I asked for help to clean myself up and to change the bed sheets they said they were too short staffed to help ! I was left feeling traumatised and my baby was in SCUBU too and I couldnt get down to see him and noone really told me what was happening. But this time I will kick up a fuss I dont care if me or my baby is being neglected in any way I will definately make myself known :rant:
apart from that with this baby being so big and I have SPD aswell its just a freaky thought of having to part with it but this time I think I might consider epidural just in case.

Just to be another one to reassure you that I have had 2 babies at Jessops and was treated well. Try to think of your last birth as a one off bad experience. But yes if you are unhappy with your care, do stand up for yourself or have your partner or Mum etc do it for you.

I had an epidural and then couldn't feel to push so I ended up with ventouse, being cut and tearing. Second time I had no pain relief (not what I planned!) and I was left with a few grazes but no stitches. If you are considering an epidural do consider that it does increase the chances of you needing forceps or ventouse which often involve you being cut so whilst you don't have the pain of the birth you have it after.

I really breathed this time and it really helped.

Just to be another one to reassure you that I have had 2 babies at Jessops and was treated well. Try to think of your last birth as a one off bad experience. But yes if you are unhappy with your care, do stand up for yourself or have your partner or Mum etc do it for you.

I had an epidural and then couldn't feel to push so I ended up with ventouse, being cut and tearing. Second time I had no pain relief (not what I planned!) and I was left with a few grazes but no stitches. If you are considering an epidural do consider that it does increase the chances of you needing forceps or ventouse which often involve you being cut so whilst you don't have the pain of the birth you have it after.

I really breathed this time and it really helped.

Im also epileptic so epidural would be best way to go for me I ended up having a fit during my 1st birth and midwife didnt even know I had epilepsy even tho it was all over my mat notes big PEDIATRIC ALERT stickers all over it I just wish this labour will go quick and i'll be out the next day but i know what wishful thinking does lol

Make sure you tell the midwife about your epilepsy so it doesn't happen again, keep an open mind and see how it goes. People always say it's easier 2nd time. Do believe it will be short and that it will all go well. I'm sure my positive thinking helped me this time and it was short - 4 hours from first twinge and only 2 from when I was in uncomfortable pain. Very different to the previous time.

Make sure you tell the midwife about your epilepsy so it doesn't happen again, keep an open mind and see how it goes. People always say it's easier 2nd time. Do believe it will be short and that it will all go well. I'm sure my positive thinking helped me this time and it was short - 4 hours from first twinge and only 2 from when I was in uncomfortable pain. Very different to the previous time.

oh i really hope so tbh now I just want to be in labour :hihi: getting very fed up I think I'll just go with the flow and if I cant hack it theres always epidural lol

oh i really hope so tbh now I just want to be in labour :hihi: getting very fed up I think I'll just go with the flow and if I cant hack it theres always epidural lol

That was exactly what I thought. I didn't get to hospital in time for any pain relief and I'm glad really as I could feel to push and wasn't out of it at all. I think if I'd have been in hospital I would have had pain relief but as I had no choice I had to breathe well.

Keep busy if you can. It won't be long now! :)

I think women having babies in the 21st century are very lucky, with medical science being so good. I had mine in the sixties, only gas and air available, no birth plans, no nothing, in the end l had 2 forceps deliveries, and l ceasarian birth l did not care what happened to me, just wanted those babies out, don't understand what all the fuss is about nowadays.

People do still have complications you know, they haven't all gone away. I should know :-(. "Don't understand what all the fuss is about" - what a self-centred attitude.