I personally find this virtually impossible, what do people think? Does anyone have a successful relationship with an ex without sexual feelings or that friendship causing problems with a new relationship?

I just think that no matter what....you will always have shared intimate moments together that can't be forgotten...and you will have seen each other nekid :o

difficult, but can be done. with one ex in my case lol. not a high percentage really. then again... most girls are evil ;) heheh

Yes - quite easily. I still have plenty of contact with the mother of two of my children with zero sexual interest.

My wife did have some problems that I was on friendly terms with this person so I avoided contact more than was necessary - I can see how this may affect a relationship.

I guess it all depends on who, when and why they split up. It is possible that there is still something stronger than jus sexual attraction betwenn people who have split up and then it gets really tricky for any contact to be maintained if one or both of these people desire new relationships to actually go anywhere.

Tricky topic and a door to lots of conflict.

Dragon

Yes you can. I am friends with most of my ex's. I am married now with children, some of them are too. They know my husband and get on well together.
It is actually a really nice situation and I appreciate their friendship very much. You may find that you really get on with their partners too as they may be very similar to you! That is how it works for me anyway.

I suppose it depends how your relationship ends. If it ended badly then I would think it may take time for a freindship to develop, but don't rule it out.

I would say it's very diffuiculty but in my opinion it depends on the ages you are or ages when you split up.

For younger couples when a relationship is nmore likely based on sex then i would say it's very difficult but as you get older it probably gets easier as your relationship is based on more than just sex (if that makes sense).

But if there's still an attraction then it is difficult.

I dont see my ex anymore, even after 12 years together I cannot bare the thought of contacting him again after I went through.

As I say --> an ex is an ex for a reason.

All depends on the person(s) involved and the circumstances leading up to their split. My ex-wife I still see when picking up my son and there is zero sexual feelings between us. We have both agreed over the years that we just weren't right for each other and we both moved on. She has remarried and I have a long term partner. However her new husband I know does have a problem with me visiting there, I'm not too sure why because I think he's aware of the situation between me and the ex, maybe he's just naturally jealous.

Yeah, my ex is one of my closest friends! It was hard at first, but it gets easier, especially when theres a new object of your affection hehe :hihi:

It's a tough one. It's hard to let go and have no contact with someone who you were once so close to so TRYING to be friends I think is necessary but hard.

Altho does depend on why you split in the first place. Some things can never be forgiven and therefore do not allow for a good basis of friendship.

If it's going to affect a new relationship I would probably drop the friendship.

I really think it depends on the situation.

My last boyfriend and I went out for less than a year, but had been close friends for seven years. Since we split up we've not spoken, and that's a really difficult situation because we had lots of 'shared friends', most of them are still in contact with us both.

I would love to think that one day things will be different, but for the forseeable future, I have to keep him at arms length for self preservation.

On the other hand, my ex girlfriend (yes I do have one!) and I are still very close. Any issues that we had when we split up were worked through, and I count her new boyfriend as a close friend. They're planning to start a family soon, and I've already been asked to be godparent; that's how close we all are.

I guess one happy ending out of several unhappy ones isn't too bad. :)

K x

99% percent of my ex (apparently there has been many lol)id say no, but i do still speak to one i think :D

I'm still good mates with my ex gf. We were together for 4yrs and we split up over 4 yrs ago. Things have been quite rocky between us over the yrs and at one stage I thought our friendship could be over for good, but luckily we sorted it all out.

I think our friendship survived because our relationship was based on friendship more than anything else. And even now I still find that its her I want to turn to when things start to go horribly wrong for me.

I mean, when I lost my dog back in Jan I was really glad that it was her who was by my side at that moment!

(I can't say anything too nasty about her anyway as I know she uses this site! :D )

.......on the other hand though, I am finding it quite difficult to be friends with a more recent ex. We had been good mates for a while before hand and I was upset when she ended things as she didn't want to be in a relationship. But, I think I've been more hurt by losing her friendship than I have in losing the whole relationship thing with her. I just find that she distances herself far too much since we broke up and its hard to have a conversation with someone when they want to disappear shortly after you ask them a question!

Can you be friends with an ex?

In my experience...

...NO.

:D

My ex-wife and I still get on great. The reason for the breakdown of the marriage in the first place was unavoidable so i think that makes a big difference to your future relationship towards eachother.

I'm still friends with a few ex-g/fs but i do find i get feelings of jealousy if they have new b/fs.....even if i was the one to end the relationship.....strange but thats the way it is.

Obviously its not always possible to remain friends as things happen that aren't very nice and every part of the relationship breaks down as a result.

I don't understand how, as if you (I) hadn't fallen out with exes (who may or may not have had psychotic tendencies), then I'd still be with them? Though not at the same time, obv...

i think it depends on the circumstances. my ex husband and I grew apart - (he did cheat as well) - however there was no massive argument or physical violence - we remained on friendly terms and my new husband (now of 22 years) and I sometimes socialised with him and his wife. I have not seen him for some time as he and his wife split up (I got on with her better than him!). As for sexual feelings? - URGH!!!!

It depends on whether you had a strong friendship before you split up. Of all my ex-girlfriends, I am still friends with only one. We were friends first, tried a relationship which did not work out and are still friends.

I've never stayed friends with an ex. Can't see the point to be honest. I suppose if you break up by mutual agreement then fair enough but (in my experience) most break-ups are initiated by one partner and aren't done in the most honest and respectable manner.

I was with my ex for 8 years, and the manner in which the break up happened was enough to make me despise her. It doesn't make my blood boil like it did, but she's certainly not a person I'd ever want as a friend.

Life's short, and if someone hurts and disappoints you then why should you feel compelled to try and be their friend? Sod it, move on and spend time with people you trust and respect

I've stayed friends with most of my exs, to some degree, except one, but he was a scum-bag.

I don't understand how, as if you (I) hadn't fallen out with exes (who may or may not have had psychotic tendencies), then I'd still be with them?

Relationships dont always end because you have fallen out. Sometimes people just grow apart and both parties see that the relationship hasn't got any future. Sometimes there is a genuine reason for the break-up that isn't necessarily anyones fault......which was what happened in my case.

Originally posted by rudeboy
Relationships dont always end because you have fallen out. Sometimes people just grow apart and both parties see that the relationship hasn't got any future.

This is true, it is possible (I believe) to fall out of love with someone, but still like them.

of course its possible to be mates with ex's, although this does depend on how and why the relationship finished. i am very good friends with about three of my ex-boyfriends (all relationships of approx a year), and am now sharing a house with one of them, who is also my best friend. i have a new fella, and although this stiuation may appear odd to some folk, i think it is more normal. i find it strange that a lot of folk dont want to stay in touch with ex's (even if the split was amicable) just 'cos'- surely seems daft to bin a friendship?

i have tried it and it didnt seem to work, were back together now and loving it, :D

in the past it's not been too easy to do i don't thin, i've usually had trouble with things. But recently broke up with a guy i was with and we're even better friends now than we were before, it's great, so i think that if both parties really want to stay friend then it's a very easy thing to do. Not always ok but sometimes it works out.

I have never, ever wanted to be friends with an ex for the simple reason you go forward in life not back. Also I think that's my way of coping- to totally move on with your life. Besides no-one would want to be friends with them. They were all psychos!!

Originally posted by sexibabe
I have never, ever wanted to be friends with an ex for the simple reason you go forward in life not back. Also I think that's my way of coping- to totally move on with your life. Besides no-one would want to be friends with them. They were all psychos!!

I agree you need that sort of closure

And I agree about exes all being psychos...

my wife says i can't be friends with my ex's.
however if we ever split up she says she wants us to still "get together".
strange lady.

Women's prerogative

Sometimes you have to remain friends for the sake of the children, but it can be bloody hard work, and would be far easier not to!

You do not really have to remain friends cos of the children. But what you have to make sure you do not do is slag off the other person - the one you split up with. There are many ways you can ensure the children are okay without contact.

I agree that it does depend on the reasons for the split, and the honesty of the individuals involved.

Yeah IntoOblivion - so easy to take the kids and go and not spare a thought for the feelings of their mum or dad. Bit selfish that. Children deserve to know both parents.

It all boils down to the fact - where children are involved - just a clear split and no further contact is WRONG. If there are no children involved - there should still be an attempt to remain in contact with the other person, though not necessarily to remain friends.

Stop using the kids.

Dragon

NO if you ever come back on The Sheffield Forum and read this i just wanna tell you i still hate you so thats a NO i can't be friends with my ex.

Blimey Jon, couldn't have put it better meself :)

I think it depends on the nature of the split, i.e. was it a joint decision, etc etc.

I work with my ex and it wasn't my decision to split. I find it really really difficult, but we have to be friends - or at least act as we do, for the sake of colleagues and the job.

I personally wish I could never see him or hear from him again as then I could heal properly, but until I find another job - thats not gonna happen!

Having said that, I had a fling with my best male friend, it ended and we are still best of friends.

I think it all depends on the circumstances and the people involved.

I don't think anyone can stay friends with an ex who has caused great pain and suffering to you.
Even when you try to be civil the bitterness always rears it's ugly head.
So in my opinion and from my own experiance the answer is NO!!

Cant see how it can possibly be viable in the short, medium or long term to continue a relationship with an ex regardless of the reasons for the split. If you've split, there's a reason for the split and best just to move on.

I have stayed friends with a couple of ex's.. one of which I would probably say was my 'best m8' (whatever one of them is). Although I gotta say, there has been quite a few times where I have been in a sticky situation of them wanting to get back together or us getting quite friendly agen n stuff.. meaning i dont see one of the guys anyways so much anymore as im in a relationship n i thnik it makes my boyf feel a bit uncomfortable! ..the other i work with so it is a bloody good job we get on! X

no way..if they hadnt done whatever they did to become an ex then they would still be with you,once betrayed then its over and done with

We've not managed it, but to be fair I f*cked up.

Still living with my ex whom i was with for 5 years and have been living but not together for last 6 months. We were going to house share but have now decided to put the house on the market.

In the beginning it was difficult but that was mainly due to the relationship breaking down. Now we got on fine.

Last person i was involved with said up front she's not sure about the situation but we never got far enough to test it. Oh and i dont think i'll be friends with her, not that she is classed as an ex. Screwed that big time, but thats another story!

Originally posted by depoix
no way..if they hadnt done whatever they did to become an ex then they would still be with you,once betrayed then its over and done with

what if you have done something to become an ex though, i do often wonder why my ex's still talk to me.. to neither of them was i particularly a perfect girlfriend!

My answer is still NO, my ex has been pestering me lately, trying to get back in my good books, but the hurt is too deep, if I became friends with him again, I would want more! But i've learnt to live without him now so why put myself back 12 months and start all over again of hurt upset and anger.
So its a NO NO :rant:

I have contact with a couple of my ex's, including the mother of my eldest two children. We have no problems and get on fine.

I know she is doing ehr thing and she knows I am doing mine, and that though we are going to be friends that is all there is to it. We are not jsut friends cos of the children, and we have had our arguments and fall outs - but it works. We shall remain friends and the kdis benefit.

If you became friends with your ex again you would want more - happy. Then the problem is perhaps not with the friendship, but the fact you are afraid of what may become of it. You can never go back - as fokl on here keep telling me - so no matter what - the only way is forwards.

The choice has to be the individuals and depends upon circumstance. Some do and some do not.

And just to be a real pain in the neck - who really cares? Only those involved - ya bunch of sour pusses.

Dragon

Originally posted by Dragon
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If you became friends with your ex again you would want more - happy. Then the problem is perhaps not with the friendship, but the fact you are afraid of what may become of it. You can never go back - as fokl on here keep telling me - so no matter what - the only way is forwards.


And just to be a real pain in the neck - who really cares? Only those involved - ya bunch of sour pusses.

Dragon


LOL yes Dragon afraid of getting hurt again, I never want to go through that ever again, so if I was friends with him, it would just be a constant reminder of pain.


As for sour pusses I agree , but what else is there to talk about on a sunday evening? Lol:hihi:

Who says the pain is the only way? You telling me there were no good times? Do those get flushed down the chute?

Honestly - you are in control of your own life and you choose where to draw the line. How do you know he has not changed? And if you know he has not - then why waste time thinking you would want more of the same?

Every case is different. The mind makes lies out of memories.

Whichever you choose - just remember that the next bloke could be just as bad, or worse. And friendship does not have to be more than that.

You could always tell him to go away - not too politely, but I think maybe .... just maybe - things could be different.

All hail the fighter for second chances over here in the red corner, and in the blue corner - the harbinger of doom ;)

Dragon

Originally posted by Dragon
Who says the pain is the only way? You telling me there were no good times? Do those get flushed down the chute?

Honestly - you are in control of your own life and you choose where to draw the line. How do you know he has not changed? And if you know he has not - then why waste time thinking you would want more of the same?

Every case is different. The mind makes lies out of memories.

Whichever you choose - just remember that the next bloke could be just as bad, or worse. And friendship does not have to be more than that.

You could always tell him to go away - not too politely, but I think maybe .... just maybe - things could be different.

All hail the fighter for second chances over here in the red corner, and in the blue corner - the harbinger of doom ;)

Dragon


I had quite a few happy years with him, and was devastated when I found out he was cheating. He denied cheating and I believed him and stayed with him. Then I found out he was still with this woman behind my back, and the silly fool still denied it!!! even when I had the evidence to prove he was. :mad:
So to have a friendship with someone you don't trust, is just crazy.
The fear of it becoming more if I was to be friends with him, is just fear of my own weakness! I loved him whole heartedly, and would probably give into my heart. So for me personally I Would not be able to put myself in that position.

As for the next bloke.... if one came along when I am ready to open my heart to someone again, then who knows. It would be a fresh page so no unhappy memories with him.


Offers on a SAE :heyhey:

Sorry Happy.

We tend to base our responses on the information given, as well as on our own experiences - both of which may well be wide of the mark.

I cannot deal with someone cheating in a relationship. I do not judge these people having been there many many years ago, and I paid the price and would never do it again to anyone for any reason. Unfortunately not all people learn by their mistakes.

Hope that right person comes along for you.

Still - I was also talking in genereal about being friends with ex's, and not referring to any individual case. I know many people who remain good friends with thier ex partners so much does depend on an individuals circumstances.

Dragon

I get on just fine with my ex husband.
We have both got other partners now and although we had 3 children together there is no sexual chemistry between us at all.
He is now just a friend that I talk to occassionally.
Weird really, I always thought it might be hard after we went our seperate ways and it was for a short time.
I can't ever imagine that we've been more than friends even though we were together for 18 years and married for 15.
Funny how life is!

It's a difficult one. In my case I was friends with my ex for 10 years before we had a relationship. That lasted for 4 years. We broke up formally two and a half years ago but continued to see each other as 'friends with benefits' if you know what I mean.. BIG MISTAKE. Eventually he started seeing someone else and I'm afraid I reacted badly. I doubt we will ever be friends again which is a shame because I've had him in my life for so long. He was a good friend and it feels weird to be without him. I think if either of you still have feelings for the other (sexual or otherwise) then it won't work.

Originally posted by caprice
Yeah, my ex is one of my closest friends! It was hard at first, :hihi:

You can be friends with an Ex.
My mate is an Ex miner and we get on fine.:thumbsup:

My mate is an Ex miner and we get on fine. :rolleyes:

Depending on the way you parted, I generally would say it is quite possible to be friends with an ex.

I still speak to a few of my ex's, and whilst I still have feelings for 1 or 2 of them, they know I'm very good for advice and they only have to say the word if they ever want to talk or get anything of their chest about anything at all, including their current boyfriends... No strings attached.

It's a very general comment, but... life is too short.

I've been friend with a few ex in the past and was fine, the relationship has ended in good terms and it was easy to keep seeing the same friends.

But my last relationship ended horribly, he was cheating on me with some girl he met, and then told me it was finished and went living with her the next day...

I will never trust him again, nor want to speak or see him again...

The only problem is that we have common friends and it is really awkward...

Originally posted by GazB
Depending on the way you parted, I generally would say it is quite possible to be friends with an ex.

I still speak to a few of my ex's, and whilst I still have feelings for 1 or 2 of them, they know I'm very good for advice and they only have to say the word if they ever want to talk or get anything of their chest about anything at all, including their current boyfriends... No strings attached.

It's a very general comment, but... life is too short.

id agree with this 1. life is indeed short! there is plenty more fish in the sea..

I was friends with my ex but then he re-married and I don't think his new wife felt comfortable with us being friends so now we are a lot more distant.

As much as you may want to stay friends sometimes it's imposible with outside influences putting their oar in!

Well i have a few posts on here about me and my ex! The best way to get over everything that happened was to forgive and forget (well try at least), so we are trying to be friends, its difficult, may be we still have feelings for each other and being friends might not be enough. But im sure we will soon find out!

I've recently made contact with my ex partner and we've been out a few times and have become very good friends. Life is too short for animosity and hatred, I love her dearly and I'm happy to be her mate

Me and my first ex were quite happy to be mates... we were young when we got together and just grew apart - however it was pressure from our mates to get back together that caused us to drift apart...

My more significant ex wound up being gay- he's still my best mate but i'll never be his fag hag.

I was just thinking.

From personal experience I have never been able to meet up with an ex without either arguing or kissing ;)

What if he/she really hurt you and you were upset for a long, long time after. Would you still want to meet up 'as friends'?

H xxx

I have been mates with a few x's, sayiing that I also ended up having bonus night with most of them! :hihi: I suppose it depends on why you split up and if you have both moved on or not wether you could actually be friends!
But I would meet up with any of my x's as friends if they asked me, however I don't expect any of them to! :o

I still see my ex usband and we talk a lot on the phone, sometimes we get on better now than we did before our split.

If you can be friends- why not??

Mod Note: Threads merged.

Him I voted yes as one of my best friends is a girl I dated for a few years HOWEVER, as I am a gay bloke, I think that this friendship is appropraite and easy. My other ex, (male) I couldnt be friends with as there was too many feelings there to reconsile with!!

hmmm I am only friends with one ex and thats cos it ended with me not fancying him anymore. I dont think its right to be friends with exes tho cos it could stop future partners for both of u feeling happy with the new relationship ie- jealousy/ suspicion that u were still shagging each other. Move on!!!:thumbsup:

I'd have to say no, well in my case with one particular one. I dont see the point, the reason why we split up won't change, so to be honest i don't want to be mates with him.:)

We have both moved on, why try n become friends when at the end of the relationship we became to hate each other.

.......on the other hand though, I am finding it quite difficult to be friends with a more recent ex. We had been good mates for a while before hand and I was upset when she ended things as she didn't want to be in a relationship. But, I think I've been more hurt by losing her friendship than I have in losing the whole relationship thing with her. I just find that she distances herself far too much since we broke up and its hard to have a conversation with someone when they want to disappear shortly after you ask them a question!

That is pretty much what happened to me. I was really close friends with a lass for a few years. The relationship moved up a gear, but we soon realised it wouldn't work. So, we made the decision to just stay as friends. This worked well until I met someone else, and my 'friend' became jealous and then distanced herself from me. Calls went unreturned, letters ignored, friendship lost. I regret us ever taking that 'step too far', and even now (almost 10 years later) wish I still had her as a friend.

yes, I think.
I'm friends with all my exes.

My last relationship ended not in the best way, but, a few months after the break up we started talking to each other again, and now he's my best friend. I don't see how I could completely cut off from my life someone I loved, even if it didn't end well. I will feel for him forever anyway, as a friend and not a boyfriend, and he does the same. We both are in a new relationship, recognised we both made errors while we were together, and moved on. But we both know we can count on eachother if we need.

Nope... except one... but we were only together 6 months and he has a special place in my heart anyways that no-one else could ever have :)

The only ex I've ever stayed in contact with was a guy I went out with when I was 10 :) but then again he's my oldest friend we've known each other since our parents met at our mum's and tots group and were in the same school till we were 18 :D

Every other I'd say no, but maybe when Im a bit older and wiser this wont be the case. I think I find t easier to not see the person anymore after a breakup, and then I kinda lose interest in what they're doing so don't feel a need to get in touch.

Can you be friends with an ex?

Of course you can!

The real question is - do you want to?

This thread is interesting for me.

I split up with a girlfriend last year (after 7 years) and we were such good friends in the relationship that it would have been crazy to throw that away after the relationship finished.

That same friend has now been there for me as my latest relationship has finished (again where friendship was a big part of that relationship), but where that particular girlfriend has wanted nothing to do with me.

I'll not understand how people can't remain friends with someone they've been so close to in the past (unless there is the whole infidelity/hurt thing). The most important aspect of any romantic relationship for me, is the friendship that underpins it.

It's a yes for me. I'm still in contact with one or two ex's and although it's best to have a bit of a cooling off period before you get back in touch after the split it's definately possible to have a good friendship with them. :)

I thought iwas possible to be friends with an ex and maybe for some people it is but if all the ex cares about is trying to use you and thats not what you want then no. Maybe its just me theres a lot of stuff that only seems to happen to me this might be one of them

Very subjective question where the answer would depend on many factors but 'generally' yes if things did not disintigrate.

Could with one but not the other. Think it depends how serious it is and how it ends!

Tried meeting up with my ex whom dated for 5 years to see if we could still be friends about a month after we split (she went off with someone else) and it was horrible.

I still had feelings for her, and she was still racked with guilt for bringing my world crashing down around my ears.

In the end we decided it would be best to just leave it alone.

Hmmm, I've always said yes and bar 2 I've stayed friends with all of them. One was a bizarre stalker fella who I had to get an injuction against. The other didn't know who I was on here until recently and in a bizarre twist it brought us back in contact, he did me a huge favour and we're back on speaking terms which is great. We've both moved on now, I'm happy and settled with kids and I'd like to say he is content with his situation.

I will never be friends with my ex and I dont think she will be friends with me not after what i did to her house when I moved out or her clothes. but I will never talk to her as she did me out of £75,000 and this had something to do with the lottery. she doesnt live in england anymore but lives out somewhere near canada oh she might be married to a brown bear because she has been married 9 times already. I wonder if her new husbands have found out what she is really like I will never know will I

it has never been possible for me sadly
Usually always my own fault saying somthing when one should stay quiet and ruining it altogether :(

I'm still in relative close contact with a few of my exes, and there's no sexual tension there in any way, shape or form, I certainly don't fancy them any more anyway.

Sometimes you just fall out of love with someone, doesn't stop you liking that person, and still having things in common with them, even if the sexual attraction/love part of the relationship dies.

all depends on the level of hurt i think,also time plays a factor,

In my case happily the answer is a very clear yes. Very dearest and closest female friend is an ex-lover and I'm also on good terms with a couple of other ex-girlfriends.

I am still friends with three exes - none of them live in Sheffield anymore so that helps as I don't have to see them all the time.

One of them was a date, who became a good friend, who tipped over into f/b and then i pulled back to friends again, the other was a six month relationship, the other was one who i spent a year and a half not knowing where we were at - and he was the hardest one just to be friends with.

The first two - I talk to both of them about things I probably wouldn't with other men friends - our conversations at times get quite graphic - and it is always nice to have a flirt with them as we know there is nothing in it. They probably give you the most objective viewpoint about other men as they know what you are like and can be candid with you. I don't live in their pockets by any means but I am very fond of both of them and don't ever envisage us not being friends.

The last one I mentioned, as it was him that decided in the end to leave it as friends (and then promptly got himself a girlfriend who he is now married to), I had to distance myself for a while as I had very strong feelings for him but we are fine now.

Apart from that, no. As a female friend said to me, why on earth would you want a friend that's sneaky, cheats and lies? Not a good basis for a friendship.

Nope, i don't talk to any of them apart from my first ex and even then, that's only if i really need to. (long story!!) :roll:

Only if it is clear that there will never be a relationship, and there are no bad feelings. It is no good if one person is expecting more, or is being lead down the garden path. However, if you still can get along and enjoy each others company as friends without any bitterness then all well and good.

I personally am struggling to be just friends with my ex because I am still in love with him. I think if you've both moved on then you could have a valuable friendship but if not then it can only lead to heartache.

Wow. I wasn't gonna post but my vote (No) sets the scores at 32-32... pretty even so far then...

I think it depends on how you split up,I have stayed friends with most of my exs and am happy that I am. Of course if children are involved then its very important to try to maintain a civil relationship.

Interesting results to date...almost neck n neck.

I'm pretty comfortable with my ex's...but more importantly so is my present OH. To much like hard work going the other way.

I think it all depends on your current relationship, and if your current partner is happy/comfortable with it. You need to be honest and open with them about it and not keep any secrets. My partner has started texting/emailing and seeing his ex behind my back. It is just a friendship (or so he says), but even so I feel uncomfortable with the whole situation. For example she only texts him when she knows he is at work. It is not the friendship that is the problem imo but the way in which it is carried out.

More importantly, can you hit them with a big axe until they're dead and then hit them again until they're even deader and somehow, somehow get away with it? Well can ya?

It depends entirely on the ex.

I get on brilliantly with two of mine, but the other one is a big nono.

I've forgiven him the past wrongs and have even tried to have a conversation with him.

He ran away looking scared.

More importantly, can you hit them with a big axe until they're dead and then hit them again until they're even deader and somehow, somehow get away with it? Well can ya?

Yes. :suspect::suspect:

:hihi::hihi:
That is so funny slickwitch, but to be honest that is exactly how I am feeling right now! :mad:

and he's not even my ex yet!:hihi:

Yes, it is possible!

I am still on good terms with the ex who I spent four years with-we split up about a year ago and still saw each other a lot, whilst I was dating other people, but now he's got a new girlfriend he seems to have forgotton who I am :? I imagine tehre will never be bad feeling between us though- we simply didn't love each other any more, and what's the point in being together when you know you could be happier apart?

I don't talk to any of my other exes-mainly through their own doing, and how they treated me made me realise I didn't want them as friends anyway.

I think it depends entirely on the individuals involved, and their circumstances. I think it's sad when you can't be friends though-you obviously liked each other enough to be together in the first place.

I wouldn't want to be friends with people who there has been bad feelings with.... exes or just plutonic friends... It's not healthy. Saying that, I do now and then speak to one ex but I wouldn't call it proper friends because I never knew if he had cheated on me when we were together or just had the new gf lined up ready.... Men suck sometimes.

Im friends with all my ex's

Sadly not.
Lost a r8 good mate. Can be possible for some people though.

Hmm this is a difficult one.

From past experiences, I don't think it is possible.

Sad, but true.

No. I don't think you can. If you just think about it from the other person's point of view, so you're having a relationship (of whatever sense) with an ex. How do you reckon that makes them feel? Seriously. And if you think nothing of it then put the shoe on the other foot. How wouod you like it. You've split, you've gone your seperate ways; for a reason. A clean break otherwise it creates heartache whichever way you turn - does your new partner really want to see/hear you having this old flame relationship in fron of them? Will it not make them feel inferior - or just plain crap? It is different, however, if someone has children to a previous partner - there will always be a link of some sort to that ex, no matter how old the children are and that just needs to be put up with unfortunately; from experience I can say that this never goes away. Some may be more bearable than others - contacting over normal stuff etc, others; can use the situation just to be a pain. Either way you wouldn't have it any other way - they are your children, whatever. But I definatenly think that relationships that have a 'third party' present for whatever reason, suffer - because of it. Let's face it, no one likes to play second best. And this is how they feel when they know an 'ex' is not a stone's throw away....

No. I don't think you can. If you just think about it from the other person's point of view, so you're having a relationship (of whatever sense) with an ex. How do you reckon that makes them feel? Seriously. And if you think nothing of it then put the shoe on the other foot. How wouod you like it. You've split, you've gone your seperate ways; for a reason. A clean break otherwise it creates heartache whichever way you turn - does your new partner really want to see/hear you having this old flame relationship in fron of them? Will it not make them feel inferior - or just plain crap? It is different, however, if someone has children to a previous partner - there will always be a link of some sort to that ex, no matter how old the children are and that just needs to be put up with unfortunately; from experience I can say that this never goes away. Some may be more bearable than others - contacting over normal stuff etc, others; can use the situation just to be a pain. Either way you wouldn't have it any other way - they are your children, whatever. But I definatenly think that relationships that have a 'third party' present for whatever reason, suffer - because of it. Let's face it, no one likes to play second best. And this is how they feel when they know an 'ex' is not a stone's throw away....

I do understand what you're saying, but take for example, my boyfriend and his ex. it wasn't a particularly pleasant split (she was at fault, but I'm not going to post details, obviously!), but I do often think how nice it would've been if they could've remained friends. Even though I can be slightly jealous sometimes, there wouldn't be much chance for it, because she lives quite far away, where my OH grew up. They spent the best part of five years together, and no doubt loved each other to pieces for most of that time, so it is quite sad that nothing can be salvaged from that.

Like I say, the ex I still talk to rarely talks to me anymore, but when he did, we all went out for a drink for my birthday, and they got on quite well. It was really nice:)

It does definately depend on individual cirumstances though, and the ins and outs of the break-up, but if you trust someone impeccably, as I trust Andy, then I don't think you've got anything to feel bad about.

No. I don't think you can. - does your new partner really want to see/hear you having this old flame relationship in fron of them? Will it not make them feel inferior - or just plain crap? Let's face it, no one likes to play second best. And this is how they feel when they know an 'ex' is not a stone's throw away....

Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable either if i went out with someone with their recent exs still hanging around. I would perhaps wonder if they had both moved on or not, and whether they may rekindle their relationship at a later date. However, it wouldn't bother me at all if it was obvious from their body-language etc that they didn't like each other in that way.