Hi people, you guys are always helpful on here, so I thought i'd get your advice once again.

The black kitten outside our house seems to being looked after now, so we all can stop worrying.
Max ( our 1yr old cat) has been pining after her ever since she's not been around.

So we visited Sheffield Cats shelter and brought home a little tabby as a play mate.

So far Max has only hissed at her, batted her and did 'the pathetic meow thing' when we stroke him.
I dont know if any of you have experienced a cat that cant quite reach a fly, and they do a more pathetic kind of meow, anyway, he's doing that when we stoke him now, which he's never done before.

The kitten is obviously curious about Max and just wants to play, but Max seems to be sulking.

Is this normal? and do you have any tips on helping them get along, we've only had her 20hours so far...

Please help!

I had a similar experience when introducing my 4 month old Kitten to her new 2 month old friend (to be.) She would hiss, batt her, then go hide and sulk. She barely interacted with us for the first 48 hours, then she started to venture out a bit more, getting used to the new scent I think, and their relationship has grown stronger and stronger.

Now, they're like sisters, grooming, playing and sleeping on each other, they insist on sharing the food bowl, litter trays, everything. They're pretty much inseparable.

I read somewhere that it's about territory too, Max is used to your place being his only, and if he felt so attached to the other Kitten, it may be blues about that. Just make sure you don't pay too much attention to the new arrival, as it may make him feel like he's being replaced. Make sure you pay a lot of attention to Max too; he needs re-assuring that he's still important to you. Don't expect them to share anything, if they do share anything, let it be their choice.

The first 3 or 4 days were the most difficult, but hopefully it'll get easier with time. However, sometimes there's no chance of them ever getting on, so if it's not looking any better soon, try not to try and force it, because it wont happen.

Best of luck, and I hope that that helped.

Thankyou so much for your reply.

Max hasn't been interacting with us, just hiding and wanting to go outside. We're well aware of fussing Max, at the end of the day he's our first and will remain very special to us.

I'll let you guys know how it goes over the next few days!

Thanks!

When we introduced our 1yr old to our 5yr old, we had this. 1yr old was here for just over 24hrs before she was off to be spayed so this made their relationship abit iffy at first. But shes been here a month or so now and their relationship is abit scatty still but the hissing has stopped - unless theyre devouring a chicken (!)

Honestly though, it'll get better - they'll soon come round to each other :thumbsup: Good luck!

Just thought i'd post a quick update.

Max (the resident cat) came in to have his tea after playing out all day, I decided to feed him before feeding our new 3.5 month old kitten,Belle.
All was well, I kept her in the lounge sleeping, whilst Max ate in the kitchen.
He normally then goes and chills upstairs on the bed for a bit.

I then closed up the kitchen to let Belle eat after him, just to fuss Max for a bit by himself, all was well, seemingly forgot about the new kitten, I started to play with him, chasing his toys around, until he heard the kitten starting to cry ('let me out!')

The when I came towards Max to continue playing with him he growled and hissed at me and swiped for me?!

He's the most friendly cat in the world normally, I really don't know what's gotten into him. He's completely out of character...

food has been the way to our older cat's heart and as he tucks into the kitten's food, the kitten just nudges his way under Ianto until they are sharing the bowl. Give them space and time and they'll come round. The kitten might need lots of stimulus tho so that it doesn't see your older cat as a play thing :)