Some time ago (about a year now) i made a difficult decission to kick two people out of my life for things that they had done, which almost cost me my job. Around the same time i broke up with my partner of 8 months.

I dont regret for a moment my actions, as i know i am much better off without that sort of person in my life, but i now find that i am missing the regualr nights out and about and the companionship that i had with those friends and my partner.

I find that i am dreaming about them a lot of late and i spend a lot of time at weekends doing nothing but watching TV.

I have only one person in my life that i can really call a "friend" but as he lives over the hill in Manchester we dont get to see each other very often.

My question is how do i find good friends and/or that special someone again? Ive always had difficulty making friends and im not really comfortable in social settings (when we used to go to clubs on our nights out id stand in the corner with my drink and watch everyone else have a good time), but i do like spending 1 on 1 time with friends.

I have an active volunteer life which sees me out a fair amount, and i have some excellent "colleages" in that organisation, but they have never shown interest in going the next step from colleagues to friends.

So, over to you guys. What can i do?

I can't say it enough times, but get out to a forum meet. I've made some of the best friends I've ever had through them. :)
There's one on the 14th at the Harlequin, it's usually a good crowd and everybody is very welcoming.

Some time ago (about a year now) i made a difficult decission to kick two people out of my life for things that they had done, which almost cost me my job. Around the same time i broke up with my partner of 8 months.

I dont regret for a moment my actions, as i know i am much better off without that sort of person in my life, but i now find that i am missing the regualr nights out and about and the companionship that i had with those friends and my partner.

I find that i am dreaming about them a lot of late and i spend a lot of time at weekends doing nothing but watching TV.

I have only one person in my life that i can really call a "friend" but as he lives over the hill in Manchester we dont get to see each other very often.

My question is how do i find good friends and/or that special someone again? Ive always had difficulty making friends and im not really comfortable in social settings (when we used to go to clubs on our nights out id stand in the corner with my drink and watch everyone else have a good time), but i do like spending 1 on 1 time with friends.

I have an active volunteer life which sees me out a fair amount, and i have some excellent "colleages" in that organisation, but they have never shown interest in going the next step from colleagues to friends.

So, over to you guys. What can i do? My bold

What about you? Have you invited any of them to have a coffee and chat sometime or the other? Perhaps they're thinking exactly the same about you.

I second Mojo's suggestion of coming along to the Harlequin meet - you don't have to worry about needing to join in - when she's around, it's damn difficult for anyone to get a word in edgeways! :hihi:

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What about you? Have you invited any of them to have a coffee and chat sometime or the other? Perhaps they're thinking exactly the same about you.


I endorse Dozy's point why don't you take the initiative and ask one of your colleagues to go for a coffee or something after work.

I also found that I made loads of friends and one very good friend through going dancing(modern jive at Crookes WMC). It'S a great way to meet friends and also have fun.

I have only been to a few forum meets (Harlequin) but you couldn't wish to meet a friendlier bunch. They make everyone (EVEN ME!) feel welcome so get yourself along.

I've only ever been to 1 forum meet, but have met some ace people through it, and other things on here :D

I have only been to a few forum meets (Harlequin) but you couldn't wish to meet a friendlier bunch. They make everyone (EVEN ME!) feel welcome so get yourself along.

Are you coming to the next one? I haven't picked on you for ages :hihi:

Check out GMFA's website. There's a one day course running in October that might be suitable for you.

Details here. (http://www.gmfa.org.uk/national/sheffield/)

Thanks for all your responses folks. I'll take them away and see what comes from them!

Are you coming to the next one? I haven't picked on you for ages :hihi:

I'm not sure. Just been told I am working in Blackpool next week on Tuesday. I might try to come along for an hour and be picked on a bit.

Do you like to dance? You male or female?