me and my fiance are thinking about getting married sometime next year, but have got no idea what we need to buy/book, any ideas would help! we would love to hire out the wednesday ground for our reception and we have a church sorted if we need it, but what about everything else????
Cheers
XxX:help:

You need to organise;

-Outfits for you and the groom and bestman/bridesmaids etc
-Invitations with RSVP slips for all your guests (slip in the present list)
- Flowers for the principal guests
- Cars for you and the groom and the family
- Caterers, Flowers & drink ( for toasts) for the reception (with a Food Hygiene Certificate - Food poisoning at weddings is on the increase!!)
- Disco/entertainment for the night
- Honeymoon for you and the groom
- Presents for your best man /bridesmaid
- speeches at the wedding
- Announcements in the paper
- Photographers/ Video for posterity

Does all this help??

Try getting in touch with the Register Office. They sent me a booklet out which had loads of useful info in it.

most of the above,

make sure you have a list of guests day and night
seating arrangements
decorations
cars
flowers

my brother and girlf are getting married in feb and they
are making list all the time
make sure you get your dress ealry so you get what you want

if you look on your pc microsoft works does a wedding planner for you

im planning my bro's and i make cards n stuff so all his invites party favs seat cards and order of service are sorted

Well, we did about half of those things! :) It all depends what kind of wedding you're after, a big traditional reception or just a quiet afternoon meal?

All depends what you want really.

Once you've decided what sort of wedding you want then try and write a list of all the things you will need/want.

A quick checklist for starters:

* Church or venue for a civil ceremony

* Reception (how many people? Buffett or sit down meal? Entertainment?)

* Wedding outfit - Bride's dress, attendants dresses/suits, Groom's outfit, Best Man's outfit, Ushers

* Invitations (maybe send some 'save the date' cards out well before the actual invitations)

* Cake

* Transport - cars/horse and carriage

* Flowers

* Rings

* Wedding gift list (or use somewhere like Debenhams/Argos)
Honeymoon (if you're booking a flight, make sure you remember that passports may need changing/updating, the name on the passport must match the name on the booking)

well the church is sorted if we want it, and would like to reception at swfc ground like i said, all i would want really is the dress, rings (obv), flowers, photographer, bridesmaids n best man, invitations and then the disco for the reception and a buffett, not too bothered about a sit down meal, does this sound enough? and any prices anyone could give me roughly for any of this, would help lol? ta x

Hiring a wedding planner is a great way to get everything organised with a fraction of the stress.

Wedding planners don't have to be expensive either.

We plan weddings for clients all over South Yorkshire. We have a strong network of suppliers and venues, many of whom give us preferential discounts.

We will do as much, or as little, as you wish, it's entirely up to you.

Give me a call if you would like to discuss further.


Regards


Mike

Doesn't the average wedding run at around £16,000 these days? :o

I'd recommend you get out and buy some magazines! But don't be put off because you don't have to go over the top, just have what's important to you. :)

Originally posted by Lucy81
most of the above,

make sure you have a list of guests day and night
seating arrangements
decorations
cars
flowers

my brother and girlf are getting married in feb and they
are making list all the time
make sure you get your dress ealry so you get what you want

if you look on your pc microsoft works does a wedding planner for you

im planning my bro's and i make cards n stuff so all his invites party favs seat cards and order of service are sorted

When my sister got married My Mum kept a file of everything to do with the wedding...

So whatever she wanted she had it all at hand...

We started planning a year ahead for my Sister's wedding it soon comes around... some people do it at 2 like a girl i used to work with... i thought it was crazy but... it soon came around...

Time flies these days...

Good Luck with everything :D

Originally posted by Mathom
Doesn't the average wedding run at around £16,000 these days? :o

I'd recommend you get out and buy some magazines! But don't be put off because you don't have to go over the top, just have what's important to you. :)

For sure go with what you and your Fiance want... alot of weddings can end up way over the top (expense) for all those odd friends & family that hear the word 'Wedding' and think its a great excuse to get free food and a knees up...

Remember its your day! :wink:

Before you go and pay money for anything, just stop and think: "Do I really want personalised, monogrammed matchbooks? Will I get upset if I don't have them?" ;) Just make sure it is what you and your family will enjoy, and have it relaxed if that's the kind of people you are, having a good time is the most important thing. That and having an ace frock.

there is a collins little gem book which gives everything you need know. We got a copy from Waterstones for £4.99. I'm getting married in Germany soon so I can tell you about the paperwork I've had to get together but I guess you won't need most of it :)

Other than that just elope and avoid all the hassle!!

Start planning now, and try to get everything done in plenty of time.... unlike me, I've still got to go and print the order of services tomorrow and our wedding is on Saturday! :help:

Good luck and akk the best wishes

A Wedding is for a day - Marriage could be for life, what sort of plans do we make for that.

If the average wedding costs £16.000 the rest does not bare thinking about.

Have a lovely wedding day whatever you do but have a great marriage.

Originally posted by Patchy
Start planning now, and try to get everything done in plenty of time.... unlike me, I've still got to go and print the order of services tomorrow and our wedding is on Saturday! :help:

Good luck Patchy! :D

And Sheff-Bird, start by contact SWFC directly and i'm sure they are used to this type of thing and will go someway to helping you organise it all.

Also agree with twinky, cost of weddings is so OTT!

me and my girl are marrying in sri lanka, beneath a waterfall, with the honeymoon in the maldives. the whole thing - 19 night holiday with the wedding in the middle, including the wedding (paperwork, wedding co-ordinator, photos, video, ceremony, etc), all inclusive, flights, etc etc is £4500 for the both of us.

just thought i'd share how cheap it can be. (not that 4.5k is cheap, but compared to 16k upwards -- for 1 day -- its a bargain!)

Originally posted by Patchy
Start planning now, and try to get everything done in plenty of time.... unlike me, I've still got to go and print the order of services tomorrow and our wedding is on Saturday! :help:

Congratulations :clap:

Good Luck... hope the weather holds for you both... Have a great day... :D

All the Best...

PS dont forget to post the snaps :)

Just check you're both of the same religion. Sounds a bit bonkers, but there were several extra hoops to jump through for us, as Mrs Joyphil is Catholic, I'm ostensibly Anglican and we wanted to use my parents' local church. Had to get permission from Catholic Bish of Sheffield and the one local to the place we wished to marry in, which took a bit of time. Based on recommendation from local priest who had to ascertain that while she was marrying an infidel Mrs J wasn't wedding a nutcase/freak/alchoholic/serial killer etc. I'm a good actor...

Actually, whole process not painful at all, and I ended up with more respect for Cath church than formerly.

Oh, and if the church you want to use isn't local, there may be issues surrounding being on the register of church electors there. Or not. Tis a tad complex and byzantine.

Sheff_Bird,

When you start arranging stuff people will start recommending people to use. My mother has a video production company and she see's weddings all the time, from this it makes it easier to recall what is needed.

When you start to speak to people in that line of work (if you get a good person to talk to) they will be able to help by telling you what is usually needed. Also if your stuck for ideas video companies are great because when you get to see samples of their work you can see what other people have and how it works.

If you want to know more, let me know.

Thanks

You can get actually get married at the Wednesday ground if you change your mind about having a church wedding.

Yeah thanks for all the tips, we havent really got that much money to be honest, we havent started saving or anything, even though i think now would be the time to start lol....i really dont wanna be spending £16,000 lol, i just want a great day with a church wedding and a nice buffett reception with a disco after.......:help:

If you start saving now, and start preparing what you can yourself, then it shouldn't cost anything like £16,000. We have paid around £3000 for our wedding, which is in a church with a buffet reception and disco afterwards in a WMC. Admittedly, the Sheffield Wednesday (:gag: ) ground may be expensive to hire.

We saved money by making things ourselves, ie making the invitations with stuff from Hobbycraft.

One of the best weddings I ever went to (and the cheapest!) was in London.

My friends got married at a small church in the middle of the City with about 20 close friends and family and then we all caught a bus and went to St James Park. There waiting for us were picnic blankets and hampers of food - she had got some other friends to do that. We spent the afternoon getting drunk on champagne and throwing frisbees and such - it was really great.

They spent about £600 in total! Rings, dress, food, champagne.... not much more.


I got married in Cornwall and spent a fortune - it was a really fabulous day, but wouldn't spend that again.... you end up paying for it months afterwards! Do the cheap version - it is the sentiment not the money that is important:)

Whatever you do, have a great day and I hope you and your hubby will be very happy together :thumbsup:

Originally posted by Sheff_Bird
me and my fiance are thinking about getting married sometime next year, but have got no idea what we need to buy/book, any ideas would help! we would love to hire out the wednesday ground for our reception and we have a church sorted if we need it, but what about everything else????
Cheers
XxX:help:
recommend you buy a book and def get your best man to look at one b4 he starts on his speach!! youll need to get sorted pretty sharpish, my church wedding took 18months to organise!! (interferring mothers dont help!)
Sheffield Wednesday do nice food im told and has a good layout i hear.
Cars? Flowers? Bridesmaids and dresses? presents as thankyous to parents and maids and best man? HONEY MOON!!!! cake? block booking for overnight stays in hotels(get it cheaper)? sort out transport for grandparents?
Are kids allowed? do you want confetti (it can stain dress)? Free bar? buffet at night?
Good luck!

my friends went to RSVP for lunch and found some people having their wedding reception up there!

They just thought it was a load of people on an afternoon out until the best man got up and started his speech! They'd pushed some tables together and probably ordered the lunchtime meal deals..

Mmmm.... chavtastic!

does anyone have any idea how much it costs to hire sheffield wednesday for the reception? rough ballpark?

Originally posted by Sheff_Bird
i just want a great day with a church wedding and a nice buffett reception with a disco after.......:help:
Is it the church building or the religious ceremony that's important to you?

For me marriage is a sacrement, but the church itself was a non-desirable as it can be very intimidating to guests unfamiliar with the whole 'church' thing.

We got married in a very nice function room in a hotel, by a minister of the church, but it was in Scotland so it was a bit different to down here.

Send an e-mail to the guy on this webpage (http://www.swfc.premiumtv.co.uk/page/ConferenceDetail/0,,10304~331332,00.html) :thumbsup:

Events prices on this page (http://www.swfc.premiumtv.co.uk/page/SpecialEvents/0,,10304,00.html)

Get married in the morning and then if it doesn't work out you haven't wasted all day. :thumbsup:

Also if you get married at Hillsborough when there is a match on the men wont stray too far from the reception. ;)

Go on Go on Go on :D

What music are you going to play for your first dance? I had a "to do" with my mum who wanted Whitney Houston singing "I Will Always Love You" I can't stand Whitney bloody Houston. I chose the country western band Lonestar singing "Amazed"

I had his mum telling me that I should play the wedding march when I walked down the aisle. Personally I find that too traditional and too predictable. Maybe for you though. She said that I had to pick my colours. What? Okay peach. I had to have a bridesmaid cos Grandma wanted our neice Jessica to be in the wedding. I didn't want bridesmaids or a veil or music. We got married in a garden outside under a wooden arbour surrounded by trees. I wanted simple. I walked down the garden path to a boom box playing a tape of the wedding march. Cheesy!

Remember your wedding is your wedding and nobody elses. Choose what you want and don't be swayed by what mum wants or Aunt Elsie had at her wedding. I did a lot of things just to keep both mothers happy and because that was what was done! Dad said that as their only daughter that I should keep mum happy. Besides he was paying for it! :rolleyes:

Originally posted by Funke88
Dad said that as their only daughter that I should keep mum happy. Besides he was paying for it! :rolleyes:
Funny how weddings bring out the worst in the nicest people we know :mad: :suspect:

I think we got off lightly - in retrospect...... :rolleyes:

Can recommend a good photographer....pm me for details.

My boyfriend and I are an experienced piano vocal duo and could do a set list to your own specification (within reason!) if you fancied having live music rather than a DJ - You could have a mix of songs to piano and backing tracks...

PM me for further details or a quote...

congratulations by the way!

Joanne

I got married 3 weeks today, it was a great. just got back from honeymoon. thurs morning!!
Where we got married was a lovely place. where do you live?
it is out in derbyshire (near). but a excellent place. we have been to seen the photographer this morning. I could've cried a few times looking back at them. when do you get married.? let me know and will try and help.
?

Originally posted by absynthfairy
My boyfriend and I are an experienced piano vocal duo and could do a set list to your own specification (within reason!) if you fancied having live music rather than a DJ - You could have a mix of songs to piano and backing tracks...

PM me for further details or a quote...

congratulations by the way!

Joanne

Still wise to have some sort of DJ, otherwise you'd be playing from start to finish without a break just to keep background music going. In my experience, it's good to have the DJ playing music for the audience, take a break while the live music is played, then they have a break and the DJ takes over for a while, they resume, end and the DJ finishes the night off. Hope that made sense!

A wedding dress?

i think everything you need to know has been covered in this thread. good luck

may i take this opportunity to announce that i will be getting married in 2 weeks at norton church and while i am writing this my wife to be is on her hen night and im playing mum!!.

believe me, we have just had to pay for the church and reception (£2000 in all) then theres the cars etc etc. you always think that there is something you have forgotten even though you are sure you have remembered everything.

like i said..good luck lol

If you want a green/ethical wedding list or a eco active honeymoon, I can point you in the right direction.

Watch where you get your frock from too as some bridal shops have the most appallingly snotty staff (only two such shops to be avoided in Sheffield thankfully). If you're spending that much cash, they don't deserve to get your money if they are rude - if you saw anything you liked a quick look on the net would bring the designer's website up and a list of alternate stockists. It does particularly irritate me when staff are rude in bridal shops as it's supposed to be a nice experience!

If you would like a religious ceremony but can't have one for whatever reason, then go with the Unitarian chapel, as they are very open minded.

Whirlow Brook Hall is just beautiful, you get amazing photos and Michael, who looks after you, is so amenable. Fretwell Downing do that catering so you KNOW you will not be let down by the food, and they can provide organic if you wish. YOu can provide your own wine, champagne etc and you pay only the corkage. Well worth is IMHO.

My brother's wedding reception was at whirlow brook hall. It was top notch all the way - definitely recommended!

We got married at the maynard arms, grindleford. excellent gardens, view.

The last thing we bought, and nearly forgot, were the rings. Seems stupid as they are so imprtant. My friend who is getting married in October says they too keep forgetting to order the rings.

We started with them, coz we wanted something made specially for us, so we knew we'd have to look for inspiration and get them ordered in plenty of time - possibly from Birmingham :(

Got them from Stephen at the Ridgeway craft centre in the end :thumbsup:

I made our invitations myself, let me know if you'd like my help.

and we hired a limo, which was very cost effective and the kid's loved it. it picked my husband and the best man and took them to the register office then it picked up my mum and the bridesmaids and then it came back for me and my Dad.

then it took me and my husband to the fulwood inn from the register office, and then did a further two journeys getting as many people as it could hold in, all for £175.00

Bargain

I know that Evoke Gifts on Ecclesall Road do a personalised Wedding Service -
Invitations,
wire work,
table decorations hire,
wedding gifts for bride, grom, best man, bridesmaids.
handmade bags etc.
all hand made.

If you want any wedding stationery with your own designs I will be happy to help. Please visit my website for more information. I have also got a new wedding favours and place card holders section on my site now, full of loads of things you wont see anywhere else-these have proved to be very popular! I also design photo albums, guest books and table plans.

I will offer anyone that comes through the Sheffield Forum an extra 20% off anything they order

:) Hello arranged to get married 3 weeks ago, and we are tying the knot at the Beauchief Hotel on Sat 29th Oct .

We have managed to sort everything in such small space of time - much better than waiting. my best mate had her wedding party at wednesday ground in August and it was a good do .

Decide on your date.
First ring registrar you will need to visit it them asap and then a few weeks before you marry - beware they dont work weekends so you will need time off work.
Next book your church and venue.
Photos /Videos are also important to book early we were lucky as we had ours already booked for May next year and brough them forward.
Also important colour scheme!
Bridesmaid dreses can also be a pain - got mine off ebay they are fab and only 36 quid each! couldnt have got better ones from a shop
Cars
Suits
Flowers
Thank you presents
Songs
Table decorations
DJ
We are not having a meal but a hot buffet as we are getting marreid at 4.30. Its your day why spend it worrying whether everyone else is fed and watered!
Good luck

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Cheers,

Dave.

well the church is sorted if we want it, and would like to reception at swfc ground like i said, all i would want really is the dress, rings (obv), flowers, photographer, bridesmaids n best man, invitations and then the disco for the reception and a buffett, not too bothered about a sit down meal, does this sound enough? and any prices anyone could give me roughly for any of this, would help lol? ta x
I could give you a number for a good photographer if you haven't already got one. He is good and reasonable with his price.