can some1 please help me, early hours of sunday morning i received a text message from a xs new girlfriend asking me if i had heard from him in the 7 months they have been seeing each other.DO i tell the truth or lie through my back teeth and say i havent

Originally posted by louise170419
can some1 please help me, early hours of sunday morning i received a text message from a xs new girlfriend asking me if i had heard from him in the 7 months they have been seeing each other.DO i tell the truth or lie through my back teeth and say i havent

just dont tet back

tell her the truth because if you lie and she finds out later that you lied to her then it will probably make it 10 times worse :)

oooooooooooooooh tricky. I would be more likely to tell the truth. She asked because she wants to know the truth and probably has a good idea of the answer. If it all hits the fan then it probably was never going to work out anyway.

:?

but i did text back and i dont know her that well and i dont want it all cuming back on me as i believe him fell for his lies hook line and sinker

well if he has done something wrong behind his girlfriends back or something then she deserves to know, you have to look at it this way - would you want to be lied to? obviously... not

but sugar n spice the thing is ive lied to her and told her we have had no contact

send a message back saying erm... you didnt mean it and that you have been in contact

ive have had it done to me in the past and finding out from sum1 else hurts the most so im gonna fone her and tell her the truth gulp

you do that, better finding out sooner than later- good luck

very brave choice. good luck x

well Id say if you dont like her and yet you like him and you want him to come back to you you say 'yeh I have been seeing him you should certainly dump him'
Or if you like her then you could play it safe and go 'yeh I bumped into him the other day in town but thats all'
just try not to spin a web of lies - they fall through eventually

-Mr Purple

P.s. sorry for being such a bitch Im in a gay mood at the moment

lets just say ive spoke to her and told her the truth which didnt go down to well we only met up 1 nite had a drink at mine but nothing happened but she went ape**** and threatened to smash my face in but hey least ive got it off my chest and i wont have to pay for the facelift i wanted lol

well done for being honest and brave girly!

:thumbsup:

well atleast you have told her now and you dont have to worry about it anymore. she doesnt know where you live does she....?

thanks for every1 advices you are all welcome to cum and visit me in hospital il let you know which hospital im going 2 b4 i go lol

bit of an overprotective paranoid pscho if you ask me. I fear for your ex's safety...

-Mr Purple
P.s. sorry about bitchiness again...

no but he does i was with him for nearly 6 months

Louise, im going offline in a minute. its been lovely talking to you and hope we can chat again in the near future! :) Drop me a pm if u wanna chat :)

best thing is i still like him but my x got in the way of our relationship so i had to let him go and he is a really decent guy and i miss him alot but i dont want him back if you know what i mean

ok kirsty have you got msn

Yeah my email address is in my signiture Kirstylm21@hotmail.com

well il b on msn later properly catch u later mate

im going offline for tonght- will probably be back on tomorrow :) speak to you soon

Good on you for telling the truth,

at least one of you isn't lying to the poor girl

Shame it's not the bf :shakes:

well it gone all pearshaped since my last message,ive had her back on the fone saying she has spoke to my x and im lying cos im jealous of their relationship lol but ive got proof that i was with him as i took pics on my camera fone (just as a precaution) and then my x was on the fone asking y i had told her about us meeting up and y didnt i lied to her and that he has still got feelings 4 me. god what have i done ......

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spook i couldnt b bothered with punctuation to tell you the truth lol, ive got enough on my plate at the mo, but i did leave spaces, so my school must have taught me sumthing......

Good on ya Spook! BTW louise I think you did the right thing. Your concience is clear, if your ex has a problem with it, tough.

Louise, why has your ex and his girlfriend put you in this position? All you can do is either ignore the texts, or tell the truth. If either of them don't like it - well that's their problem isn't it?

But, if you were in the girlfriends position, what would you rather know - the truth (and feel bad for a while) or (a lie, and feel better for a short while)?

It sounds like your ex is not being very fair to anyone, and if I were you i'd try to avoid being caught up in his current situation. After all, if he's your ex then you have no reason to be in contact with him anymore do you?

If you still fancy him, then just think about what he has done to you - and what he has done to his current girl friend - I doubt he will change and he will end up messing you about if you go back to him. Surely you are worth more than that?

Originally posted by louise170419
well it gone all pearshaped since my last message,ive had her back on the fone saying she has spoke to my x and im lying cos im jealous of their relationship lol but ive got proof that i was with him as i took pics on my camera fone (just as a precaution) and then my x was on the fone asking y i had told her about us meeting up and y didnt i lied to her and that he has still got feelings 4 me. god what have i done ...... Well, you have done the right thing in my opinion. You don't need to offer her proof, if she doesn't want to believe he's a loser it is her problem. She will find out the next time he cheats. You would be better off keeping a good distance from the pair of them.

I hate it when the girlfriend/wife puts all the blame on the other woman! It has to be a least half his fault, more of blame should be taken by the person cheating behind the partners back - thay are the ones who made a commitment.

can some1 please help me, early hours of sunday morning i received a text message from a xs new girlfriend asking me if i had heard from him in the 7 months they have been seeing each other.DO i tell the truth or lie through my back teeth and say i havent

In my opinion you should always ask for the reason why they are asking the question; then you will get a more informed opinion as to your reply; if somebody had asked me that question i would reply with why do you want to know. if they said i have a suspicion then your reply should have been ask him; he is your boyfriend now not mine. and followed it on with if you trust him ask him, then there should be no problem, if you dont leave him. Dont ask for exscuses to confirm your suspicions. other peoples relationships have nothing to do with you and involving yourself in those relationships only causes people and yourself problems as you have recently found out.

i did wondered weeping hear if they had split up and she was wondering if we had got back together before she got back in contact with him. the thing is ive still got feelings for him and i do still think about alot about it and if ask me back i would properly consider it or am i been stupid

Hi,

I am going through a sort of similar thing:

My very recently ex boyfriend got back with his ex while we was together - was quite happily sleeping with both of us - she didnt know - i got away asap - it made me cringe - i phoned her at work as i thought she deserved the truth and i deserved the truth so we met up and had a chat - she lied, he lied, i sat and told the truth, she said i was a physco for lying cus i was jealous - the thing is i new i was telling the truth and she cudnt handle it cus he was lying to her and making me look like an idiot.

Dont get back with him - its more trouble than its worth - i still have feelings for him but i couldnt get back with him i would never trust him again.