just a question..... after a while do relationships get boring?
what you think?

Planning on having an affair then?

lol youve read alot into that ?

If your relationship is boring it's up to you to change it, I don't believe a relationship should ever be boring.

Yes, but then after a while not being in a relationship also gets boring, which is why people often swing (pardon the pun) between the two.

lol youve read alot into that ?

I know! Just wondered if it was gonna lead to an excuse to cheat?

What do you find boring?

when you first get together everythings so exciting, your feel tingly and carefree.....
if your really in ,love, shouldnt it always feel like that?

when you first get together everythings so exciting, your feel tingly and carefree.....
if your really in ,love, shouldnt it always feel like that?

Don't get love mixed up with hormones, endorphines and a rush of blood to certain areas of the body!

Drug addicts also bemoan the fact that the rush aint what itused to be...

so how do you know if its love?

so how do you know if its love?

You'll let him do whatever he wants and treat you like a willing doormat!

I would like my relationship to be boring for a little while. There always seems to be some pretty major stuff going on. I need a break. Doing the ordinary day to day stuff together for a while would be nice. Why do people want fireworks all the time?

Every relationship has its less exciting times. Its about having the respect for your partner to realize its not their fault your feeling a bit bored. Either be honest with them and tell them you are bored or make the effort to make it work. Maybe its just life in general you are finding boring and could do something together?

You'll let him do whatever he wants and treat you like a willing doormat!

Thats not love thats being taken for a moron.

so how do you know if its love?

It's just a word mel and everyone has a different definition; I think you need to work that one out for yourself. Maybe your definition will be 'when it doesn't become boring after the honeymoon period' or 'when you feel it is worth working at even when it does become boring'

Yes, there's boring times but you've got to make the effort to get out of the rut and do something different every now and again - we've been married for almost 15 years and sometimes he gets on my nerves, sometimes I get on his but at the end of the day we love each other and so we do try and do something different every now and then to make it special....................

thanks JonW

lifes what you make it and so is a relationship imo ...
no offence intended but perhaps you should ask yourself "am I boring?"

Weve only been together 7years, hes my first love.
2 years ago we brought a house together. I moved form nottinghamshire to sheffield to live with him. Its just sometimes when i sit and think, when im alone, i just wonder if its all worth it? leaving my friends, family, everything i know just to be with him.

or maybe im not happy with myself. I dont know.
When we first met i was really bubbly and fun, but i dont feel like that any more. I ask myself its me thats changed, then why have i changed? is it cos ive moved here with him and its not what i want? but if i love him surely it doesnt matter where i am.
*so confused*

Weve only been together 7years, hes my first love.
2 years ago we brought a house together. I moved form nottinghamshire to sheffield to live with him. Its just sometimes when i sit and think, when im alone, i just wonder if its all worth it? leaving my friends, family, everything i know just to be with him.

I'm not surprised you feel like that when your alone, the majority of people would after uprooting and leaving behind all their support network. How do you feel when you're with him?

If your relationship isn't boring then you're doing something wrong! That's what relationships are all about, despite what Hollywood tries to convince us. Boring is good!

I'm not surprised you feel like that when your alone, the majority of people would after uprooting and leaving behind all their support network. How do you feel when you're with him?

Sometimes im happy. We do everything together, everywhere i go he goes with me.

"behind all their support network"???

are we talking about the same nottinghamshire thats 15 mins down the M1 from sheffield ? hardly a distance like cornwall for example is it ?

if your not happy with yourself i doubt you ca be happy with Anything else? justr my take on it ...

Relationships are what you make then. You only get out what you put in, in most cases. I don't find relationships dull... erm, mainly cos I am not in one and haven't for a long time. However, I was with my previous partner for 5 and half years and in time was never bored.

"behind all their support network"???

are we talking about the same nottinghamshire thats 15 mins down the M1 from sheffield ? hardly a distance like cornwall for example is it ?

if your not happy with yourself i doubt you ca be happy with Anything else? justr my take on it ...

its may only be 35mins drive, but sometimes it feels like a million miles away!

Sometimes im happy. We do everything together, everywhere i go he goes with me.

Maybe you have forgotten who you are without your roots? Try to remember what you used to enjoy or find something new. Your partner fell in love with you for the person you were and who you are. You dont have to be exactly the same and enjoy all the same things to be together. You just need to support and encourage each others own interests.

Sometimes im happy. We do everything together, everywhere i go he goes with me.

In my experience doing everything together is a recipe for disaster. I think it's important to be able to define yourself independently of your partner.

I recommend finding some hobbies / interests that have nothing to do with your partner. That way you'll get some much needed space, meet new friends, remember what you're like as an individual (rather than as one half of a pair) and best of all you'll have somehting interesting to tell him when you see him.

Thanks waxonwaxoff and jonw, think you both might have a point there.
Appart from work were always together. Just feels hard to do stuff alone, ive got no one here in sheffield. like now im on 6weeks hols from work and i aint got a clue what to do with myself.

In my experience doing everything together is a recipe for disaster. I think it's important to be able to define yourself independently of your partner.

I recommend finding some hobbies / interests that have nothing to do with your partner. That way you'll get some much needed space, meet new friends, remember what you're like as an individual (rather than as one half of a pair) and best of all you'll have somehting interesting to tell him when you see him.

I think I agree and disagree at the same time. :huh:

I think the problems start when you are doing everything together but just the interests of one of you or neither of you. There is nothing wrong with spending a big percentage of time together as a couple but you then sometimes forget to spend real time together as opposed to just being in the same room. You also have to carry on both doing the things you enjoy whether you choose to do them alone or together. Make time for each others hobbies and take an interest in something you each enjoy doing.

"behind all their support network"???

are we talking about the same nottinghamshire thats 15 mins down the M1 from sheffield ? hardly a distance like cornwall for example is it ?

if your not happy with yourself i doubt you ca be happy with Anything else? justr my take on it ...

15 minutes?? - I don't think she pilots a jet.

The point is, it's a different city & she may not drive, aside from that it's quite a journey to nip in for a quick cuppa on your way to work to say hi - that's the support network I was referring to, the friends and family you see on a daily/weekly basis for a 10 minutes at a time, the ones with the banter and problems that keep you sane.

Thanks waxonwaxoff and jonw, think you both might have a point there.
Appart from work were always together. Just feels hard to do stuff alone, ive got no one here in sheffield. like now im on 6weeks hols from work and i aint got a clue what to do with myself.

Get yourself out and find new experiences and be inspired. You will soon become refreshed and that stale feeling will disappear. What sort of things interest you? Is there any groups you could join...?

Thanks waxonwaxoff and jonw, think you both might have a point there.
Appart from work were always together. Just feels hard to do stuff alone, ive got no one here in sheffield. like now im on 6weeks hols from work and i aint got a clue what to do with myself.

Why not have a few days away in Nottingham to see your friends and family, you'll probably come back feeling 100x better, plus it'll give you time apart from your relationship and may help you reassess things.

thanks everyone :)

Thanks waxonwaxoff and jonw, think you both might have a point there.
Appart from work were always together. Just feels hard to do stuff alone, ive got no one here in sheffield. like now im on 6weeks hols from work and i aint got a clue what to do with myself.

6 Weeks holiday!! You a child?

Must be loads of summer clubs and activities to join?

just had a thought as well that although a partners interest can be a tad boring, their enthusiasm for it is attractive. My other half is obsessed with motorbikes but I dont find them that exciting. However I do like to see him so interested and engrossed in something and find him very attractive (apart from when he is supposed to be helping me pack the chuffing house up). Maybe some new interests will spark a new lust for each other. If it was there in the first place it is never hidden that far away.

im a teaching assistant blade73

Thanks waxonwaxoff and jonw, think you both might have a point there.
Appart from work were always together. Just feels hard to do stuff alone, ive got no one here in sheffield. like now im on 6weeks hols from work and i aint got a clue what to do with myself.

I'm on hols now schools are out too. I did a bit of volunteering for a refugee / asylum seekers charity last week. I found it very rewarding and met loads of nice people.

If that's not your cup of tea why not google clubs, activities etc in sheffield and just pick something. There's salsa / ballroom / african / belly dancing, juggling clubs, knitting clubs, rambling societies, book clubs.......probably anything you could name. Pick something, take a deep breath and just go along. If you don't like it you don't have to go back. Go on......I dare you ;)

Most women get this, women are addicted to their emotions like crack heads are addicted to crack. This is why women love soaps such as eastenders cos there is constant **** hitting the fan. Tell your boyfriend you are getting bored and need more drama in your life, get him to shout at you for no reason ;)

I'm on hols now schools are out too. I did a bit of volunteering for a refugee / asylum seekers charity last week. I found it very rewarding and met loads of nice people.

If that's not your cup of tea why not google clubs, activities etc in sheffield and just pick something. There's salsa / ballroom / african / belly dancing, juggling clubs, knitting clubs, rambling societies, book clubs.......probably anything you could name. Pick something, take a deep breath and just go along. If you don't like it you don't have to go back. Go on......I dare you ;)

Lol thank you :))

Most women get this, women are addicted to their emotions like crack heads are addicted to crack. This is why women love soaps such as eastenders cos there is constant **** hitting the fan. Tell your boyfriend you are getting bored and need more drama in your life, get him to shout at you for no reason ;)

:hihi::hihi::hihi:

Plus there's always the 'I'm bored' link above the threads in General Discussions!

Plus there's always the 'I'm bored' link above the threads in General Discussions!

That has resulted in the demise of many relationships, getting addicted to the im bored section. Apart from shaznay and jongo. :hihi:

That has resulted in the demise of many relationships, getting addicted to the im bored section. Apart from shaznay and jongo. :hihi:

:o just seen this, its never boring in the 'bored section', believe me...:D

I think I would go back to notts for a week catching up with your friends and family, perhaps the break will do you good.

or can you get some casual work for a few weeks, meet some new people...

good luck to you and your fella x

My relationship is never boring!
I go out, have a great time with him and as he's shown himself to be this weekend, still has a few tricks up his familar sleeve.
That's because my relationship is with Sheffield itself. Wherever I have strayed, he always lures me home.

Although life is not all rainbows and lollipops at all, if a man makes you miserable for a period of time, it is time to question it. You can be quite miserable on your own - why take on someone else's misery!

"That's because my relationship is with Sheffield itself. Wherever I have strayed, he always lures me home."

URGhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh thats baddddddddddddddddd

My relationship is never boring!
I go out, have a great time with him and as he's shown himself to be this weekend, still has a few tricks up his familar sleeve.
That's because my relationship is with Sheffield itself. Wherever I have strayed, he always lures me home.

Although life is not all rainbows and lollipops at all, if a man makes you miserable for a period of time, it is time to question it. You can be quite miserable on your own - why take on someone else's misery!

But does he give you a Quickie in the morning? :hihi:

Is my relationship boring?

Anything but boring. Tiring maybe, but boring, never.

After time, even the best relationships become a little normal (run of the mill), but I suppose it is how you deal with that, what's important. Spice things up, vary your routines and everything else should become, erm.. less boring.

If you want an answer to your question, look at the older folk, most have been married to the same person for years, they enjoy each others company, but that does not mean they have to talk or hold hands all the time. Over the years they have joint hobbies or each have their own it does not matter. At what age l wonder do you stop chasing a dream, and live in the real world.

If you want an answer to your question, look at the older folk, most have been married to the same person for years, they enjoy each others company, but that does not mean they have to talk or hold hands all the time. Over the years they have joint hobbies or each have their own it does not matter. At what age l wonder do you stop chasing a dream, and live in the real world.

Maybe its not with age but a person you meet. I think I used to have a fairytale in my head but in lots of ways ordinary real life is better.

After time, even the best relationships become a little normal (run of the mill), but I suppose it is how you deal with that, what's important. Spice things up, vary your routines and everything else should become, erm.. less boring.

Just keep throwing your car keys into the punch bowl.

Just keep throwing your car keys into the punch bowl.

I wouldn't go down that path, but however people to choose to liven up their relationships is down to them. Sounds a little seedy for my liking :D

just a question..... after a while do relationships get boring?
what you think?

Yea they do.. It's a shame but all relationships get to that point... It's love that hopefully takes over and saves the day..

If you want an answer to your question, look at the older folk, most have been married to the same person for years, they enjoy each others company, but that does not mean they have to talk or hold hands all the time. Over the years they have joint hobbies or each have their own it does not matter. At what age l wonder do you stop chasing a dream, and live in the real world.

We've been married for 39 years, known each other for 53 years, yes, we were at school together but, we did go our seperate ways afer school for a time. We still hold hands when we're out together, we share hobbies and have seperate ones too, I make a point of never getting involved socially with my partners friends which he's made within his hobby, it's his hobby not mine.
We get irritated by each other but, it doesn't last long, we go off seperately for a while even if it's only into another room just so that we don't say anything we'll regret.
We talk non stop and share views opinions often, most importantly we laugh together, we share a wicked sense of humour (still like teenagers).
If ever I feel bored/fed up/stuck in a rut I think of how I'd feel if I wasn't half of this relationship, if I was alone and free to go off to do anything I wanted, the answer to myself is that I don't want anything else. Stability, feeling wanted, feeling special, feeling like a big kid is what a relationship is all about (for me).
Stand back and try to imagine how you'd feel without that person in your life and there's your answer.

Thank you duffems

[QUOTE=DUFFEMS;5252065]We've been married for 39 years, known each other for 53 years, yes, we were at school together but, we did go our seperate ways afer school for a time. We still hold hands when we're out together, we share hobbies and have seperate ones too, I make a point of never getting involved socially with my partners friends which he's made within his hobby, it's his hobby not mine.
We get irritated by each other but, it doesn't last long, we go off seperately for a while even if it's only into another room just so that we don't say anything we'll regret.
We talk non stop and share views opinions often, most importantly we laugh together, we share a wicked sense of humour (still like teenagers).
If ever I feel bored/fed up/stuck in a rut I think of how I'd feel if I wasn't half of this relationship, if I was alone and free to go off to do anything I wanted, the answer to myself is that I don't want anything else. Stability, feeling wanted, feeling special, feeling like a big kid is what a relationship is all about (for me).
Stand back and try to imagine how you'd feel without that person in your life and there's your answer.[/QUOTE

How l agree with you on this, we have been married for 45 years in August, and known each other 50 years in November 2009. I was just trying to answer the OP.

Is it boring ? God, Ive bought a water bed, and Im calling it The Dead Sea !!:rolleyes::rolleyes:

Me too ! My man and I are both 62 , have had 6 children and 14 grandchildren . We rub along very nicely for most of the time, peppered with the odd flaming row but cant imagine life as a half . Just occasionally, I catch his eye and the love is shining, its still magic after all these years !

You have your good moments and your bad moments, everyone does, I find it boring sometimes going through the same stuff day in day out, yeah thats life you might say but does it have to be that way, its when you are on your own and start thinking, you have to shake yourself and think there are worse off people. I have been with my fella for nearly 8 years now and sometime have to stop myself saying the wrong thing cos things are boring or he's in a bad mood or whatever.

so how do you know if its love?

I think if you have to ask yourself that question then it clearly isn't. If it was you would know and move hell and high water to be with that person.

Is it boring ? God, Ive bought a water bed, and Im calling it The Dead Sea !!:rolleyes::rolleyes:

They hold an awful lot of gin.:D

yes...after 22 years things start to grate, get boring, take other for granted

etc etc

They hold an awful lot of gin.:D

Nay, alcohol never touches my lips. I use a funnel.:roll:

That has resulted in the demise of many relationships, getting addicted to the im bored section. Apart from shaznay and jongo. :hihi:

Hiya Waxy :wave: :D We got crabs yesterday, that lead to some excitement, I can tell ya :hihi::hihi::hihi::hihi:

I have been married for many years. My sex life has never become boring , it is always exciting and pleasurable, but I sincerely hope that the wife never finds out about it!

Mine is, yes. I'm going to put some nail varnish on my left hand to jazz things up a bit.

I have been married for many years. My sex life has never become boring , it is always exciting and pleasurable, but I sincerely hope that the wife never finds out about it!

Nice one !! :hihi::hihi:

My relationship with myself is never dull... alway full of excitement and when that fails, there always is the small talk.

I`m still in love with myself as much as I ever was.

when you first get together everythings so exciting, your feel tingly and carefree.....
if your really in ,love, shouldnt it always feel like that?

Everything becomes predictable in the relationship and you find somedays are boring, but isnt this gonna happen with any other man/women?

I would suggest you think hard and long before you make a huge mistake as the grass isn't always as green on the otherside.

If you arent totally happy then i suggest you leave this relationship.

I have been married for many years. My sex life has never become boring , it is always exciting and pleasurable, but I sincerely hope that the wife never finds out about it!

Hide your rubber glove.