I've been thinking lately and the only time I seem to see my friends is going for a drink or playing football. Now I notice that a lot of other people seem to do other stuff with friends. Mine don't really seem to be interested and if you go round their house most of them smoke the wacky backy so I try and avoid doing that (as I've quit)

do others have this relationship with friends or is it just me?

Try to do something together which would be a giraffe(laugh) eg go canoeing at rother valley and keep pushing each other in the water, well i thought it was fun:clap: :rant: :help: :thumbsup: :loopy:

I have some brilliant friends. Some of them I only tend to see when we go out for a drink, others I only speak to on the telephone these days (as they don't live near me). I have some friends I can call on when I need to talk, others when I need a laugh.

But most of all, my friends are there if I ever need them, and I am there if they need me.

I remember at school being told that as we get older, we should think ourselves lucky if we have more than one or two close friends. Well I must be one of the luckiest people around because I have at least 8 really good close friends and at least the same again what I would call good friends.

I used to see my buds all the time, at one point my house was allways full of em, eating all my food, setting fire to the dishcloths and genrally mooching :) then I met mr honeyplanet and one by one they drifted off.
Now I just dont see any of them any more, not even going out for a drink
*sob*

I do not have friends. I have people I talk to and have a laugh with; people I go to the coast with and play games with; people who keep me company when I need it and tend to leave me alone when I need to be alone. But they are not friends. Why not? They do not keep score on who does what for who. They do not expect favours. They do not talk behind my back. They do not disappoint. They do not make promises they cannot keep.

My soul mate was my best friend as most people like to think of friends. She was there for me, listened and talked with me, lifted me up when I was down, understood when I could not understand, brought about my dreams, held me close when I was upset, told me when I was wrong, congratulated me when I was right - and so many things I could spend forever listing them.

Friends - nope. People who care - yes.

Dragon

I have family, acquaintances, business colleagues and some people in my life that I do consider friends. The latter group is tiny.

(Like The Simpsons...Homer gets mentioned by Mo as being soemone that Mo wishes no specific harm on!! )

The acquaintances and colleagues are the 'doing' people - folks taht I tend to arrange to do things with. But I wouldn't feel comfortable about just sitting and just letting teh day go by with. I'd feel pressure to perform and amuse.

My family and true friends seem to see the worst and best of me; there are a couple of guys who I see maybe twice a year (if we're well organised) but I know that if I picked the phone up they'd be there for me, and vice versa.

Joe

most of my older friends live in sheffield..........i dont, so dont see em very often :(

most of my friends round here have either moved away or work etc, so i dont see that many here either :(

Originally posted by robbie
I've been thinking lately and the only time I seem to see my friends is going for a drink or playing football.
It sounds to me that you may need to take up other hobbies. There are many things which you can do, which you will develop other distinct circles of friends.
For me I have
1)good friends who I know for years, and I mainly see them at drinks at weekends, but we go to each other's houses to help each other and do other things, from time to time, like seeing gigs, films etc...
2)Music friends from a band I am in
3)Music friends from another band I am in
4)I go to college part time and I have friends who I see there
5)I have motorcycle friends, who go out for rides with
6)I have internet friends whom I have never met, who I share interests with and do web sites with about various things.
7)I have forum friends, who I see from time to time but I speak with on the forum, and others who I will probably never meet on the forum.

I wish I had a pound for every time I heard the immortal words - "My wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend (delete as applicable) has run off with my best friend". I would never need to worry about money ever again if I lived to be a million years old.

Then there's the fact that your best friends are your worst enemies. You tell your secrets to your friends. They know things about you that you want no-one else to know. Very scary.

If I had a single piece of chocolate for every time someone had been betrayed by their so called friend, Cadburies would be making tons of the stuff just to supply me.

Keep your friends and mind your business and your partner.

Dragon

Originally posted by muddycoffee
It sounds to me that you may need to take up other hobbies. There are many things which you can do, which you will develop other distinct circles of friends.
For me I have
1)good friends who I know for years, and I mainly see them at drinks at weekends, but we go to each other's houses to help each other and do other things, from time to time, like seeing gigs, films etc...
2)Music friends from a band I am in
3)Music friends from another band I am in
4)I go to college part time and I have friends who I see there
5)I have motorcycle friends, who go out for rides with
6)I have internet friends whom I have never met, who I share interests with and do web sites with about various things.
7)I have forum friends, who I see from time to time but I speak with on the forum, and others who I will probably never meet on the forum.

I don't go to the cinema with my friends as a: they are unreliable and b they have bad taste in films. We used to go every Sunday and after seeing Ali G in Da house I decided that enough was enough :D

my friends also tend to want to go at the buiest times which I try and avoid.

Musical wise well I have sung in a band before and for the good of society I wont again :D

its a man thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have male friends (gay and straight by the wAy)
who i go to the theatre,cinema,play babmington and chat over coffee with...........

also get ****** with them too!!!

robbie:

It sounds to me like your interests have changed, or are changing, and perhaps you don't share the same interests as the people you currently assosiate with?

Instead of bringing your old friends along to do new activities that you enjoy, why not just go and do the new activity, whatever you want, and make new friends there?