ok so now i need lil help guys please !

my best mate like this guy who is a friend of both of us and has been for a while, that i like but he doenst like her and he likes me, so what am i to do, i like this guy he likes me but how do i go about all of this i dont wanna lose my best mate but i cant help but think if she cant be happy for me then she isnt a proper friend, but does it make me not a good friend if i like him and want to make a go of things, we have met a few times without my friend knowin which makes me feel guilty after because i want to share with her what a nice time ive had with him!

PLEASRE HELP WITH THE BEST THING TO DO !!!!!1

If she's your best mate she'll understand I'm sure. Just don't be too in her face.

Hi
I think the best thing to do is to be honest with your friend, and talk to her calmly & quietly. If she really is your best friend - she will be fine. Take things slowly, maybe once she realises this guy does not like her in the same way she likes him - it will all work out.

Good luck!

Think of your happyness first, then hers.

Sounds cruel but you don't want to miss what could be an interesting relationship just because she is jealous, she'll get over it, if not get a new friend.

Im sure you dont want to lose your best friend so be honest with her very soon and give her some space to react.

Hi there

The worst thing you can do (i think) is go behind your friend's back because she could feel more betrayed and like she's been made a fool of. If you and the lad really like each other you should come clean about it asap and in the nicest way you can. She may not be at all happy about it and if that's the case, I reckon try to be as patient as you can. Its pretty tough if the person you fancy doesn't fancy you back - especially if he fancies your best mate!

I really hope all goes well for you. If you and her are really good friends I'm sure all will be well.

all this is very well but imagine if u were her! gutted!

yeah, but thats life, sometimes people don't fancy you back, it's just unfortunate that he fancies her mate. The tables might turn in the future so she should think about how handles this in case she finds herself int he same possition.

Just remember that she is going to feel really, really stupid, having been going on about him and then finding out this was brewing all along.

Even if it's a little lie, I think you are going to have to say there was a bit of chemistry and flirting between you before she mentioned her feelings. That way, you can imply something was already on its way to happening a while ago.

Tell her that you will of course, stop this in its tracks if it's too hard for her. But that you really think this one's a goer and you'd like to see if there's future in it.

Like you say, a true friend will give you her blessing.

hiya

i was in that situation i met a guy from 0ne2one(in newspaper) that night me and my mate got drunk and he turned up out of the blue to meet me as usual everything went well till my mate told me she liked him(after they flirted) which upset me very much so i decided to let thm be we werent in speaking terms for a while till i met her in market and we talked and made up so i urge you to tell your mate and dont go behind her back.

Originally posted by vikki
ok so now i need lil help guys please !

my best mate like this guy who is a friend of both of us and has been for a while, that i like but he doenst like her and he likes me, so what am i to do, i like this guy he likes me but how do i go about all of this i dont wanna lose my best mate but i cant help but think if she cant be happy for me then she isnt a proper friend, but does it make me not a good friend if i like him and want to make a go of things, we have met a few times without my friend knowin which makes me feel guilty after because i want to share with her what a nice time ive had with him!

PLEASRE HELP WITH THE BEST THING TO DO !!!!!1

I got confused on the first line, are you sure this is written in english? :confused: :suspect:

thanks guys but there is also 1 more little problem the reason i havent told her is because she suffers from severe depression and she fell out wiv me for a lil while coz i sat next to him and had a chat with him and left her coz she was talkin to some one else! also she is very unpredictable with hertemper and lashings out

Originally posted by Skatiechik
I got confused on the first line, are you sure this is written in english? :confused: :suspect:

surely unneccessarily harsh, everyone knew what she was saying!

OK, i know vikki, and i've been following this thing from the begining. I'm just happy to see other poeple trying to tell Viks the same as i've been telling her recently. I think she and this guy should sit her down and talk it out,exaplin that there is something there for them both of them. If she's a good friend she will understand.. She has a temper, and her depression has caused a lot of trouble in the past, but surly she'll be more likely to fall into the depression again if she feels she's being lied to, rather than just being told the truth.... everything that's been said here is really helping viks i think. so thanks guys, you might be able to make her see what i've been saying all along. lol

xxxx

Er, Ilaria, when did you meet this bloke, I hope this was before you met me?

:suspect:

Im sure it was long before, as once you got to know me you couldnt resist me could you :heyhey:

Pure Vikki Pollard

Wat are u on about Vikki Pollard ????????????:confused: :suspect: :suspect:

erm hadron

it was well way before you, with your charms of course i couldnt resist.

Originally posted by Whelk
Pure Vikki Pollard

Yeah but, no but, I saw em bowf doin it raand back of Waitrose, so wot ya sayin?

ask her what she would do in ur situation but obviously dont say ur in it make out its another friend of urs , and if she says she would still go with the bloke then when u do tell her u can say i did what u would of done!!!

just a thought anyway

hope it all works out for u tough decision mate or bloke

i had to make one between my mum and my bloke i chose my bloke lost my mum for a few months but now we are great

*pulls hair out* :huh: :gag:

Or you could both forget about this guy and each find someone else!

Tell your friend you like this guy, and that he likes you too. Tell her you don't want to hurt her, which is why you're telling her, and point out that just because he likes you doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her. $#!+ happens, and all that.

I get looked over for my friends all the time, I think I've reached the point of ultimate complacency about it....

Skatiechik ok id go back to bed if i was you !!!

mr_chris i know wat you are sayin but i really like this guy and want to be with him but i really dont think she wud do the same for me!

also people its hard because she is also my next door neighbour and her mum has to put her nose into everything so it would be really hard if i told her and she said shew doesnt want anything to do with me and falls out with me!

Originally posted by vikki
also people its hard because she is also my next door neighbour and her mum has to put her nose into everything so it would be really hard if i told her and she said shew doesnt want anything to do with me and falls out with me!

** *gasp* tries to catch her breath reading the sentence**

Ok I know I am not the most brilliant at english, but you could at least try. Please!

oh dear you are in a sticky situation, just be honest with her your happiness comes first make understand how you feel about the whole thing reasure her that you'll always be mates no matter what

Originally posted by vikki
i cant help but think if she cant be happy for me then she isnt a proper friend

I'm in a similar situation. I like this guy and he likes me, but my friend said she liked him first..(and told him).. so that's the end of that. He tells me that I shouldn't let the fact that she likes him stop us from having what we could have together.. it does however.. becasue.. I'm a 'proper' friend.

Rubbish, proper friends should be able to talk openly and honestly with each other about their feelings.

If you really were good friedns, you would tell her how you feel about this guy but that you are sensitive to her feelings, ask her hbow she feel kinowing that you like each other. If she's cool about it all well and good, if not then you need to decide who is most important to you him or her, you can't have your cake and eat it.

I suspect you already know exactly what you want to do but that you don't feel comfortable with your decision and are seeking reassurance from strangers to make you feel better about yourself.

Harsh, sorry!

I suspect you already know exactly what you want to do but that you don't feel comfortable with your decision and are seeking reassurance from strangers to make you feel better about yourself


is that aimed at me or leddi if it is aimed at me tjhen yes you are a little harsh i dont know what to do otherwise i wouldnt have asked!!!!!!!:sad:

I suspect you already know exactly what you want to do but that you don't feel comfortable with your decision and are seeking reassurance from strangers to make you feel better about yourself


is that aimed at me or leddi if it is aimed at me then yes you are a little harsh i dont know what to do otherwise i wouldnt have asked!!!!!!!:sad:


sorry me net is down so im using a mates computer at work and forgot to log in as me that last post from Quiterose was from me !!!! sorry

ok so i took peoples advice nd told her which ended up in her violently attacking me!!!! thanks guys lol.

the moral of the story is never listen to Rob :D

hope you're ok