Are there really any nice guys out there? [Archive]

cazzie_1987

10-07-2005, 15:33

thanks sav
i hate men that either think they are right with everything or think they are good honest men!!! hello wake up you SACK
all men do is whine about not gettin it...or cheat on you....lie to you....play with your emotions.....pretend they care when the dont give a flying cow...use you for *** or money.... and generally only care about themselves
:evil: :x :suspect:

savbaby

10-07-2005, 15:33

Originally posted by Rich
I'm a good 'un, and I'm available.. Might be a bit old for you though at 29 (going on 49) :P

roflmao aww Rich you can but try:hihi: :hihi: :hihi:

sorry mate i buy you a drink later to make up for it:D

savbaby

10-07-2005, 15:34

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
thanks sav
i hate men that either think they are right with everything or think they are good honest men!!! hello wake up you SACK
all men do is whine about not gettin it...or cheat on you....lie to you....play with your emotions.....pretend they care when the dont give a flying cow...use you for *** or money.... and generally only care about themselves
:evil: :x :suspect:

they are not all bad theere are some really good'uns just they get snapped up quick you see or they are gay :(

Kthebean

10-07-2005, 15:35

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
thanks sav
i hate men that either think they are right with everything or think they are good honest men!!! hello wake up you SACK
all men do is whine about not gettin it...or cheat on you....lie to you....play with your emotions.....pretend they care when the dont give a flying cow...use you for *** or money.... and generally only care about themselves
:evil: :x :suspect:

You're talking about boys, dearie - You need to go few a fair few of them before you find your 'man', in my experience. Unfortunately it seems a rite of passage for us girlies! :D

cazzie_1987

10-07-2005, 15:35

Originally posted by Splodge_CRB
theres some seriously great youths out there
some how i dont agree
they just bug the hell outta me

mr. Brightside ---- the killers

robbie

10-07-2005, 15:35

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
thanks sav
i hate men that either think they are right with everything or think they are good honest men!!! hello wake up you SACK
all men do is whine about not gettin it...or cheat on you....lie to you....play with your emotions.....pretend they care when the dont give a flying cow...use you for *** or money.... and generally only care about themselves
:evil: :x :suspect:

you need to find some new people to hang around with by the looks of it.

If you look in say Kingdom you are probably likely to find a lot of kids like that,
go look for a nice one who doesn't just come up to you and give you a load of spiel (sp?)

look for one you like. He may be shy and you may have to make the effort.

Ditz

10-07-2005, 15:37

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
thanks sav
i hate men that either think they are right with everything or think they are good honest men!!! hello wake up you SACK
all men do is whine about not gettin it...or cheat on you....lie to you....play with your emotions.....pretend they care when the dont give a flying cow...use you for *** or money.... and generally only care about themselves
:evil: :x :suspect:

ye and a lot of women(well nearly all) are like that too. so dont start discriminating....mainly men act the way they do cos women are total ******** who nag, whine and try to change their boyfriends and husbands

cazzie_1987

10-07-2005, 15:38

i did find my perfect guy but **** happens an i lost him forever
the only good thing is no one else can have him but i still want him :(
i thought i found someone else too but im not gunna talk about that yet im still licking my wounds

D2J

10-07-2005, 15:39

Stay single, its cheaper and better in the long run..

Although... I'm available.. Enquiries by PM please :D

MTheo

10-07-2005, 15:40

forget about men cazzie...just go out and have fun (if thats what you like) if you seem to like a guy..talk to him..get to know him..if he ****s you around tell him to hit the road.

maybe your just picking some duffers!

have pm'd you dj :heyhey:

MTheo

10-07-2005, 15:41

lets not get into another `women vs men' debate... its individuals...i know some complete ****** men who treat girls terrible...and i know some spiteful girls who treat men like a dog on a lead.

Splodge_CRB

10-07-2005, 15:42

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
theres some seriously great youths out there
some how i dont agree
they just bug the hell outta me

mr. Brightside ---- the killers

There's nothing else for it, you'll have to become a lesbian!
Somehow don't think you'll be happy either way :suspect:

robbie

10-07-2005, 15:43

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
i did find my perfect guy but **** happens an i lost him forever
the only good thing is no one else can have him but i still want him :(
i thought i found someone else too but im not gunna talk about that yet im still licking my wounds

its a process of growing up. You have to keep trying. No matter how badly hurt you get.

cazzie_1987

10-07-2005, 15:43

i know some men and women like that too
i dont want this to turn into a men VS women
i just want to see if there is any "nice" guys to talk to

MTheo

10-07-2005, 15:48

id like to add.....not all nice guys are gay haha..

just wanted to clear that up to every girl that has ever said im NICE but never come anywhere near me :hihi:

cazzie_1987

10-07-2005, 15:48

im actually bi sexual..... im not going to turn fully either way

i want someone but at the same time i dont

i feel like im going round in circles

redrobbo

10-07-2005, 15:51

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
im actually bi sexual..... im not going to turn fully either way

i want someone but at the same time i dont

i feel like im going round in circles

If you are that uncertain, maybe you should be looking for a nice bi-guy then?

Splodge_CRB

10-07-2005, 15:55

Yeah, there are still some good guys left. I've never been out with a bad 'un. I just took the trouble to get to know them first.
No one of either sex should tolerate bad behaviour in a partner, and if you can't get them to change....bin 'em!

Let us know if you find one?

Ditz

10-07-2005, 16:00

dont go looking for guys cos ull not find the right one. a lot of the time u find them by accident and try and get to be freinds with the guys that u meet first than if u like each other go out! u wont find guys by looking in pubs and clubs cos itll never work. the best relationships are the ones based on friendships

savbaby

10-07-2005, 16:02

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
im actually bi sexual..... im not going to turn fully either way

i want someone but at the same time i dont

i feel like im going round in circles
bisexual is being greedy cazzie:heyhey: :heyhey: joking btw but it is!!!

MTheo

10-07-2005, 16:08

well i offered to chat....

cant do more then offer a friendly ear.

doesnt seem to have been wanted thou.

savbaby

10-07-2005, 16:15

Originally posted by MTheo
well i offered to chat....

cant do more then offer a friendly ear.

doesnt seem to have been wanted thou.

ooh chat to me MTheo :D:heyhey: :heyhey:

MTheo

10-07-2005, 16:20

its only my EAR thats friendly....rest of me is horrible :D

adaline

10-07-2005, 16:51

well start talking, im listening :)

D2J

10-07-2005, 17:04

Originally posted by MTheo
rest of me is horrible :D

Ear Ear! :hihi:

miniminch

10-07-2005, 17:18

the_rudeboy

10-07-2005, 18:33

Are there any nice women out there?......not ones emotionally scarred by previous fellas who think we're all the same. The ones i've met recently just don't seem to be able to accept that some of us are geniunely decent.

cazzie_1987

10-07-2005, 19:41

well rudeboy
how can you prove you are different?

Locker

10-07-2005, 20:03

The perfect guy/girl is out there for you and in my experience there is a whole set/type of people that are a great match for your set/type so don't worry that there is only ONE right person for you.

Remember that you have ALL the control when it comes to finding the proper person to be with so take some time and think about what you really want from a person. If you can get past the 'I want him/her to be rich, gorgeous and totally my slave" and actually think about what you think you'd respect in a relationship then you are a long way towards getting what you want.

I'm guessing there are a lot of qualities that you'd benefit from (honesty, intelligence, caring, shared values, etc etc) but YOU have to decide what you think is right for you. I can say personally that me and the Missus fit together so well because she is strong in areas where I am weak and visa versa but for each person it will be different.

The second thing you have to do, and this is the hard part, is to absolutely, positively NOT settle for anything that's less than what you want when it comes to those qualities.

If some guy/girl seems great for you and really attractive but they aren't very honest then it won't help for you to 'hope they'll come around". You have to pay attention and recognize the things a person does and judge accordingly against your own needs/desires.

The perfect person for you is the one who you match with and who wants to be with you too.... it takes 2 (or possibly more) to be 'in love' so that guy/girl who 'got away' wasn't actually the right person for you at all and you should recognize and be happy that things worked out in a way that lets you be free for that person that IS right for you that is coming around your way soon.

Good luck, keep your chin up, think positive and don't settle... you'll find exactly what you need!

Peace,

Locker

skny

10-07-2005, 20:23

I have to agree with ditz...women are easily as bad in the mucking-about, playing games stakes, only us blokes moan about it less.

the_rudeboy

10-07-2005, 20:53

Cazzie, should i really have to prove to someone that i'm not the same as their previous partners? Why should they automatically assume i'll be the same?
Its like if you go to the cinema and the film you watch is crap, you dont assume that all films you go to see after that are going to be crap too do you?

scottf

11-07-2005, 08:39

Are there any nice guys out there? -- yes- but the problem is that there all gay ;) ;) ;)

(only messing- im actually nice and im straight :D )

Lea1979

11-07-2005, 08:42

Originally posted by scottf

(only messing- im actually nice and im straight :D )

you couldn't lie straight in bed.........;)

evildrneil

11-07-2005, 08:44

I'm not nice at all - I'm evil - but at least I'm honest and put it in my username!

scottf

11-07-2005, 08:47

Originally posted by Lee1979
you couldn't lie straight in bed.........;)

:( :(

speeed

11-07-2005, 08:50

Im nice always have been (well thats what my mum tells me anyway)

Lea1979

11-07-2005, 08:52

oh come on scott, you know i'm teasing you !!

you are nice, lovely and gorgeous in fact, and i'd marry you in a heart beat if only you would ask ...............:D

scottf

11-07-2005, 08:55

Im waiting for you to make partner in a law firm first!!!! ;)

Lea1979

11-07-2005, 08:57

Originally posted by scottf
Im waiting for you to make partner in a law firm first!!!! ;)

see - just goes to show. not nice at all :rolleyes:

foo_fighter

11-07-2005, 09:17

Are there really any nice guys out there?
Yes...

...but they tend to avoid women who sound like this:

Originally posted by cazzie_1987
...i hate men that either think they are right with everything or think they are good honest men!!! hello wake up you SACK
all men do is whine about not gettin it...or cheat on you....lie to you....play with your emotions.....pretend they care when the dont give a flying cow...use you for *** or money.... and generally only care about themselves
:evil: :x :suspect:
:gag:

scottf

11-07-2005, 09:20

Originally posted by Lee1979
see - just goes to show. not nice at all :rolleyes:

only messin :cool:

speeed

11-07-2005, 09:21

If you want to meet nice why not just arrange a under 25 meet or something and see if any turn up!

Joelc

11-07-2005, 09:29

Originally posted by rudeboy
Are there any nice women out there?......not ones emotionally scarred by previous fellas who think we're all the same. The ones i've met recently just don't seem to be able to accept that some of us are geniunely decent.

There are a lot of decent guys, and gals out there, but despite both sexes slating the other as to their behaviour, and their clames to there being no decent (wo)men, its people of both sexes who give thier gender a bad name. There are a lot of decent blokes out there, and a lot of decent lasses, but finding the right one for you takes time. You can have a bit of fun whilst your young, enjoy what life brings, and take things as they come.

Joel

the_rudeboy

11-07-2005, 11:46

There are a lot of decent guys, and gals out there, but despite both sexes slating the other as to their behaviour, and their clames to there being no decent (wo)men, its people of both sexes who give thier gender a bad name. There are a lot of decent blokes out there, and a lot of decent lasses, but finding the right one for you takes time. You can have a bit of fun whilst your young, enjoy what life brings, and take things as they come.

Joel,
When i say recently i mean in the last 4 yrs, since i split up from my ex-wife. And i'm not exactly young either! I'm not some bit of a kid just starting out on the 'relationship' trail......i've got 20+ yrs experience of all this malarky!!
All i ask is that people don't judge me or assume men are all the same because they've had a previous bad experience with a wrong un.....thats all!!

anabel

11-07-2005, 11:53

of course, i'm married to one (smug grin)

the_rudeboy

11-07-2005, 11:58

dont be too smug.....lol
.....i thought that too.....

hotdogbird

12-07-2005, 22:11

Are there any nice unattached men then. In a perfect world
My dream date would
1. NOT own or wear a football shirt
2. NOT drink stella at 11.30 in the morning
3. NOT be scrounging off the state
4. Not be signed up to a squillion internet dating agencies
5. Not have a broad yorkshire accent

I could just about put up with someone who
1. Picks his nose (come on we all do it really)
2. Farts

My Dream date would be a gentleman aged between 26 and 38, preferably with a decent job, a smart dress sense, well when I say smart...anything other than chav would do..
A great sense of humour
A car (not a red subaru please)

is it too much to ask for........I reckon it probably is.....oh well, I'll go and join one of those dating agencies after all. x:gag:

the_rudeboy

12-07-2005, 22:45

Whats wrong with a yorskshire accent? This is the SHEFFIELD forum.....clue is in the title!!!!!

hotdogbird

13-07-2005, 10:18

nothing is wrong with a sheffield accent at all. I meant a really rough accent, that has it's roots around sheffield, you know people that say thee-er instead of there or alreet instead of alright.
I've got a local accent too, but I hate lazy speech.
that's what I meant.
x

bigjay

13-07-2005, 10:48

i might know just the person for you hotdogbird

the_rudeboy

13-07-2005, 11:16

Afraid i fall at the first hurdle hotdog........i've got a football shirt. Not got a 'rough' accent tho. Any leniency at all on the footy shirt?

D2J

13-07-2005, 11:22

MobileB

13-07-2005, 11:39

Originally posted by Deejay
I meet all of the above bar one... but you'll have to find out more :heyhey: :hihi:

Thats three posts in a thread about nice guys........ pushing it aren't you!!!!!!

robbie

13-07-2005, 12:42

slimsid2000

13-07-2005, 12:44

Hi,

i'm a really nice guy. If you would like to speak to me please pm me.

nick2

13-07-2005, 12:46

hotdogbird

13-07-2005, 22:17

pm me!:clap: we could be looking at the first sheffield forum online dating service haha:thumbsup:

D2J

13-07-2005, 22:18

Originally posted by MobileB
Thats three posts in a thread about nice guys........ pushing it aren't you!!!!!!

Well maybe :heyhey:

But I can only try..

nightrider

13-07-2005, 22:19

Originally posted by hotdogbird
pm me!:clap: we could be looking at the first sheffield forum online dating service haha:thumbsup:

I think xafier already beat you to it...

though that site seems to have vanished.

In answer to the original question, yes there are nice guys out there. At least I'm nice, I guess I cant speak for others though!

D2J

13-07-2005, 22:20

Originally posted by hotdogbird
pm me!:clap: we could be looking at the first sheffield forum online dating service haha:thumbsup:

I think we need a little more info about you first :heyhey:

Some of us have strict criteria to adhere to..

Some of us like me just don't care as long as your a laugh and wont spend the evening talking about Big Brother or how many pairs of shoes you own :roll:

hotdogbird

13-07-2005, 23:18

err.... well i don't watch too much tv. I hate reality shows and soaps. I own a few pair of platform sandals as I'm only 5ft 1"
I work, I drive, I have a home. I don't need a man to look after me, i'm independent, but I would like someone to share the good times with. I work hard but I like to holiday too. I'm blonde. I'm friendly.
I'm not a tart
I don't get drunk
I don't have tattoos or piercings (apart from one in each ear)
errrrr.....I'm just looking for a regular type of guy, no desperado's or weirdo's or wife beaters or cheaters or nutters.
is there anyone left?

DragonofAna

13-07-2005, 23:24

errrrr.....I'm just looking for a regular type of guy, no desperado's or weirdo's or wife beaters or cheaters or nutters.
is there anyone left?

Nope - think you have everyone in here covered except me and guess what - I am not looking so that takes me out of the picture as well.

Tell you what though - you could try a mirror. Pretty sure you would see someone in there that you could grow to like.

Dragon

savbaby

14-07-2005, 07:30

Originally posted by hotdogbird
Are there any nice unattached men then. In a perfect world
My dream date would
1. NOT own or wear a football shirt
2. NOT drink stella at 11.30 in the morning
3. NOT be scrounging off the state
4. Not be signed up to a squillion internet dating agencies
5. Not have a broad yorkshire accent

I could just about put up with someone who
1. Picks his nose (come on we all do it really)
2. Farts

My Dream date would be a gentleman aged between 26 and 38, preferably with a decent job, a smart dress sense, well when I say smart...anything other than chav would do..
A great sense of humour
A car (not a red subaru please)

is it too much to ask for........I reckon it probably is.....oh well, I'll go and join one of those dating agencies after all. x:gag:

ok the only things i have to agree with on you list are numbers 3 & 4 the rest are "liveable"!

nowt wrong with a broad yorkshire accent, i thinks yorkshire accent is quite nice. I am from Glasgow and even though have been in sheffield 5 years i still have a very strong scots accent with a few bits of yorkshire twang in it.

i have not had the best of luck with relationships in the past going from violent relationship when i was young to last 2 boyfriends cheating on me! but i do not allow the past event to affect any new relationships as everybody is different.
you live and learn and put things down to experience, you start to learn the sign/clues and know when things are wrong.

so ladies give all these men a chance and dont tar them all with the same brush as thats what drives them away!!!

Beakerzoid

14-07-2005, 07:45

The problem is not that there aren't any nice guys around...but that you look in the wrong places.

I am proud to say that I am, and always have been a nice guy...but no girl would give me the time of day until I was 20 because I am, what is known in common parlance, as a geek! I read comics, I play RPGs, I play on computer games a lot, I don't really care about sport, and I never intend to dive (and still don't)....I am a geek, and all my friends are geeks.

Sadly girls around the teens to early 20s tend to avoid the geeks as their mates will mock them if they have the audacity to date one.

One day you will notice the geeks are not all spotty, badly dressed fools...I only hope that it isn't too late by then.

D2J

14-07-2005, 08:39

Originally posted by hotdogbird
err.... well i don't watch too much tv. I hate reality shows and soaps. I own a few pair of platform sandals as I'm only 5ft 1"
I work, I drive, I have a home. I don't need a man to look after me, i'm independent, but I would like someone to share the good times with. I work hard but I like to holiday too. I'm blonde. I'm friendly. I'm not a tart & I don't get drunk. I don't have tattoos or piercings (apart from one in each ear)

errrrr.....is there anyone left?

:love: :love:

When you free :heyhey:

Apollo_C

14-07-2005, 08:51

Apollo says:

Cazzie, don't go hunting for Mr. Right...

You're still only 18.. I'm not much older myself, but it can be the same for a guy trying to find "Miss Right". You look all over the place, see someone, hope they're the one, take a chance on them and get hurt.

The best advice I can give to you is to have fun doing what you enjoy doing, and with the kind of people you enjoy being with. If you're doing something you enjoy, with the type of people you enjoy being with, and you meet someone there, then you know that they must have at least some of the things you're looking for...

Plus, if you have to hunt them down, they're not the right one. When your perfect guy appears, You'll know...

Here Endeth the Apollo...

Captain_Scarlet

14-07-2005, 08:54

Originally posted by robbie
wow, a girl actually looking for a nice guy:confused:

A thought you all liked the mean ones :suspect: Always the dirty, sly and selfish ones. THEN they complain of beeing mistreated ;)

summer1955

14-07-2005, 09:06

everyone thinks they are a nice guy/girl nobody is perfect we all have our good and bad points we all look for different things in a guy/girl.beauty appearance and wealth do not make a person a nice person if they are not nice inside.

Apollo_C

14-07-2005, 09:11

Originally posted by summer1955
everyone thinks they are a nice guy/girl nobody is perfect we all have our good and bad points we all look for different things in a guy/girl.beauty appearance and wealth do not make a person a nice person if they are not nice inside.

Amen to that. One persons trash is anothers treasure. :D

Grim

14-07-2005, 18:15

Anyone thought of arranging a forum singles night? Has that been done?

Either way, being single is better than being with the wrong person!

Andy (guess what... single!)

robbie

14-07-2005, 19:38

Originally posted by Beakerzoid
The problem is not that there aren't any nice guys around...but that you look in the wrong places.

I am proud to say that I am, and always have been a nice guy...but no girl would give me the time of day until I was 20 because I am, what is known in common parlance, as a geek! I read comics, I play RPGs, I play on computer games a lot, I don't really care about sport, and I never intend to dive (and still don't)....I am a geek, and all my friends are geeks.

Sadly girls around the teens to early 20s tend to avoid the geeks as their mates will mock them if they have the audacity to date one.

One day you will notice the geeks are not all spotty, badly dressed fools...I only hope that it isn't too late by then.

one day geeks will take over the world!!!!!!!!