Is it that tingle in your toes? That dreamy feeling you get when a certain person is nearby? Is it the fact you can smell them long after they have gone, or that you see them sitting in that chair even though they left months ago? Is it the feeling of pain in your heart when they are no longer around - even when they have only popped down to the local shops for a pint of milk?

How do you define love? I am not referring to the silly crush love, or the love you may feel for a relative or a pet. True love.

You know that boy or girl you met several weeks ago and you dated them and then went your seperate ways - even though you thought you loved them? That was not love.

What about that love you know will never go away no matter what? That love that will keep you true and loyal regardless of everything else - even when the target of your love has gone? My mother died 13 years ago at a pretty young age, and my dad has not even looked at anyone else. He never will - and not cos there have been no offers. He is a babe magnet cos he knows how to enjoy himself. But he does not want anyone else because she was the True Love of his life.

What do you define as real True Love?

Dragon

Love is...

holding hands in the park.

(Only joking! It's a big old scary thing that defies explanantion or definition, but you know it's there because you would willingly die for the object of your love and still be happy and feel all tingly... ect ect...)

I have received an example of true love today from my Sister. Much as we might argue etc and have done for the last 50 years or so............she has spent the last three years painstakingly making us a quilt as a present to celebrate mine and my hubbies 25th wedding anniversary. Every stitch has been done by her and I am so overwhelmed with the love that has gone into this beautiful work of art. The thought........the planning and the action.....thats true love without a doubt.

Originally posted by rothschild
I have received an example of true love today from my Sister. ...Every stitch has been done by her and I am so overwhelmed with the love that has gone into this beautiful work of art.

Do you know what? That is a blooming lovely story! There's me wallowing in introspection and fear after the last couple of days, and here is a story about the true nature of the human spirit!

Hold on to that love! Your sister sounds fab!

It's going that extra mile for someone...whether you like, care or love 'em.
Start with yourself!

It's something made up by Hollywood and Hallmark.

True love?

Towards a partner:
is being happy with who they are, honest, lovin, helpful, caring & missing them like crazy when they are away from you.....

Towards your kids:
unconditional, always.........:love:

Do you remember the little boy & girl who used to hold hands and smile all the time?

'LOVE IS. . . ' difficult without gentalia. :P

Originally posted by Lestat
Do you remember the little boy & girl who used to hold hands and smile all the time?

'LOVE IS. . . ' difficult without gentalia. :P
Have you no imagination???:heyhey:

Yes - but what you are talking about is love with the small 'l' and not the big 'L'. You only get one chance at that big 'L' and you will know it when it rears its ugly head. Some call this a joining of soulmates, or at least knowing who your soul mate is. The person you bump into and seem to know everything about and want to spend the rest of your life with.

I talk about the perfect partner who some will be fortunate to find and keep hold of while others will lack that ability and face life alone or living a lie.

The love of family is one thing - brother, sister, mother, father, and so on, but it is entirely different to the love you have for your children, and that is entirely different to The Love.

Seems a shame some folk do not seem to know the difference.

Dragon

Originally posted by Dragon
Is it the fact you can smell them long after they have gone, or that you see them sitting in that chair even though they left months ago? I think you'll find that is clinical insanity:suspect:

love is for idiots:mad:

Thank hades for idiots in that case. I am glad I am an idiot. The alternative is to be a cabbage. Enjoy the greenfly.

Ah well - some will never know.

Dragon

Originally posted by Dragon
I am glad I am an idiot.

Dragon
we're not

That just proves my point about cabbages doesn't it.

I am certain there are going to be many more constructive comments to add to interesting threads by the 'I'm not an idiot' brigade.

Your time will come and then you will be glad you are not a cabbage.

Dragon

Love is receiving that bunch of flowers when there is no special occasion to celebrate.

Love is feeling lonely, yet the object of your affections has only been gone a few minutes.

Love is enjoying the things that mean so much to you both, like looking for rare wild orchids on Welsh sandunes.

Love is doing daft things together, and not paying heed to anyone else's looks of disapproval.

And, miniminch, if that makes me an idiot - I don't care.... 'cos I'm in love.

Dragon

Do you think it's possible you're a tad introverted?

Or a bit wet? Try to foster some fellow feeling...huh?

if in doubt...let google sort it out!

# a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "his love for his work"; "children need a lot of love"

# any object of warm affection or devotion; "the theater was her first love" or "he has a passion for cock fighting";

# have a great affection or liking for; "I love French food"; "She loves her boss and works hard for him"

# beloved: a beloved person; used as terms of endearment

# a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction; "their love left them indifferent to their surroundings"; "she was his first love"

# get pleasure from; "I love cooking"

# a score of zero in tennis or squash; "it was 40 love"

# be enamored or in love with; "She loves her husband deeply"

# roll in the hay: have sexual intercourse with; "This student
sleeps with everyone in her dorm"; "Adam knew Eve"; "Were you ever intimate with this man?"

# sexual love: sexual activities (often including sexual intercourse) between two people; "his lovemaking disgusted her"; "he hadn't had any love in months"; "he has a very complicated love life"


lots of people want to believe they are in love & someone loves them....the truth is harder to accept.

Originally posted by Dragon
That just proves my point about cabbages doesn't it.

I can't remember you making a point about 'cabbages'! They are good for you tho - unlike love!

Originally posted by miniminch
I can't remember you making a point about 'cabbages'! They are good for you tho - unlike love!

Love is good for you. It makes you smile and laugh and you get lots of exercise :)

Its just when the love fades that its bad for you.

Miniminch - would you like me to set you up with a cabbage? :D

Originally posted by kathythebean
Love is good for you. It makes you smile and laugh and you get lots of exercise :)

Its just when the love fades that its bad for you.

Miniminch - would you like me to set you up with a cabbage? :D been there - done that:(

Originally posted by miniminch
been there - done that:(

Are you sure? What about this (http://www.gianteagle.com/media/HomePage/MorePage/images/Spring2005/SpringVegetables_82x68.jpg) saucy number? :P

Originally posted by kathythebean
Are you sure? What about this (http://www.gianteagle.com/media/HomePage/MorePage/images/Spring2005/SpringVegetables_82x68.jpg) saucy number? :P show off:D

Originally posted by kathythebean
Are you sure? What about this (http://www.gianteagle.com/media/HomePage/MorePage/images/Spring2005/SpringVegetables_82x68.jpg) saucy number? :P

OOH! That's the last time I pose naked....:suspect:

im not so sure there is such a thing as true unfaultering love and maybe just maybe you should enjoy the time you have with each partner and im not so sure about soul mates dragon id like to think so but im not so sure maybe im a case of once bitten twice shy but i dont think love is as good as its made out to be i think true love is just bein happy to be in each others company and the knowledge that you know with out a shadow of a dout that person adores you true love is knowin wen to shut up and listen and to have the courage to stand by there choices no matter how bad you think they are true love is not judging the other person true love is bein happy to just be sittin next to each other true love is when you dont have to ask for the salt and he automaticaly passes it you without a word bein mentioned ive only felt this way twice so im not very usefull here im afraid dragon but i tried but i think it takes a lot to let someboby into your heart and it takes even more courage to love them back and when the relation ships over its havin the love to say i wish you well and i hope you find what your looking for u know the sayin if you love someone one let them go. hope you find the answers your lookin dragon

I think you know if you truly love someone if you would be willing to let that person go and get on with their life without you (if thats what they want) even when you know that it would totally break your heart doing so. If you didn't truly love them you would be thinking more of yourself and would be more selfish in what you would do in that situation.

It happens leapy78, but then the person who has decided to move on in life needs to allow the other person closure. This means returning the things that belong to them and not holding back.

If you love someone you do not bug them, that is for sure.

So easy to say - if you love them let them go, but in practice how many are able straight away. And when the time comes - how do you not show that you are just giving up? Occassionally relationships break down because there is just time needed for both parties to come to terms with who they are.

Dunno - but if you decide to break up with someone - give them closure.

Dragon