With our first baby due in August, i am starting to get nervous about the birth. I know the woman has all the work to do, but i fear passing out or been sick, or both!!

Anyone got any advice for the fellas role in a birth?

stay out of the room, she may bite your head off either verbally or literally!

With our first baby due in August, i am starting to get nervous about the birth. I know the woman has all the work to do, but i fear passing out or been sick, or both!!

Anyone got any advice for the fellas role in a birth?

Pull yourself together and be glad you don't have to be in labour?

Although I'm not speaking from experience, but the way I see it if she stays concious, so should you!

Make sure you are there. It will be the most fantastic experience of your life. My fella passed out at the birth of our son but so what? The midwife just gently moved him to the side with her foot and we carried on. He soon came round and got the camera to the ready and has never regretted being there.
Nobody will even give you a second glance so you can be sick or cry your eyes out if you want........just be there. Honestly, you will regret it for the rest of your life if you aren't part and parcel of the birth of your child. Good luck.....and enjoy that very special moment.

One word of advice - after the birth DO NOT walk around the bed......you will never want to stuff the xmas turkey again :gag:

And yes, I do speak from experience.

Joking aside, do it, you will regret it if you dont.

Just stay at the top end !

Mine were brilliant at my sons birth, he flew over speed bumps with me screaming and he said dont worry we will get there ......wasnt the birth pains that made me scream, he said this is brilliant i got a good reason when the police stop me, they never did, when we got to jessops he legged it into the maternity ward, dont mind me, ill just carry all the bags which i did, when i was asked if they didnt mind if they did an internal he said ah go ahead only time another man going to have his fingers up there, i gave birth and he told them to stick a couple of extra stiches up there, and they asked me afterwards would i like a cup of tea ......... he piped up yeah no sugar thanks ....... that was him sorted! Im not with him anymore !

DONT DO ALL OF THE ABOVE!

Stop being a wimp and be there.
You will have no idea why unless you do. :)

Mine were brilliant at my sons birth, he flew over speed bumps with me screaming and he said dont worry we will get there ......wasnt the birth pains that made me scream, he said this is brilliant i got a good reason when the police stop me, they never did, when we got to jessops he legged it into the maternity ward, dont mind me, ill just carry all the bags which i did, when i was asked if they didnt mind if they did an internal he said ah go ahead only time another man going to have his fingers up there, i gave birth and he told them to stick a couple of extra stiches up there, and they asked me afterwards would i like a cup of tea ......... he piped up yeah no sugar thanks ....... that was him sorted! Im not with him anymore !

DONT DO ALL OF THE ABOVE!

Good call not being with him now.:hihi:
As for OP good advice stay at the head end give your partner reassurance there will be enough people at the other end to assist.Birth is the easy part.

was there for all 3 of my kids infact the wife had no painkillers or anything but i tried the gas and air (wicked stuff lol)if you dont go you may regret it so during the pregnancy u dont feel too good just explain and everyone will understand then you can just walk out .its better to be there than not at all .there's a lot of blokes who will have done the passing out etc me myself thought it was one of the most emotionally charged experiances ive ever had

I didn't watch...and i've never regretted it. In fact I baulk at the thought of it. :gag::gag:

One word of advice - after the birth DO NOT walk around the bed......you will never want to stuff the xmas turkey again :gag:

And yes, I do speak from experience.

Joking aside, do it, you will regret it if you dont.

I had a caesarean, and they don`t let the dad in till the last minute(once they`ve got you open) the consultant was late and brought my oh in the wrong door(bottom end) he said it was like a scene from saving private ryan!! lol
Seriously though, you really should be there and give your wife whatever support she needs!!
good luck! x

You must be there. I sobbed uncontrollably but so what. It's the greatest moment of your life.

My husband was there from just after the gave me the spinal all through the cutting part of it (I had a c-section lol) and he said he wouldnt' have missed it for the world.

I think it's important for the bonding process to be at the birth. Not to mention it makes you appreciate what your wife has gone through!

iv'e seen all of my children being born,the best advice is to be there to give your lady support hold her hand and mop her brow,get loads of abuse :hihi:

if the midwife has to use forceps she/he will ask you to leave but dont worry they know what they are doing and all will be well,dont be nervous as it will show to your partner and she will have enough to worry about, after the baby is born there will be the afterbirth,this is put in a bowl or tray,if you have a weak stomach i suggest you dont look at it,my wifes afterbirth slid off the tray and i picked it up and cleaned up the mess,the midwife said..at this point most men collapse,thats why we suggest they sit or stand at the wifes head..all went well ,so if your going to do it be prepared to see things that you will remember for the rest of your life, good luck to you both

I had a caesarean, and they don`t let the dad in till the last minute(once they`ve got you open) the consultant was late and brought my oh in the wrong door(bottom end) he said it was like a scene from saving private ryan!! lol
Seriously though, you really should be there and give your wife whatever support she needs!!
good luck! x

What did he object too, the planes or the tanks.

What did he object too, the planes or the tanks.

hahaha!!
MEDIC!!!!:hihi:

I cried when we did the test, I cried at the first scan and again when I first felt the baby move. I must pull myself together for the birth.

I was there for my daughters entrance to the world, it was so emotional, I cried, I held my partners hand, mopped her brow and gave her all the reassurance I could.
The birth was beautiful, I'm so glad I was there and will be there at the birth of my other kids when they're born.
It was magical.
Afterwards,(my partner didnt get time to have an epidural, so was able to walk around shortly after), she had a nice long hot soak whilst I bonded with my daughter, it was beautiful.
BE THERE if not for yourself to witness the birth then for your partner if only for support.
:thumbsup:

I had a caesarean, and they don`t let the dad in till the last minute(once they`ve got you open) the consultant was late and brought my oh in the wrong door(bottom end) he said it was like a scene from saving private ryan!! lol
Seriously though, you really should be there and give your wife whatever support she needs!!
good luck! xNope, my youngest was a c section and I was there from start to finish - good job im not squeamish :hihi:

This was nearly 7 years ago though, things may have changed...

My hubby was there for all 3 of our kids...but the first one I had to have an epidural and thats the time he left the room..cos he faints at needles..but after theyd put it in..he came back in and was fine...after our son was born he went out to phone relatives etc and came back in to witness me being stitched up...the doc was sat between my legs on a little stool stitchin me....he just looked and laughed...and even tho he saw the birth..i mean they asked him if he wanted to stay top end or go down the bottom end..he chose the bottom end...lol...i still felt embarassed at him seeing me being stitched up..how daft is that.....lol lol...I can still see his face in my head now..as he came thru the door.....lol lol

When we had the first they sent me to lunch while they changed the epidural.When I came back went in the wrong door and it was like a butchers shop after birth stacked everywhere in sinks etc + she had had it.
The second I recomend any man going in for the birth should wear a boxing glove she squeeze that much she nearly broke my hand.

I had my daughter 25 years ago and had a C section and although we were told beforehand that my (then) husband could be with me during the actual operation when it came to it he wasn't allowed in the operating theatre and didn't actuallny get to see our daughter until about three hours after she was born. We were both extremely disappointed at the time as we had both been assured that with me having an epidural he could stay with me. I found it a very traumatic experience and feel even to this day had he been allowed to stay with me it would have made the bond between father and daughter a lot better and also have helped me cope better with the birth. The experience put me off that much that I never wanted further children - and never did!


I think it is so much better these days that hospitals allow fathers in for the birth whether it be a normal birth or caesarian.

In one ancient culture, I think it was the Maorans, the father used to have a rope tied around his testicles. Every time the woman had a contraction, she used to tug hard on this rope, as they believed the pain of child birth should be one that is shared between sexes.

You have to be careful though. As if it's a prolonged labour, there's a chance that the lack of blood flow to the fathers testes may result in them falling off completely.

And we wouldn't want that now, would we. :thumbsup:

Be there!

It will be a magical moment for you when the little one pops out,(and it's a different colour)

My ex howled like a Wolf and nearly bit my fingers off.

You must be there! You will never feel so much love. I could tell by my husbands actions!

I know I sound like a troll, but I can't help thinking that men cry because they're so glad the boredom is over, nothing to do with the kid.

Men cry over losing the long summer afternoons in the pub, undisturbed hours on the net, a wife with a [deleted] and balanced hormones, listening to music that you can actually hear.

Having kids is great. But men spend the first six months suffering from post-traumatic stress.

I know I sound like a troll, but I can't help thinking that men cry because they're so glad the boredom is over, nothing to do with the kid.

Men cry over losing the long summer afternoons in the pub, undisturbed hours on the net, a wife with a tight muff and balanced hormones, listening to music that you can actually hear.

Having kids is great. But men spend the first six months suffering from post-traumatic stress.

My ex was taken to hospital in a army field ambulance,(1989 ambulance strike)Two soldiers,( who were sh#tting their pants)

I spent nearly a full weekend at the ozzie waitin n waitin n waitin.
The ex abused me constantly also.
When the time arrived,the midwife crossed the room to wash her hands.
At that moment the ex squealed and swish out popped the sprog.
I actually caught the little blighter as he entered the world.
It was a great experience,especially after all i had been through:hihi:

The other highlight of my ozzie week-end was watching the Prozzies outside picking up the saddos and taking them behind an old building for a munch.

I was actually asked by one of them,(early one morning)If i was looking for business?I said "no,i'm looking for a newsagents":o

My ex was taken to hospital in a army field ambulance,(1989 ambulance strike)Two soldiers,( who were sh#tting their pants)

I spent nearly a full weekend at the ozzie waitin n waitin n waitin.
The ex abused me constantly also.
When the time arrived,the midwife crossed the room to wash her hands.
At that moment the ex squealed and swish out popped the sprog.
I actually caught the little blighter as he entered the world.
It was a great experience,especially after all i had been through:hihi:

The other highlight of my ozzie week-end was watching the Prozzies outside picking up the saddos and taking them behind an old building for a munch.

I was actually asked by one of them,(early one morning)If i was looking for business?I said "no,i'm looking for a newsagents":o

:hihi:

It is a funny time. When I came back to the hospital I went up to Ranmoor and visited Greggs and KFC. i walked into the ward with a boneless bucket and the other arm was full of cheese an onion pasties and two steak slices . . . in case she got a munch on. Then I spent the next hour trying to work out how to get the tv working. Selfish wench didn't appreciate it.

I'll say this, I've got two little daughters on my hands now, 2 and 3 yrs old, and it's the best thing ever. Though come 5:30, I'll be thinking differently again. :thumbsup:

:hihi:

It is a funny time. When I came back to the hospital I went up to Ranmoor and visited Greggs and KFC. i walked into the ward with a boneless bucket and the other arm was full of cheese an onion pasties and two steak slices . . . in case she got a munch on. Then I spent the next hour trying to work out how to get the tv working. Selfish wench didn't appreciate it.

I'll say this, I've got two little daughters on my hands now, 2 and 3 yrs old, and it's the best thing ever. Though come 5:30, I'll be thinking differently again. :thumbsup:

I think that was very thoughtful of you to take your lass some much needed vitamin rich fodder.:thumbsup:

My ex was also thoughtful.
She gave her Ozzie bed up for me,whilst she slept in the corridor.

I think that was very thoughtful of you to take your lass some much needed vitamin rich fodder.:thumbsup:

My ex was also thoughtful.
She gave her Ozzie bed up for me,whilst she slept in the corridor.

Shane 39 . . . be carfeul pal. Sometimes you can care too much.

It can be suffocating.

Shane 39 . . . be carfeul pal. Sometimes you can care too much.

It can be suffocating.

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What can i say!:thumbsup:

best 2 days of my life seeing me kids born :thumbsup:

Thought i would add to this thread as ive just come back from the hospital after watching my second child been born at 9.30 this morning, as others have said i wouldnt miss it for the world, its the most anxious thing ever when your waiting and waiting, and watching your partner get more and more distressed, and even when they are selfish and dont offer to share the morphine with you, but its an experience which if you decided against going you would regret. we had our daughter ten years ago when i was a petrified 18 year old, and i honestly thought i was going to pass out, and i really thought this time would be different as i was more mature and worldly, but i wasnt...i was the exact same rabbit in the headlights type man who offered words of encouragment and dabs the brow and takes the abuse. i did a good job thought apparently. lol

ill also suggest like the other people on here that if your squemish,stay at the top end, dont try and egg yourself on to go down the "bottom end" cause its the manly thing to do, as if your of a nervous disposition you'll pass out and the midwife will make fun of you.

Other than that just enjoy the experience, watching a small person entering this world knowing that they are totally dependant on you for many moons to come is something that isnt possible to put into words, trust me.

Oh, and to the midwife who delivered my boy this morning, if you ever read this, Thank you very much, you were so cool at your job it made us all feel at ease.

Anyway, i havent slept since friday, ive yet to think of a name and the dog needs walking, so best of luck :)

Congrats Moonman. :thumbsup:

I've seen some pretty nasty things in my job so am not squeamish, but as the time gets nearer I suppose I will be nervous more so for my partner, and to see her give life to a little person we made together will be awsome.
congratulations Mr & Mrs Moonman

Congratulations to you and the rest of your family moonman!! xx

Congratulations Moonman on the birth of your son. :thumbsup:

Oh and to Mrs Moonman of course who did all the hard work. :hihi:

Many thanks people! :blush:

Stills feels a little surreal, one thing i should have added is that until just under 9 weeks ago we had no idea she was pregnant! she was 9 stone and a size 10, with a little stomach we put down to excess food and drink during xmas, fast forward 9 weeks and we have a baby boy! funny ol world eh? lol

Congratulations Moonman on the birth of your son. :thumbsup:

Oh and to Mrs Moonman of course who did all the hard work. :hihi:


I carried all the bags to the hospital ward from the car park, surely that counts as hard work! :hihi:

I can only say it's the most amazing thing in he world to witness your first child being born. For me it was a complete emotional rollecoaster, and the worst thing was seeing the woman I love in pain and not being able to do anything about it.

I know its an old saying, but birth is a miracle. Even now I watch my son sleeping and I remember the birth, and am amazed that me and my wife created something so perfect!

I'll be there to witness the birth of my child when I get to be a father :)

Although if the baby is Ginger I'll be pushing it back in :hihi:

I had my little girl 11 days ago and my OH was there all the way through. He was an absolute tower of strength and him just being there made me feel a whole lot better. I gave birth in an almost upright position so even though he was stood by my head he could still see everything that was happening.

After I'd had my DD there were a few complications, I lost alot of blood and needed a transfusion. During the few hours I was beng examined/stitched up I was out cold and my OH had out little girl (still in labour room with me though). Had he have not been there for the birth though my poor LO would have just been laid in a cot by herself for the time that I was out of it!

I was present for my daughters birth just over 4 weeks ago. The plan was to stop at the top end, mop the brow and say well done dear every now and then.

The reality was a shortage of midwives, with me and one midwife, who had to keep popping next door to deliver twins. I ended up at the "Business End" holding things open, operating the heart monitor, catching the placenta in a bowl, being covered in more blood and guts than the midwife (and the missus), and then after holding the baby for 5 minutes, the missus was whisked off to surgery for three hours to repair a bad tear.

I was left in the room with a blanket, nappy, bottle and a beautiful daughter.

For the next one I am insisting on going this end again as it was one of the best experiences of my life (apart from catching the placenta - not sure I need to relive that part).

Just be there for her she'll need you for support u'll be ok

no word 1 can truly describe the feeling you get when you see your kid/s born the feling is out of this world, there are too many words to describe it